Anyone else find it just plain rude when you reply to a booty call request that someone has posted...don't get too ambitious planning anything else..for fear of having to cancel on someone elses plans...only to be left with another night, or weekend with nothing much to do...because someone couldn't be as kind to at least afford you the courtesy of a reply of "Thanks for the interest but...sorry, not this time"?
Makes me pretty anxious to ever reply to another of their requests...I'll tell you that!
Ahhhh..maybe it's just me...expecting too much from an ADULT.
OK..feel better now...back to your regular programming...LOL
Makes me pretty anxious to ever reply to another of their requests...I'll tell you that!
Ahhhh..maybe it's just me...expecting too much from an ADULT.
OK..feel better now...back to your regular programming...LOL
ive had that happen to me twice and common curtosy i guess should be put into the programming from the admin cause not too common anymore lol....
Wow! Wouldn't THAT be nice...To be able to just build common courtesy into the progaramming here! Great Idea!
Thanks for the reply here..(Got my programming in place..already) LOL
Thanks for the reply here..(Got my programming in place..already) LOL
Yeah I get what you're saying, it would be nice if more people had the courtesy gene in place and it wasn't so passive.
Truth is most people I've met so far are very spontaneous with a heavy dose of ADD. So when you find those good ones don't waste them.
"Sex happens, friendship takes work."
Truth is most people I've met so far are very spontaneous with a heavy dose of ADD. So when you find those good ones don't waste them.
"Sex happens, friendship takes work."
I've had it happen to me with MORE than just in Booty Calls.
If I notice someone new has joined from my area, I send them a short e-mail saying hello and welcoming them to Swingular - NOTHING MORE.
I seldom get a response.
If I see someone from my area in the Chat Room, I always post a "Hi Neighbor" - NOTHING MORE.
I seldom get a response.
As has been said, whether it's for a Booty Call response, an e-mail, or a simple hello in the Chat Room - it's just a matter of common courtesy to respond.
Hell, being told to "FUCK OFF" would be more polite than an "IGNORE".
If I notice someone new has joined from my area, I send them a short e-mail saying hello and welcoming them to Swingular - NOTHING MORE.
I seldom get a response.
If I see someone from my area in the Chat Room, I always post a "Hi Neighbor" - NOTHING MORE.
I seldom get a response.
As has been said, whether it's for a Booty Call response, an e-mail, or a simple hello in the Chat Room - it's just a matter of common courtesy to respond.
Hell, being told to "FUCK OFF" would be more polite than an "IGNORE".
It seems that a lot of people on here are interested in the chase and the feeling that it brings. It's the "thrill of the hunt" that gets people excited. Once the novelty has worn off...game over.
weve found that most of the people on here dont resond to emails and even when someone sends you a friend request half the time they dont respond to emails either.
Wow! Guess I'm NOT the only one feels this way....Thanks all for responding to my outburst in the night...LOL And you are all right...it's not just booty calls..it's the whole deal.
Now...Guess I best be on MY best behavior, as well. Ashamed to admit I have been guilty at times as well...but have tried not to be....best step the effort up. Anyone ever really connect on one of these mythical booty calls? We've been going to post one sometime that we could host..just to see what the otherside of this looks like...LOL
We WOULD meet tho...someone.
Now...Guess I best be on MY best behavior, as well. Ashamed to admit I have been guilty at times as well...but have tried not to be....best step the effort up. Anyone ever really connect on one of these mythical booty calls? We've been going to post one sometime that we could host..just to see what the otherside of this looks like...LOL
We WOULD meet tho...someone.
Thanks JackandJill69!
We haven't had to block anyone yet, but absolutely would have in that case, as well. As for expecting bad news....reminds me of what a friend of mine always says..."I expect the worse, then I'm never dissappointed"..LOL We..would prefer a polite "no thanks"
Don't need a reason..."no thanks" ..or "not this time"..is more than sufficient.
We haven't had to block anyone yet, but absolutely would have in that case, as well. As for expecting bad news....reminds me of what a friend of mine always says..."I expect the worse, then I'm never dissappointed"..LOL We..would prefer a polite "no thanks"
Don't need a reason..."no thanks" ..or "not this time"..is more than sufficient.
I have NEVER arbitrarily sent someone a Friend Request - and I NEVER will.
I have ALWAYS asked permission (whisper only) for a Friend Request while talking with someone in the Chat Room, or after exchanging a few e-mails.
