they have this feature called a validation. If more people would get validated as a real couple then it would make it a little easier. We are a bit expierenced in this area on how to locate the fakes. There are things you pick up along the way. I mean not like you should have to. We never share pics on YAHOO unless we have met the people in person or know that they are real IE phone call or webcam. Or someone else that knows they are real. Someone that has been here multiple years and has not met anyone is a red flag. Most swingers unless you dont have pics on your profile that show what you really look like wont ask for more pics. They dont want them cause they want to see the real thing. Fakes always come up with the dumbest excuses for not being able to prove they are real. We have not been validated on this site but had we been validated to a degree that it is obvious that we are not fake we would want to talk to people on the phone to assure they are real. We get thier number cause it is obvious we are real as I said. We are new to this site but another site we are on we have over 20 validations. So it is a little easier to do so in that case. Most people in this day and age have a webcam. Or have the money to go out and buy one for I think the crapiest is 20 bucks. Easy way to prove you are real. Also real swingers dont get upset at the fact that they are challenged on being real. They just prove it. We have called people out and they have gotten pissed. It is rather funny cause that is the biggest red flag of all. Sorry for the mess and bouncing around I just wrote as I thought.
Participating in non-monogamous intercourse with people we meet online is the way that we discern whether or not they are 'real.'
We gave up trying to get validated. (hint to admin.) but there are a few on here that know we are very real
Our policy for meeting:
We meet at a pub that is 4 miles from our home (we have no kids, so can host without issues) OR at a club.
We give directions to the pub, they are a little cofusing, so they call when they are close and lost, then we know they are there. We head out to meet them.
At the club, we were going to go anyway, so nothing lost if they flake.
We found that if people will chat with you on YIM, MSM, or AIM they tend to be more real.
For single guys, our experience is that there are not as many as you would think. They are usually married and not happy at home, they figure this is a good way to cheat as there's less emotional attachment involved and the likelyhood of a swinger going 'Fatal Attraction' on them is slim.
Be patient, talk to other couples about what SM's they recommend, etc.
We know many, few are worthy of talking to, but you can email us if you want some recomendations.
We meet at a pub that is 4 miles from our home (we have no kids, so can host without issues) OR at a club.
We give directions to the pub, they are a little cofusing, so they call when they are close and lost, then we know they are there. We head out to meet them.
At the club, we were going to go anyway, so nothing lost if they flake.
We found that if people will chat with you on YIM, MSM, or AIM they tend to be more real.
For single guys, our experience is that there are not as many as you would think. They are usually married and not happy at home, they figure this is a good way to cheat as there's less emotional attachment involved and the likelyhood of a swinger going 'Fatal Attraction' on them is slim.
Be patient, talk to other couples about what SM's they recommend, etc.
We know many, few are worthy of talking to, but you can email us if you want some recomendations.
We also find thats it hard to find a female that can play by herdelf. Even though their profile states they are able to and ready anytime and when you contact them they brush you off, because you are not a model type body.... That is so wrong...We have alot of friends that are on the big side and they are some of the nicest and some of the best times we have had as a couple. We come to expect not to find that single female or a female that is allowed to play by herself...oh well we will keep trying.
I think UANDUS has it right.
Definitively and without question, "Participating in non-monogamous intercourse with people we meet online is the way that we discern whether or not they are 'real'".
Seriously, swinging can be much like the single dating scene. There is alot of riff-raff that anyone must sort through before finding their "gems", but that doesn't mean that it can't be fun searching.
There are flakes and posers in any social circle, including the "Great Swinging Circle of Life".
Why all of the concern about whether or not someone or a couple is "real"?
Like UANDUS stated in a round-about way...if they're "real", you'll surely know once you meet. If you never meet or are stood up, so what? There are plenty of other willing couples that you will EVENTUALLY run into and meet.
Have fun in the meantime...isn't that what swinging is all about; the fun?
Definitively and without question, "Participating in non-monogamous intercourse with people we meet online is the way that we discern whether or not they are 'real'".
Seriously, swinging can be much like the single dating scene. There is alot of riff-raff that anyone must sort through before finding their "gems", but that doesn't mean that it can't be fun searching.
There are flakes and posers in any social circle, including the "Great Swinging Circle of Life".
Why all of the concern about whether or not someone or a couple is "real"?
Like UANDUS stated in a round-about way...if they're "real", you'll surely know once you meet. If you never meet or are stood up, so what? There are plenty of other willing couples that you will EVENTUALLY run into and meet.
Have fun in the meantime...isn't that what swinging is all about; the fun?