It looks like you are doing things exactly right..seems you have your boundaries discussed and settled on, you like meeting to see if chemistry is right, with no expectations. We think thats definately a smart way to go
~D&T~

~D&T~
we are new as well and thats exactly what we've been doing its going well had a great first meeting with a great easy going couiple this weekend and plans for this next weekend 
R and K

R and K
We did very similar to you. We joined a local yahoo group. We went to a meet and greet and met a nice couple that was the same age as us. We got together a few times with them as they were very experienced and we were newbies. Once we felt comfy, we had the time of our lives with them. Sounds like you are doing thing in a good way as long as it works for both of you, all is good.