How many women or men like to recieve anal? My wife likes it after about 10 minutes, but for that first 10 minutes she says it hurts no matter how much lube we use.
Any thoughts on the matter.
Post your favorite anal pics.
Matthew&Maria
Any thoughts on the matter.
Post your favorite anal pics.
Matthew&Maria
You have to use your fingers first so she slowly gets used to it.
Also getting drunk helps (her drunk not you)
Also getting drunk helps (her drunk not you)
Yeah, We agree, sounds like you are starting off too large. Try fingers or a slim toy to get her to relax 1st.
Stick to fingers or a small dildo as stated before....you might also try anal eze. Its a lube with a mild analgesic in it....will mildly deaden the area until she is used to it.
First of all relax and then relax your sphincter muscle. A good lube and you might want to try some anal lube or any lube specifically for anal sex and condom friendly. Condoms are almost a necessity for nal sex.. What your penis finds inside of the rectum can be very infectous, so should be used just for safety even with your SO who is and has stayed D/D forever. Go slow until she is ready and ladies you need to tell him unless you are an old hat at anal .....But then you wouldn't be reading this...now would you. Prior to penetration with your penis you would probably be wise to use a finger or two to help relax the sphincter by inserting one or two, two fingers, if possible, and slowly rotate them. I would suggest a towel, close at hand, with a germicide and or viruside before you proceed further... otherwise keeps you hands away from her pussy. All of this will help to make the experience more pleasurable for the lady and mnimize the pain... The anal lube products that are on the market have one of several local mile anastetics or analgesics to help. Typically the anticipation of the penetration makes the lady want to hold tight and if she lets the penetration begin she then tightens her sphincter thus causing penetration to be painful. The anus and thus sphincter are quite capable of open to allow for all but the largest mega dicks. So relax and have fun..
Ray
Ray
My partner absolutely loves anal sex, and she says that she comes harder and more often during anal sex than with vaginal. One of the best recommendations that I can make is that you get a Spectragels anal tool. Wow, what a difference that this one little toy has made, I can't reccomend it enough!!! You can view a picture of one here:
nawtythings.com/toys/dj0290_03.html
You can order one from dozens of locations on the internet for around 10-15 dollars. By using some lube, (Anal-eze also works well to desensitize the area when first starting out...) you can gradually work each progressively larger bulb in, and by the time that you are able to easily work the largest of the five bulbs in and out, chances are that your partner will be ready for penetration with little or no pain. Like I said, it works wonders.
Also, at the time of penetration, it may help to have the one who is receiving the penetration "push out" which will open and relax the involuntary muscle, a ring of muscle that is what usually clamps shut and is what causes anal penetration to hurt.
hope that this helps...
nawtythings.com/toys/dj0290_03.html
You can order one from dozens of locations on the internet for around 10-15 dollars. By using some lube, (Anal-eze also works well to desensitize the area when first starting out...) you can gradually work each progressively larger bulb in, and by the time that you are able to easily work the largest of the five bulbs in and out, chances are that your partner will be ready for penetration with little or no pain. Like I said, it works wonders.
Also, at the time of penetration, it may help to have the one who is receiving the penetration "push out" which will open and relax the involuntary muscle, a ring of muscle that is what usually clamps shut and is what causes anal penetration to hurt.
hope that this helps...
I\'ve found anal is something you need to do regularly to keep it comfortable. The suggestions of toys and such are probably good. I never used them, just sort of dove right in. But here\'s my two cents from a chick perspective:
You might try a different position. I\'ve found anal penetration to be easiest with the least resistance in a missionary position, with the man standing beside the bed, the woman lying on it, her legs sort of up over his shoulders. This has the added benefit of the woman easily masturbating and the man being able to watch her. Rear-entry has always been uncomfortable for me as the first position of the evening. Once we\'ve loosened things up with the missionary, it\'s easy enough to change positions.
And lube is so important. I\'ve tried the water-based ones, even the oil-based ones, and found they get sticky - and sticky friction is not a sensation you want back there! A rule of thumb on lube for anal sex: too much is almost enough.
The ONLY lube I\'ll use for anal is I-D Millenium Advanced Formula - comes in a clear bottle with a black cap and greenish label. It is a silicone-based lubricant, which is safe with condoms. The best part - it NEVER gets sticky! It stays soft and slick, virtually eliminates the bad friction, leaving only the good. The only downside is it\'s hard to wash off, but since it\'s not oily, it won\'t stain or anything, actually just leaves your skin very soft.
Best of luck!
Kat
You might try a different position. I\'ve found anal penetration to be easiest with the least resistance in a missionary position, with the man standing beside the bed, the woman lying on it, her legs sort of up over his shoulders. This has the added benefit of the woman easily masturbating and the man being able to watch her. Rear-entry has always been uncomfortable for me as the first position of the evening. Once we\'ve loosened things up with the missionary, it\'s easy enough to change positions.
