Ok, ignore the picture to the left. This is the MRS. My husband and I have been a part of this lifestyle for a while. In fact we opened our own group and had a very sucessful party last night. I was talking to one of our dear friends who used to swing, but doesn't so much any more. I was laughingly saying I must be the worst swinger ever, because I like other women, but don't always like oral from them. ( I love to give it though) and I like other men, but I don't always like to have sex with them. ( I do like to give oral though.) I love my hubby and I love having sex with him, but not so much with alot of the other guys we meet. (there's two I don't mind doing it with) I love to flirt and tease, I love holding the parties and being the hostess. Well, she said I am not as much as swinger as I think I am (but in a nice way) and that maybe I shouldn't do this because it doesn't seem like I really want to.
I do want to though. I have a blast with all the folks I meet, whether we have sex or are just friends its fine. Am I just odd or what?
I do want to though. I have a blast with all the folks I meet, whether we have sex or are just friends its fine. Am I just odd or what?
Quite frankly it sounds like you are immature and very accustomed to having your way. Sorry, but you asked.
You sound perfectly normal to me. Some people need a real connection with a person to make a connection, whether it be physical or otherwise. Some swingers (especially the men) can just do it with anybody, it's just something new, that's good enough. Personally, I like to have a strong physical attraction to someone before I consider sex with them. Another thing you mention, I believe is also similar to me, I'm a giver, not a receiver. I love to perform oral, men or women,(and I'm told I'm really good at it 
) but I'm not that good at receiving it (from either sex) until that person has really learned me(how I like to be touched or licked), and it may take a few times together, and sometimes either I or they don't have the patience, lol But performing it on others, especially when they're really enjoying it is a huge turn-on for me. So anyway the bottom line is...who's to say what's normal or not, don't worry about it. The lifestyle is mostly about being free to enjoy yourself and others. So, you like what you like, enjoy yourself, if others don't like it, let them move on.
) but I'm not that good at receiving it (from either sex) until that person has really learned me(how I like to be touched or licked), and it may take a few times together, and sometimes either I or they don't have the patience, lol But performing it on others, especially when they're really enjoying it is a huge turn-on for me. So anyway the bottom line is...who's to say what's normal or not, don't worry about it. The lifestyle is mostly about being free to enjoy yourself and others. So, you like what you like, enjoy yourself, if others don't like it, let them move on.This is a 'lifestyle' and there are many different types of people in it. The definition of a swinger has changed drastically and the description you provided still falls into that definition. A lot of people choose this lifestyle because of it's openness and sexual energy. You don't have to have sex with everyone you meet to be a swinger or be in the lifestyle. Selectivity is a virtue and you have the right. Most swingers rarely hook up with others until they find the 'right' situation. But that doesn't make you less of a swinger than those who do every weekend.
Remember, to each his own!
Remember, to each his own!
Greetings, I am a Unicorn as they say. Single female,unattached and in the lifestyle. I get frustrated because I do not know where to draw the line so to speak. If I meet a man...I am wanting to be with I do not play games well. So I want to get close to him very quickly. But it is hard to tell vanilla men from lifestylers at times. Most men do not want commitment and that frustrates me. I want it all, lifestyle relationship,nudist etc. But it is really hard finding someone that wants that going in without just being FB's . So not sure if I should get out of the lifestyle find someone on E-Harmony (vanilla boring mundane site) or keep searching for the love of my life and soulmate in the lifestyle. So yes I have reservations daily. Try to find how others feel about this. Thank you,Snowy
I've come to the conclusion if the folks I meet still want to hang out with me after I refuse sex with a man I'm not comfortable with, or refuse to recieve oral.....then I must be doing something right.......to each their own......
Garnet...
I dont think your immature and really if thats how you want it go for it...
You like what you like and no one Should tell you it should be anything but your way.
Sorry but not taking one for the team here EVER.
If you dont want to sleep with a man Dont, if you love you do Oral then please do.
You should never feel you have to do somthing you dont want to, and if your not right for the lifestyle then almost all of us are should not be here to..
we have passed lots of couples that want to play with just one of us, as we have passed them to. If it works cool if not, theres lots more couples to play with..
Dont ever do anything you dont want to.
If it dont feel right then dont do it..
Thumper
I dont think your immature and really if thats how you want it go for it...
You like what you like and no one Should tell you it should be anything but your way.
Sorry but not taking one for the team here EVER.
If you dont want to sleep with a man Dont, if you love you do Oral then please do.
You should never feel you have to do somthing you dont want to, and if your not right for the lifestyle then almost all of us are should not be here to..
we have passed lots of couples that want to play with just one of us, as we have passed them to. If it works cool if not, theres lots more couples to play with..
Dont ever do anything you dont want to.
If it dont feel right then dont do it..
Thumper