We have decided to start playing alone. And to be honest this is not so easy for me find new friends. On the other hand she has no problem at all finding what ever she wants lol.
So if anyone is interested then shoot us an email. Also I would love to hear others opinions on the subject.
So if anyone is interested then shoot us an email. Also I would love to hear others opinions on the subject.
I've a hall pass but hubby does not. I know, it's not fair. Cry me a river! 
Wow poor guy. Haha
My wife and I have a "hall pass" so to speak all the time. We know what the other is doing all the time and we have veto power over the play. It is very hard to find a couple that you are both compatible with so we have just found this easier. Good luck with you new adventures, stay honest with each other and things will go well.
My wife has a hall pass as well. I gave her a permanent one this year. I find so it Hot that she can go and get it on with whom ever she wants.
LIBRACAP wrote:
My wife has a hall pass as well. I gave her a permanent one this year. I find so it Hot that she can go and get it on with whom ever she wants.
(For Mrs LebraCap) YOU GO GIRL!!!!
Oh and she does. I love getting it on with her right after. She tells me hoe good they did her as I am boning down. Its so yummy
Thanks for the replies everyone. But to all you single males out there this thread was not an open vacation for 8 thousand blind friend requests lol.
we would love for a hall pass female! and the misses is allowed to play with a sexy couple!!! but only in the trade aspect haha
That is so funny! When we do have hall passes it is so easy for him, like they are just lining up and I have the hardest time! I guess it just goes to show that it's different for everyone huh?
Good luck with your hall passes though! They can be a lot of fun!
Good luck with your hall passes though! They can be a lot of fun!
RICHNKAY801 I am so there next time you have a hall pass. We both play alone as well
RICHNKAY801 wrote:
That is so funny! When we do have hall passes it is so easy for him, like they are just lining up and I have the hardest time! I guess it just goes to show that it's different for everyone huh?
Good luck with your hall passes though! They can be a lot of fun!
Its just because I'm shy as hell. And kind of ugly as sin lol she is sexy so they all line up for her
Rich, Wendy thinks you are sexy as hell. She says she is starting the line for you
Sorry that was supposed to be for NYMPHOSROCK. My bad
Saweet that makes 1 in my line. Hell at least she won't have to go far to get back in line after she has her turn and wants another lol.
We both have a standing hall pass. Only stipulation is the playing spouse must let the other know about it in advance and that spouse has veto rights. Its worked great so far and, truthfully, hubby has used it much more than the wife.
interesting when one gives the other a hall pass but the other wont give one as well
We don't call it a Hall Pass. For us, It's actually a fun game called "Homework". Typically we won't meet a person blindly. It's someone we have met before and both feel comfortable with. There is nothing sexier than her calling me or coming home and telling me that she did "homework"; Especially when I had no idea it was happening.
We feel it takes a lot of trust and love for one another in order for it to work. We have a strong relationship and are completely open with each other and for us, it has added a lot of excitement.
We feel it takes a lot of trust and love for one another in order for it to work. We have a strong relationship and are completely open with each other and for us, it has added a lot of excitement.
SLCJEEPER wrote:
We don't call it a Hall Pass. For us, It's actually a fun game called "Homework". Typically we won't meet a person blindly. It's someone we have met before and both feel comfortable with. There is nothing sexier than her calling me or coming home and telling me that she did "homework"; Especially when I had no idea it was happening. We feel it takes a lot of trust and love for one other in order for it to work. We have a strong relationship and are completely open with each other and for us, it has added a lot of excitement.
For the first time in my life I want some "Homework" !!!!
I think I want some homework too lol
Anyone else up for it maybe?
Anyone else up for it maybe?
We definitely could use some home work
I love to study! Especially with such fine people!!
yeah we are total book worms
It ebbs and flows, there are times where the Mr has girls everywhere and has to limit time with them and then a dry spell where there is just nothing going on at all. For her, well she can pretty much throw a rock and hit a guy who is down to play lol. But to be fair we are pretty picky so it is pretty hard for either of us to actually pull the trigger and go play.
We love the hall pass.. yippie.... Jen uses it much more then I... love to talk about the "homework"
We love hall passes because it's so wrong and naughty. We need to meet the person. The only other rule is that we share the experience. Pics are cool as long as the other person is ok with it. We are all about fair play. We all know the ladies don't have much trouble finding a playmate. That being said, ladies, mr daisy would like some alone play as well. Mrs. Really doesn't need much help. She has no problem finding willing playmates. We just need to meet you first. :-)
would be so nice to have the females out there holler at us guys who can help with home work . makes it allot more fun you ladies are so lucky lol
we have hall passes as well. but it is much easier for her to use the hall pass then me. i have noticed that most men in here dont want there women to play with other men alone but they are ok with me send my girl over to them.
we need a group study session to get all this homework done!
