Do you prefer to meet a LS couple/individual in person for the first time in a group setting with multiple LS couples/individuals around or a more private meeting, almost like a date?
After trying both a couple of times, we have decided that for now, we definitely prefer to meet couples for the first time in group settings, such as LS events, house parties, etc. That way, if the chemistry just isn't there, we haven't wasted a whole evening, there is no pressure to continue spending time with that couple/individual, and if anything, we can bail early or find others to meet or just enjoy the night together.
The "date" situation seems to come with higher expectations to play, more awkwardness and anxiety and more pressure to connect. Group settings seem to be more relaxed and fun with no pressure to do anything with anyone in particular and the play and flirting comes more easily and natural.
There are several couples/individuals we would like to meet on here but we don't have the time to spend meeting a bunch of people in a date situation, especially if a high percentage of them may not click and be a waste of an evening. Since we have to get sitters and an evening out is a nice opportunity that we don't want to waste, we'd rather not have an awkward, forced evening or spend a bunch of our time away as a couple trying to meet new couples.
In these situations, have any of you set up an informal meet and greet where you invite some LS that you know and a bunch of LS that you would like to meet in person to a bar or night club or even house party?
Basically, how do you prefer to meet a new LS prospect in person for the first time?
After trying both a couple of times, we have decided that for now, we definitely prefer to meet couples for the first time in group settings, such as LS events, house parties, etc. That way, if the chemistry just isn't there, we haven't wasted a whole evening, there is no pressure to continue spending time with that couple/individual, and if anything, we can bail early or find others to meet or just enjoy the night together.
The "date" situation seems to come with higher expectations to play, more awkwardness and anxiety and more pressure to connect. Group settings seem to be more relaxed and fun with no pressure to do anything with anyone in particular and the play and flirting comes more easily and natural.
There are several couples/individuals we would like to meet on here but we don't have the time to spend meeting a bunch of people in a date situation, especially if a high percentage of them may not click and be a waste of an evening. Since we have to get sitters and an evening out is a nice opportunity that we don't want to waste, we'd rather not have an awkward, forced evening or spend a bunch of our time away as a couple trying to meet new couples.
In these situations, have any of you set up an informal meet and greet where you invite some LS that you know and a bunch of LS that you would like to meet in person to a bar or night club or even house party?
Basically, how do you prefer to meet a new LS prospect in person for the first time?
We always meet couples in a date situation, in a public setting especially if the chemistry just isn't there. No expectations for sex is set at the 1st meet N greet since we are out having fun doing something different. Like a dinner, movie, dancing, etc, the night is never wasted. Now in the situations the chemistry is there and the couple wants to pursue the swap for sex than we figure out where.
We always meet male individuals in a date situation, in a public setting especially if the chemistry just isn't there, we bid them good day and finish the night out going to movie or something.
If we are just looking for male individual for fucking the wife while husband watches than the expectations for sex is definitely preferred if the chemistry is there.
Now when the wife is wanting a male individual for long term No expectations for sex is set at the 1st meet N greet and if the chemistry is there building a relationship of trust with the male for helping with D.V.P, D.P, and other fantasies. Since working around wife menstrual cycle, working late, etc., takes timing.
Now for the female individuals to help in fucking the husband while wife menstrual cycle is doing its thing the expectations for sex if the chemistry is there is definitely preferred for long term or just a 1 night.
We always meet male individuals in a date situation, in a public setting especially if the chemistry just isn't there, we bid them good day and finish the night out going to movie or something.
If we are just looking for male individual for fucking the wife while husband watches than the expectations for sex is definitely preferred if the chemistry is there.
Now when the wife is wanting a male individual for long term No expectations for sex is set at the 1st meet N greet and if the chemistry is there building a relationship of trust with the male for helping with D.V.P, D.P, and other fantasies. Since working around wife menstrual cycle, working late, etc., takes timing.
Now for the female individuals to help in fucking the husband while wife menstrual cycle is doing its thing the expectations for sex if the chemistry is there is definitely preferred for long term or just a 1 night.
Meeting in a one on one with Couples is better, you actually get to meet them, know them a little and see if you want it to go further. Meeting a group scenario many times you will not get to talk long or get to know them at all. Thereby potentially missing out on a great couple that could be good friends....with Benefits! You can try hosting your own M&G, but that isn't easy, but it is worth a thought.
It all depends on our confidence level for compatibility... If we're not 80% confident we're going to get along and find that attraction before we meet, we will insist on meeting in a group setting. (Usually, we just identify a party we'll both be at and agree that we will say hello -- no expectations other than a handshake).
