I do not know about you guys, but we rarely write anyone for a meet...We usually wait for an approach from another couple. Nevertheless, we do, on occassion, write a couple or two, and we have either been accepted, or rejected.
Those that have rejected us, for the most part, have been not only sweet, but really exceptional in ther "turn down" letters back to us....
What is the "best" turn down letter that you have ever received, and why?
Those that have rejected us, for the most part, have been not only sweet, but really exceptional in ther "turn down" letters back to us....
What is the "best" turn down letter that you have ever received, and why?
In the years we have been meeting couples on-line we have had the occasion to be turned down by others. None recently and to tell the truth, turn-downs are not memorable events for us and we don't keep those messages stored for later review. All we can say on this subject is that we have never been slammed or put down by others when they have decided we are not compatible and we are the same. "Hi there. Thanks for your interest in our profile and pics but we feel that we would not be compatible. We wish you much happiness in your travels through the livestyle we all have chosen" or something along these lines is what we tell others.
We have had our share of turn downs, but most we have found people just don't respond. From the few that actually took the time to respond I can't remember anyone doing more than saying no thanks.
We did save one response to a rejection letter we sent, the only one ever saved. She wrote an entire 1 page letter about how we should not judge books/people by the cover. It was quite a read. It was in response to one of our nicer rejecting letters where we politely pointed out we had no interest and suggested some swingers groups they might consider exploring (they were just started to explore the lifestyle). oh well.
We did save one response to a rejection letter we sent, the only one ever saved. She wrote an entire 1 page letter about how we should not judge books/people by the cover. It was quite a read. It was in response to one of our nicer rejecting letters where we politely pointed out we had no interest and suggested some swingers groups they might consider exploring (they were just started to explore the lifestyle). oh well.
Our experience has been that honesty is genuinely appreciated, whether we are the ones deciding to decline or the ones whose advances have been rebuffed. To us, the singular most important issue is to reply. There is little worse than wondering if another couple has just not read a letter, so we would rather receive a polite "no thanks" than to not receive any response at all.
Just our thoughts!
Hugs & nibbles to all,
S & G
Just our thoughts!
Hugs & nibbles to all,
S & G
We agree - honesty. Sometimes may be difficult, but it's better than leading someone on who just doesn't understand subtlty.
wow... this subject brings back memories! We are always polite when we have to turn someone down. Only after it's completely clear that we're not interested in them sexually (ie; yall seem like really great people, but we feel that we will not be compatible sexually), we always offer to meet them anyways and try to build a normal friendship instead. What's the big deal about being friends? Why do so many people turn down invitations to friendship? You already know that you have a lot of common interests AND you should be able to share some pretty interesting stories with them that you cannot share with your friends at work.
In our opinion you can never have too many friends...
Ry and T
In our opinion you can never have too many friends...
Ry and T
Even though it rarely happens as we try not to judge a person till we meet in person when we do tell someone "no thanks" we try to be as honest as possible normally for us its more of a age issue. The wife says if you are younger than our kids (23/25) or older than her parents (60's) then its time to say "no thanks". To us meeting in person a hour of our time to meet over a drink is well worth it as you can never have too many friends and out of allthose "social" meetings you will find couples who want to have a second more private meeting.
N&S
N&S