Two situations reoccur in regard to our orgies, since many don't have an approach to resolving them, we've chosen to share our thoughts with Swingular at large.
Inevitably, one or more of our confirmed guests will contact us and write, "I am going to be on my period, may I still come? I'm happy to perform oral and play around, but I won't be able to have sex and will need to wear underwear. Is that ok?" Our answer is always the same, "No." If you come to one of our orgies, you must get naked and you must be open to the possibility of heterosexual intercourse. However, we always follow up with, "Have you ever used Instead's Soft Cup?" It solves both problems, no bleeding and no disruption in sex. Most of the time we have sex utilizing Soft Cup neither of us even notices. Some take our suggestion and run with it while others are intimated by the prospects of trying something new out an orgy. Pretty understandable.
The other comment that we hear quite often is, "I wasn't able to get an erection." Having sex in a crowded room with many others doing the same can be a bit distracting, let alone the pressure men often put upon themselves to perform, which can inhibit the part of the nervous system that activates erections (parasympathetic). Throw some alcohol and a condom on top of that and a lack-luster erection can be easily understood.
Our recommendation is first, approach the orgy in a way that whether or not an erection occurs it is a pleasurable experience. See the erection as an added bonus, rather than a necessity. Second, minimize alcohol intake. Third, start play with your significant other, get aroused, firm, have her put a condom on you and switch to another woman. Fourth, be patient, an erection may take some time to occur. Fifth, consider erection enhancing nutritionals and botanicals (e.g. pumpkin seed oil, arginine, horny goat weed, tribulus, gingko biloba). Sixth, be open with your orgy sexual partner about your concerns, what typically turns you on and ask for their understanding should things take a while or an erection not occur. Communication not only works with your significant other, it works with a stranger as well.
Feel free to post any questions, we'll do our best to follow up with this thread. Feel free to send us a personal message if you prefer.
xoxo
k&m
Inevitably, one or more of our confirmed guests will contact us and write, "I am going to be on my period, may I still come? I'm happy to perform oral and play around, but I won't be able to have sex and will need to wear underwear. Is that ok?" Our answer is always the same, "No." If you come to one of our orgies, you must get naked and you must be open to the possibility of heterosexual intercourse. However, we always follow up with, "Have you ever used Instead's Soft Cup?" It solves both problems, no bleeding and no disruption in sex. Most of the time we have sex utilizing Soft Cup neither of us even notices. Some take our suggestion and run with it while others are intimated by the prospects of trying something new out an orgy. Pretty understandable.
The other comment that we hear quite often is, "I wasn't able to get an erection." Having sex in a crowded room with many others doing the same can be a bit distracting, let alone the pressure men often put upon themselves to perform, which can inhibit the part of the nervous system that activates erections (parasympathetic). Throw some alcohol and a condom on top of that and a lack-luster erection can be easily understood.
Our recommendation is first, approach the orgy in a way that whether or not an erection occurs it is a pleasurable experience. See the erection as an added bonus, rather than a necessity. Second, minimize alcohol intake. Third, start play with your significant other, get aroused, firm, have her put a condom on you and switch to another woman. Fourth, be patient, an erection may take some time to occur. Fifth, consider erection enhancing nutritionals and botanicals (e.g. pumpkin seed oil, arginine, horny goat weed, tribulus, gingko biloba). Sixth, be open with your orgy sexual partner about your concerns, what typically turns you on and ask for their understanding should things take a while or an erection not occur. Communication not only works with your significant other, it works with a stranger as well.
Feel free to post any questions, we'll do our best to follow up with this thread. Feel free to send us a personal message if you prefer.
xoxo
k&m
Personally we feel that any gentleman who is unable to achieve and/or maintain an erection in front of a large group of people should be mocked, ridiculed and forced to wear a scarlet "I" emblazoned across his chest. Alternatively he could be forced to wear a cone of shame for the remainder of the orgy.
Thanks for the insight! Love an invite to one of your sexy Adult nights! That soft cup really works?