We are open as well. Although Mrs. Wild is uncomfortable meeting new people without me, we still make our own decisions as to with whom and when we play. We always tell each other about it, and find it a huge turn-on.
Weve GOT your "extra credit" question!
Any more talk of homework and I'll be forced to stick a pencil in my eye.
BTW, could anyone help me with my sex-ed class project?
BTW, could anyone help me with my sex-ed class project?
We have hall-passes with the other person's knowledge and approval.
I have done some homework. and It was very hot.
CB
I have done some homework. and It was very hot.
CB
As a single female who is willing to play with guys WITH hall passes, I just want to emphasize the importance of total honesty between the couple and the playmate. I find it works best for me if I had have 1)met BOTH prior 2)other half has openly consented to me personally that she is ok with this 3)the rules/limits are explained ahead of time.
I never forget that I'm simply borrowing something(one) that does not belong to me.
I never forget that I'm simply borrowing something(one) that does not belong to me.
As a single male I can't talk too much about having a hall pass since I don't have a partner but when it comes to playing with a female that does I'm very careful about it. I have a very strong respect for relationships, I miss being married. I have to get a feeling for the couple and hear it from him that she has the pass Haha and basically get his okay. It's not that I don't trust her it's that I don't trust anyone when it comes to something like that. (I should actually add that to my profile)
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
As a single female who is willing to play ...
I never forget that I'm simply borrowing something(one) that does not belong to me.
WTF? Are you saying that I'm not YOURS anymore? Are you disowning me?
What if I PROMISE to make those motorboat sounds in your boobies next time? Would you reconsider?
No "Hall Pass" for us! We don't really need anyone else to have that time with. But we do like the same room thing.
FUN4MWF wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
As a single female who is willing to play ...
I never forget that I'm simply borrowing something(one) that does not belong to me.
WTF? Are you saying that I'm not YOURS anymore? Are you disowning me?
What if I PROMISE to make those motorboat sounds in your boobies next time? Would you reconsider?
throw in some hair pulling and you have a deal.
Both the wife and I have permanent hall passes. I've used mine once. She used her's a few times and decided that without me involved, it felt like cheating. We've found that while women have no problem finding partners, very few women are interested in older men. That's just how it is.
I was noticing that all the people volunteering for extra homework were 1800 miles from us.........What did we do to deserve that?
CNKISS wrote:
It ebbs and flows, there are times where the Mr has girls everywhere and has to limit time with them and then a dry spell where there is just nothing going on at all. For her, well she can pretty much throw a rock and hit a guy who is down to play lol. But to be fair we are pretty picky so it is pretty hard for either of us to actually pull the trigger and go play.
If I jump up and down will you throw a rock at me? Hit me anywhere! I don't care.
Oh yeah, homework rocks! Not so interested in studying history or math as much as the freaky physics!
We have them (hall passes) and we both would love to find more playmates as well, for both. Sexiest references you can imagine upon request. Oh, and Mrs. Daisies, I would love to see pics, but you know how much I love to see you two!!
Oh yeah, and we both have PhD's in FREAK PHYSICS!
Oh yeah, and we both have PhD's in FREAK PHYSICS!
JIMANDANNA wrote:
I was noticing that all the people volunteering for extra homework were 1800 miles from us.........What did we do to deserve that?
You chose to live in Bum Fuck, Egypt - that's what. lol
All that talk about homework,,,, and nobody mentions anything about an "oral exam" ?
nothing better than receiving an "A" for oral presentation!
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:FUN4MWF wrote:
WTF? Are you saying that I'm not YOURS anymore? Are you disowning me?
What if I PROMISE to make those motorboat sounds in your boobies next time? Would you reconsider?
throw in some hair pulling and you have a deal.
... sorry .... I thought that was a given ...
we can both play alone...but only if the couple is super sexy !!!
BORNBRIT wrote:
nothing better than receiving an "A" for oral presentation!
You get an A+ with me baby...
I just barely used my first hall pass this last weekend. Its was so choice. I prefer to have my lady talk with the chick so everyone knows the exact situation. My lady totally got off on it. And my hall pass so got off on it knowing my lady was playing with herself while while we were Rocking the bed. Needless to say when I got home my lady stripped me down and rocked my world. It was quite a night and day of sex.
