So I'm sure we've all been the recipients of a "Ya, we're just not interested" type of rejection after meeting a hot, fun couple that we thought we clicked with. No? Just us? Well then maybe you've handed a few of those out. So what ways have you successfully told a couple they're just not good enough, or how have you been nicely rejected in a way that didn't devastate you? We want to find a way to let a couple down that doesn't leave a them bawling their eyeballs out or pinning our picture to the wall and throwing darts at it. Especially if we like them...we just don't LIKE them. You know? Share your experiences, oh wise swingers!
Everybody hates rejection ('cept maybe cucks and other kinds of masochists). And there is really no good way to reject someone. There are, however, plenty of ways to handle rejection graciously. Unfortunately few people exhibit the maturity and self worth to do so. And it seems there are an inordinate amount of people involved in swinging who, sadly, lack that ability. 
We usually just try to ignore them.. Not sure if its childish.. But I feel its better than telling them no.. Unless they are real persistent then u have to say no.. In a nice way.. Even got those few u end up having to block cause they don't get the point
Disappointing someone w/o them realizing it is impossible. I reject and then block, they're not looking for a buddy no matter what they say and there will only be greater disappointment in the future btwn you.
We used to ignore others if we rejected them. Now I usually just send an email saying it's just not going to workout for us right now. Some people push harder and we ignore them. It's similar to rejections we have received and it's just fine. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't.
Bottom line is that regardless of how it's done it wucks, not sure that anyway is better than the other but we all get rejected and we all think it sucks, most people are good about taking rejection others don't seem to know what it means
So is that a yes?
What about after you've met in real life? Then what?
After meeting in real time: Hmm sounds like what wife and I had with a single male. We met he had sex with the wife and when we was attempting to do a re do. He than told us he enjoyed the wife but didn't want to re hook up if I was around. Or the time we hooked up with a single female she enjoyed the sex but felt it was wired that the wife just watched or was in the other room since wife is straight. Or the time we hooked up with a couple both enjoyed swopping for the weekend and them both coming out and saying they're not interested no more the most you can do is just chock it off as a good time and move on. Since in all the years we've been in the lifestyle only 10% are here for the redo's the other 90% just want the sex and maybe never hook up with you again. Also we've been with couples where the man and my wife fuck while I and her sit and watch since his wife isn't interested in me or visa - versa. So don't sweat it just move forward.
I feel that vetting new bedfellows isn't too dissimilar from taking part in a job interview, especially in that all parties are investing time in meeting face-to-face -- time that once spent, cannot be gotten back. So when I'm not interested in the job applicant, so to speak, I find it very mature and respectful to send a note acknowledging the time invested along with that respectful (albeit dreaded) rejection.