So, here me and the missus are. Over a year into the lifestyle (still not much actual play experience, but many chats and meets). It sometimes seems there are more questions now than when we knew less.
So, it
So, it
Over, of course !!! Under is barbaric.
"the mental ability to maintain a friendship that is the middle ground between complete relational disattachment and emotional dependence"
Wow! Damn, that is good! I was quite curious how that one would be answered (if anyone bothered).
We visit Tennessee at least annually, how far are you from Dyersburg (you sound like our kinda guy)?
D
Wow! Damn, that is good! I was quite curious how that one would be answered (if anyone bothered).
We visit Tennessee at least annually, how far are you from Dyersburg (you sound like our kinda guy)?
D
1. Slow's down just a bit but always looking never know where it goes.
2. Not really they are more intested in how it went and if they are worthy of a private party.
3. No, if they have no pic's no chat and no meeting at all.
4. Of course, there is alot more single women that bs than men I find.
5. Some attraction, experience a must no newbies, able to discuss yours and thier wants and limits openly and most important having fun with all involved no drama.
6. Bingo, stay away!
7. I am a poor single guy I don't need charity or someone to feel sorry for my ass, I get plenty of sex with many good swinging friends.
8. Who cares.
2. Not really they are more intested in how it went and if they are worthy of a private party.
3. No, if they have no pic's no chat and no meeting at all.
4. Of course, there is alot more single women that bs than men I find.
5. Some attraction, experience a must no newbies, able to discuss yours and thier wants and limits openly and most important having fun with all involved no drama.
6. Bingo, stay away!
7. I am a poor single guy I don't need charity or someone to feel sorry for my ass, I get plenty of sex with many good swinging friends.
8. Who cares.
Well being in the lifestyle a a little over a year still would make you fairly new... You came into the lifestyle with a WHOLE bunch of rules LOL that always seems to be the case. We discovered early on that rules get broken and as long as we had communication we could find out what worked for us and what didn't.
We're in the lifestyle to make friends with open minds. If something happens no one is shocked and we lose a friend LOL
like the last gentleman said we have several folks we like to do stuff with in and out of the bedroom... so no we don't become exclusive to one couple we're already exclusive to each other
We Prefer seeing pics ahead of time, what really drives us is when they have NO pics and want more from us
pretentious....HHHMMM only if we end up meeting them in person... we're not here to compare lipstick marks or what type of car we drive
Compatibility = We all get along, we have common ground, we can have an intelligent conversation about anything ( whether its really intelligent or not LOL) and we all enjoy it. The sexual chemistry will work out if everyone's interested
Unfortunately we're all human and we all have SOME kind of drama... be a little forgiving and understand no ones perfect. However should they continue to get on your nerves obviously you don't have the chemistry or getalong to hang with them LOL
Oh I like this one... who takes the bullet ... see that's such an awful thing to think of ... and no one wants to say oh yeah we took one for the team... if you or your better half thinks its charity than it was ... I don't pimp my wife ( best friend for 19 years as well ) if she wants something she'll let me know if she doesn't she LET me know that too LOL
Agree with the last one LOL who cares ??? Is that like the toilet seat up or down ??
We're in the lifestyle to make friends with open minds. If something happens no one is shocked and we lose a friend LOL
like the last gentleman said we have several folks we like to do stuff with in and out of the bedroom... so no we don't become exclusive to one couple we're already exclusive to each other
We Prefer seeing pics ahead of time, what really drives us is when they have NO pics and want more from us
pretentious....HHHMMM only if we end up meeting them in person... we're not here to compare lipstick marks or what type of car we drive
Compatibility = We all get along, we have common ground, we can have an intelligent conversation about anything ( whether its really intelligent or not LOL) and we all enjoy it. The sexual chemistry will work out if everyone's interested
Unfortunately we're all human and we all have SOME kind of drama... be a little forgiving and understand no ones perfect. However should they continue to get on your nerves obviously you don't have the chemistry or getalong to hang with them LOL
Oh I like this one... who takes the bullet ... see that's such an awful thing to think of ... and no one wants to say oh yeah we took one for the team... if you or your better half thinks its charity than it was ... I don't pimp my wife ( best friend for 19 years as well ) if she wants something she'll let me know if she doesn't she LET me know that too LOL
Agree with the last one LOL who cares ??? Is that like the toilet seat up or down ??
Well D, let me answer your questions but you probably know everything I am going to say before I say it.
1) yes, we have recently made a lot of new friends and find the need for more time to get to know all of them closer and better.
2) concerned...yes! If they see us going back for seconds and thirds, they know we enjoy them and since we are always expanding our circle of friends, they know these couples will be enjoyed by all eventually. So yes, concerned but in a good way.
3) if interest has been generated before seeing pics, we at least meet but with no expectations. Recently we have learned that some just don`t take good pics and we were very happily surprised upon meeting.
4) honestly...yes, but we do try very hard to simply move on to people we like and get along with better
5) compatibility starts with swapping some e-mails, getting to know you, and then at least finding out that we get along outside the bedroom. If we don`t like you, we are not going to play with you. Hopefully the sex is mind blowing and then we can say we are very compatible.
6) yes, and we sit back and try not to be involved with any of it
7) call it what you want but she has a favorite playmate or two and they happen to be single guys
8) I put it over and she puts it under, so does that make one of us wrong?
1) yes, we have recently made a lot of new friends and find the need for more time to get to know all of them closer and better.
2) concerned...yes! If they see us going back for seconds and thirds, they know we enjoy them and since we are always expanding our circle of friends, they know these couples will be enjoyed by all eventually. So yes, concerned but in a good way.
3) if interest has been generated before seeing pics, we at least meet but with no expectations. Recently we have learned that some just don`t take good pics and we were very happily surprised upon meeting.
4) honestly...yes, but we do try very hard to simply move on to people we like and get along with better
5) compatibility starts with swapping some e-mails, getting to know you, and then at least finding out that we get along outside the bedroom. If we don`t like you, we are not going to play with you. Hopefully the sex is mind blowing and then we can say we are very compatible.
6) yes, and we sit back and try not to be involved with any of it
7) call it what you want but she has a favorite playmate or two and they happen to be single guys
8) I put it over and she puts it under, so does that make one of us wrong?
J - 8) Not as long as it doesn't cause domestic violence! 
8) My brother is blind. When you put it over the blind and sight impaired people in the world can find the end much easier. It also helps people that have trouble with their hands (severe arthritis and such). That is how the over standard got started. Anyway it makes it easier for YOU to find the end in the dark.
Does this help you understand the whole "OVER" thing
April
Does this help you understand the whole "OVER" thing
April
# When you find someone(s) relatively compatible, does it slow down or halt your search for playmates?
# Do you find that your regular playmate(s) are concerned with who else you may be playing with?
No. We make it a practice to not "date" other couples. If we play multiple times, it's because it's right. Therefore, this is a non-issue.
# Have you had it happen where you didn
# Do you find that your regular playmate(s) are concerned with who else you may be playing with?
No. We make it a practice to not "date" other couples. If we play multiple times, it's because it's right. Therefore, this is a non-issue.
# Have you had it happen where you didn