I have a question that I hope that everyone can give me an opinion on. I will not name any names but my wife and I saw a pic of someone from another state and thought she looked really cute. Unfortunately I will admit we did not nitice the fact that they only converse with white people and do not wish to be contacted by other races. Anyway our intention, whether they believe it or not, was to chat and exchange communication and to essentially make a friend. I mean that's what we are here for, right?? Anyway we got a response back stating that we are only thinking with our dicks and that ( WE ARE A COUPLE AND NOT A SINGLE WOMAN. IF YOU WOULD HAVE READ OUR PROFILE, YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN THIS!! ) Again our mistake, but i would hope that if someone email someone else and they are not interested, they would simply reply with a NO THANK YOU!! I guess I would like to know how some of you have responded to someone who has emailed you and you are not interested. Do you tell them to FUCK OFF in the worst possible way or do you simply state with no misunderstanding that you are not interested in the person or couple that sent you an email. Maybe I am too hurt, upset, or just really confused. I have not been able to come on a lot since I have been a member, but my hope was really and truly to make friends and possibly have a little fun along the way. I believe it is kinda hard to find couples to hang out with that enjoy a good night of dancing, drinking, and whatever. Especially in a morman state and also since we are originally from Texas. Anyway enough venting!! Tell me what you think!! Thanks R & C
We have been politely contacted by others that do not fit what we are seeking in our profile. Because they contacted us and said, we know we are to old or whatever, it showed they did read our profile. Confidence to us represents sexy so they must feel confident in themselves to contact us so we always offer to meet. And it never hurts to network. If we don`t hit it off with someone sexually, we always think of others we know if they might be more of a match. Sounds like they might not have made the best of friends either so at least you know before you had anything vested in the friendship. Surround yourself with good people and the rest will fall into place.
yes when people have responded like that to me in stead of getting mad at them I look at it like "thank god I didnt waist a lot of time of them now I can take more time looking for someone better than them to make friends." over the last few years I have gotten told more no's than the latest bush eco bill. when i chat with them on line or via phone it is all fun till we meet face to face. so i know what i am talking about. it dont pay to get mad and pissed off over some one elses ignorance. just thank god you didnt waste a lot of time and effort into an area that was a dead end and look for some one better.
oh let me know when you found them. maybe then would like me.
oh let me know when you found them. maybe then would like me.
Could be as they were a couple, and you were only interested in the wife, he may have got a little bent..who knows..don't let it get to ya, there's plenty more out there that will be interested.
Assholes in swinging???
Surely it isn't so!
Surely it isn't so!
WELL WELL WELL WELL.....
I wonder who that could be?
Are you telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth on your part?
that would be the 1000,00 dollar question
when we write someone we make sure we read all of there profile,
and then go from there ,,WE DO NOT SEND THEM THE STANARD LETTER
IF WE WRITE THEM and want to paly,,
Subject: Someone Likes You!
((SO N SO )) has added you to their friends list. If they have a private photo album and you are an Exclusive Member, you will now be able to view it.
This however does NOT allow them to view YOUR private album. This is only a standard courtesy message sent to you by the Administrator, not this member.
and we do not write them at all if there is something in there profile that applies to us..
this will save you from a nasty letter
k & a
I wonder who that could be?
Are you telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth on your part?
that would be the 1000,00 dollar question
when we write someone we make sure we read all of there profile,
and then go from there ,,WE DO NOT SEND THEM THE STANARD LETTER
IF WE WRITE THEM and want to paly,,
Subject: Someone Likes You!
((SO N SO )) has added you to their friends list. If they have a private photo album and you are an Exclusive Member, you will now be able to view it.
