we have talked for years about a 3some with another man. it is something that she would more than enjoy and we are both cool with it. have had a couple close calls but decided not the right person. who has done this and how in the hell do you find someone normal to join in for fun?
Well, you probably ought to start by defining "normal"?
CHRKE2 wrote:
Well, you probably ought to start by defining "normal"?
Exactly...
normal? I suppose someone who can have a civilized converstion about anything and everything but at the same time have the same thing in the back of their mind about the real reason we were together. In our couple of experiences that became the only thing they thought of. Having a real connection I suppose is where we're having the most trouble. How do you just say "hey! want to screw my wife with me?" without first having a "normal" connection. Its an odd thing for us as we know what we want and can endure but don' know how to go about it.
I have been in similar situations. You want to make a connection and then if everyone is agreeable move forward. I suggest you talk before hand to the interested party. You can get a pretty good idea of where they are coming from, i.e. likes, dislikes, past experiences, what they expect and what you expect. If you find that they are complete guys and not just focused on one thing then the actual meeting will be a lot smoother. And the sex a lot better knowing that they are interested in you as people and not just getting off and out the door.
Bud
Bud
We surf thru the site and find single males we're interested in inviting over. It's a combination of their pics, stats (age/weight/etc), and what they've written in their profile. We'll send an email expressing interest. We have some emailing back and forth to see if we're all on the same level. Sometimes we hit a club first, sometimes we don't. Usually I (Kitty) iniate by getting touchy feely and then I just jump right in and start some foreplay. We've had lots that just didn't match with us sexually and thus we've not invited them back and we have several that we call up from time to time for another fun time. 
Hope that helps.
Kitty
Hope that helps.Kitty
We have found that it has helped us like kitty said with some emailing back and forth or talk in the chat room...I (Naughty) like to chat with them on yahoo....that way we are able to talk without having that pressure there and we can get to know each other a little, sometimes it is easier to talk about sex like, dislikes, etc when on yahoo rather than in person...Once we do get together, we like to have a couple drinks, chit chat and then I pretty much do the same as above and get "touchy feely" and go from there. Not all encounters are so wonderful that they lead to another...but we have had pretty good luck and not really had any "horror stories"...*knocks on wood*...Anyway, just remember to relax and have fun...that is what we are here for...good luck...kisses...Naugh-Ty and Lucky B
I love watching my wife with other men. My wife typicaly meets them in the chat rooms and and im and talk on phone a few times to make sure there is a conection. had 1 bad experience where she had to excuse the gentleman, but other than that always been lots of fun
"Drag my partner"? That may not be a good thing. Even in a patriarchal country like Argentina, it may pose problems.
Mav
Mav
ROLI wrote:
I love your postings guys, I think I`ll use them to drag my partner into the swinger`s lifestyle, however I would like to know if there`s a trace, a hint, something that tells that she might want to go along on a threesome with another man.
Thanks guys
Ummm...ya....if you are having to drag her or wonder if there is a trace, hint or something....then I think that should be your answer right there...if it is not something that you can talk about and decide that it is for the both of you...then you should not be here...
Also...your profile says you don't even have a girlfriend...so think there is something funny going on there...somebody isn't honest and that will not get you far in the lifestyle either...ya...good luck
HEREFORFUN wrote:
I agree with Roli. I would like to know how the man knows when the women is ready too. If anyone would enlighten us I'm sure it would help. How do you go from chatting, having dinner, or drinks to asking him go enjoy. Especially when the woman is shy and won't just jump in? Thanks for any advise.
You should be able to communicate this with your wife/girlfriend... if you have to wonder or look for hints then don't even think about it... talk to her and see if it interests her (more than likely she wants it and badly) then you can move on...
COMMUNICATION is the most important thing in this lifestyle to us... if we can't express how we are feeling thing just go wrong from there....
And Kitty... it always helps when the women is the aggressive type!!! and as hot as you are!!!
Watch the the movie, Borat, at the end, where he captures Pam Anderson. That has always worked for us.
hmmmm this is interesting... i can tell ya how to work someone into a 3sum male of female..or even get the whole couple thing going...
now me and the wifey (3sneveracrowd) have pretty much mastered the technique...which i could get into and we pull more "single females" than anything but as far as starting some with another male..
