We are wondering what everyone thinks about playing with half of a couple that you know very well. We have two couples where the females are going in for a minor operations and will be out of commission for about a month. Since we are friends with all parties they are comfortable with us playing with the males only or the female here playing alone with the males.
So when do you go beyond your normal limits as far as playing alone or with singles if they are indeed considered singles. We normally will meet with singles if they appeal to us and have no problem playing with half of a couple as long as everyone is ok with it.
So when do you go beyond your normal limits as far as playing alone or with singles if they are indeed considered singles. We normally will meet with singles if they appeal to us and have no problem playing with half of a couple as long as everyone is ok with it.
We say whatever works for you guys it what you should go with
I would have to say the same as Utah, Me and my husband have played alone and have played with just one of the other couple.
Its really what is ok between both couples.
Thumper
Its really what is ok between both couples.
Thumper
hi..if thats what you 2 desire..its fine. but do make sure its ok with the other half. if he or she says ok..go for it!!!
We have that type of a relationship with both couples. We are all in the know so there is nothing going on behind anyones back. We don`t play that way. Actually we had a married guy wanting to meet us without his wife knowing and when we said no way, he blasted us for being judgemental of him, and our profile says we are not judgemental. He justified what he does saying it is nothing more then him finding friends with similar interests that his wife does not share with him, just like if he had a fishing buddy. Guess cheating is the same as fishing in his mind. But that is a topic for another day.
We are curious as to how many would be willing to cross their line to fill sexual needs of another friend when their partner is in recovery. I know some only play with couples but would you make the exception for a close friend? Would this situation be enough for you to make an exception in your normal swinging activities? Not judging anyone, just wondering how much give their is on the rules of the general population.
We are curious as to how many would be willing to cross their line to fill sexual needs of another friend when their partner is in recovery. I know some only play with couples but would you make the exception for a close friend? Would this situation be enough for you to make an exception in your normal swinging activities? Not judging anyone, just wondering how much give their is on the rules of the general population.
We have taken time out of the lifestyle due to surgeries on both our parts, we have maintained our friendships with everyone durring those times, but if one of us is down, playtime with others is over without question. When the other is ready to come back, then its time for fun again. This is something we do together and I (Wolf) wouldn't even entertain the idea of being with someone else while my wife is sick. Thats just us though. 
We have been in the lifestyle for over 7 years and 1 of our rules from the beginning was that we would never play with only 1/2 of a couple. Thinking that would make for an awkwardness. But I am sure many of you know that the list of rules seems to get smaller and smaller as time goes on. You get more comfortable with the whole swinging idea not to mention things in life change.
Well as far as that rule, we have decided that if a couple is comfortable with only 1/2 playing, then that is their decision to make not anyone elses.
Funny that this subject come up in the forums. This would be the female 1/2 typing here. I am suffering medical issues with my back. Due to pain and medication I have extremely low sex drive (if any). Therefore because of this, I have given my better half permission and encouragement to go out on his own. We got into this lifestyle together and have enjoyed every part of it. I don't want him missing out on the fun just because I dont want to anymore.
Those of you that know us, know how bad my back is. So if anyone is looking for a "single" male that is extremely respectful (I can attest to this), drop us/him an email.
Thanks,
Hugs loving wife, Beth
Well as far as that rule, we have decided that if a couple is comfortable with only 1/2 playing, then that is their decision to make not anyone elses.
Funny that this subject come up in the forums. This would be the female 1/2 typing here. I am suffering medical issues with my back. Due to pain and medication I have extremely low sex drive (if any). Therefore because of this, I have given my better half permission and encouragement to go out on his own. We got into this lifestyle together and have enjoyed every part of it. I don't want him missing out on the fun just because I dont want to anymore.
Those of you that know us, know how bad my back is. So if anyone is looking for a "single" male that is extremely respectful (I can attest to this), drop us/him an email.
Thanks,
Hugs loving wife, Beth
We would echo the post by Wolf.. If one is out of action for WHATEVER reason, it isnt happening..
But that is our personal choice.. If you are comfortable with the 4some reverting to a 3some for whatever time, we would suggest clearing it with ALL parties concerned,, WHILE all parties concerned are together.. not one at a time, or going on blind faith that.. She says I can..
But that is our personal choice.. If you are comfortable with the 4some reverting to a 3some for whatever time, we would suggest clearing it with ALL parties concerned,, WHILE all parties concerned are together.. not one at a time, or going on blind faith that.. She says I can..
Unless I could be VERY sure of the party that is left out, I wouldn't. Sure, it could be all right but if not, will it create some sort of undercurrent friction to his/her SO and also us?
In our years of play we have had the opportunity to explore really everything we have ever wanted to do. Like most of the people here we have played with both couples and singles a like. Our only real issue with couples is it seems or has to us in the past that the male is pushing the woman to be involved, more so to tap some strange pussy with out the guilt. The reason we say this, is of our couple friends in the life only a very few are still married. Now we only play with single or married woman solo, that is our reason for doing so. These are the women who have the blessing to play either with us as a couple or solo.
All of this is for fun and the mutal physical enjoyment of others for sex, drama should never play any part in this at all!
So for us anyway, unless we are totally secure that the woman we are playing with is 110% okay as is her husband/boyfriend, we would rather not deal with that drama in our lives.
All of this is for fun and the mutal physical enjoyment of others for sex, drama should never play any part in this at all!
So for us anyway, unless we are totally secure that the woman we are playing with is 110% okay as is her husband/boyfriend, we would rather not deal with that drama in our lives.
I don't think so. There are 2 couples involved here. ALL must give consent willingly. Now, if it is a couple we know for a while and the husband or wife is out of action for a short time, play ball. OTOH, if I don't know whether the wife will get pissed or not, even if we have played with the couple AS A COUPLE, we don't. Life is difficult enough without the extra headache of having the other person come knocking on our door getting pissed.