I am an active single male and notice that single males as a group tend to take a lot of heat here in the forums. I'm not surprised, I mean I see the guys at bars throwing pick up lines at anyone who does them the courtesy of being in the same room. I understand that when you take those guys and add the anonymity of the internet plus nude pictures you are going to get the absolute worst in addition to the serious, kind, easy going ones. All I would like to ask is if instead of grouping them with single guys we put them in the asshole category. There are couples who are assholes and single women who are assholes and we don't classify them by their relationship status. Can we try to do the same with single males?
lmao. sounds good to me. i'll form 2 groups. asses and non-asses. lol. i have a strict no asses allowed policy as well. lmao.
Same Shit, Different Day.
Let 'em bash whomever wants to bash.
As was said in other posts, use it as a filter before trying to meet someone.
Mav
Let 'em bash whomever wants to bash.
As was said in other posts, use it as a filter before trying to meet someone.
Mav
Actually you do have a point. I hate being lumped into the 'fuck toy single girl' mentality myself. I wonder if perhaps it's just a troll infestation of picture collecting jerks.
It has been our experience that MOST Single men are great guys, maybe horny (but who is here if they aren't?) However it is the few that are too pushy or downright aggressive who ruin the reputation for the rest. As there tend to be more single males so it follows this group would have more asses.
It does kinda annoy me that most clubs/groups/couples don't allow single males, but then again that's their choice...and I respect anyone's choice to have their interests...as long as they handle it fairly.
What burns my bread though, is the couples I've talked to that aren't interested in me as a single male, but make the comment "find a girl, then we'll meet". I'm sorry...say what? I am going to be the same guy whether I'm single or part of a couple. Having that comment made, shows me that there is no interest in me what-so-ever, other than as a means to bring another girl to the couple.
What burns my bread though, is the couples I've talked to that aren't interested in me as a single male, but make the comment "find a girl, then we'll meet". I'm sorry...say what? I am going to be the same guy whether I'm single or part of a couple. Having that comment made, shows me that there is no interest in me what-so-ever, other than as a means to bring another girl to the couple.
fe26mike Im sure the way the couples meant it as anyone could see... that since they wernt into you as a SM... but find a Female to add... that it wasnt to not make the ass not come out in ya... it was for a trade off that the male 1/2 of the cpl could have a friend for the evening.... basically they like ya but expressed desire for even numbers..... Dennis
As the male half of a couple (we've played with numerous SM's), the most beneficial piece of advice I can give is:
Don't treat the male half of the couple indifferently (or worse). If I am made to feel dis-regarded, you have just ensured your exclusion from our playing roster!
(yeah, it's a dead horse - this was just for more recent readers who haven't had enough whacks yet
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Don't treat the male half of the couple indifferently (or worse). If I am made to feel dis-regarded, you have just ensured your exclusion from our playing roster!
(yeah, it's a dead horse - this was just for more recent readers who haven't had enough whacks yet
)CHREK: very good point. The singles AND couples that disregard Mark and act like i'm a single female rather than part of a couple get taken off the to-do list. :P
How about the ones that seem nice, you meet them, play and they turn in to total sex fiend assholes? had that happen to us once. had to block his email on here and everything on yahoo.
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the ones that you don't reply to, for the simple fact that you didn't have time to reply to his first mail, but yet he sends the same, preformed email another 20 times?
ones that can hold a conversation NOT just about sex, are the ones we like to look for, our life revolves around a 3 yr old and we just cant have that around her.
we met the perfect guy recently, on here, oddly enough. hes friendly, intelligent and can talk about more than your average single male (you get the hint there).
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the ones that you don't reply to, for the simple fact that you didn't have time to reply to his first mail, but yet he sends the same, preformed email another 20 times?
ones that can hold a conversation NOT just about sex, are the ones we like to look for, our life revolves around a 3 yr old and we just cant have that around her.
we met the perfect guy recently, on here, oddly enough. hes friendly, intelligent and can talk about more than your average single male (you get the hint there).