Sending a Friend Request to someone without first establishing a dialog is akin to walking up to a stranger on the street and asking them: "Wanna fuck"?
I don't want to open another can of worms here, but, let's face it - we all know the rap us single guys get - and I agree that a LOT of it is deserved through the actions of some jerks.
That's precisely why I go out of my way to be polite, and try to put at least one (me) single guy in a positive light.
My mama taught me manners and respect for others - and I've NEVER forgotten how to use both.
I have ALWAYS asked permission (whisper only) for a Friend Request while talking with someone in the Chat Room, or after exchanging a few e-mails.
Sending a Friend Request to someone without first establishing a dialog is akin to walking up to a stranger on the street and asking them: "Wanna fuck"?
I don't want to open another can of worms here, but, let's face it - we all know the rap us single guys get - and I agree that a LOT of it is deserved through the actions of some jerks.
That's precisely why I go out of my way to be polite, and try to put at least one (me) single guy in a positive light.
My mama taught me manners and respect for others - and I've NEVER forgotten how to use both.
the times weve been on booty call the responses become overwelming, just to try to keep things straight we start deleting mail some without even reading it. so dont get offended by a no response to a booty call.
I just take a no response as a polite no thank you...sometimes it gets overwhelming with emails and I always feel bad trying to say no thank you without seeming like a snob...so I guess damned if ya do and damned if ya don't...kisses...Naugh-Ty
Oh and just for the record...if I reply to someone's booty call and haven't heard anything within a short amount of time I would make my own plans...if they respond later and I've already made plans I would just tell them, sorry you took so long getting back to me I made my own plans...if it takes that long to get back then they're obviously looking for the "best offer" and if they have to settle on me then I don't want it anyway...just my thoughts...
Oh and just for the record...if I reply to someone's booty call and haven't heard anything within a short amount of time I would make my own plans...if they respond later and I've already made plans I would just tell them, sorry you took so long getting back to me I made my own plans...if it takes that long to get back then they're obviously looking for the "best offer" and if they have to settle on me then I don't want it anyway...just my thoughts...
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:
I just take a no response as a polite no thank you...sometimes it gets overwhelming with emails and I always feel bad trying to say no thank you without seeming like a snob...so I guess damned if ya do and damned if ya don't...kisses...Naugh-Ty Oh and just for the record...if I reply to someone's booty call and haven't heard anything within a short amount of time I would make my own plans...if they respond later and I've already made plans I would just tell them, sorry you took so long getting back to me I made my own plans...if it takes that long to get back then they're obviously looking for the "best offer" and if they have to settle on me then I don't want it anyway...just my thoughts...
NOBODY would ever SETTLE for you, Naughty.
We have found through the years that there are many things that propel people to behave in these ways. Yes, they could be rude, inconsiderate and and/or shallow, it could be major lifestyle problems or it could be that their basement just flooded!
The bottom line is that we have absolutely no idea whats going on in the others camp and therefore should TRY NOT TO TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY.
Just move on, be patient and be the type of person you'd like to be with and keep working on finding folks who you connect with. Eventually it will happen and you'll have some of the best times you've ever had in your life!!!
The bottom line is that we have absolutely no idea whats going on in the others camp and therefore should TRY NOT TO TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY.
Just move on, be patient and be the type of person you'd like to be with and keep working on finding folks who you connect with. Eventually it will happen and you'll have some of the best times you've ever had in your life!!!
Ahhh.all good points! I particulairly liked Ms Naughty Girls about being a last resort" sort of thing....Think you are right..not sure I'd be interested anymore in the encounter, either.thanks for the lively discussion all! Even thru this, in my humble opinion, provides a little forum for us to get to know each other a little bit..
Pleassure meeting you all...well...except for.....awwww..just kiddin'!
Doug
Pleassure meeting you all...well...except for.....awwww..just kiddin'!
Doug
CARRIERMAN wrote:NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:
I just take a no response as a polite no thank you...sometimes it gets overwhelming with emails and I always feel bad trying to say no thank you without seeming like a snob...so I guess damned if ya do and damned if ya don't...kisses...Naugh-Ty Oh and just for the record...if I reply to someone's booty call and haven't heard anything within a short amount of time I would make my own plans...if they respond later and I've already made plans I would just tell them, sorry you took so long getting back to me I made my own plans...if it takes that long to get back then they're obviously looking for the "best offer" and if they have to settle on me then I don't want it anyway...just my thoughts...
