I understand some people have the need to be discreet.
But Why is it on so many profiles all you see is the female.
Sure we all admit even the women would admit people want to check out the girl the most and shes definitely the best looking sex of the two. But the women of the site want to see what they are getting also.
Some profiles all you get is a bunch of hot pics of a girl in every angle and fashion however never any of the male half not even a shot of the head chopped off to keep privacy.
If you want honest people who are really interested then why the need to hide one of the partners?
Is swinging not about being open and honest? Why feel the need to hide a spouse up front?
If the male half is not the best looker let it be seen upfront not as a surprise that leads to an awkward meeting.
But Why is it on so many profiles all you see is the female.
Sure we all admit even the women would admit people want to check out the girl the most and shes definitely the best looking sex of the two. But the women of the site want to see what they are getting also.
Some profiles all you get is a bunch of hot pics of a girl in every angle and fashion however never any of the male half not even a shot of the head chopped off to keep privacy.
If you want honest people who are really interested then why the need to hide one of the partners?
Is swinging not about being open and honest? Why feel the need to hide a spouse up front?
If the male half is not the best looker let it be seen upfront not as a surprise that leads to an awkward meeting.
That's why I make sure there's at least a handful of pics of mark and i typically link you over to his myspace for a couple more. he loves to take pics of me and typically doesn't like to let me take pics of him. he's a lot shyer than i am.
Kitty... you say mark is shy? I would have never guessed that... lol
you don't pay much attention to the fact that he's sitting in a back corner not talking. :P
I admit im not much of a looker my self though im not creepy or ugly.
But i put my pics on there so people know who they talk to
As for the girls well i love them i just have to have there pics all over the place 
But i put my pics on there so people know who they talk to
As for the girls well i love them i just have to have there pics all over the place Plenty of the Mr. in our pics, package deal should be that way.
We would agree there seems to be a lack in pictures of the male. We don't like to hide, and if you want to meet with us you can't hide either. The first thing we ask when someone says hello is; Where are the pictures of him? Either show us or go away. Might seem rude to some. But how are you going to hide when you meet in person anyway?
I the male half feel that im not much to look at, I just feel lucky to have a hot spouse.
besides i take most of the pics.
besides i take most of the pics.
I'm usually behind the camera which is why I think there are perhaps 5 pictures of me in existence since my school pictures.
HMMM how do you say this without being rude?
<b> I suffer from "<u>Short Man Syndrome"</u> which is why I don't post my photo. </b>
I was a couple for 40 years, but due to a death now I'm a straight, single male, and I totally agree that the primary picture should have both partners in it. Almost every profile has something to the effect that they want, Honesty and No Drama. Hiding one-half of a partnership is being dishonest to those that may want to meet you. Setting up a meeting and then wondering what the male half will look like is Drama.
In advertising you want to show the best. If your purpose is to sell your female partner without the male included, then I guess it is OK. But if it is a package deal, then the whole package should be advertised. I think everyone wants truth in advertising.
Since the male half is rarely shown, I would guess that the females on this site should voice their opinions as to whether they want to see up front what the other half looks like before making contact.
In advertising you want to show the best. If your purpose is to sell your female partner without the male included, then I guess it is OK. But if it is a package deal, then the whole package should be advertised. I think everyone wants truth in advertising.
Since the male half is rarely shown, I would guess that the females on this site should voice their opinions as to whether they want to see up front what the other half looks like before making contact.
We try to include a little of both of us.
i hate when profile pics are either the couple with all their clothes on or all their clothes off. i need a good mix because they have their clothes on when they get here and clothes off a little later on in the night. so i want to have a good idea of both things before i invite them. yee-up.
Why do so many assume it's a big and evil plot to "hide" the male component of a couple?
Perhaps there is nothing malicious about the fact that they have either very few or no pictures at all?
Perhaps there is nothing malicious about the fact that they have either very few or no pictures at all?
We try not to be judgmental, but we read the complete profile, then look at the pictures. Most of the time we say wow she looks great! Followed by, where is the pic of the man? we send out a message indicating we found some interest in their profile, but we are lacking the final piece of the puzzle. We want to make decsion as a couple, so we want to see the couple.
If she or i find the one half of the couple not attractive, we move on.
If she or i find the one half of the couple not attractive, we move on.
TG: you found me out. i had an entire evil plot that starts out with mark being shy and not liking to post pics of himself except for enough to tell you what he looks like. then we show up at the meet n greets and further our evil plot with me being social and him being a little more on the shy side. that way we can hopefully make people think we're honest and real and then POW! we can have sex with them! mwuahahahahahaha!
Damn Kitty....you've been busy contemplating!
ok so what your saying is the guy cant put his photo up because hes afraid someone might recognize him but yet the wife's photos are up because NO ONE knows he's married OR what his wife looks like??
I find that to be crazy... if I were to see one of my Co-workers wives on here I would know it was them.. Oh and FYI that did happen.. I hired a guy and at the company party saw his wife and knew I saw her someplace.. Lo and behold they were on one of these sites and it was Her phots that were shown and not his..
