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Why are there so many swingers from Utah? - - Guess that answers the question...thanks for all the comments. and if any of you would like to migrate to Florida... hahaha...thanks guys :)

Lifestyle Questions by newcomer couple - - We are a couple that are new to the scene and we have decided to make our fantasies come true. My fantasies are for me to watch my wife with another woman and then to join for a 3some. Her fantasies are the same as mine. We are not interested in couples or Males but it seems like that all we get contacted by and we're are not secure enough in the scene as you can probably tell to go to a swingers club. So our questions would be what's the best way to go about finding a bi-female to bring our fantasies to reality and how to stop getting approached by single males and couples. Thanks for any help it is greatly appreciated.

Hall pass - - InvestigatingKink, it looks like we have been in the LS (lifestyle) about the same time, less than a year. Everyone has different needs and weaknesses in their marriage, and I certainly don't judge what other people do, at least not ethically. We were at a party just last night and talking to several couples who have been in the LS for a lot of years. We were discussing this very subject. They all had stories of people who started playing separately and most of those couples are now divorced. Their belief is that it is often very difficult on marriages and definitely not for the majority of swingers. Now all of you hall pass and open marriage people, don't get freaky on me. This is just speculation on my part and opinion of those I talk to. There are many I'm sure it works great for. I believe the LS can be seriously hard on your marriage if you are not in prime shape. We ourselves have had struggles just doing what we do (as I think everyone has had at some point) so to add more uncertainty to the situation would be tough. Also, to us (again, not judging) this is about a journey we are taking together. I like to watch her interact with people and be flirted with and she enjoys the same. If we were not together it feels as if we have moved on to something different. But we are probably rare. Our name alone, SameRoomOnly, should give you and idea of our ideals. I know this is going to sound crazy, but we aren't in the LS just to fuck a bunch of people. We truly enjoy the fun people, making friends and experiencing new things together. An analogy could be made to travel. We both love to travel. But if we started taking separate vacations all of the time, it wouldn't be as enjoyable. Hawaii is wonderful if I am there alone, but if she is with me, it makes the experience so much better. I want her to share in my experiences. Last thing is that we communicate together, almost always. It isn't that we are jealous of what a person says to either on of us, but we like to know what is being said, as a team. It keeps us honest and open and prevents us from having to recap any conversations. We trust each other completely, but we also realize that anyone can mess up and by putting yourself in a situation that could potentiate cheating or dishonesty doesn't seem wise to us. I'm sure some of you will want to interject and say "well, you two must not trust each other. We never worry about things like that. We love each other too much." Maybe so. But our opinion is that when you start to spend alone time with another person, talking freely about whatever the subject may be and are fucking that person, well...it seems dangerous. It's just like when I am at work. If a girl flirts with me or gets too close, I make sure to tell my wife and keep her updated and I also try to distance myself from that person. Not that I plan on cheating, but we are all human and have weaknesses. And by always being honest and open it helps to keep our marriage strong. So, maybe the truth is that we are just not secure enough in our relationship to do something like hall passes or an open marriage, or maybe the truth is that everyone who tries it will fail miserably and end up divorced. It probably is somewhere in the middle of that spectrum, as most things are. Few things are black or white. But we wouldn't entertain the idea of a consistent hall pass. Maybe once, or twice, just to experience it, but an ongoing thing, no way. Good luck with whatever you decide. Mr. SameRoomOnly

Site Weirdness - A thousand less members online than usual? - [quote=BMSHELL][quote=CHEFFETTE]There's typically 1600-2000 members online when I login at any given time; but there's less than 600 online today. The layout appears to have changed slightly as well, (Log Out button moved for example) though no functionality updates I can find. Has there been a swinger apocalypse? A Rapture in which more swingers were caught up than one would cynically imagine?[/quote] The number of people online before was total B.S... Basically, if you signed in, it "counted you" as being online for the next several days (even if you clicked the sign-out button). It looks like the admin has tweaked that number down a little to make it more accurate. =) [/quote]I forgot about that; it would tell me this friend or that was online,actually have the little 'online' peg person (like in the Life game) next to their name when I knew that person definitely wasn't online.

The Party Cookbook - a cookbook created for the Swingular community - I have recieved emails in favor of this adventure as well as seeing the responses here. I am all for accepting the food recipes as well as drink recipes [I have a few I would like to add as well]. So I say let's get started!! Recipes can be for either food or drinks 1.Name of Recipe a. List all ingrediants and measurements b. Then state how to mix it up 2.Put down how you would like 'Submitted by' to be [your name or handle or anonymous] You can submit as many as 5 recipes but no more then this as we want to have others in the book as well If you like, also add a title suggestion for the cookbook. EXAMPLES: The Party Cookbook THE SMORGASBORD OF SWINGERS are two of the suggested titles thus far You can post them here and I will grab them daily/weekly [depending on submissions] or you can send them to me via HoneyDo69. LET'S GET THIS PARTY STARTED!!

