I have found that alot of people do not respond to sent e-mails. I have showed interest in several people and offered to send them to a site that I have some pics posted on. I work with the public and have had several people recognize me from swingers sites and I have lost at least 1 job from posting pics. So I do not put pics up anymore. Please give those of us that can\'t or won\'t put pics up a chance or let us send you a pic by some other means. Sorry I think I may have posted this twice. My computer is shutting down on me .
Hmmm....
I also would encourage people to make *some* response when someone takes the time to send a cogent email. I recognize that it is easier to just remain silent than to say \"no\", but if someone has taken the time to send more than \"wanna fuck?\", it really makes a difference to them for you to at least respond with \"I don\'t think we\'re a match\", folks.
But I would add that I don\'t think you\'re unique: I have photos and I have gotten very few responses, so it likely isn\'t \"you\", per se - it seems that responding to emails isn\'t done much here - at least for single males.
You might try the chat room. I have found many people I now consider to be friends - even though we\'ll never likely meet.
Also. I note that you are currently not accepting messages - so that could be your problem: noone CAN send you email.
I also would encourage people to make *some* response when someone takes the time to send a cogent email. I recognize that it is easier to just remain silent than to say \"no\", but if someone has taken the time to send more than \"wanna fuck?\", it really makes a difference to them for you to at least respond with \"I don\'t think we\'re a match\", folks.
But I would add that I don\'t think you\'re unique: I have photos and I have gotten very few responses, so it likely isn\'t \"you\", per se - it seems that responding to emails isn\'t done much here - at least for single males.
You might try the chat room. I have found many people I now consider to be friends - even though we\'ll never likely meet.
Also. I note that you are currently not accepting messages - so that could be your problem: noone CAN send you email.
MamaBear,
I would suggest adding a picture. It doesn\'t have to be anything \"descriptive\" but something that shows people an idea of who you are. If you wish to post \"descriptive\" photos, we have private photo albums here that only the people on your \"friends\" list would be able to see.
There are a number of members here that won\'t reply to an email without pictures. They like to know in advance what the other persons smile looks like. As much as we all hate to admit, most people are attracted to the look of a person from the outside before any interest in the person from the inside. (Personally, I post pictures as a forewarning system
I would suggest adding a picture. It doesn\'t have to be anything \"descriptive\" but something that shows people an idea of who you are. If you wish to post \"descriptive\" photos, we have private photo albums here that only the people on your \"friends\" list would be able to see.
There are a number of members here that won\'t reply to an email without pictures. They like to know in advance what the other persons smile looks like. As much as we all hate to admit, most people are attracted to the look of a person from the outside before any interest in the person from the inside. (Personally, I post pictures as a forewarning system
I still stand by my opinion, that if someone takes the time to write you, you can take the 3 seconds it takes to say no if you are not interested.
I answer every email regardless of whether its a yes, no or look me up later.....!
I think its only common courtesy.
I answer every email regardless of whether its a yes, no or look me up later.....!
I think its only common courtesy.
I agree with FUN4US ... if someone writes you, even if it takes a few days, at least have the courtesy to write back an \"I\'m busy but will get back to you soon\" note. I know it\'s the holidays, but if you have the time to click and read a note, you have the extra 30 seconds for the brief reply - the couple of people who have done so with me, are as appreciated for their courtesies as those who had the time to write back more extensively.
Hello everyone! Happy Holidays!
*E-mail Response.*
This one should be a no brainer: IMHO (in my humble opinion) a polite reply of some kind to all e-mail, solicited or not, is in order. It seems like the right thing to do, doesn\'t it? We take the time to reply to 95% of our letters. Yes it can be time consuming. Yes, it is sometimes difficult to say \"no thank you\" to others. However, I think that it shows a general lack of class to simply ignore someone because it makes YOU feel better than to take the time to be honest.
*Pics.*
It would be naive, or maybe even damned foolish to believe that anyone has ever sent us an e-mail without having FIRST atleast scanned our pics. In fact, I am certain that a lot of people skip actually READING our profile at all before they reply. A fact which I must admit really pisses us both off...
The fact of the matter is that physical attraction is almost always a must in the lifestyle. Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder, each of us should be allowed the opportunity to make that decision for ourselves.
