Friends came to us with this and we want to see what everyone here thinks. They were contacted by a couple on another site and met the couple for dinner but after talking found out the other couple is new and just testing the waters. The other couple had some bad experiences when meeting until they met our friends. Six weeks later the other couple wants to meet again with our friends. The wife of the other couple has been in the lifestyle in the past but not her new husband and she told our friends he needs to be nudged a bit.
Our friends are very good people and don`t have a problem being friends with someone not in the lifestyle but they don`t want to be forcing anything on anyone not ready for it. From the lifestyle end they are running out of patience with this couple but are still open to being friends outside the lifestyle.
We were all newbies once so should we try to introduce new couples to the lifestyle or since they both may not be at the same level should our friends back off. Does this type of situation keep you from meeting newbies and if so, when are we no longer considered newbies. If in their place, what would you do?
Our friends are very good people and don`t have a problem being friends with someone not in the lifestyle but they don`t want to be forcing anything on anyone not ready for it. From the lifestyle end they are running out of patience with this couple but are still open to being friends outside the lifestyle.
We were all newbies once so should we try to introduce new couples to the lifestyle or since they both may not be at the same level should our friends back off. Does this type of situation keep you from meeting newbies and if so, when are we no longer considered newbies. If in their place, what would you do?
Your friends may just want to call them up and talk with the "him" and say you are invited over for a play time. This gets it all on the table. He has the option to say "oh yeah" or just pass on the invite. If they pass on the invite then from that time they can do the vanilla things as friends. It is up to the new people to deceide if they want to try it out.
Nothing wrong with new people. Everyone is new sometime. We enjoy meeting people that are new. We usually meet at our house so they can talk about any subject and ask all the questions on their minds. We usually tell people that there is no pressure to play and it will move at their speed. Usually everyone feels much more comfortable and the evening ends in the hot tub.
In any case... tell your friends to just have fun and enjoy whatever happens. Just our 2cents on the subject
Nothing wrong with new people. Everyone is new sometime. We enjoy meeting people that are new. We usually meet at our house so they can talk about any subject and ask all the questions on their minds. We usually tell people that there is no pressure to play and it will move at their speed. Usually everyone feels much more comfortable and the evening ends in the hot tub.
In any case... tell your friends to just have fun and enjoy whatever happens. Just our 2cents on the subject