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Evening swingers.
The new site location is: http://www.ntaktagf.info
We have busy jobs like the rest of you, so we are sorry that the site is moving slowly. We have to be a bit careful with the login sign for obvious reasons. We don't know a thing about web design and we aren't really that interested in learning either LOL! But, we know we are stuck with it for now.
Swingular has run amuck and is effectively being controlled from the inside by a few select members. Be careful out there. Legal counsel IS monitoring the forums. Computer security is POOR at best. The more venomous Forum posters are trying to Google, search, find, or create any dirt they can to muddy the water here. We've taken a pretty good bashing, but we're OK so far.
It looks like TR and his "Free Thinkers" have really roughed up some swingers on this site. Since we've opened up for donations to help pay the bills for this cause, we have received $1,340 in cash in envelopes sent to the POB. Not a single one of these letters has a return address, which is smart. If you know who goes down, he will fight dirty. Do not leave any sensitive information out there in your accounts. We are positive that certain members at Swingular have cracked other members passwords (including ours).
1. Change your password to at least ten characters, including special characters. Currently free software on the internet can crack a 8 character password in 60 minutes. Adding 2 or more characters makes cracking much more difficult.
2. If Swingular is hosting your personal web page
Why so much hate in the swingers world... - - perhaps TEQUILAROSE was confused by my statement,
I stated that alot of people have fetish's but I do not know alot of white couples that are interested in black men, not every woman like a cock over 8" either, there are some but we have not met very many and it seems to be a very select group and type of swinger.
I am not speaking for all swingers,
I am stating what I have seen in the past and my experience in what others have told me about why they do not prefer single men.
I can tell you that "I" have had many men tell me that they have a wife or live in gf and that she is "not into it".
In reality its safer for a man that is afraid of losing what he has to cheat on his partner in a swinger enviroment because the chances of it coming back to expose him is much less likely, no connections, no ties, no one knows someone that knows the other person, its very safe.
Alot of single men have also told me that they feel that they are bringing excitement to a couples relationship that the husband can no longer provide or that the wife is simply bored with her husband and wants another.
These misconceptions are what gives single men a bad name. Guys, seriously, as a woman I can tell you just because you get me excited in bed does not mean im falling for you or I just cant wait until I have you again, it does not mean that I do not get excited with my husband and it does not mean I will be with you when he is not there.
I am not a booty call,
I am not here to give you a safe ticket to adultry, I am a swinger, I believe in the value of a close friendship with others that you can be completely open, some of the best friendships I have ever had were with swingers that wanted FRIENDSHIP and showed RESPECT.
In my humble opinion that is my and only MY definition of a swinger.
This statement is not meant to represent any other swingers aside from myself so please do not imply that my statements are a canvas for the lifestyle, there was a question, this is my answer and opinion.
swingin - thought this site was a swingers site - Sincitybi..... Being fat and ugly, I can tell from experience is not a problem for some of us men. I seem to have no problem with the ladies...even the very sexy young. Yes my wife is a good looking woman but that hasn't really been a plus for me.... I try to treat a lady like a lady even if she's not what some would call a lady.. Women like the journey and I try to be their tour guide... Gentle, slow, sensual and erotic.... Ugly hasn't been a handycap nor the fat thing... and since the diabetes got out of hand..... I am fat... at least 60 lbs too fat... Fat and ugly can be offset by gentle, slow, erotic, stimulating and just being a good tour guide on a nice journey..... and my wife is certainly not a mongaloid. Even my girl friends are not the most beautiful people in the world but they are beautiful people..... although one of my girlfriends face looks like a very young Drew Barrymore... I just saw "FIRESTARTER" and realized the resemblence. Besides ugly is in the eye of the beholder, isn't it?
Not trying to start a controvercy just saying that fat and ugly doesn't have to be a hinderance in swinging..... and might I add age also...... The weekend of the 14th, not one not two but 3 very good looking, young women, I had never met before, were all over me. We were at the same table at a social/party/dance of one of the clubs to which we belong. Based on their reaction to my aftershave... I think that it may have had something to do withtheir reactions to me. The aftershave is something new, not one of the mass marketed big name things. I've gotten comments just on the streets and in stores.... So maybe I'm a good guide and maybe I know how to dress and what fragrence's to wear... I've also been asked to give mustache rides.... So old and ugly and fat.... so what... I'm like the energizer bunny... I just keep cumming and cumming and cumming...... :p and I have no plans of going and going and going, at least, for a while yet. Have fun and enjoy... life is too short....