This however does NOT allow them to view YOUR private album. This is only a standard courtesy message sent to you by the Administrator, not this member.
and we do not write them at all if there is something in there profile that applies to us..
this will save you from a nasty letter
k & a
As I stated before we made a mistake and missed that little part about no one but white people, but maybe its our fault for taking the someone likes you phrase as telling someone that ( hey we really like you and wish to chat and maybe see what becomes of it ). It is funny to us that people can't be here for something other than just sex. That friendships don't happen on this site and everyone here is just looking for a physical connection. We personally have spoken to several people in this site without any intention of sleeping with them and share great stories, pics, and have even gone out to clubs to just hang out and drink. Maybe we are using this site the wrong way, but this is what we have been doing since we joined and have never had a bad experience except for this person. Again I fully admit we messed up in our reading, but I just am simply stating there are kinder ways to show someone they goofed in reading your own personal interests. If anything else this will make me send two emails to someone I wish to chat with. One to say someone likes you and another to express intention so that there is no misunderstanding. As some have said so far, A LESSON LEARNED AND TIME NOT WASTED!!!!!!! LOL
ULUVBIGBLKDICK,
I've met more asshole couples than asshole single males.
-D-
I've met more asshole couples than asshole single males.
-D-
well if we see a couple and we haven't done this yet.we would write this in the letter
( we have looked at your profile and we know were not what you are looking for but we just had to write to let you know you have some awesome photo's and if this letter offends you then we are truly sorry.) this is the kind of letter that should be written exspecially if you are a couple seeking single females. its not like you are up for anything. us personally we dont like couples that are only looking for weman, that kinda leaves the man out in the cold and thats not right he should have the opion to join rather or not even if he is a voyuer to us that would mean i can fuck your wife but you cant touch mine.
a & k
( we have looked at your profile and we know were not what you are looking for but we just had to write to let you know you have some awesome photo's and if this letter offends you then we are truly sorry.) this is the kind of letter that should be written exspecially if you are a couple seeking single females. its not like you are up for anything. us personally we dont like couples that are only looking for weman, that kinda leaves the man out in the cold and thats not right he should have the opion to join rather or not even if he is a voyuer to us that would mean i can fuck your wife but you cant touch mine.
a & k
Well if it wasn't meant to be hurtful then I am sorry for taking it to that level of thought. I guess we are just really friendly and like to communicate with people whether there is playing involved or not. So I hold no grudges or bad feelings. I do hope that with this type of topic out in the open people will try to find out what others want before they assume it is just for sex. I was actually interested in the pics and prints you had and the fact you had mentioned being in magazines. I thought that was really impressive and you deserve to be in them. So I do wish you the best and sorry for the mis-communication
apology accepted,,
k & a
k & a
Just so everyone can see that civil people can fix any misunderstanding with a little communication, ( adult communication ). It does make me happy to not have enemies in my life and just be a free spirit with other free spirits. I am glad to end this forum with the knowledge that I still got to chat with someone in the same lifestyle, even though it started off funky!! I say to all meet as many people as you can and enjoy life to the fullest. Don't forget to have a little fun in between!!! LOL P.S.--- And you do take very beautiful pics. I think you cheated by being a professional and looking soo good!!! LOL
thank you ,
so did you like the other photos lol,
so did you like the other photos lol,
I really do. I can see how you got into those magazines. They are not simple pics. There was a lot of thought that went into them. Very professional!!
I hope to soon increase my library of photos and add as much creativity to them as you have to yours.
I hope to soon increase my library of photos and add as much creativity to them as you have to yours.I remember not long ago a few postings where people made it clear they view your profile and add you to their friends list to mark it until both man and woman can view it together. I don`t know why anyone would see the need to send a nasty letter because someone wants to be their friend. We get a lot of these adds and some are real and some just idiots looking for more pics. We have never sent a nasty letter because someone added us to their friends list.
We agree Kristal we have found way too many cpls that want one sided play I can touch your wife "but mine is off limits". When we find those cpls we just say "NEXT" lol. We had one cpl onanother site contact us after we had met at a party and then he had the gall to contact us and ask if "Sharon" would help him pleasure his wife Ithen told him we all play or no play and then they asked why we blocked them (they made a new profile and contacted us again) then when I told them we all play or no play he said they did not feel we were compatible (WTF) then why do you keep contacting us ahhh! we get it you want her but not me we told them to take a flying leap!
