There has been alot of discussion between my beautiful wife and I about whether or not we want to do a MMF threesome. I think it would be hot as hell, she's a little apprehensive. We wouldn't mind hearing anyone's thought on this subject.
I have seen a couple of other forums on this topic and each time there has been confusion as to what was meant by MMF threesome.... My understanding is that a MMF threesome includes some level of bi play between the males. If you are really talking about a more "traditional" threesome where there is not bi play between the males then perhaps you should refer to it as a MFM threesome so there is less confusion.
With that said, if you ARE talking about a MMF threesome then I would guess that the female involved needs to be turned on by bi play between men - otherwise the MMF play may actually just plain turn her off.
With that said, if you ARE talking about a MMF threesome then I would guess that the female involved needs to be turned on by bi play between men - otherwise the MMF play may actually just plain turn her off.
Yumyum, she just has to know its completely safe for her to do and that you'd really really seriously want to see her do it. Keep telling her how much it would turn you on. She has to believe you really want to see her with another guy. Tell her what you'd like about it, reassure her it would be safe for her to get into it and let go and enjoy. It sounds like youve already discussed it so if she's shy about it its up to you to make it safe and comfortable, if its you thats shy, she needs to do the same for you. Personally... its the hottest thing ever, but we all have our preferences... 
Dave
Dave
From experience it can be the most awesome thing ever, or it can be the most miserable.
The key for me was finding the right guy, the wrong guy totally killed it for me and it was about a year before I was ready to try again. The right guy was awesome and one of the best times ever.
Spend a long long LONG time finding someone. You can either look through here, or advertise on craigslist, don't be afraid to advertise more than once until you find EXACTLY who you're looking for. The real key is finding someone you BOTH like and trust.
I've found the best way is for one person to draw up a shortlist from the pool of suitable candidates, and then the other to pick from that list. If there's no-one suitable, then look/advertise again, and don't be afraid to keep looking.
Interview the guy (or guys), meet for drinks and chat and then go home without him and discuss it and make sure you're BOTH happy.
When you finally find the right guy, have some flexibility in things like scheduling. If he's got other commitments then wait until he's free. Don't rush it, the right guy for you is worth waiting for.
When you get to it, make sure you're both paying attention to each other, you should watch her to make sure she's happy and she should watch you too. The guy can usually take care of himself if he's any good.
As the guy, be sure it's what you want and that you can really deal with it. It's not always how you expect it to be. Nervousness is normal for both of you.
Afterwards TALK about it, what did you like and what didn't you like.
Good luck
The key for me was finding the right guy, the wrong guy totally killed it for me and it was about a year before I was ready to try again. The right guy was awesome and one of the best times ever.
Spend a long long LONG time finding someone. You can either look through here, or advertise on craigslist, don't be afraid to advertise more than once until you find EXACTLY who you're looking for. The real key is finding someone you BOTH like and trust.
I've found the best way is for one person to draw up a shortlist from the pool of suitable candidates, and then the other to pick from that list. If there's no-one suitable, then look/advertise again, and don't be afraid to keep looking.
Interview the guy (or guys), meet for drinks and chat and then go home without him and discuss it and make sure you're BOTH happy.
When you finally find the right guy, have some flexibility in things like scheduling. If he's got other commitments then wait until he's free. Don't rush it, the right guy for you is worth waiting for.
When you get to it, make sure you're both paying attention to each other, you should watch her to make sure she's happy and she should watch you too. The guy can usually take care of himself if he's any good.
As the guy, be sure it's what you want and that you can really deal with it. It's not always how you expect it to be. Nervousness is normal for both of you.
Afterwards TALK about it, what did you like and what didn't you like.
Good luck
Oops! Sorry if there was any comfusion with my MMF, I meant MFM. Thanks Partiallyshaved for the clarification!
Thanks to you all for the feedback. We're very interested to read everyones perspective.
When we had our first mfm threesome it worked out best by letting her play with another guy while i watched and then when she was ready she asked me to join. That seemed to ease her into it and everything went smooth...
I have found that the best MFM work out best when the couple openly talk about their fantasies, and are happy trying to fulfill their spouses fantasy. Communication is always key in any relationship. Morgancouple does have a great idea to allow the spouse to gently ease into a situation, and having already known a couple or single also helps.
Thanks
Thanks
MFM, we love it! It is incredibly hot for both of us! She likes the attention, the different sensations she gets from two different guys at the same time, one on each breast is a particular favorite during foreplay. She loves the stimulation of being touched, caressed, held, sucking, holding and stroking a cock with one in her, and in general the whole package. He loves to see her being pleased, feeling her excitement, and just enjoying the moment. Tag team is great because as he wears out, usually our partner is up for more, and vice versa that way the play can go on for hours, as her climaxes get higher and higher. So now that we've described some of our favorite parts of MFM play, it is very important that BOTH of you are comfortable with the playmate, as well as him being comfortable with both of you. Mutual respect for all parties, don't treat the playmate as a piece of meat, or just a toy, unless that is how you want to be treated by him. We will be happy to answer any other questions, so just e-mail us here and ask! We don't bite....much....
