Hate to break the hate train, but thought I'd ask this question in this group..living in florida, my wife and I see this so much..why is there still such an issue of interacial sex..between whites and blacks..
Now mind you, we are both professionals and hold our weight in any situations and we know our money is just as green as everyone elses, but we still get the brush off from some people and we know its not because of anything but race..its the first thing you see that makes the impression...
We are well groom'd, well spoken, and mannered. I understand the swinging world is just a sub-culture of our overall society but just as the military or the NFL or other groups that make up their own culture, are we not suppose to be above this. This is not a political question but more of a moral one. Oh, dont use the "preference" word..if you do, base your preference on something. Anyone seen or had experiences in this realm. On and it works both ways..
Dave/Denise
Now mind you, we are both professionals and hold our weight in any situations and we know our money is just as green as everyone elses, but we still get the brush off from some people and we know its not because of anything but race..its the first thing you see that makes the impression...
We are well groom'd, well spoken, and mannered. I understand the swinging world is just a sub-culture of our overall society but just as the military or the NFL or other groups that make up their own culture, are we not suppose to be above this. This is not a political question but more of a moral one. Oh, dont use the "preference" word..if you do, base your preference on something. Anyone seen or had experiences in this realm. On and it works both ways..
Dave/Denise
Um - three separate, yet identical posts? You can find my comment in one of the two threads currently on the front page. You have edit power of your posts - why not delete this one, at least?
I can care less about the "interracial" aspect of couples. What the fuck does melanin (a tan) have to do with humping? I've seen hotties I would fuck throughout the human species. People that have issues with race, are fucking cowards. They're scared of change and progressive thought and that's the fucking truth. I say good for you two for finding love....
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Ok, you opened the door so I will walk through it and there are some on here that will see through my republican code words and realize right off the bat what a racist pig I really am. That being said.
Your location has a lot to do with it. You are after all in the South. There are a lot of racists and bigots on both sides of the aisle here. Yes, we, too have some of those bones in our body as does 90% of the world population, however, ours is aimed at the individual not the race. If the profile and pictures seem thuggish or ghetto then we pass on by. The main reason for that is that is not the personality we are looking for nor the personality wqe can get along with.
If the profile is one of well spoken people, such as yours, (White collar, blue collar, doesn't matter) then we move on to the actual content of the profile, likes dislikes and overall compatibility.
I think the easiest way for you to get past the race issue woulod be meet-n-greet types of functions. Let people get to know your personality, if at that point they still want nothing to do with you, be it preference or race related, then odds are you aren't missing a damned thing. Unfortunately, or fortunately, however you look at it, it isn't you personally and there is nothing you can do to change it except keep putting yourselves out there for people to meet.
P.S. Ever get up Savannah way feel free to holler and we will be glad to meet you schedules allowing.
Your location has a lot to do with it. You are after all in the South. There are a lot of racists and bigots on both sides of the aisle here. Yes, we, too have some of those bones in our body as does 90% of the world population, however, ours is aimed at the individual not the race. If the profile and pictures seem thuggish or ghetto then we pass on by. The main reason for that is that is not the personality we are looking for nor the personality wqe can get along with.
If the profile is one of well spoken people, such as yours, (White collar, blue collar, doesn't matter) then we move on to the actual content of the profile, likes dislikes and overall compatibility.
I think the easiest way for you to get past the race issue woulod be meet-n-greet types of functions. Let people get to know your personality, if at that point they still want nothing to do with you, be it preference or race related, then odds are you aren't missing a damned thing. Unfortunately, or fortunately, however you look at it, it isn't you personally and there is nothing you can do to change it except keep putting yourselves out there for people to meet.
P.S. Ever get up Savannah way feel free to holler and we will be glad to meet you schedules allowing.
We have played with couples of many mixes (isn't the Lifestyle about variety?). Be it Asian, Hispanic, Black, or any other classification it all comes down to the people and not where they are from, the color of the skin, or age. Speaking of where people are from - Florida is not the "South" having more transplants from the north than anything else; the ability to be stupid as no geographical requirement. For the most part we like it when someone puts in their profile "no blacks" or other such stupid comments - it's a great flag to just avoid any contact with that person/couple.
One of the great things about being open to all is you learn that things like "you know what they say about _______" is for the most part wrong. No mater what the race, age, or religion we all tend to come in flavors unique to the individual and those that hide from others because of such things just lose the chance for a lot of fun!
Max & Diane
One of the great things about being open to all is you learn that things like "you know what they say about _______" is for the most part wrong. No mater what the race, age, or religion we all tend to come in flavors unique to the individual and those that hide from others because of such things just lose the chance for a lot of fun!
Max & Diane
In our eyes Color of skin has no bearing when it comes to swinging as long as the individuals are respectful that is what counts for us we have never let the color of ones skin prevent us from meeting them and we played if that is what all agreed to.
I'm sure racism is out there somewhere but we are an oriental couple and while we have been turned down before, we haven't really seen that much of a pattern that we can say it is racism. After all, with the lack of orientals in the lifestyle, pretty much every encounter is going to be interracial.
aklim wrote: I'm sure racism is out there somewhere but we are an oriental couple and while we have been turned down before, we haven't really seen that much of a pattern that we can say it is racism. After all, with the lack of orientals in the lifestyle, pretty much every encounter is going to be interracial.
aklim - I'm writing about the last sentence. What a great example of how important perspective is. It never would have occurred to me that your experiences would almost have to be interracial by default (for lack of a better way of putting it). Interesting!
aklim - I'm writing about the last sentence. What a great example of how important perspective is. It never would have occurred to me that your experiences would almost have to be interracial by default (for lack of a better way of putting it). Interesting!