Dohhh..
I find that to be crazy... if I were to see one of my Co-workers wives on here I would know it was them.. Oh and FYI that did happen.. I hired a guy and at the company party saw his wife and knew I saw her someplace.. Lo and behold they were on one of these sites and it was Her phots that were shown and not his..
Dohhh..
LUCKYANDBUTCH: c'mon now. sometimes i do a load of laundry too. let's be fair. :P
Its well understood BOTH the male and or female half needs to hide there true identity for certain jobs.
So if you have a picture simply ask a friend to blot out your face and any identifying markings.
Unless you of course know how to do so yourself.
On win xp SP2 i believe and 3 also Vista and Windows 7 (still beta) You can edit your scanned picture or picture from cell phone or dig cam using just Paint and put a big old black dot on your face show the hair if you like black out any other spots like tats and logos. scribble out the office background from that work party photo.
And save back to jpg for upload.
If any males that don't know how to do this need it done hell ide be happy to blot out your pic even just so you get more responses.
And for those of you who do all the pic taking
Let your wife have fun with the camera she is dying to finally get her hands on it.
Mirrors are tacky but if all else fails even that can be used.
So if you have a picture simply ask a friend to blot out your face and any identifying markings.
Unless you of course know how to do so yourself.
On win xp SP2 i believe and 3 also Vista and Windows 7 (still beta) You can edit your scanned picture or picture from cell phone or dig cam using just Paint and put a big old black dot on your face show the hair if you like black out any other spots like tats and logos. scribble out the office background from that work party photo.
And save back to jpg for upload.
If any males that don't know how to do this need it done hell ide be happy to blot out your pic even just so you get more responses.
And for those of you who do all the pic taking
Let your wife have fun with the camera she is dying to finally get her hands on it.
Mirrors are tacky but if all else fails even that can be used.
We agree, a couple is a couple is a couple... and a couple of picts is good. Let's face it with our experience, which is minumal, we find most "Males" are the ones keeping tabs on the books... we have found fewer females responding to our emails.
Perhaps this is not about the "Males" being shy, but about the females taking an active stand, and soliciting her hubby actively for other active females.
Interesting comment we saw once... they guys get them in, but the gals keep them in.
:@ Just food for pictures I guess
SexySecret
There should be at least one pic of both of the members of a couple in our opinion. It is a package deal for the most part.
Maybe. just maybe it is because the female body is beautiful and let face it guys are built to be just functional. It sad but ture.
ok we will put our 2 cents in on this one as we have had to a couple of times in the past this has been brought up.
we have some of the male half but aroiund here 98% of the swingers are just looking and want to see pics of the wife.
they are in this for ff and the hubbys are just tag a lones.
we have really gave up on all this we just keep our profile because of good friends we have made.
we started swinging 8 years ago . at first it was fun people wanting to chat and meet.
we met one couple that we played with since we was new to this it was kinda off the wall.
and we didnt really have a good time.
then hubby brought a friend home and had a 3some with wife . she didnt really like it .
( not going to say why ).
then we went to a party and hooked up with this lady for a three some . while her hubby watched.
just to find out she wanted the wife. and hubby got to fuck her the whole 3 minutes before
the woman said im soar. soar after 3 minutes of fucking ? BULL SHIT!!
just to clear something up hubby has a 8 inch dick and yes he knows how to use it.
so looks like all this is not swinging but for women who want to fuck women .
thats why we never had many pics of hubby.
we have some of the male half but aroiund here 98% of the swingers are just looking and want to see pics of the wife.
they are in this for ff and the hubbys are just tag a lones.
we have really gave up on all this we just keep our profile because of good friends we have made.
we started swinging 8 years ago . at first it was fun people wanting to chat and meet.
we met one couple that we played with since we was new to this it was kinda off the wall.
and we didnt really have a good time.
then hubby brought a friend home and had a 3some with wife . she didnt really like it .
( not going to say why ).
then we went to a party and hooked up with this lady for a three some . while her hubby watched.
just to find out she wanted the wife. and hubby got to fuck her the whole 3 minutes before
the woman said im soar. soar after 3 minutes of fucking ? BULL SHIT!!
just to clear something up hubby has a 8 inch dick and yes he knows how to use it.
so looks like all this is not swinging but for women who want to fuck women .
thats why we never had many pics of hubby.
I want Males, I want Males... Just a little rant
We are both in it , in the public there is no faces at all but if we get to know you then we add you as friend and you can see better pics and see both our faces. So we are a package deal and I am proud of my man so I want the ladies to see it . He dont care if he is in any or not but I do . I am the rare female that always is answering the emails we get. He hardly gets the chance to get on . LOL I am a hog.
only one of me in there, i guess i need to have the misses take some of me and get more in. because we also like seeing both on the profiles, a little one side on my part i guess.
We like the idea of both on a couple profile.
Mr. T, did you read a few of these responses, why make something simple when it's more fun making it complicated. It's like meeting one of the self proclaimed "No drama" couples and by the end of the night you feel like you just watched the Tony Awards LIVE.
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