I ran into a couple in chat last week and had a nice chat. We had probably skipped past their profile a dozen times because they had checked social smokers,,, But in talking to them they only smoke a stogie once in a great while. I think many of us picture social smoking like chain smokers when they are out drinking.
Those of you who dont smoke much may want to clarify that or even not check social smoking if you can go 5-6 hours without smoking...
Those of you who dont smoke much may want to clarify that or even not check social smoking if you can go 5-6 hours without smoking...
In my experience, social smoking can be anything to lighting up a cigerette while drinking or in a public setting, to being 420 friendly in a group situation, or smoking anywhere but their personal living space. If someone claims to be a social smoker it's a good idea for you to ask them to clarify that statement so you know what they mean since it can mean something for each different person. Same as social drinker or even recreational drug user. What, where, and how much are not questions they should be avoiding. Each of us has the right to determine what our own comfort level is on associating with anyone who uses legal or not legal. I'm more apt to be judemental on someone who blatently lies (or is in denial) about what they they do then the fact they do use XYZ.
Be upfront about your own deal breaker policies too. If something is just not acceptable to you, dont be afraid to say it and own it. Its ok to say "no thank you, Im not comfortabl associating with someone with that habit in particular. good luck to you". You don't owe anyone a justification on why it bothers you. Nor do you need to justify why one habit is acceptable to you but not another. It's your choice.
Just my 2 cents.
xox
Tammy
Be upfront about your own deal breaker policies too. If something is just not acceptable to you, dont be afraid to say it and own it. Its ok to say "no thank you, Im not comfortabl associating with someone with that habit in particular. good luck to you". You don't owe anyone a justification on why it bothers you. Nor do you need to justify why one habit is acceptable to you but not another. It's your choice.
Just my 2 cents.
xox
Tammy
Yes we've found MANY definitions of "social smoking" in our tenure in the lifestyle. Finally decided to put this in our profile:
"We're kind of averse to the smell of cigarette smoke. If you can pretty much erase all traces when you're around us we have no problem with it but we have a pretty low tolerance to the smell so please don't take it personally.
One additional note. If you look EXACTLY like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie we WILL tolerate the stench of your cigarettes...yes we're amazingly shallow that way. ;-)"
"We're kind of averse to the smell of cigarette smoke. If you can pretty much erase all traces when you're around us we have no problem with it but we have a pretty low tolerance to the smell so please don't take it personally.
One additional note. If you look EXACTLY like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie we WILL tolerate the stench of your cigarettes...yes we're amazingly shallow that way. ;-)"
I concider myself a social smoker. I quit awhile back. But still smoke when I'm drinking in a social setting..