With us.....we have had both mfm and mmf,they both were very enjoyable for all involved
This tends to be our favortie form of group play as the emphasis is all on her pleasure. A few others made the statement that the third needs to be more about pleasing her than just getting laid. My wife likes to ease into it with new partners with things like strip poker, skinny dips, etc just to get comforatble with the naked aspect of it before moving to the bedroom aspect. She does enjoy the full attention of two (or more) men being on her. She loves one man giving her oral while another is playing with her tits. She also likes the tag team aspect that one guy can work her good for a while, then when he is done, she's got another one ready to take his place, all while getting the first guy back up!
That being said, comfort is the most iumportant thing. We have had a few bad experiences where we rushed things and it was no fun for anyone. Take your time discussing fantasies, limits, etc with your other man to make sure you are all compatible. If so the naked fun will be much more enjoyable!!
That being said, comfort is the most iumportant thing. We have had a few bad experiences where we rushed things and it was no fun for anyone. Take your time discussing fantasies, limits, etc with your other man to make sure you are all compatible. If so the naked fun will be much more enjoyable!!
YUMYUMNWETWET wrote:
What's the best way to ease into MMF threesome?
Astroglide
well a very nice chap very kindly took the time to write and tell me how I could improve my main pic and thus my chances in the lifestyle. And I ended up feeling a bit of a dick for having wasted his time.
So I figured I'd be a little more circumspect in my approach
As my mother used to say: "a joke's only funny if more than one person laughs"
So I figured I'd be a little more circumspect in my approach
As my mother used to say: "a joke's only funny if more than one person laughs"
We agree with Utlibertines,a MFM can be a fantastic experience or a big disaster.
This is totally true the key is to find the right guy, the wrong guy really kill the experience, every time we had a bad MFM we need 5 or 6 months before we try another one.But when we find the right guy the experience is awesome.The problem is to find the right guy,we always chat,talk on the phone and some time we invite the guy to a dinner for see if he is good for her but some time look like he can be the right guy but when you meet him in the bed you find is not.We was lucky only 3 or 4 times whit some fantastic men who make the experience incredible.
Good luck and we hope you can find the right man.
This is totally true the key is to find the right guy, the wrong guy really kill the experience, every time we had a bad MFM we need 5 or 6 months before we try another one.But when we find the right guy the experience is awesome.The problem is to find the right guy,we always chat,talk on the phone and some time we invite the guy to a dinner for see if he is good for her but some time look like he can be the right guy but when you meet him in the bed you find is not.We was lucky only 3 or 4 times whit some fantastic men who make the experience incredible.
Good luck and we hope you can find the right man.
YUMYYUMNWETWET,
You mentioned that your wife is sitting on the fence with the idea of having another man join the two of you. Her feelings are normal for most women. In fact there are not very many men that will tolerate the idea of seeing their wife with another man so you are an exception to the rule. Your wife may be viewing this as being unfaithful or wrong. That's normal as well. Don't push this on her. You can make it happen with the right approach.
If you are going to go through with this, I will tell you that it will probably be one of the most erotic and stimulating nights your wife will ever experience provided that you pick the right partner. The person you pick has to be someone your wife would be attracted to otherwise she may just go through motions thinking that she is making you happy by participating. Not a good thing. The person has to be clean and have a lot more that just a 15watt bulb running his brain. Above all. No one to young. You need a person with experience that quickly understands what she likes and doesn't like. Someone that knows how to get things started.
Find out from your wife how she would like to see things start and play out. At a bar for a few drinks. If you are staying at a hotel (recommended) it could be that she might want to head up to the room after a few drinks with your new partner and get things started then have you join in. Or all three of you in the room and let her take the lead.
Make sure you don't try this with a friend as the partner. For the most part it never works. It will end the friendship. Hope that helps. I've enjoyed one nighters and a few long term relationships with couples. one of them lasted for over 3 years. Every time they would come into town we would spend several evenings together.
You mentioned that your wife is sitting on the fence with the idea of having another man join the two of you. Her feelings are normal for most women. In fact there are not very many men that will tolerate the idea of seeing their wife with another man so you are an exception to the rule. Your wife may be viewing this as being unfaithful or wrong. That's normal as well. Don't push this on her. You can make it happen with the right approach.
If you are going to go through with this, I will tell you that it will probably be one of the most erotic and stimulating nights your wife will ever experience provided that you pick the right partner. The person you pick has to be someone your wife would be attracted to otherwise she may just go through motions thinking that she is making you happy by participating. Not a good thing. The person has to be clean and have a lot more that just a 15watt bulb running his brain. Above all. No one to young. You need a person with experience that quickly understands what she likes and doesn't like. Someone that knows how to get things started.
Find out from your wife how she would like to see things start and play out. At a bar for a few drinks. If you are staying at a hotel (recommended) it could be that she might want to head up to the room after a few drinks with your new partner and get things started then have you join in. Or all three of you in the room and let her take the lead.
Make sure you don't try this with a friend as the partner. For the most part it never works. It will end the friendship. Hope that helps. I've enjoyed one nighters and a few long term relationships with couples. one of them lasted for over 3 years. Every time they would come into town we would spend several evenings together.
Thank you all for your input. This gives us a starting point! Very Hot, and who wouldn't want to be QUEEN FOR A NITE! Im off to put my list together, check it twice, and figure out who's NAUGHTIEST and NICE!! (o)(o)
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