Well where to begin....... well first off and i guess the biggest are women that post their profiles that they are single bi women.......... then you read the profile and they are not only attached but will not play alone? Does this not mean if you will only swing with ur partner YOU ARE NOT SINGLE!!!!!!!!!!! You should be posting as a couple that means 2 not one.... Now i know that alot of couples will add a second profile so they can both be on at the same time.......... but then you can still say in both profiles you are a couple...... Us couples that are honest up front and new find it hard enough to find REAL single bi females....
2. WOMEN who say they are bi but only when it is them being pleased???? thats not being bi thats being selfish. If you are bi your bi all the way or your not. Now we understand bi curious so your not sure but at least the ones who say that are being honest about it..
2. WOMEN who say they are bi but only when it is them being pleased???? thats not being bi thats being selfish. If you are bi your bi all the way or your not. Now we understand bi curious so your not sure but at least the ones who say that are being honest about it..
if you get a profile and its as a single person and then later you find the love of your life and get together you either have to go thru a long process of getting the admin to change your profile to a couple or buy another profile as a couple.... which some people refuse to do either so they have a single profile and they put in it that they are a couple.... so in a way they are being honest....
but I know what ya mean...
but I know what ya mean...
I have bi-curious on my profile because they don't have something that says bi-friendly, which is more what I am. Don't bag on someone because they try to explain further their likes and dislikes, when the basic discription is so limiting. That is what the rest of the profile is for, to state what you like. The swinger community is supposed to be open to variety. If you don't like what you read move on.
The bi status is limited on the current version of Swingular, however, with the new version, the profile page will have a lot more options for bi as well as other things. Here is a preview of the new profile page. We will be launching it this week here on the old site for testing.
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HALFPLAYFULL....Its not that we dont understand women saying they are bi courious ...its the ones that state they are bi and then turn out to be married and have a single profile and dont state even in their about me that they dont play alone until you actually try to contact them....gets very frustrating especially as we said for new members who have yet to be certified as real....especially without knowing anyone to verify it.
Thankyou to the Admin for sharing the new look of the site and hopefully that will help alot of people and generate new members..I ( the female half of this cpl) was on this site in the past and found it just as hard to find some of what alot of ppl are looking for but then it also comes down to who is honest and who is willing to follow thru in what they put on their own profiles.
As with us personally we dont have 9-5 jobs and cant plan far in advance for alot of functions and many prefer a weeks notice at the least....hard for people like us....
thanks again all so far for the positive responses.
Thankyou to the Admin for sharing the new look of the site and hopefully that will help alot of people and generate new members..I ( the female half of this cpl) was on this site in the past and found it just as hard to find some of what alot of ppl are looking for but then it also comes down to who is honest and who is willing to follow thru in what they put on their own profiles.
As with us personally we dont have 9-5 jobs and cant plan far in advance for alot of functions and many prefer a weeks notice at the least....hard for people like us....
thanks again all so far for the positive responses.
I wouldn't go so far as to say this is a "peeve" of mine, butt since we're bringing up things people list in their profiles.......................
I've seen a number of profiles that say if you don't have a photo included in your profile, don't even bother trying to contact them.
Just something to consider:
There are a variety of reasons why some folks cannot post a photo in their profile - I won't attempt to list the reasons.
Butt.
Suppose (hypothetically, of course - wink, wink) I had a job where there was a "morals" clause in my contract - a clause that could come back to haunt me big time if it were publically disclosed that I actively participate in the Swinging Lifestyle?
Lose my job, my livelihood and my pension over a picture?
Yeah, trust me - it could happen.
I have yet to encounter ANYONE who wasn't willing to privately share a photo via e-mail if it's requested.
Would I prefer for everyone to be able to see what a Greek God I am, simply by clicking onto my profile?
Of course.
But I can't do that.
Not everyone who doesn't provide a photo in their profile has something to hide - but they may have something to protect.
I've seen a number of profiles that say if you don't have a photo included in your profile, don't even bother trying to contact them.
Just something to consider:
There are a variety of reasons why some folks cannot post a photo in their profile - I won't attempt to list the reasons.
Butt.
Suppose (hypothetically, of course - wink, wink) I had a job where there was a "morals" clause in my contract - a clause that could come back to haunt me big time if it were publically disclosed that I actively participate in the Swinging Lifestyle?
Lose my job, my livelihood and my pension over a picture?
Yeah, trust me - it could happen.
I have yet to encounter ANYONE who wasn't willing to privately share a photo via e-mail if it's requested.
Would I prefer for everyone to be able to see what a Greek God I am, simply by clicking onto my profile?
Of course.
But I can't do that.
Not everyone who doesn't provide a photo in their profile has something to hide - but they may have something to protect.