And I mean dirty sex
We both have HALL PASSES, but we also have VETO POWER over the other. We use our heads and keep each other informed. I even have a small list of (QUICK CALLS) that she calls "THE TAG TEAM".. She has a (FAMOUS list) and I have a (BUCKET list). Still looking for the perfect Asian woman... ;-)
We have "hall passes" but Mr Poker uses his a bit more... Mrs Poker is VERY picky so there is less "opportunity" for her. We prefer couple play, but she refuses to "take one for the team" so to speak.
Our best advice would be to find couples out there looking for a strong, confident and capable third wheel. *A capable male in the MMF scenario seems to be as hard to find as the elusive "unicorn"
Our best advice would be to find couples out there looking for a strong, confident and capable third wheel. *A capable male in the MMF scenario seems to be as hard to find as the elusive "unicorn"
We have them but not a preference, difficult to find couples close to us, stay together or get along with each other.
With Mrs Daisy taking a break, she has given me plenty of freedom. However, I haven't really put myself out there knowing that single men and men with hall passes have such a difficult time hooking up. Maybe because there are so many dudes that are full of shit. But, I am legit and although time is an issue with me, until Mrs. Daisy is ready to play again, I am free to be a stunt cock or to hang out. I have references. Lol
I've been married 17 years and I don't know if she is serious or not, but she's said we could do the Hall Pass thing. I know I could hook up with a few people but my wife, like fine wine, is more in shape, more secure, and honestly a better catch than me at this point. I wouldn't mind trying it though because the limited experiences we've had with couples or groups, I can never get it up in front of other guys for some reason. And a lot of couples want same room. It doesn't even matter if the guys packages are smaller than mine. Sorry for rambling. Just sharing thoughts.
I wanna entertain your hall pass!
FUN4MWF wrote:
I've a hall pass but hubby does not. I know, it's not fair. Cry me a river!
We have hall passes but to be honest she's the gorgeous one and doesn't have any problem lol. Me on the other hand--it's been challenging for several reasons: lack of time to meet people with similar hall pass interests, life style has a couples focus and hall passes appear to be the exception, I'm not the hot guy who has ladies lining up for a chance to borrow a Ferrari for the evening--I'm more like a big Dodge truck with a few dents lol.
Also a married guy approaches single or married ladies and says "hey I have a hall pass are you interested?". The common response..."ya right....are you cheating on your wife?". Bastard!
Also a married guy approaches single or married ladies and says "hey I have a hall pass are you interested?". The common response..."ya right....are you cheating on your wife?". Bastard!
I think most can feel the OP's pain... To me it's surprising to see how many on here commented the male half actually used their pass more than the female half. Females can have their shot at any guy (because we're stupid easy), but it's not so easy for us guys. I have a hall pass but I am yet to fully use it. LikeEros69 said, most guys trying actively to use their pass get shot down as 'cheaters or liars'. Oh well!
When I was married we both had a hall pass. Now that I am the single female I respect the couple since I was there at one time. I also make sure to meet the couple first to make sure they are both comfortable with me. I also respect the rules and boundaries of the couple.
How do I apply for the Hall Monitor job???!?!?
I seriously love it when the female half of said couple takes a minute to email/text me and let me know her feelings. I have two couples currently that I think are absolutely amazing at this...one couple the male half is playing alone while the female half recovers from her tailbone injury and she text me and was totally supportive of me borrowing her husband. The second couple are separated by states while she's residing in their new home town and he's here temporarily finishing up lose ends. She jumped in chat with me the other day and shared with me how hot she found it that her hubby wants to play with me and that she is so ok with it.
These two women took the time out to make me feel at ease with the situation. As a single female going INTO that type of hall pass scenario it means alot to get the ok from her. It shows us that you both value and respect your relationship and it becomes an honor that I'm being allowed temporary access to it.
So if you and your SO have hall passes, take a second and make sure that the playmate in question is aware of your approval. I'm sorry but if I can't talk to you to get your approval then I'm not going to feel comfortable playing with your man.
FYI. As I find myself in a situation where people are questioning MY availability now that I'm currently seeing someone, I encourage you to contact him personally and express your intentions. Trust me. You won't get your head bitten off. And to certain ladies who I have said "go ahead" too..I meant that. While he and I do have "rules" we are also not at that exclusive point yet. So all's fair. All we ask is that you don't go out of your way to try to sabatoge or make one of us jealous. Cuz you will NOT win. Neither of us have an issue with removing said offender from our lives. And contrary to popular belief I do not have him chained up in my sex dungeon. Duh. He has to drive me to Starbucks everyday.