Soft swap - Soft swap vs Full swap - Top definition according to our Unabashed Urban Dictionary via google search and everything is according to google, right?
SOFT SWAP:
To share spouses/mates with another to the point of digital and/or oral copulation only.
This term comes from the home of Stephen, SuperGenius, who invented it spontaneously while referring to timid wanna-be swingers unwilling to take the PLUNGE
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HARD SWAP:
When you trade sexual partners...as opposed to soft swap where you just watch, or be watched, the other couple having sex. Sometimes soft swap does entail the trading of oral sex between the different couples.
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No Seriously, everyone most likely has their own definition of these "soft swap", "hard swap" terms. So rather than leave it up to each individual's own version or opinion...wouldn't it be a good idea to simply discuss with all what each is comfortable doing and what the boundaries may be on a particular night and/or with a particular couple or play partner? We believe communication is the key and everyone should feel comfortable and that there should be no pressure and no expectations.
LDS Survey Results - - Wish we could put a poll on the census so we could find out exactly what percentage of utahns are swingers. I'm thinking 25% of couples swing.
Do you agree, that some times it\'s ok to swing with a solo marr - - Our two Cents...
If your just hooking up for sex and not friendship as many in the lifestyle are does it matter what the other partners have going on in there lives? Where they work, are they married etc? Everyone swings for there own reason and if all your looking for is pleasure of a third or whatever then so long as they are clean, respectful and discreat it really shouldn\'t concern you (Same goes for females). When you meet at a swingers club do you check everyones credentials, do a background check and call references?
HOWEVER... if your looking for friends, more than just a one night stand (Not the No-Strings arrangment) then surely you would talk about why everyone is involved in the lifestyle and honesty etc become doubly important.
Just our outlook.. we are pretty tough on our screening for swing partners and friends been burnt too many times.
Amanda & Peter
Alex - New to the lifestyle looking for my first encounter into couples and single females - I just donβt understand how single guys can be swingers π€£ππ€£π
closed doors? - - Ha ha to the comment about swingers parties being one big orgy. We have been to several parties and none of them have been that :( If anyone knows where they have those, please let us know:p
Bubulaplease - Sandy station? - We went to Sandy Station and were immediately approached by someone who knew we were swingers. I guess we just give off the " I'll fuck the shit out of you." vibe. That being said, we loved the club, the ambience,(except the music) but the people were super nice. Can't wait to go back.
Only 12 couples within 100 miles on our search - Just using the search criterion of :non smoking, slim or athletic, 35-55, couples, soft swap yes, st - Well it is nice to get some intelligent on topic responses. Yes my original intent was unclear. I wanted to ask about the search function as so many times it seemed like I must be doing something wrong. I was frustrated at how you have to reenter all the parameters each time. And some of the parameters are different in search compared to what you can select in the profiles??? For instance in Soft swap in the profile you can respond with a yes, no, or maybe. Also how do you sort by excluding a yes in some parameter.? After playing with this feature I also noticed that some searches would get 2 pages of results and then I would go back and think I only changed one thing and get 20++ pages. The fact that I could NOT save the searches and be sure I just changed one parameter even though I thought I did was a pain as well. In all this I started to see some interesting trends that I was going to report on but by that time the thread had been hijacked.
Originally I reported my search results for this specific search and the criterion I used solely for help in this matter and being so stupid not to realize that I offended Smokers, bi guys, and folks not average or less. Oh and I forgot folks under 35. I am surprised not all the folks who have been members over 365 days didn't throw stones too. I wont be starting another thread ever is the overall result of this.
Whatever my intent was is not important now. I just want to say that we usually search and have met some folks outside of those original parameters and yes personality and many other factors can make the overall experience great. We don't have to call ourselves swingers and so many of you have made it clear in another caustic post like this that we do not qualify as swingers yet and shouldn't even be on this site. I agree.
Have a good Life!
