I dont know if anyone else has this complaint however it seems to me that there is alot of disrespecting of either me as a single woman or as a mother. Like when I have my kids over and tell couples or men cant this weekend maybe next, I get told I will be quiet sneaking in, or they have to sleep sometime. They push it and sometimes i just have to flat out get rude to get my point around. I mean most of us have kids or grandkids so I would think people would be more considerate about children issues. I mean come on if you would not parade strangers around ur kids, what makes you think its ok for me. My kids are not less deserving of respect then yours. Finally, and most importantly i am tired of being treated like a piece of meat. Yes I said it, if we are chatting and ask how u are, you dont need to reply I am horny what about you. I mean do you think that i will reply want help with that, or be right over. It might be a sexsite however we are women first and deserve respect and if all u want is a cheap thrill. Well their are hookers and escort services for that. Despite what some of u think, we women were not put on earth for just ur pleasure or to fulfill all ur needs, wants and desires. I mean even in high school I got dinner and a movie before sex. Granted mcdonalds and the dollar movie but on a good night i got to have a big coke and popcorn with it. lol My point is that men even some of the married men need to chill out and respect us as they would their own spouse, mother or sister. Think about it most of you would beat the shit out of the guy who talked to his wife or sister, let alone mother like that without blinking an eye.
I loved reading your post! I have the same thought when it comes to time restrictions and respect for my time! Sometimes, we ladies just have to put the smack down, and I don't mean spanking...... ;-)
I being the male half don't condone behavior like that. It is just a total asshole trying to get laid, women do deserve respect maybe just my upbringing but if you can't treat a woman decent then you have no business being around them. Just my two cents
As the male half of this cpl I have to say that im sorry that happened to you. I try to treat all women with the same respect I show my wife. We're not all rude and self serving. Some of us do hold intellectual conversations and have some sort of decency. We've encountered men like that also.. to the extent that one asked when i wouldnt be home so he could come over and "give you what he cant". Our best advice is that when youfind someone like that, not only cut them off, but let your friends know to be aware also..
we do alot of blocking because of this same thing .. single guys and even males halves that wanna hook up when they are traveling alone ... but we know everyone is not like that we have met up with a few from here and other sites as well and have made some good friends on the way ..
As a male I am sorry to hear that people are treated this way, I believe that even if you are meeting just for sex it should be treated like a date. There is no reason for people to assume that you are going to bend to their will because you are putting yourself out to meet new people. If they would be comfortable with that happening in their house then they have a serious problem.
RIGHT ON 1HOT_WILDCAT2!!! I agree with you 100%!! Listen Up Men! She isnt the only one out there who feels this way. Just because you are thinking with the wrong head is NO EXUSE for disrespect. We all understand that sex is a natural instinct, but it doesnt have to be animalistic. If you want that, go elsewhere PLEASE! That isnt the reason why I signed on this site, and yes I wil block you If you push, disrepect me and if it gets bad enough, report you. I have a life too outside the swinging, just like every one else, and I too deserve repect, just like everyone else. Way to go WILDCAT!!!
Playing the Devil's advocate during this man-bash-a-rama...let's not forget that there are those of us who have run into the females (both single and married/attached), that have just as much of a lack of etiquette and manners when it comes to swinging. Some ladies can even out-push or even the most macho of men.
I too have had married and single men when even in the chat room that I have had to block from seeing me .. I had alot of fun showing off for and aduience but it got to the point that some not all would think when they saw me that i owed them a show even if I was just there to chat.. Thoughtgarden I agree there are pushy on both sexes I have not exsperienced that from any ladies but I have had my share of men . But there are a few single men that are great and dont even start it they let me if I am feeling the mood to do so. It diffently is not just a single guy thing it is some males .... But there is some great ones out there that dont push and the ones we have meet know who you are. It dont only go on in the swinging lifestyle I have dealt with this in the working world as well because of the carrer I had was working with all men doing a job that not many women do . That is makes me more mad than here for sure but yea we all need to respect each other in every way .
I think that even though this a swing site, it should be treated as, and is by all rights a dating site for couples and singles. Part of the fun is the courtship, just like in dating you would not treat anyone like a piece of meat when trying to get thier attention. You should be on your best behavior and treat each other as respectable adults at all times. We've been in the lifestyle for a while now and remebering back to when we first got started one of the first things you learn is that NO means NO no matter what the situation is. It doesnt meen to try another angle to get what you want it means its not going to happen at this time period. Shouldnt have to elaberate on the details of why, you shaould just say ok maybe some other time. Thanks.
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Interesting, because last night was our first experience. I was pleasantly surprised how respectful the guy was who had been invited to join us. I actually expected we would be dealing with the rudeness you spoke about 1HOT. But after some great conversation, it turn out to be an enjoyable night for all involved. I glad our first experience was a good one.
like we said not all are that way but the few that are stand out alot and get around well as well lmao