These two women took the time out to make me feel at ease with the situation. As a single female going INTO that type of hall pass scenario it means alot to get the ok from her. It shows us that you both value and respect your relationship and it becomes an honor that I'm being allowed temporary access to it.
So if you and your SO have hall passes, take a second and make sure that the playmate in question is aware of your approval. I'm sorry but if I can't talk to you to get your approval then I'm not going to feel comfortable playing with your man.
FYI. As I find myself in a situation where people are questioning MY availability now that I'm currently seeing someone, I encourage you to contact him personally and express your intentions. Trust me. You won't get your head bitten off. And to certain ladies who I have said "go ahead" too..I meant that. While he and I do have "rules" we are also not at that exclusive point yet. So all's fair. All we ask is that you don't go out of your way to try to sabatoge or make one of us jealous. Cuz you will NOT win. Neither of us have an issue with removing said offender from our lives. And contrary to popular belief I do not have him chained up in my sex dungeon. Duh. He has to drive me to Starbucks everyday.
We have been doing the hall pass for the last 2 1/2 years due to my wife going through 2 kemo treatments over that time frame. At times it is hard to discuss why I have more of a hall pass then she does with others.
So what we did to over come this is move a hot little 22 year old in so that we do not have to explain our situtation in detail so much. Stephanie would love to play more but does not have the strength and or interest right now and when she does it is very limited and short lived.
After she is finished and beaten this............watch out she will be doing you all!
So what we did to over come this is move a hot little 22 year old in so that we do not have to explain our situtation in detail so much. Stephanie would love to play more but does not have the strength and or interest right now and when she does it is very limited and short lived.
After she is finished and beaten this............watch out she will be doing you all!
I have played with several wives with hall passes, and it seems to enhance their relationship. I just wish I could find some that can play during the day. Working nights sucks.
SEXISLCOUPLE wrote:
Blueeyes can i have my wife call you
Call me what?
xox
T.
We both have hall passes. We have used them and enjoyed them but in a different way then most.
He of course likes single ladies and I like couples. I love being with women, and really have had some great experiences with couples. I also of course am looking for a single female for a long term girlfriend or playmate.
We dont play with single men or men with Hall Passes. Its a personal choice. If I wanted to I could its just not something that interest me.
He of course likes single ladies and I like couples. I love being with women, and really have had some great experiences with couples. I also of course am looking for a single female for a long term girlfriend or playmate.
We dont play with single men or men with Hall Passes. Its a personal choice. If I wanted to I could its just not something that interest me.
Thank you everyone for the feedback and responses to this topic. I agree with Blueeyes.....all parties involved need to have an open discussion and feel comfortable before any "home work" (nice term Jeepers)occurs. Mutual respect goes a long way in developing lasting friendships.
Reading many of the responses, I guess the appropriate answer is.. It depends.
It depends on how long you've been swinging, it depends on your relationship with the spouse. It depends on why you are giving or getting the hall pass.
Bottom line, it's all about trust.
As for married men looking for single females, they are all over the place! Check Ashley Madison, and a hundred other sites online. Or just hang out at any bar/club on a weekend and you can eventually pick up anyone you want.
I think the problem is no woman is going to just fall in your lap (figuratively). You have to pursue, and you need to work on your game if you want to hook up. Take it from someone who has been big bald and beautiful. One thing going for us men, is a lady is more likely to over look physical issues (some of the time), but they do expect personality. If you are in you're head about how you look, then how are you going to impress these women with your whit? My experience is that confidence, whit, humor, give you a chance with almost any woman.
It's funny, one thing I've noticed, the married men are the ones who usually kill another males chance at hooking up with their lady. I see it all the time, the other couples male has no problem hitting on your female, but if you show too much interest in his lady, then sometimes he'll pull the rug out. Sure sometimes the lady simply doesn't like you, but I think swinging partners often kill more hookups for many reasons, jealousy, concern.
As crazy as this sounds. Some men fantasize about their wives with other men, but they fit a profile. Paunchy, whit, intelligent, or simply cool guys can be threatening, and don't fit the fantasy.
It depends on how long you've been swinging, it depends on your relationship with the spouse. It depends on why you are giving or getting the hall pass.
Bottom line, it's all about trust.
