Ok all.... first dont flame us just a simple question. Why is there people in the swing lifestyle that dont swing both ways? Let me explain why are there so many swingers that only seek females? Isnt the purpose in swinging to trade partners? Why does only the female seek the pleasure? Is it just us that feels this way? Seems a double standard. Whats in it for him if you only seek pleasure for her? Seems selfish to us... sorry to rant and rave just need to vent
hope we are not the only ones that feel this way
hope we are not the only ones that feel this waygood point, time for a profile change thanks for the tip.
Maybe it is his pleasure to see his wife with another female, and he may get to join in too, so there is his fun.
People come here in search of many different things, and they have the right to what they want in this lifestyle. There is no specific thing that a person HAS to want in order to be here and to be called a swinger. Each has the right to what it is they want to get out of this journey.
People come here in search of many different things, and they have the right to what they want in this lifestyle. There is no specific thing that a person HAS to want in order to be here and to be called a swinger. Each has the right to what it is they want to get out of this journey.
You can't always take everything in someone's profile as the gospel.
The majority of couples I've played with have "NO SINGLE MALES" spelled out in their profile - and I'm a single male.
Go figure.
The majority of couples I've played with have "NO SINGLE MALES" spelled out in their profile - and I'm a single male.
Go figure.
UtCountyCpl
One of the things that we have seen here is that everyone has different reasons for being here...Some good, some not so good. The not so good includes cheating on a spouse or a bad marriage that they think can be rekindled with something extra. Never works.
On the plus side, there are people who have great secure relationships, who have many reasons they are here.
1) Female is curious about being with another female.
2) Male is turned on by seeing his woman with another man
3) Flirting and soft play
4) Women who like more than one man
5) Full Swap
6) Same Room Sex
7) Voyerism
8) Bi-sexual Female or Bi-sexual male
9) Male is turned on by seeing his wife with another woman (very popular here)
10) Woman is turned on by seeing her husband with another woman
11) Group Sex
I think the list goes on and on.
So, maybe your desire is for a full swap situation. You just need to connect with another couple that is looking for the same thing and that the 4 of you find the attraction to pursue it. Remember, just because someone indicates that they are interested in full swap, doesnt mean that you will have that spark with the other couple. Its just a start.
Good luck in your endeavor.
CB & KB
One of the things that we have seen here is that everyone has different reasons for being here...Some good, some not so good. The not so good includes cheating on a spouse or a bad marriage that they think can be rekindled with something extra. Never works.
On the plus side, there are people who have great secure relationships, who have many reasons they are here.
1) Female is curious about being with another female.
2) Male is turned on by seeing his woman with another man
3) Flirting and soft play
4) Women who like more than one man
5) Full Swap
6) Same Room Sex
7) Voyerism
8) Bi-sexual Female or Bi-sexual male
9) Male is turned on by seeing his wife with another woman (very popular here)
10) Woman is turned on by seeing her husband with another woman
11) Group Sex
I think the list goes on and on.
So, maybe your desire is for a full swap situation. You just need to connect with another couple that is looking for the same thing and that the 4 of you find the attraction to pursue it. Remember, just because someone indicates that they are interested in full swap, doesnt mean that you will have that spark with the other couple. Its just a start.
Good luck in your endeavor.
CB & KB
thanks for all the great info...
ok from what I see on most of the profiles it is wanted couples or single females ( the unicorn ) it all starts with the gene pool two females can not change the gene pool but if you get a horney single male (roving male ) the the animal instenct kicks in so now lets look at the life style the women control the life style she is the one to say single males or single females ( the unicorn ) so if the male of the couple wants to stay the male of the couple he will obey or become ( the roving male ) Dr. Sigman Freaud (I think he said that )
some thing to chew on !!
some thing to chew on !!
Look at like this; The husband goes out on Saturdays and plays golf, it is something he enjoys that she doesn't. So in exchange he allows her to play with other females, which is something she enjoys. Now maybe she will allow him to play with the other female also or maybe not. In other words he is a golfer, which is something he cannot get at home and she is bisexual, again something she cannot get at home.
IMO in general it has nothing to do with the male being afraid of sharing with another male it is just what she wants.
IMO in general it has nothing to do with the male being afraid of sharing with another male it is just what she wants.
I, the male think that this is what is so fun about the lifestyle, that no couple or individual we have met has been exactlly the same, and that is why we are here for is the veriety of fun we can have, one time it might be full swap, the next time we maybe hooking up with a single person, male or female. but probably the biggest reason i wanted to get into the lifestyle was to give my lady all the pleasure she could handle, and we have been very successfull in that endevor, and almost all of the time wheather just she plays or both of us play, that is still what i want to see, watching a female recieve pleasure is what does it for me, don't get me wrong i love to play, but to see her recieve pleasure, no matter how it comes, is what i want in every experience, and that is what i see here, is everyone has their own kink, and that is what makes this so exciting, so, double standard, i don't know about that. i think for both of us its just hooking up with open minded people, that are not afraid to express the forbidden.
Precisely.
And far more couples have found me than the other way around.
Pushy single guys do themselves more harm than they do good.
And far more couples have found me than the other way around.
Pushy single guys do themselves more harm than they do good.
HUNT...
That's our experience also....
That's our experience also....