After seeing the many comments on the forums about unwanted Friend Requests, we started pondering the idea of using a password system.
Basically, each member can choose to password protect their Friend Requests with a password of their choosing. You then give out the password to anyone you would like to start a Friend Request with you.
When someone tries to Request Friendship with you, they must enter the password to continue, otherwise, no friend request can be made.
You can choose whether to use the password system or not, and you can change the password at any time. You will also still need to approve the Friend Request to make it official.
This would prevent unwanted Friend Requests.
We wanted to see what our members think about this idea. Let's hear your thoughts.
.~Admin~.
Basically, each member can choose to password protect their Friend Requests with a password of their choosing. You then give out the password to anyone you would like to start a Friend Request with you.
When someone tries to Request Friendship with you, they must enter the password to continue, otherwise, no friend request can be made.
You can choose whether to use the password system or not, and you can change the password at any time. You will also still need to approve the Friend Request to make it official.
This would prevent unwanted Friend Requests.
We wanted to see what our members think about this idea. Let's hear your thoughts.
.~Admin~.
What's the difference? Instead of too many friend requests, that would just mean too many unwanted password offers. Plus, doesn't that mean everybody would have to send a PW to every profile they might want to be contacted by? That would increase not decrease the number of unwanted solicitations for everybody.
If you just disable messaging for people (usually single males) who ignore stated preferences in profiles (usually "no single males"), that would probably be enough, since those are probably the main source of complaints in the first place and it's probably a relatively small number of members annoying many people.
If you just disable messaging for people (usually single males) who ignore stated preferences in profiles (usually "no single males"), that would probably be enough, since those are probably the main source of complaints in the first place and it's probably a relatively small number of members annoying many people.
I concur - much ado about (almost) nothing. There are whiners in every crowd. Applying endless oil doesn't seem to reduce the noise.
I do have a suggestion if something is going to be done, though - Require there to be personal information entered into a text box before the friend request can be sent.
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I do have a suggestion if something is going to be done, though - Require there to be personal information entered into a text box before the friend request can be sent.
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Hmmm....I respect Administrators well-intentioned idea...but I think it would further complicate things.
As RIDERZ stated...it's really easier to simply ignore unsolicited requests than it is to whine about it.
Besides...we have learned that if we get those unwanted requests, we simply leave them unanswered, thereby leaving them in the queue indefinitely. Nobody is able to make repeated requests as long as there is an outstanding request in the waiting.
As RIDERZ stated...it's really easier to simply ignore unsolicited requests than it is to whine about it.
Besides...we have learned that if we get those unwanted requests, we simply leave them unanswered, thereby leaving them in the queue indefinitely. Nobody is able to make repeated requests as long as there is an outstanding request in the waiting.
We also agree with what has been said - we too think it would just be a much bigger problem. It just doesn't seem logical to complicate what is now a simple process!
Why turn something that's already a no-brainer into a bureaucracy?
If someone requests friendship, the answer is either yes or no - there is no in between.
If it's yes - approve it.
If it's no - ignore it.
DUH!!!!!
I can't speak for everyone else, but - in this day and age of passwords and PINs - my brain's RAM is about at capacity trying to remember them all.
Now, what WAS my name?
If someone requests friendship, the answer is either yes or no - there is no in between.
If it's yes - approve it.
If it's no - ignore it.
DUH!!!!!
I can't speak for everyone else, but - in this day and age of passwords and PINs - my brain's RAM is about at capacity trying to remember them all.
Now, what WAS my name?
The option to block emails and friends request form users that are not certified real, vip, etc. Would be a good idea 
Thanks for all the feedback so far. I can see your concerns and I too agree with all of you. There are those few however that think they need the extra step to stop the casual Friend Requests. The biggest complaint is that they don't even know who these people are and they are getting requests from them. Having a password would pretty much force someone to contact you by email and at least try to get to know you first.
For some, it's much easier for them to click a Friend Request button than it is to contact someone by email (don't ask me why!) so they may avoid annoying you altogether if you had the password in place.
And again, this would be optional. You would have the choice to enable passwords on your Friend Requests, it wouldn't be standard.
I would rather not have to do more work for something that isn't needed but if there is anyone out there that feels this is something they would want, I feel obliged to offer it to them.
So let's keep your feedback coming! Thanks.
.~Admin~.
For some, it's much easier for them to click a Friend Request button than it is to contact someone by email (don't ask me why!) so they may avoid annoying you altogether if you had the password in place.
And again, this would be optional. You would have the choice to enable passwords on your Friend Requests, it wouldn't be standard.
I would rather not have to do more work for something that isn't needed but if there is anyone out there that feels this is something they would want, I feel obliged to offer it to them.
So let's keep your feedback coming! Thanks.
.~Admin~.
Optional?
I can live with that.
I can live with that.
feel it might complicate things but if it were optional as you intend sounds great
So because someone(s) are tired of having to click a thumb up or thumb down button...they are asking for you to do more work and complicate things to make things easier for them....hhhmmm, not sure but as long as it's optional and you don't mind the extra work...ok...whatever...lol.... Personally I would like to see being able to use some of the features that are there but not yet enabled first, like all the likes/dislikes etc.....Anyways...
Kisses,
T and D
Kisses,
T and D
Thank you, T and D! We were thinking the same thing; how about working the "make-over" before working any new issues!
RIDERZ wrote:
Seems to me that "Thumbs up" "Thumbs down" or "Ignoring the request" is simple enough!
Some people act like a friend request from another person is the most horrific thing that could possibly happen.
OH MY GOD, Now I have to make a mouse click.....the horror....
Just my opinion, Riderz
I agree, well said
I think opt in or opt out is sufficient. I like the idea because I can write the password into the profile. If you don't or can't take the time to read the profile then you didn't get the password to request friends.
We like the "friend" option as a way to quickly see couples we are having conversations with. This may or may not mean that we have shared our private pics. We like the option of granting separate passwords or access to private pics.
Come on, lets face it, the primary reason why Friend Requests are sent is because they want access to your private pics. I think it should go back to having a separate way of showing private pics to someone without having to add them to a friend list. There are some people that you may want to be able to see more of each other, and once that is done you may not actually want to be on each other's friend list.
So what about an option where I can invite someone to see our private pics, but doesn't require a friend list addition and also doesn't allow someone to request to see your privates. It would be an invite only option.
So what about an option where I can invite someone to see our private pics, but doesn't require a friend list addition and also doesn't allow someone to request to see your privates. It would be an invite only option.
PAIRPLAYERS wrote:That's where custom albums come into play. The point of the private album is to have an easy to use way of allowing people you know have access to your private pics. With custom albums, you create your own permissions and can select who you wish to view your private pics and set up a time limit as well, say 24 hours, at which they will no longer be able to view them any more.
Come on, lets face it, the primary reason why Friend Requests are sent is because they want access to your private pics. I think it should go back to having a separate way of showing private pics to someone without having to add them to a friend list. There are some people that you may want to be able to see more of each other, and once that is done you may not actually want to be on each other's friend list.
So what about an option where I can invite someone to see our private pics, but doesn't require a friend list addition and also doesn't allow someone to request to see your privates. It would be an invite only option.
I think people are forgetting what friend request is for and that it is used for more than just giving access to your private albums. Other social sites (non-swinger such as MySpace) have the option to request your last name or email address before someone can add you as a friend. This is a similar system just using a designated password.
.~Admin~.