As for married men looking for single females, they are all over the place! Check Ashley Madison, and a hundred other sites online. Or just hang out at any bar/club on a weekend and you can eventually pick up anyone you want.
I think the problem is no woman is going to just fall in your lap (figuratively). You have to pursue, and you need to work on your game if you want to hook up. Take it from someone who has been big bald and beautiful. One thing going for us men, is a lady is more likely to over look physical issues (some of the time), but they do expect personality. If you are in you're head about how you look, then how are you going to impress these women with your whit? My experience is that confidence, whit, humor, give you a chance with almost any woman.
It's funny, one thing I've noticed, the married men are the ones who usually kill another males chance at hooking up with their lady. I see it all the time, the other couples male has no problem hitting on your female, but if you show too much interest in his lady, then sometimes he'll pull the rug out. Sure sometimes the lady simply doesn't like you, but I think swinging partners often kill more hookups for many reasons, jealousy, concern.
As crazy as this sounds. Some men fantasize about their wives with other men, but they fit a profile. Paunchy, whit, intelligent, or simply cool guys can be threatening, and don't fit the fantasy.
We so agree with abcwoman !!!! so many new couples in the lifestyle and lots of drama . We like vanilla singles
Badboy
Badboy
RUDEBOYNSLC wrote:Ha, I'm too much for ya, buddy!! Ya better bring a couple dozen protein bars, extra lube, and a few energy drinks 'cause you single guys just can't keep up!
I wanna entertain your hall pass!
FUN4MWF wrote:
I've a hall pass but hubby does not. I know, it's not fair. Cry me a river!
Ahhh, yes, the joys of trash talking!!
I have an open hall pass myself although I generally don't use it unless she is away visiting family. I leave her alone enough when running gang bangs here in Vegas. If there is the right couple or female that wants something different than one on one(like 3 or more and includes some bi male play) or kinky, that is when I'll take one of my hall passes
[/quote][/quote]Ha, I'm too much for ya, buddy!! Ya better bring a couple dozen protein bars, extra lube, and a few energy drinks 'cause you single guys just can't keep up! Ahhh, yes, the joys of trash talking!!
[/quote]Can't keep up?...... now that's funny! TRY ME and we'll see who can't keep up..lol
NYMPHOSROCK wrote:
We have decided to start playing alone. And to be honest this is not so easy for me find new friends. On the other hand she has no problem at all finding what ever she wants lol.
So if anyone is interested then shoot us an email. Also I would love to hear others opinions on the subject.
My wife has given me a hall pass because she has a BF but I agree it's not easy for a guy to find friends maybe us guys should grab a beer and figure it out lol.
FUN4MWF wrote:Ha, I'm too much for ya, buddy!! Ya better bring a couple dozen protein bars, extra lube, and a few energy drinks 'cause you single guys just can't keep up!RUDEBOYNSLC wrote:
I wanna entertain your hall pass!
[quote=FUN4MWF]I've a hall pass but hubby does not. I know, it's not fair. Cry me a river!
Ahhh, yes, the joys of trash talking!!
[/quote]Too funny!
We just opened ourselves up to it...but are taking it very slow.
It's nice knowing there are other married guys experiencing the same situation i.e. wife has one particular person in mind in the lifestyle which leaves me well drinking beer with the guys lol rather than experiencing friends with benefits. The thing is knowing is a double edge sword--on the one hand I'm not the only deer standing in the headlights but on the other hand the reality is we're all standing in the headlights wondering wtf where do I make my next move?
A support group to figure this all out? F that I'm staying in denial!
A support group to figure this all out? F that I'm staying in denial!
We don't really have a hall pass... but I past 3 months I have been setting up or as he says pimping him out. I have complete control over the entire thing. Although he has given me a hall pass I have not found anyone to play with.
Hey Eros69, I've got your back on this one. This is ABCMAN, I understand completely what you are talking about in regards to the disparity in the lifestyle. I think that is one of the reasons at parties that host's try at all costs to avoid inviting single males.
Like it or not, husbands/Partners who are excluded, or regulated to cuckold, which some men end up being okay with, but others develop jealousy. If this happens the couple will often leave the lifestyle or worse. Divorce is not worth a booty call.
The problem is how do you equalize it? It's really impossible with the number of "Bi-women" in the lifestyle. With the single males, married women only in it for the "bi" experience, it severely limits the number of opportunities for married men. So unless the couple has a "We play as a couple" rule, you are going to have this type of problem as Eros69 has suggested.