I'm convinced that some people just want to be heard. Some people don't want anything to do with single men. Some people do. Some people also are cronic whiners, but hey, thats ok. We are all individuals and as individuals we can not please everyone all the time. As for the dead horse? Leave it alone. Just my opinion.
ABCMAN wrote:
FE26Mike - interesting point, but maybe the husband or male partner would like to play with another female. Doesn't mean the female isn't interested in you. I know we've been in a few MFM situations, and after word the single male expresses interest in continuing to meet up, and sometimes they are sensitive of my feelings (male half of the relationship) and ask if it would be okay to bring a female the next time. Look, sometimes everyone needs to stop thinking only of themselves. Put yourself in the shoes of the other party (and that applies to couples as well). We've often encountered single males that say, "well I have a girlfriend or I have a fuck buddy (girl) friend, but she's just not into this". In most cases I believe that statement, but how could you prove otherwise. Maybe a good way to look at it for you single guys. Sure, some of us married guys like to see our wives boned by another guy. But as a heterosexual guy, I sure wouldn't mind playing myself with someone while your playing with my wife. I think some single guys just don't think about that issue, and perhaps sensitivity on both sides will help all involved.
I have and always will, try to respect both parties of a couple as that...a couple. I understand the aspect that the guy in a couple wants some attention as well (I was in the lifestyle for a while as part of a couple...until she decided to break our rules and do things behind my back...but that's another story).
My issue isn't with couples wanting it to be fair, it's just the response I mentioned above. If the couples said "Thanks for your interest, but we are really looking for couples right now for swap..." that would be one thing...but the response of "Find a girl, then we will meet" is a different story. Maybe it's the former psych major in me, or my experience dealing with people, but what that comment says to me, is "It dosen't matter to me as long as we've both got somebody to play with". If I did have someone I was bringing along, I would not bring them around a couple that saw them only as a piece of action. That is degrading, and I don't agree with it.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
CHREK: very good point. The singles AND couples that disregard Mark and act like i'm a single female rather than part of a couple get taken off the to-do list. :P
Yep...off of ours as well...
Single guys, feel free to contact us. We may be a bit picky for some, but we'll consider . . .
WESEE wrote:
Single guys, feel free to contact us. We may be a bit picky for some, but we'll consider . . .
I've said it once, and I'll say it again...I need to move to UT? Are there any jobs for photographers there...lol?
FE26MIKE wrote:
I've said it once, and I'll say it again...I need to move to UT? Are there any jobs for photographers there...lol?
I can't tell you how many times we wished we had a photographer! I've got a ton of pictures blurred by the body convulsing during orgasm (while snapping a picture).
Let's just hope we can be judged on our own merits and not be judged as a group. There are a few good singles to be found.
The single male bashing comes form the same thing that creates all stereotypes. A couple representatives of a group act like absolute douche bags, prompting others to feel that those few individuals are the respresentation of all of that group. Take a few aggressive, pushy single guys with nothing but photos of their dicks on their profiles, and boom, every one gets the impression that all single guys are douche bags, even if the douches are the great minority among single guys.
But remember fellas, its always harder for a guy to get what he wants than a woman. Its just the way things are. A bi fem is the hottest commodity on the planet. Maybe one day it'll be the single guy, but that day is not today.
But remember fellas, its always harder for a guy to get what he wants than a woman. Its just the way things are. A bi fem is the hottest commodity on the planet. Maybe one day it'll be the single guy, but that day is not today.
We don't understand why it seems so many people are almost outraged at the presence of single men on here. I can understand the annoyance of being bombarded by throngs of singles, especially if you specifically say that you aren't interested, but if it bothers so much, there is a feature to block them on this site. We sometimes entertain the single male, and have found that some are just presumptuous and rude, and some are fabulous. It only annoys us when we keep getting friend requests from the same person over and over. We'd figure if we didn't grant the friend request the first 3 times, what would make the 4th time any different? The nice thing is that they are here if you want them, and if you don't just ignore them.