DEVIANTDOCTORS wrote:
Two situations reoccur in regard to our orgies, since many don't have an approach to resolving them, we've chosen to share our thoughts with Swingular at large.
Inevitably, one or more of our confirmed guests will contact us and write, "I am going to be on my period, may I still come? I'm happy to perform oral and play around, but I won't be able to have sex and will need to wear underwear. Is that ok?" Our answer is always the same, "No." If you come to one of our orgies, you must get naked and you must be open to the possibility of heterosexual intercourse. However, we always follow up with, "Have you ever used Instead's Soft Cup?" It solves both problems, no bleeding and no disruption in sex. Most of the time we have sex utilizing Soft Cup neither of us even notices. Some take our suggestion and run with it while others are intimated by the prospects of trying something new out an orgy. Pretty understandable.
The other comment that we hear quite often is, "I wasn't able to get an erection." Having sex in a crowded room with many others doing the same can be a bit distracting, let alone the pressure men often put upon themselves to perform, which can inhibit the part of the nervous system that activates erections (parasympathetic). Throw some alcohol and a condom on top of that and a lack-luster erection can be easily understood.
Our recommendation is first, approach the orgy in a way that whether or not an erection occurs it is a pleasurable experience. See the erection as an added bonus, rather than a necessity. Second, minimize alcohol intake. Third, start play with your significant other, get aroused, firm, have her put a condom on you and switch to another woman. Fourth, be patient, an erection may take some time to occur. Fifth, consider erection enhancing nutritionals and botanicals (e.g. pumpkin seed oil, arginine, horny goat weed, tribulus, gingko biloba). Sixth, be open with your orgy sexual partner about your concerns, what typically turns you on and ask for their understanding should things take a while or an erection not occur. Communication not only works with your significant other, it works with a stranger as well.
Feel free to post any questions, we'll do our best to follow up with this thread. Feel free to send us a personal message if you prefer.
xoxo
k&m
Thanks for the info...remember us for the next party please!
ok, so I'm going to presume that the soft cup doesn't take the place of a condom.
Nope. And neither does marscapone. 
And fwiw. marscapone is to cheese what marzipan is to candy...i.e. vile and both against the Geneva Conventions.
Don't get me started on Brie.
And fwiw. marscapone is to cheese what marzipan is to candy...i.e. vile and both against the Geneva Conventions.
Don't get me started on Brie.
Diviantdoctors nicely said...I think we would agree with everything you said. Communication and patience go a long way in making everyone feel comfortable. I think most people for whatever reason have a difficult time letting go of their fear and worries about what others think. One of the things we enjoy about the lifestyle is the willingness to be non judgmental with preferences.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Nope. And neither does marscapone.
And fwiw. marscapone is to cheese what marzipan is to candy...i.e. vile and both against the Geneva Conventions.
Don't get me started on Brie.
Mascarpone, marzipan and Brie are all out?? So what you're saying is, if we ever meet up with you for dinner, we should meet at Denny's. ].
EVILDOERS wrote:
Nope. And neither does marscapone.
And fwiw. marscapone is to cheese what marzipan is to candy...i.e. vile and both against the Geneva Conventions.
Don't get me started on Brie.
What if she wants to use Mascarpone to play? Will you deny her?
Just from a newbie perspective not all Men are accustomed to this lifestyle when they are new so getting an erection the first time during said orgy might be difficult, also when new people read that a "real" man should be able to maintain an erection makes us newbies not want to try anything as far as a party for fear of judgement by more experienced couples just my two cents, now my hubby has never had that problem as far as I know but I can see where this might be an issue
stay sexy everyone,
Angie
stay sexy everyone,
Angie
No periods here so yay!!! But I did use the instead cup before I had my procedure done and I loved it!!
Btw Evil, it sounds like you hate a lot of European things. I'm guessing you only want American Cheese. and American Hot Dogs.