The lifestyle is not going to change, so the only solution is to not give each other hall passes and only play as a couple, or look at other venues. There are plenty of women, both married and unmarried at many different locations. Online sites like Ashley Madison and OKCupid have a number of women looking for potential sexual partners, or relationships. If it's important to hook up with someone new, or use the Hall Pass, then perhaps it's worth looking into these other sites.
On the other hand I can also understand the desire to not want to go through that much effort. It does seem like most women in the lifestyle really don't have to try that hard to find a potential partner and perhaps that's where it get's the most frustration for some men. Tough enough with all the other things in life one needs to worry about, including keeping the marriage (partnership) healthy as well. So chasing women at local single bars is just not something that would seem attractive or productive for that matter.
Finally, there is also one other disadvantage for married men when it comes to competing with singles. Our game usually sucks ass! This isn't the single man's fault, it's primarily are own. I call it fat and lazy syndrome. We're also out of practice as well. The problem is you've been getting it for the last umpteen years and you've not had to work for it that hard. Guess what, former married guys, find out really quick how tough it is out there. Why do you think so many divorcees end up working out like crazy men at the gym, dropping the pounds, focusing on building up the net worth, etc. It's not just to impress the former ex-wife, it's all about finding the next partner.
Anyway, sorry for the long ass reply, the lifestyle is just interesting. I hope single men realize that there not the only ones that think they have it tough in the lifestyle. I'm sure some women will say the same thing at times as well. I've heard bi-sexual women complain about how many bi-curious women are really not bi-sexual and how frustrating that can be pursuing those women.
Anyway.. support group.. go ahead and create one!!
Like it or not, husbands/Partners who are excluded, or regulated to cuckold, which some men end up being okay with, but others develop jealousy. If this happens the couple will often leave the lifestyle or worse. Divorce is not worth a booty call.
The problem is how do you equalize it? It's really impossible with the number of "Bi-women" in the lifestyle. With the single males, married women only in it for the "bi" experience, it severely limits the number of opportunities for married men. So unless the couple has a "We play as a couple" rule, you are going to have this type of problem as Eros69 has suggested.
The lifestyle is not going to change, so the only solution is to not give each other hall passes and only play as a couple, or look at other venues. There are plenty of women, both married and unmarried at many different locations. Online sites like Ashley Madison and OKCupid have a number of women looking for potential sexual partners, or relationships. If it's important to hook up with someone new, or use the Hall Pass, then perhaps it's worth looking into these other sites.
On the other hand I can also understand the desire to not want to go through that much effort. It does seem like most women in the lifestyle really don't have to try that hard to find a potential partner and perhaps that's where it get's the most frustration for some men. Tough enough with all the other things in life one needs to worry about, including keeping the marriage (partnership) healthy as well. So chasing women at local single bars is just not something that would seem attractive or productive for that matter.
Finally, there is also one other disadvantage for married men when it comes to competing with singles. Our game usually sucks ass! This isn't the single man's fault, it's primarily are own. I call it fat and lazy syndrome. We're also out of practice as well. The problem is you've been getting it for the last umpteen years and you've not had to work for it that hard. Guess what, former married guys, find out really quick how tough it is out there. Why do you think so many divorcees end up working out like crazy men at the gym, dropping the pounds, focusing on building up the net worth, etc. It's not just to impress the former ex-wife, it's all about finding the next partner.
Anyway, sorry for the long ass reply, the lifestyle is just interesting. I hope single men realize that there not the only ones that think they have it tough in the lifestyle. I'm sure some women will say the same thing at times as well. I've heard bi-sexual women complain about how many bi-curious women are really not bi-sexual and how frustrating that can be pursuing those women.
Anyway.. support group.. go ahead and create one!!
To ABC let me simply add that I think women are pickier than men are. Maybe it is genetics or culture, but women seem to look for something different that greatly interests them. As a rule men aren
ABCWOMAN wrote:I LOVE all the bi women in this lifestyle!! Seriously, it does leave so many available men. I'm sure as hell no "Barbi" but that doesn't matter 'cause with all these men around I get to just point and go "Hmm...I'll have one of him, and one of him, and one of ...!!!!"
... The problem is how do you equalize it? It's really impossible with the number of "Bi-women" in the lifestyle. ...
The only down side is that no one ever puts up pics of the male half in profiles--like there's some assumption that ALL of the women here are bi. I don't know how many times I'll get a friend request or note from the male half of a couple, I'll go to their profile and there's loads of sexy pics of the gal and none of him. Really? There's lotsa sexy gals here but how the hell do I know if I'm interested in him?? Duh!