And lube is so important. I\'ve tried the water-based ones, even the oil-based ones, and found they get sticky - and sticky friction is not a sensation you want back there! A rule of thumb on lube for anal sex: too much is almost enough.
The ONLY lube I\'ll use for anal is I-D Millenium Advanced Formula - comes in a clear bottle with a black cap and greenish label. It is a silicone-based lubricant, which is safe with condoms. The best part - it NEVER gets sticky! It stays soft and slick, virtually eliminates the bad friction, leaving only the good. The only downside is it\'s hard to wash off, but since it\'s not oily, it won\'t stain or anything, actually just leaves your skin very soft.
Best of luck!
Kat
With all the great suggestions posted, it seems almost impossible to add anything of value. However, for those who want maximum bang for their buck (pardon the pun), instead of \"anal-eze\" try \"extra strength Vagisil\". It has the same pain killing ingredient, benzocaine, but the concentration is twice as high, and it is about 1/2 the price. In addition, you can get Vagisil at just about any drug or grocery store, while the anal-eze can only be found at a sex shop. Regular strength Vagisil as the same concentration of benzocaine as anal-eze, and works fine if they don\'t have the extra strength.
Application wise, there are a couple of tips to remember. (1) Since anal-eze and Vagisil are both water based, they will not mix well with any oil based lubricants. Do not use any oil based lube like Vaseline BEFORE you apply the benzocaine cream. You can use an oil based lube AFTER the benzocaine has gone to work if you like. (2) Apply the cream to the INSIDE of the anus, preferably with a finger, and let it soak in before you try anything else. The benzocaine is absorbed by the tissues and will deaden the nerves in a few minutes. (3) A big AMEN to the use of a condom. It has a much smoother texture than even lubricated skin, and it is definitely safer for both parties.
One other thing, if you and your partner are wanting to experiment with back door pleasure, you may find it helps her get used to the idea if you provide some finger stimulation while you enter her vaginally. This is fairly easy if you use a side entry technique, whith one of her legs between yours which allows easy access to her anus while she also enjoys the vaginal penetration. As an added bonus, you can feel your cock inside her with your finger and this can be a thrill for you as well.
One last point, anal sex requires that she be relaxed and looking forward to the experiment. If you rush her too much the first few times, she will never relax again. Take it slow and easy and let her get used to it. Many women find it very pleasurable but this will not happen if you jam it in and she has a painfull memory to look back on every time you try in the future. Some extra time in the beginning will pay off many times over, down the road.
Intimateduo
Application wise, there are a couple of tips to remember. (1) Since anal-eze and Vagisil are both water based, they will not mix well with any oil based lubricants. Do not use any oil based lube like Vaseline BEFORE you apply the benzocaine cream. You can use an oil based lube AFTER the benzocaine has gone to work if you like. (2) Apply the cream to the INSIDE of the anus, preferably with a finger, and let it soak in before you try anything else. The benzocaine is absorbed by the tissues and will deaden the nerves in a few minutes. (3) A big AMEN to the use of a condom. It has a much smoother texture than even lubricated skin, and it is definitely safer for both parties.
One other thing, if you and your partner are wanting to experiment with back door pleasure, you may find it helps her get used to the idea if you provide some finger stimulation while you enter her vaginally. This is fairly easy if you use a side entry technique, whith one of her legs between yours which allows easy access to her anus while she also enjoys the vaginal penetration. As an added bonus, you can feel your cock inside her with your finger and this can be a thrill for you as well.
One last point, anal sex requires that she be relaxed and looking forward to the experiment. If you rush her too much the first few times, she will never relax again. Take it slow and easy and let her get used to it. Many women find it very pleasurable but this will not happen if you jam it in and she has a painfull memory to look back on every time you try in the future. Some extra time in the beginning will pay off many times over, down the road.
Intimateduo
ok well here is my response this is the mr... i love anal first of all....but i also love to give anal to women...if she is right out of the shower or you know she is clean a good rimming will very much help her relax as well as slowly inserting the finger while licking also if you want to know for sureshe is clean you can use a warm damp wash cloth which will also help relax her anus......use lube for me hand lotion works just fine i use toys on myself pretty regularly but for my normal toys all i use is water to get them in....but for the one in the picture it takes time and not gobs of lotion but quite a bit of it..it measure 11 1\\2\" long, 3\" wide, and a whopping 10\" around if you cannot picture the size take a look at like shampoo bottles such as suave family size is close to my toy i call the monster..hopefully this will help.....just take your time when inserting the penis....my mrs likes to lay on her side like in the spooning position for me to do her in the ass..
here is another one with some lotion showing....after i use this toy for a little bit i can just add water to it for use...
Nice warm iol massage on her ass help to better enjoy anal sex...i like to tongue her down so she is really relaxed and ready for alot of slow pushing till she get where she can stand it....now she even askes for me to do her anally.......L&R