Looking to establish a group of safe swingers - - It's hard to find a group of couples like this but love the idea!

Same Sex Marriage - If you support - Wow, What a controversial topic I guess. Listen, We all have our own preferences. That is why most of us are here, no? I don't think any of us should be against same sex marriage just because it isn't the norm. If it's not for you then so be it. You don't have to agree with it. Doesn't make it wrong for someone else. A lot of people don't like swingers. I think we have had post about an entire religious organization trying to stop swing clubs recently, but that doesn't make our lifestyle choices wrong either. Tolerance is key here guys. It's not right for me either but I support those who it is right for. I see no reason the govn' or anyone else should impose on their rights to happiness anymore than anyone should stop any of us from swinging. Now for those breaking out the scripture talk, WTF? Let's leave that kind of stuff at church. I am sorry but we dont see any point to that at all. Maybe it was a sarcastic remark and if so I misunderstood and I appollogize. One more thing, "I don't at all. Long story short I ran into a girl I went to high school with. A night before my younger brother. Who deals dope and has snorted coke. That isn't the point. The point is Josh asked her if she wanted to get high with them since it as the night before his wedding. She didn't becuase we were fucking. LOL. Anyway, a couple weeks later we hung out a couple times. She got drunk and mad at me. And felt it was a good time to inform me that there were a couple gay guys that were friends of hers. Telling people I have AIDS in my home town. Never ever once bashed a gay guy, never even been mean to one. Maybe I should have. I have a little brother that went gay. That doesn't change the fact that he pops pills and is a pot head. I went to Claion University of PA for a year. The KDR's aske d me to pledge thier Frat. Spent the first semester pledging. In december right before Christmas break. I was at a party at an apratment that was being used by a couple KDR's. Anyway, the conversation led to ex-girlfriends. One of the brothers asked me to come into his bed room. Cause he said he knew the girl I was talking about. There wasn't a chance he knew her. Anyway, He told me I was thier favorite pledge. Lit a match held it infront of me then asked me to count to ten backwards. After i did that he blew out the match. then held a Cross on a chain in front of me and recited the Greek alpha bet. then snapped his fingers. he sat down on the bed looked me in the eye and said he knew the girl I dated in high school. That he could tell me how to contact her. All I had to do was suck him off. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.. I laughed at him. funny thing was the big titted blonde that was dating one of the cooler brothers. Was leaning against the door when I walked out. She was to drunk to get out of the way when I walked out of the room. There is another story I have that involes one of the KDR brothers and his girl friend and me. I am not going to bore you but if you want to know I can tell you all about it. Think about that before you sign this petition. And don't get me wrong, As long as we have the constitution in this country then the government has no right to tell us how to live our personal sexual lives." Seriously, WTF are you talking about. Maybe I am just completely retarded but I don't understand a single point you were trying to make here.

Do your friends and family know about your lifestyle? - - I found this thread timely, as I just had my first "scare" with being found out by my snooping sister. Instead of typing in Myspace.com she decided to go to the history of our computer and came across Swingular. Curiousity won and she went there, where the opening page shouts "Swingers". She promptly came into the family room where the rest of the family was engaged in prebirthday celebrating and said "anything new?" staring right at me. I of course had NO clue what she meant, to which she proceeded to ask if we were swingers. The only thing that made everyone else in the room tune out is that she started ranting about how 'ever since she's moved she's out of the loop and all hell's broken loose... I sell sex toys, my brother drinks, my sister's stopped going to church (can I call her a self righteous bitch?) Probably good to note here that we all grew up Mormon and now four of the five kids have shaken off the brainwashing in adulthood... thankfully we all just ignored her and I made up some line about my girlfriend having me look up some guy she was dating and dropped it. I spent the rest of the day with my insides in a knot wondering just how much she saw... the saved usernames, did she enter the site and look around? Needless to say that night we removed our public photos and I was in a panic. By morning my panic had turned to rage. Why did I feel the need to run and hide, why should I need to defend myself?! My hubby and I have been married for going on 16 years, 7 of which have been spent in the lifestyle. We are the happiest we've ever been. Our vanilla friends, who have no clue that we practice sex as a team sport, all ask us what our secret to such a happy marriage is. They can see that we have something special. Needless to say, I put the pics back up on the profile the next day. Let 'em look for us. I love my life, I love the sex that is a big part of it, and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm still not standing up at family parties to announce my choices, but I wouldn't stand up and talk about my marital bed anyway. What I do naked is my business and my husbands, that's what counts. I'm proud to be in such a committed and honest relationship. They should all try it! Maybe they'd use less prozac and smile more often! Tricia btw, I feel grateful that I have 2 friends outside of the lifestyle that know what we do. They are valuable to me and prove that they are true friends leaving the rest as just 'people we know' Besides, having a wingman now and then is helpful! Thanks for sharing in my babble...