My wife has also stated that she would give me a hall pass. With her decision "not to play" it has made things very hard and we have had to struggle with our sex life at home (kids at home don't help). So as I watch as my sex life slowly dies I can agree with most of the posts on here. The married guys do have to try harder and it can be a lot of work. My decision has been one of just letting it go and not go through the hassle and rejection that come with it. After all, how many would really be too interested... Guess I will shut up now!
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE]To ABC let me simply add that I think women are pickier than men are. Maybe it is genetics or culture, but women seem to look for something different that greatly interests them. As a rule men aren
MISSSMITHNSIRNEWBY wrote:
Disclaimer: This is just some thoughts to shoot down or whatever. If it works for you, then groovy, baby!
I've never understood the control/ownership aspect of a "hall pass". You are either sexually monogamous, or you are not, right? If you are sexually non-monogamous, is it really so much your partner's business to regulate you?
Curiosity and wanting to be a part of your partner's life and experiences is cool. Swapping stories can be fun and funny. Health issues and getting appropriate respect is important as well. And, hey, if you're playing it from the vantage point of slave-master or some other role-playing game, I can see the point -- sort of.
But more than that seems more like a leash than liberating. Just the way I see it.
Sir Newby
Gaaak!!! I have a best friend, lover, and life-long partner that I married. Our minds are intertwined. Our hearts are intertwined. I find our lifestyle to be VERY liberating, although there are activities outside the scope of what one partner can accept. I find staying within those boundaries to be in NO way like a leash.
The interplay between these tantalizing activities and the rest of our relationship expands that relationship enormously in other areas. However, these activities are but one aspect of our relationship. TOGETHER, as a whole, we ROCK. I can think of absolutely NO single sexual activity by itself that I'd find more liberating then that.
FUN4MWF wrote:ABCWOMAN wrote:I LOVE all the bi women in this lifestyle!! Seriously, it does leave so many available men. I'm sure as hell no "Barbi" but that doesn't matter 'cause with all these men around I get to just point and go "Hmm...I'll have one of him, and one of him, and one of ...!!!!"
... The problem is how do you equalize it? It's really impossible with the number of "Bi-women" in the lifestyle. ...
The only down side is that no one ever puts up pics of the male half in profiles--like there's some assumption that ALL of the women here are bi. I don't know how many times I'll get a friend request or note from the male half of a couple, I'll go to their profile and there's loads of sexy pics of the gal and none of him. Really? There's lotsa sexy gals here but how the hell do I know if I'm interested in him?? Duh!
the other downside i've found about all the women being bi... can't seem to hook up with couples cuz they basically require girl/girl of some degree and/or get pissy when i wanna flirt with the hubby rather than the wifey. Women are beautiful, I just don't wanna have sex with 'em.
Kitty
ABCWOMAN wrote:
The lifestyle is not going to change, so the only solution is to not give each other hall passes and only play as a couple, or look at other venues.
I remember back when we first joined the lifestyle. Didn't know ANYBODY that gave hallpasses. Everyone was couples only. Kinda interesting how things change.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:Kitty, you've got such a sexy "Rebel" look about you they just can't help themselves. In fact, (and this is the Mrs) wanna fuck?
the other downside i've found about all the women being bi... can't seem to hook up with couples cuz they basically require girl/girl of some degree and/or get pissy when i wanna flirt with the hubby rather than the wifey. Women are beautiful, I just don't wanna have sex with 'em.
Kitty
I'm sorry, I just couldn't help that. I'm in my office simultaneously wrapping gifts and reading this stuff. I should probably concentrate on one or the other. I'd agree there certainly is a preponderance of Bi-Sex women. It's scared me off a couple times 'cause I'm a little curious but I'd be looking at limiting things to upper body stuff and I'd really rather not get mid-session and have someone get all pissy or aggressively pursuing more.
FUN4MWF wrote:ABCWOMAN wrote:I LOVE all the bi women in this lifestyle!! Seriously, it does leave so many available men. I'm sure as hell no "Barbi" but that doesn't matter 'cause with all these men around I get to just point and go "Hmm...I'll have one of him, and one of him, and one of ...!!!!"
... The problem is how do you equalize it? It's really impossible with the number of "Bi-women" in the lifestyle. ...