Yup, none of that surrender salad. Only Freedom Fries! Burgers; no hot dogs (look too much like cannoli i.e. gay). We need to rid this country of undocumented, illegal food imports, especially the ones that sound suspiciously like commie socialist foods like bangers and mash, blood pudding, escargot, linguine, and Toblerone. I propose building tall fences around restaurants and grocery stores to keep undesirable foods OUT. Trump/Nugent 2016! Make 'Murca Grrrreat!, Again. Eat Frosted Flakes or the terrorists win!
Denny's? Never! IHOP, maybe. Now go hijack your own orgy thread!
Does anyone know if Roundup will get rid of all the horny goat weeds in my yard?
Props to JAY for the Cyanide & Happiness 'toon.
Denny's? Never! IHOP, maybe. Now go hijack your own orgy thread!
Does anyone know if Roundup will get rid of all the horny goat weeds in my yard?
Props to JAY for the Cyanide & Happiness 'toon.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Yup, none of that surrender salad. Only Freedom Fries! Burgers; no hot dogs (look too much like cannoli i.e. gay). We need to rid this country of undocumented, illegal food imports, especially the ones that sound suspiciously like commie socialist foods like bangers and mash, blood pudding, escargot, linguine, and Toblerone. I propose building tall fences around restaurants and grocery stores to keep undesirable foods OUT. Trump/Nugent 2016! Make 'Murca Grrrreat!, Again. Eat Frosted Flakes or the terrorists win!
Denny's? Never! IHOP, maybe. Now go hijack your own orgy thread!
Does anyone know if Roundup will get rid of all the horny goat weeds in my yard?
Props to JAY for the Cyanide & Happiness 'toon.
Kicking me off a thread that isn't even yours? Watch out. Someone might put mascarpone and marzipan all up in your boots!
ROFL I am so cracking up here...Xanex anyone??? too bad I pass meds for a living but cant take any
LOL Xanax...ha ha blame the graveyard shift I work
I guess I am the ted Nugent, hunting yet surprisingly educated person you hate but that's ok I do have culture and went to private school ha ha
And no I don't think either party has a good candidate, third party would be nice though...I am a christian swinger too hope that offends the HELL out of everyone married to an agnostic gasp!!! yet we still make it work Oh no!! The humanity of it all!!
Viagara! Keep one handy for orgies so u can fuck all the guys and don't cum early.. And she doesn't have periods anymore!! No excuses round here lol
We have all that we need although Viagra sounds interesting for sure....
Thanks for the props though....love that cartoon Muwah!!!! xoxo
A member on here was telling me they got a ton of an erectile booster medicine for cheap in India. We need to move to India.
Sadly, when I am on my period I don't feel well and want to stay home. But I have a friend who uses the cup thing and she says they are great. If I decide to change my mental status during those 5 to 7 days I will definitely get one.
On the erection subject, not every guy can get hard every single time he wants to or has the opportunity to use it. One of my regular guys is a fucking champion, like literally can keep it up and fuck me for hours. And even his awesome dick has not wanted to cooperate a few times. There are plenty of other ways to enjoy each other even if there is not a hard dick present. Guys aren't as lucky as girls, if our body doesn't want to cooperate we just need some lube.
On the erection subject, not every guy can get hard every single time he wants to or has the opportunity to use it. One of my regular guys is a fucking champion, like literally can keep it up and fuck me for hours. And even his awesome dick has not wanted to cooperate a few times. There are plenty of other ways to enjoy each other even if there is not a hard dick present. Guys aren't as lucky as girls, if our body doesn't want to cooperate we just need some lube.
The cups only work for average or smaller guys. If he's decently equipped, he'll knock it loose and it'll leak, if well equipped, it'll go sideways and stop working all together.