I have the no pic no info no response in our profile........ you can always attach a pic. your here for the same reason as everyone else and if by chance you do know someone (I've ran into ALOT that we've known outside the lifestyle) i'm sure they dont want everyone in their neighborhood knowing what they do behind closed doors either.
lol i dunno if all that made sense but i understand it.
lol i dunno if all that made sense but i understand it.
adding to what all have said....................why the hell if your on here u dont have a pic in ur private album makes no sence..ya I get its Utah but still be honest who you are...who gives a fuck what you are behind closed doores........dan you people are vain
about the comment on no pics in the profile. I can understand you wanting to be descrete about your profile pic, i have a moral sensitive job also, but you could still post a pic without showing your face. That way people can still see something to draw them into your profile without giving away who you are to people you havn't had a chance to meet or chat with first. Honestly, when i'm searching for people to meet, i'm apprehensive to email profiles without a pic.
Sin
Well said sincity.......that was a good read...made me laugh so hard my side hurts....lol
Well sin for having no time to worry about pet peves a hell of a story you wrote......... that muct have takin longer to write in that way then the worry part of it.......We mentioned it cuz we are honest to a fault and unlike some who venture here to this site, we do not have the time to be on every day nite and everything in between....... This is suppose to be a social gathering place and that pretty hard to socialize when people are not honest......... Understand that yes the profile wont let you change the status but you can write in the profile which some do but then again some dont...
pictures are my pet peeve...
Like ones that are from couples yet one or both have pictures where they took them their self in a mirror with the flash on... if your a couple have your mate take the damn picture for ya.... if your single learn how to use the timer on the camera... even cellphone have timers too...
and then lately there have been alot of pictures where they pull their head back so your staring down their noses... this is not attractive at all. leave your head straight and look at the damn camera.....
then there are the pictures that are sideways... microsoft photo editor (which is included in windows xp) allows you to take a picture and turn it either way so you can get it to be upside right.... its easy to do but there are tons of pictures on their side...
Simple things to do but are not done which leads me to believe the people are to lazy to care about their pictures or don't care what image they are sending out about themselves....
Like ones that are from couples yet one or both have pictures where they took them their self in a mirror with the flash on... if your a couple have your mate take the damn picture for ya.... if your single learn how to use the timer on the camera... even cellphone have timers too...
and then lately there have been alot of pictures where they pull their head back so your staring down their noses... this is not attractive at all. leave your head straight and look at the damn camera.....
then there are the pictures that are sideways... microsoft photo editor (which is included in windows xp) allows you to take a picture and turn it either way so you can get it to be upside right.... its easy to do but there are tons of pictures on their side...
Simple things to do but are not done which leads me to believe the people are to lazy to care about their pictures or don't care what image they are sending out about themselves....
Very well said MR TRIXIEE.... couldnt agree with you more on that. There are alot of people it seems that really dont take the time to care what the pic looks like to others as long as it it up
Along the lines of picture pet peeves, I have one myself. If people are so called inviting you into their bedrooms, it might help if they tidyed the room up a bit. That might make it a little more appealing to go into their bedroom.
I agree, if they can't vacume the carpet and make the bed with fine Egyptian sheets, who in their right mind would want to do that cpl. :z Sorry, my nature to be a smart a...
I agree, AKCPL.
Why don't they just show a pic of the notches on their bedpost?
It's saying essentially the same thing.
Much as I'd like to be able to defend single guys (being one myself) - I can't.
There are just too many Butt-Holes who make it bad for those of us who respect others in the Lifestyle.
Why don't they just show a pic of the notches on their bedpost?
It's saying essentially the same thing.
Much as I'd like to be able to defend single guys (being one myself) - I can't.
There are just too many Butt-Holes who make it bad for those of us who respect others in the Lifestyle.
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2. WOMEN who say they are bi but only when it is them being pleased???? thats not being bi thats being selfish. If you are bi your bi all the way or your not. Now we understand bi curious so your not sure but at least the ones who say that are being honest about it..
that one peeves me but:
My beef is women who say they are bi (whether single or married/partned) to get more looks at their profile, and then when you meet them they are CLEARLY *NOT* bi.
And then on the flip, I say I am a bisexual woman. But, I don't like recieving oral. I love giving oral and all other aspects of being with a woman. But not recieving. So am I really bi or not?
2. WOMEN who say they are bi but only when it is them being pleased???? thats not being bi thats being selfish. If you are bi your bi all the way or your not. Now we understand bi curious so your not sure but at least the ones who say that are being honest about it..
that one peeves me but:
My beef is women who say they are bi (whether single or married/partned) to get more looks at their profile, and then when you meet them they are CLEARLY *NOT* bi.
And then on the flip, I say I am a bisexual woman. But, I don't like recieving oral. I love giving oral and all other aspects of being with a woman. But not recieving. So am I really bi or not?
Although I doubt we'll hear from many - if any - of them, there are a LOT of couples who are very much into single men - both on and off this awesome wbsite.
And they haven't seemed to suffer any heartburn by my presence here.