As far as losing a job due to swinging, well that\'s an entirely different matter all together. We have heard the \"I work in the public view\" excuse from many people who have had varying positions of different levels of exposure. (Does a bartender, or a sales professional qualify? Or is that status reserved for the like of government employees or public safety officers?) Come on. We are ALL equally exposed on sites like this. More so by the people you choose to associate with then the few lines of text in your profile...
I for one know that we would never, ever meet anyone sight unseen. It just isnt smart. Nor is it safe.
That\'s our 2 cents.
*E-mail Response.*
This one should be a no brainer: IMHO (in my humble opinion) a polite reply of some kind to all e-mail, solicited or not, is in order. It seems like the right thing to do, doesn\'t it? We take the time to reply to 95% of our letters. Yes it can be time consuming. Yes, it is sometimes difficult to say \"no thank you\" to others. However, I think that it shows a general lack of class to simply ignore someone because it makes YOU feel better than to take the time to be honest.
*Pics.*
It would be naive, or maybe even damned foolish to believe that anyone has ever sent us an e-mail without having FIRST atleast scanned our pics. In fact, I am certain that a lot of people skip actually READING our profile at all before they reply. A fact which I must admit really pisses us both off...
The fact of the matter is that physical attraction is almost always a must in the lifestyle. Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder, each of us should be allowed the opportunity to make that decision for ourselves.
As far as losing a job due to swinging, well that\'s an entirely different matter all together. We have heard the \"I work in the public view\" excuse from many people who have had varying positions of different levels of exposure. (Does a bartender, or a sales professional qualify? Or is that status reserved for the like of government employees or public safety officers?) Come on. We are ALL equally exposed on sites like this. More so by the people you choose to associate with then the few lines of text in your profile...
I for one know that we would never, ever meet anyone sight unseen. It just isnt smart. Nor is it safe.
That\'s our 2 cents.
I agree, I think its silly to ever meet anyone sight unseen. I think dangerous might be too strong of a word since you can control where you meet.
It has always been a pet peeve of mine to be chatting and have someone refuse some type of face pic. There are so many ways to post a G-rated pic on the web so that there is no connection to lifestyle. Then you have webcams which are dirt cheap now. So it\'s truly only the very lazy that completely refuse a pic.
That rant given. Just because you do see a pic does not mean it\'s current or even truely the person you are chatting with. One of the biggest turn offs is someone that wants long extensive email/chat relationship before meeting. If the pic you sent is you and you like my pic then there are plenty of very public and safe places to meet and chat face to face. Yes I have been fooled by one person who later claimed they were doing research for a paper and another which turned out to be a bisexual guy.
If you are truly serious about exploring this find a way to share an image of yourself that you are comfortable with and meet people face to face. Just always pick a public place where you would feel comfortable.
Public job, I think this excuse is a personal one. A bartender might feel just as threaten with exposure as a military officer. Other people might have a different opinion, but it\'s a personal decision of comfort level. Yes a few people should not be here, but that\'s true about any group or lifestyle. I personally have a job that requires background checks and a certain amount of clearance to accesses offices however I do have pics available for those I care to share with.
It has always been a pet peeve of mine to be chatting and have someone refuse some type of face pic. There are so many ways to post a G-rated pic on the web so that there is no connection to lifestyle. Then you have webcams which are dirt cheap now. So it\'s truly only the very lazy that completely refuse a pic.
That rant given. Just because you do see a pic does not mean it\'s current or even truely the person you are chatting with. One of the biggest turn offs is someone that wants long extensive email/chat relationship before meeting. If the pic you sent is you and you like my pic then there are plenty of very public and safe places to meet and chat face to face. Yes I have been fooled by one person who later claimed they were doing research for a paper and another which turned out to be a bisexual guy.
If you are truly serious about exploring this find a way to share an image of yourself that you are comfortable with and meet people face to face. Just always pick a public place where you would feel comfortable.
Public job, I think this excuse is a personal one. A bartender might feel just as threaten with exposure as a military officer. Other people might have a different opinion, but it\'s a personal decision of comfort level. Yes a few people should not be here, but that\'s true about any group or lifestyle. I personally have a job that requires background checks and a certain amount of clearance to accesses offices however I do have pics available for those I care to share with.
I believe it is a descent curtosy to reply to an e-mail.