Fwiw, (and yes this will be a non-facetious response- don't get used to it) it's quite easy and safe to manipulate some birth control methods so that a woman doesn't get her period during a planned play date. Most doctors and pharmacists agree that taking an extra birth control pill or two...or starting the "period" pills a little early so you can finish your period and start the next cycle is quite safe to do. Ms. Evil did just that MANY times without consequence. Additionally, she used the Mirena IUD for a few years and that device effectively reduced her period to one or two very light bleeding days at the most. Can't speak to Depo shots or implants as far as periods, maybe someone can chime in(slight) . Of course if you don't USE birth control then all of this is moot and you're fuggin' cray cray unless you want to take the chance that the condom leaked/broke and you end up having a surprise, guess who the daddy is, orgy baby. For swingers, pregnancy may just end up being the ultimate STD.
BCOX2 wrote:
1) So, it's ok for a guy to attend your parties and not be able to perform because 'whether or not it (an erection) occurs it can be a pleasurable experience,' but it's NOT okay for a woman on her period to even ATTEND your parties?? Cuz she can't experience or share pleasure while she's bleeding?? ...Don't hate on us monthly bleeders.
My thoughts exactly.
Thank you for this post! I have such problems occasionally, but have found that if I just keep going an try not to let it get to me I can still have a very erotic time! I've even had a premature ejaculation once in awhile, but I don't let the fun stop there. You can still give your partner / friends an orgasm if you are willing!
Another note. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra are all incredible wonder drugs! And they are not just for "old" guys. My Doctor taught me that years ago!
I dunno, Evil. Marzipan is nasty? I honestly don't remember exactly what it is now, but there is at least one really good thing, either a candy or some kind of baked thing, popular in Europe made with marzipan, and while I porget just what it is, I dp remember it's pretty darned good.
Actually, I have a bunch of 100mg Viagara I have no use for. Too bad I can't sell it to anyone.
An orgy isn't a group therapy session, so finding yourself unable to "stand at attention" isn't something we ever SOLVE. It's acknowledged, possibly some sympathy is extended, and things move along. Anyone worried about their performance in that respect should start out in smaller groups and build confidence.
I'm sure that not all parties have the same "full court" expectation from all attendees, so it doesn't hurt to ask about things like panties and breakaway groups and it doesn't hurt the host to be upfront about expectations. Seems like a reasonable conversation to have before planning naked time.
I'm sure that not all parties have the same "full court" expectation from all attendees, so it doesn't hurt to ask about things like panties and breakaway groups and it doesn't hurt the host to be upfront about expectations. Seems like a reasonable conversation to have before planning naked time.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Nope. And neither does marscapone.
Marscapone happens to be a key ingrediant in tiramisu, so perhaps it does have a useful place on this earth after all?
That aside,
Deviant Docs: how does that soft cup thing work? I'm not familliar with it.
JEFFSMITH1972 wrote:
A member on here was telling me they got a ton of an erectile booster medicine for cheap in India. We need to move to India.
There is a root that grows wild in Grenada that has that effect. You can buy it in the open air markets on that island for cheap. I suspect that the current crop of ED drugs are probably based on an extract of that root, or other similar vaso-constrictor.
God Damnit Evil, you told me the cone was a sex toy and I should have been proud to wear it at the party!
FLJIM wrote:JEFFSMITH1972 wrote:
A member on here was telling me they got a ton of an erectile booster medicine for cheap in India. We need to move to India.
There is a root that grows wild in Grenada that has that effect. You can buy it in the open air markets on that island for cheap. I suspect that the current crop of ED drugs are probably based on an extract of that root, or other similar vaso-constrictor.
Actually the current crop of ED drugs are PDE5 inhibitors that block the degradative action of cGMP-specific phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5) on cyclic GMP in the smooth muscle cells lining the blood vessels supplying the corpus cavernosum of the penis. VasoDILATORS (not constrictors) are another classification of drugs that can have some limited use in ED (often injected into the base of the penis (ouch). Vasoconstrictors can have the opposite effect. A natural version of a vasoconstrictor is when you go swimming in very cold water. Not good for making the pee pee big. And mascarpone sucks...but not as bad as marzipan.
PAIRPLAYERS wrote:
God Damnit Evil, you told me the cone was a sex toy and I should have been proud to wear it at the party!