The vast majority of couples I've "interacted" with as a single, have NO SINGLE MEN in their profiles - whether it be here or elsewhere.
Perhaps they feel it necessary to add that because they don't want certain opinionated others to form negative opinions of them just because they are receptive to us dreaded single males.
That's NOT a peeve with me.
I view it as a positive thing.
And they haven't seemed to suffer any heartburn by my presence here.
The vast majority of couples I've "interacted" with as a single, have NO SINGLE MEN in their profiles - whether it be here or elsewhere.
Perhaps they feel it necessary to add that because they don't want certain opinionated others to form negative opinions of them just because they are receptive to us dreaded single males.
That's NOT a peeve with me.
I view it as a positive thing.
Or it is cause most single guys are jerk offs. We are open to single males but we will look for you. Some of out best expierences have been with single guys.
Our biggest pet peeve is people who take the time to post pictures that are from far away and only the size of a stamp. We'd rather see ond good clear pic than a hundred postage stamp sized one where you can't even tell what it is.
What gets me..... in a profile it says both are straight, but you go thru thier pictures.....and you see girl on girl! What's up with that? To me, straight means being with the opposite sex only.
Mine (The Mr.) is when people say they are drug free but either smoke cigarettes, or like to drink.
Hate to break it to you so delicately, but both of those are drugs, dumbass.
Hate to break it to you so delicately, but both of those are drugs, dumbass.
Dumbass?????????????????
Come on, don't hold back - tell us what you REALLY think.
Come on, don't hold back - tell us what you REALLY think.
QUOTE:"smoke cigarettes, or like to drink.
Hate to break it to you so delicately, but both of those are drugs, dumbass"
Oops, I guess I is an dumbass. Better shred my Mensa card.
I think it is reasonable to refer to "drug free" to the exclusion of alcohol and cigarettes; one of those societal convention things that just makes our lives easier
Hate to break it to you so delicately, but both of those are drugs, dumbass"
Oops, I guess I is an dumbass. Better shred my Mensa card.
I think it is reasonable to refer to "drug free" to the exclusion of alcohol and cigarettes; one of those societal convention things that just makes our lives easier
My pet peeve are those that get on a sanctimonious high-horse with blanket statements intended for all of the ignorant "dumb-asses" in Swingville.....
but riderz.... (besides we need to get down to see u guys) dont ya know coffee isnt a drug its a VITIMAN....lol we have 2 pots of vitiman b4 we leave the house in the mornings....hehehe Dennis/.....
We know some very sexy people in Swingville. Although there are a good number of dumb-asses there also.
I only have 2 peeves if you even want to call them that:
1) profiles that have the seeking single guys box checked then post in their profile about No single guys. WTF pick one.
2) Profiles that read that they are actively looking for single guys then they block single guys from sending them emails.
Yes I know the majority of single guys on this and other sites can be real jerk-off assholes, but if you are going to say you are looking for single guys then mean it. Just asking for a bit of consistency is all.
1) profiles that have the seeking single guys box checked then post in their profile about No single guys. WTF pick one.
2) Profiles that read that they are actively looking for single guys then they block single guys from sending them emails.
Yes I know the majority of single guys on this and other sites can be real jerk-off assholes, but if you are going to say you are looking for single guys then mean it. Just asking for a bit of consistency is all.
I deffinately agree on the bi issue... I put i'm BI because i am!!! I love to give myself to women, as well as recieve..but nothing irritates me more..when the women proclaim so proudly thay are "BI SEXUAL" when all they want is my man... hey who wouldn't he's HOT!! Just be honest about it. If thats all you want then i'm cool with it.. it's when the dishonesty comes into play. Don't try to fake a kiss or a little lick here and there...trust me, us True BI women can deffinately tell when you're truely into it or putting on a SHOW!
For all those lovely REAL kitty lickers out there... here's to US! xoxoox LICK ON :z
For all those lovely REAL kitty lickers out there... here's to US! xoxoox LICK ON :z
I posted bi in my profile. although I have never 'fully' been with a woman but I would like to. I don't give a crap about receiving but I would love to find out what I could do to and with a woman's body.
My issue is with friends request that have agreed to add us but don't respond to emails ( WTF ) why accept our request if your not going to communicate with us?
Oh, neither my wife nor I are bi-curious or bi-sexual and it clearly states that on our profile but, if a couple is ( male or female half ) we are ok with it as long as the couple respects our bounderies as a straight couple( no pushy people ) because we have experienced the reverse from profiles on here they read they're striaght but are bi-curious or bi-sexual:h
Oh, neither my wife nor I are bi-curious or bi-sexual and it clearly states that on our profile but, if a couple is ( male or female half ) we are ok with it as long as the couple respects our bounderies as a straight couple( no pushy people ) because we have experienced the reverse from profiles on here they read they're striaght but are bi-curious or bi-sexual:h