NOBODY would ever SETTLE for you, Naughty.
Awwww...*blushing*
You know, that's the nice thing about getting a group of adults who can actually offer different views on a situation without it turning ugly...sometimes you go "wow, I never thought of it that way"...to me that is a productive discussion...great seeing all the different views...have a wonderful night...kisses...Naugh-Ty
yes i thought all my response were invisible. since no one cared to reply. but then no one see me. guess i should change my name to mr invisible.
I guess some people can get busy with unexpected things that comes up in day to day living. I have written to several people on this blog who expressed a interest in getting together and never got a reply or way or anther. I that not rude also?
Yes I agree your dammed either way. If we respond in any way except hey come f**k us, no matter how nice and polite we are then you are called an ass or that you must think you are to good for us. Have been told both just last week. Also get a ton of friend requests that did not seem to read the looking for part that tells weather its couples only or singles wanted. We wont respond to them unless they are related to the booty call. Then sometimes no matter what you will get someone that is just not what your looking for and then there is no good way to say that. So a no response seems to work best then, not trying to or wanting to be rude.
We just dont even bother with booty call, we have always felt that its just as easy to simply ask someone out, not go fishing and see who bites, but to see who is compatible and who we have a genuine interest in. In our experience, it has made for alot more fun & sexy nights
Thanks for highlighting a common occurrence. Sad thing is it happens all the time. I guess it's too much trouble to be courteous and acknowledge ones interest and respond accordingly.
Wow! What a can of worms I opened! Ahhh..but..have to say I've read some excellent points...from both camps.I do agree with this last observation. though....it would be real nice for the original poster of a booty call...to simply be able to remove it when it was filled....Or.....maybe be able to send a preprogramed message of some sort, that you were simply not chosen, for whatever reason.
Thanks all! It has been educational..to say the least!
Thanks all! It has been educational..to say the least!
I think the same "rude" feeling can be applied to those who never fully read a profile before they contact a person... for example, my profile is detailed enough to give any person enough information to feel comfortable in knowing what and who I seek for company on this site. It also says a little line about how I feel about just sending a "friends request" and no other comments, conversation...etc. I can't tell you how many "friends requests" I get daily! Sorry folks, but I don't even view a profile when this is the only contact made to me....and I do delete the email.
There are so many directions rudeness can be applied here in this lifestyle! It's both fun and exciting, and it's also a little self serving too. Most people here have an idea of what the ideal sex partner looks like, as well as acts like. He can be a mouth watering lolli-pop looks wise, but act like a total douche- which will kill the chances! Don't apologize for saying no thanks, but always do it nicely! xoxo
There are so many directions rudeness can be applied here in this lifestyle! It's both fun and exciting, and it's also a little self serving too. Most people here have an idea of what the ideal sex partner looks like, as well as acts like. He can be a mouth watering lolli-pop looks wise, but act like a total douche- which will kill the chances! Don't apologize for saying no thanks, but always do it nicely! xoxo
This is tricky because although we always try to reply to every inquiry, sometimes we simply cannot access the site, due to technical difficulties, or being "blocked" when we use public internet(which we do frequently..this isnt a site you can access at Starbucks or Krystals, or even your local library), so it may be a matter of we cant access our mail here
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:
I just take a no response as a polite no thank you...sometimes it gets overwhelming with emails and I always feel bad trying to say no thank you without seeming like a snob...so I guess damned if ya do and damned if ya don't...kisses...Naugh-Ty Oh and just for the record...if I reply to someone's booty call and haven't heard anything within a short amount of time I would make my own plans...if they respond later and I've already made plans I would just tell them, sorry you took so long getting back to me I made my own plans...if it takes that long to get back then they're obviously looking for the "best offer" and if they have to settle on me then I don't want it anyway...just my thoughts...
that is a damn good idea may have to steal that from you.lol
i read every signle post on here and i agree with mostly all of them , people that take a simple no thank you as rude are silly 
..... me personally as a single male ive been just fine with the polite no thank you,i dont need a reason why.
for everyone yes we all falter a little in reading the whole profiles..im guilty a little but have gotten alot better lol.
there is an option to block us single males
....but in last couple of days from reading posts can see why now
..... me personally as a single male ive been just fine with the polite no thank you,i dont need a reason why.for everyone yes we all falter a little in reading the whole profiles..im guilty a little but have gotten alot better lol.
there is an option to block us single males
....but in last couple of days from reading posts can see why now