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
oh we hear you,
we met up with a couple one time we did the usual wine n dine.
we talked about the dos n don'ts, then we got a room ,
well the girls played as thats what they only wanted to do you know softswap,
well his girl got up to go to the bathroom and as soon as the door closed
he slid up behind the wife as she was lying on her side talking to me,
and tried to put it in her,the wife turn's to him and said this is not what
we agreed upon and he was to stop,and he did. we let his wife know what just heppen
as we had got up out of bed,and she asked why we were up.
and you know what he had the neve to say,,(( I DID NOT DO THAT ))
THIS IS ONE OF THE REASON WE HAVE A PROBLEM WITH with couples
that look for just girls to play with and softswap.,
and this is just one of or bad experience with the male of the couple of softswap..
a & k
we met up with a couple one time we did the usual wine n dine.
we talked about the dos n don'ts, then we got a room ,
well the girls played as thats what they only wanted to do you know softswap,
well his girl got up to go to the bathroom and as soon as the door closed
he slid up behind the wife as she was lying on her side talking to me,
and tried to put it in her,the wife turn's to him and said this is not what
we agreed upon and he was to stop,and he did. we let his wife know what just heppen
as we had got up out of bed,and she asked why we were up.
and you know what he had the neve to say,,(( I DID NOT DO THAT ))
THIS IS ONE OF THE REASON WE HAVE A PROBLEM WITH with couples
that look for just girls to play with and softswap.,
and this is just one of or bad experience with the male of the couple of softswap..
a & k
It definitely helps to read the entire profile to help avoid sending e-mails to people that wouldn't want to hear from you in the first place. As for making friends not everyone on here is looking to make virtual friends. We usually reply with a, "Thank you for your time". Seems to be the easiest. Be the bigger person and move on.
Kristylynn...
As the male in a couple that is softswap, I guess you picked the wrong softswap couples to play with, and with all the couples we know, thats a very inaccurate generalization of softswap couples. Just fyi.
As the male in a couple that is softswap, I guess you picked the wrong softswap couples to play with, and with all the couples we know, thats a very inaccurate generalization of softswap couples. Just fyi.
It's referred to as a handshake. It means, someone extends their hand in interest and allows you to see their private stuff, then if you add them, they can see you. It's actually a very effective way to manage users.
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Will after reading tis post and readding your profile let us ask you this. So lets say you meet a couple and you be come freinds and prity soon it leads to the bed room then what would the other man get to do. Just sit there and whatch?
Racists tend not to be nice people. Are you really shocked that a racist would be rude? People only have the power to hurt you if you allow them to. Blow it off dude
<blue>dont let em get you down</blue>
What about other forms of bigotry like anti-gays? HMMM?
-D-
-D-
well.. we have done it a couple of times.. Seen some cute pics, and we sent email saying that.. wanted to say hi, and let you know how cutes your pics are. So far, never got any bad replay.. everyone has been nice.
The vast majority of people who have not been interested after I've e-Mailed them just choose to not respond.
I have, however, encountered some who just feel it's their civic duty to make a jerk of themselves and respond with a nasty comment or 12.
Why the nastiness?
If I don't hear back from you - I know you're not interested.
Even if you ARE a jerk - there's no need to prove it.
But then - thankfully - there are those who respond in a civilized way, whether they have an interest in communicating (or more) or not.
I have, however, encountered some who just feel it's their civic duty to make a jerk of themselves and respond with a nasty comment or 12.
Why the nastiness?
If I don't hear back from you - I know you're not interested.
Even if you ARE a jerk - there's no need to prove it.
But then - thankfully - there are those who respond in a civilized way, whether they have an interest in communicating (or more) or not.