ours was with wat is now a good friend of mine chad...we met him because his wife wanted to basically get a 4 sum going ...we met hung out with the kids n it was cool but a week or two later they ended up split'n ...and we were so into the lifestlye that we'd even be at the doctors office and i'd look at her n another male n think Fudge i would to see him F the S outta her bbuuuutt long story short he came over to chill had a few beers and thru-out the night i would tell her show ur thong alittle....be touchy...bend over etc n finally finished it with aye chad u want some head but lolz we'll anyways its all abt being comfortable...even if everyone knows whats going to happen u still have to build them up to it..cause regardless of weither u set everything down n said basically we want this n that if u force someone into it..itz gonna turn out horrible there are very few ppl in this world that'll come into someone else's relationship n would bang the ish outta ur betta half with very lil or no convo at all with them there...and theres soo much more i can say but this already turned to a novel soo YuP
P this game is all abt everyone being comfortable..knocking out shyness and getting rid of jealousy
now me and the wifey (3sneveracrowd) have pretty much mastered the technique...which i could get into and we pull more "single females" than anything but as far as starting some with another male..
ours was with wat is now a good friend of mine chad...we met him because his wife wanted to basically get a 4 sum going ...we met hung out with the kids n it was cool but a week or two later they ended up split'n ...and we were so into the lifestlye that we'd even be at the doctors office and i'd look at her n another male n think Fudge i would to see him F the S outta her bbuuuutt long story short he came over to chill had a few beers and thru-out the night i would tell her show ur thong alittle....be touchy...bend over etc n finally finished it with aye chad u want some head but lolz we'll anyways its all abt being comfortable...even if everyone knows whats going to happen u still have to build them up to it..cause regardless of weither u set everything down n said basically we want this n that if u force someone into it..itz gonna turn out horrible there are very few ppl in this world that'll come into someone else's relationship n would bang the ish outta ur betta half with very lil or no convo at all with them there...and theres soo much more i can say but this already turned to a novel soo YuP
P this game is all abt everyone being comfortable..knocking out shyness and getting rid of jealousyhmmmm this is interesting... i can tell ya how to work someone into a 3sum male of female..or even get the whole couple thing going...
now me and the wifey (3sneveracrowd) have pretty much mastered the technique...which i could get into and we pull more "single females" than anything but as far as starting some with another male..
ours was with wat is now a good friend of mine chad...we met him because his wife wanted to basically get a 4 sum going ...we met hung out with the kids n it was cool but a week or two later they ended up split'n ...and we were so into the lifestlye that we'd even be at the doctors office and i'd look at her n another male n think Fudge i would to see him F the S outta her bbuuuutt long story short he came over to chill had a few beers and thru-out the night i would tell her show ur thong alittle....be touchy...bend over etc n finally finished it with aye chad u want some head but lolz we'll anyways its all abt being comfortable...even if everyone knows whats going to happen u still have to build them up to it..cause regardless of weither u set everything down n said basically we want this n that if u force someone into it..itz gonna turn out horrible there are very few ppl in this world that'll come into someone else's relationship n would bang the ish outta ur betta half with very lil or no convo at all with them there...and theres soo much more i can say but this already turned to a novel soo YuPP this game is all abt everyone being comfortable..knocking out shyness and getting rid of jealousy
now me and the wifey (3sneveracrowd) have pretty much mastered the technique...which i could get into and we pull more "single females" than anything but as far as starting some with another male..
ours was with wat is now a good friend of mine chad...we met him because his wife wanted to basically get a 4 sum going ...we met hung out with the kids n it was cool but a week or two later they ended up split'n ...and we were so into the lifestlye that we'd even be at the doctors office and i'd look at her n another male n think Fudge i would to see him F the S outta her bbuuuutt long story short he came over to chill had a few beers and thru-out the night i would tell her show ur thong alittle....be touchy...bend over etc n finally finished it with aye chad u want some head but lolz we'll anyways its all abt being comfortable...even if everyone knows whats going to happen u still have to build them up to it..cause regardless of weither u set everything down n said basically we want this n that if u force someone into it..itz gonna turn out horrible there are very few ppl in this world that'll come into someone else's relationship n would bang the ish outta ur betta half with very lil or no convo at all with them there...and theres soo much more i can say but this already turned to a novel soo YuP
P this game is all abt everyone being comfortable..knocking out shyness and getting rid of jealousyROLI wrote:
I love your postings guys, I think I`ll use them to drag my partner into the swinger`s lifestyle, however I would like to know if there`s a trace, a hint, something that tells that she might want to go along on a threesome with another man. Thanks guys
personally i honestly dont think thats something u should randomly throw out there wether u guys are xtremly open or not...everything is a process...and as far as bring'n another male into the bedroom is usually easier for the female than the male but on top of that most males want it but cant handle it... Me im extremly secure i know if she left or cheated it'd be extremly dumb on her part so im comfortable but the smallest thing could make her feel like ur not comfortable...ill let a guy hit it n use an excuse like i gotta check on the baby n they'll both start feeling awkward.....talk abt it..joke abt it whenever u can n when u can find a guy u wouldnt mind being with her n slowing work it in...alcohol lolz is always the best remedy