The only down side is that no one ever puts up pics of the male half in profiles--like there's some assumption that ALL of the women here are bi. I don't know how many times I'll get a friend request or note from the male half of a couple, I'll go to their profile and there's loads of sexy pics of the gal and none of him. Really? There's lotsa sexy gals here but how the hell do I know if I'm interested in him?? Duh!
see? someone gets it
plenty of us single males around... no need to hide... if you have a hall pass, use it... I am ok to play alone with you if ya'll want...afterall, being single = perpetual hall pass :PWe both have hall passes if we choose. She has an interesting rule. She will not meet single men from this site!!
Speaking of...My husband comes home for the first time in one month for a few days before he leaves again for another month. Any ladies with a hall pass that would like to use it the weekend of January 20th. Please let me know!Then when he leaves again, we can play one on one too (but not required).
When my wife died 10 years ago my swinger life changed. I tried making myself available for ladies with a "hall pass" but found that many of them were secretly cheating on hubby. So I won't play alone with a married, or committed, lady until I've met hubby and am certain of the situation. Swinging for us single males, single for whatever reason, is difficult because the younger singles don't play nice. I satisfy mywelf with those I know, or have connections with, and by referrals.
We both share hall passes as well. Love it and think its very hot when the wife goes out on the town looking. We both know what each other is doing and talk about it always. There is always the veto like blueidkat said but it works for us!
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
the other downside i've found about all the women being bi... can't seem to hook up with couples cuz they basically require girl/girl of some degree and/or get pissy when i wanna flirt with the hubby rather than the wifey. Women are beautiful, I just don't wanna have sex with 'em.
Kitty
We dont mind playing with straight couples. Full Swap is fine with us. If boundaries are set we wont cross them. However I am so hot I dont know you could resist me. lol.
Andi (mrs)
We have met a few couples that want the bi experience as well, they basically should just be seeking out the unicorns because everything starts happening, and the two guys are left watching, which if fine and all, but we wanna play too.
LIXILULU wrote:
I have a hall pass for the first time!!! My hubby is out of state for a while so we've given each other one. How will I use it?
your booty call has single male listed... but apparently you are looking for a couple?
(I say this cause my email wasn't sent due to me being blocked
)Sorry. I unblocked that.
I got to stop reading this thread. I have this urge to be hall monitor and see who I can get to come play with me.
xox
Tammy
xox
Tammy
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I got to stop reading this thread. I have this urge to be hall monitor and see who I can get to come play with me.
xox
Tammy
I like your profile, I see what you are saying, also am intimidated by it... I'd worry about not meeting those expectations....and.... well.. fuck it.. I'll just skip to #3 and pound the hell out of it!
haha
I think the hall pass option has actually improved our relationship for several reasons--trust being at the top of the list as well as openness about one's true feelings. If one is uncomfortable about any situation, an opinion had better be communicated and heard or issues will almost certainly develop. Another benefit is that we learn from experiences with others and then share the "new trick" openly in our relationship to the improvement of our sex life.
I agree with ABCMan on several key points i.e. married guys looking to share a hall pass can be lazy when it comes to the "chase" and therein the is our greatest problem. We are out of practice and need to put forth a lot more effort and at the same time realize we are one of many many choices available to few willing females.
I agree with ABCMan on several key points i.e. married guys looking to share a hall pass can be lazy when it comes to the "chase" and therein the is our greatest problem. We are out of practice and need to put forth a lot more effort and at the same time realize we are one of many many choices available to few willing females.
I think the hall pass option has actually improved our relationship for several reasons--trust being at the top of the list as well as openness about one's true feelings. If one is uncomfortable about any situation, an opinion had better be communicated and heard or issues will almost certainly develop. Another benefit is that we learn from experiences with others and then share the "new trick" openly in our relationship to the improvement of our sex life.
I agree with ABCMan on several key points i.e. married guys looking to share a hall pass can be lazy when it comes to the "chase" and therein the is our greatest problem. We are out of practice and need to put forth a lot more effort and at the same time realize we are one of many many choices available to few willing females.
I agree with ABCMan on several key points i.e. married guys looking to share a hall pass can be lazy when it comes to the "chase" and therein the is our greatest problem. We are out of practice and need to put forth a lot more effort and at the same time realize we are one of many many choices available to few willing females.
YOURTOY75 wrote:
I like your profile, I see what you are saying, also am intimidated by it... I'd worry about not meeting those expectations....and.... well.. fuck it.. I'll just skip to #3 and pound the hell out of it!
haha
Never skip a step. You might miss something. LOL Also...ADD PICTURES!