Single Males - - [quote=CTA313][quote=EVILDOERS] ...get a girl to join you....Not only do you now "bring more to the table", but you have the added credibility that if you can find and finesse a girl into joining you in this little adventure we call swinging (whether it be a girlfriend, a wife, a second cousin twice removed, or just a hot fwb) you might just not be a giant douchecopter.[/quote] Ignoring the need to "finesse" someone and unhealthy gender stereotypes in general, this line of reasoning is a little troubling as it presumes that a male's company is inherently worth less. Or that an absence of semi-romantic relationships somehow speaks poorly of his character. I personally think approaching someone whom you aren't already fairly close with and soliciting to go to a swingers party is a bit out of line. Especially if her company is sought as an accessory to demonstrate to others that he is not, as you say, “a douchecopter”. Call me old-fashioned. [quote=EVILDOERS] I know we can't be the only people who secretly wonder just a little bit about some single guys and why they aren't with somebody. Do they secretly hate women (yes, we've met some that actually do), are they just too lazy (or busy, maybe...but hey, we're all busy) to find someone, are they serial killers and/or just not very nice guys? [/quote] Oh, I hope you are! That's a really unfortunate outlook to have. Promising relationships take time to find, let alone build to the requisite amount of trust and stability to try things like this. In the mean time, I don't see anything wrong with someone pursuing their interests while still holding out for someone worthy of their emotional investment. To me, that behavior is quite attractive should be respected! It doesn't get any better than someone who is confident, self-actualized, and motivated to pursue their desires. Sadly, it sounds their gender influences whether this is seen as a desirable trait. I'm not sure how long you've been out of things (30 years?), but it's easy to forget the struggle when you're comfortable in a marriage. Things are more fluid. People don't feel the need to settle down like they used to. [quote=EVILDOERS]I know many will say they've tried and swinging is a deal breaker for most women. After almost 3 decades in the swinging trenches meeting and talking to other people, both couples and singles, we would disagree....many, if not most, women could eventually come around to the idea of swinging once they feel safe and secure in a relationship.[/quote] This is just confirmation bias if the evidence comes from a sample of people you have met while swinging. [quote=EVILDOERS]...those of us who DID put in all the blood, sweat, and tears into a relationship and allow it to grow to the point of daring (don't think for a second we aren't risking a LOT in opening up our relationships to other people!) to allow others access to our significant other sometimes wonder why some others want to take a shortcut to all the sweet swinging bennies with little or no risk on their own part.[/quote] If you're not comfortable sharing your wife with someone you might view as a potential competition, you definitely don't have to. On the other hand, there are a lot of people enjoy it :) This smacks of the old “you must suffer as I did” chestnut. [/quote] Yes, I agree, "finesse" was a poor choice of words. In my defense, I was at work and rather in a hurry to make a point...that apparently I didn't make well (and my attempts to also be humorous apparently fell flat too). Rereading my post it does smack a little of mild gender bias but I can assure you that it wasn't my intent in any way and most certainly is not my outlook on women, relationships or life in general. My intent was simply to advocate approaching swinging as a mutually desirable activity that two partners desire and share equally in. And not that it matters, but I've shared my wife with probably over a hundred men, married and single, and I've never thought of any of them as competition. But I never thought of swinging as "sharing" my wife either, but instead as her deciding to be sexual with another person and me being totally okay with her decision to do so. Sharing her, to me, almost denotes some sort of ownership or at very least some kind of permission that I would have to give. Both those ideas are not a part of our relationship. Perhaps the concept of "competition" in swinging interactions is a single male attitude? I don't know. And I didn't mean it in any way, shape, or form as a "you must suffer as I did" trope but simply as the idea that we invested a LOT of hard work and time making our marriage what it is and together deciding to risk opening it up to the excitement and also the possibility of harm that is swinging. I think, perhaps, that sometimes single people in the lifestyle don't quite understand the very real possibility of permanent damage (or worse) to the relationship that couples who swing are flirting with. For many (most?) of us, our marriages/relationships are THE most precious thing we have. What, if anything, are you risking? A bruised ego?

swingers helper... - I know some of us need this every now and again... - Beer anyone? Now is that bringing something to the party or not? LOL