Having done this a few times now, we know the signs that will generally lead to us liking the other couple... Fun personalities, high-quality photos, and age-compatibility (so we have something in common) are usually the key factors for us. If that's all there, we actually PREFER to meet for a date-night.
Having done this a few times now, we know the signs that will generally lead to us liking the other couple... Fun personalities, high-quality photos, and age-compatibility (so we have something in common) are usually the key factors for us. If that's all there, we actually PREFER to meet for a date-night.
Depends on the people involved and the circumstance. We have no problem with date nights, or date days when meeting couples.
We prefer dates. We never view a date with a couple as a waste of a night. Even if sex is not going to happen we like meeting people. We are just as satisfied to go home with each other. Turns us on to flirt and have good conversation. A date within this community is just like going out with vanilla friends with the extra excitement of flirting and possibly sex.
We like to meet initially over a beer or coffee. Keep it short and sweet for the first meeting in case you are not compatible and don't want to suffer through a long dinner with them. You will know after a few minutes whether or not you want to pursue something later. Just seems to work for us.
same here. Wine/Beer with hors d'oeuvres/appetizers depending upon who it is. We enjoy the chance to get to know people and have a decent place to communicate.
I much prefer a one on one-or one on two 
public meet for the first time. No expectations, just a conversation. You can tell pretty quick if you want it to go further. And you can focus on the individual, give her or them your full attention.
public meet for the first time. No expectations, just a conversation. You can tell pretty quick if you want it to go further. And you can focus on the individual, give her or them your full attention.INTERESTED1TIME1 wrote:
We prefer dates. We never view a date with a couple as a waste of a night. Even if sex is not going to happen we like meeting people. We are just as satisfied to go home with each other. Turns us on to flirt and have good conversation. A date within this community is just like going out with vanilla friends with the extra excitement of flirting and possibly sex.
We totally agree with you two on this!
We always prefer doing dinner or drinks when we first meet couples for the first time. Seems like it's a easier to get to know them better. Most events are usually loud or busy so it's hard to really tell if you have a connection or not.
We prefer either way. Both ways have turned into fun for us. Be open and honest, and don't allow yourself to be pressured.
We like nude black light bowling when first meeting a new couple. We get to see them naked but it's not in bright enough light to see all the little icky stuff...hairy moles, stretch marks, and extra toe or two. Also, since it's in black light we can see if they light up like a crime scene with glowing remnants of blood, semen and other disgusting stuff we'd rather not get mixed up with our own disgusting stuff. To date we've never gotten past that first bowling date with any couples. Not sure why....
Meet for a quick cup of coffee. Wives, husbands, one of each partners, or all four. It can be quick at lunch or just "happen" to be getting gas at the same place and getting coffee too. Five minutes can tell you if you really want to go through the effort of going on a date or even getting to know anything more about them.
I guess I really enjoy spending time alone with my wife, after hectic days with kids, jobs and other obligations, that I don't want to waste time meeting other people sometime if it's going to be a total bust, awkward or uncomfortable. I'd rather just have focused time with her. I like the idea of meeting in group settings as it removes pressure and expectations. But we just installed the kik app a few days ago since posting this topic and it is becoming a game changer 
Those first times with couples can b akward haha.. But usually we have done enough talking and texting first to know what we both want..to just get down to the business ????..
EVILDOERS wrote:
We like nude black light bowling when first meeting a new couple. We get to see them naked but it's not in bright enough light to see all the little icky stuff...hairy moles, stretch marks, and extra toe or two. Also, since it's in black light we can see if they light up like a crime scene with glowing remnants of blood, semen and other disgusting stuff we'd rather not get mixed up with our own disgusting stuff. To date we've never gotten past that first bowling date with any couples. Not sure why....
I find naked paint balling with strobe lights gets the chemistry moving a lot faster...especially if the strobe lights cause them to have an epileptic seizure.
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
We like nude black light bowling when first meeting a new couple. We get to see them naked but it's not in bright enough light to see all the little icky stuff...hairy moles, stretch marks, and extra toe or two. Also, since it's in black light we can see if they light up like a crime scene with glowing remnants of blood, semen and other disgusting stuff we'd rather not get mixed up with our own disgusting stuff. To date we've never gotten past that first bowling date with any couples. Not sure why....
I find naked paint balling with strobe lights gets the chemistry moving a lot faster...especially if the strobe lights cause them to have an epileptic seizure.
I'm not exactly sure what "naked paint BALLING" is but if it's shooting paint balls at someone's testicles then I'm in...as long as it's not MY testicles. I'm sensing a new stunt for Jackass.
My bad...Ms. Evil just told me that "balling" is a euphemism for fucking and if that's the case iI prefer my balls NOT be painted...unless it's with some beautiful woman's saliva.