I have come to realize there are fake people on here. We started talkeing to this couple and we seemed to get along great and then when i started asking about "the lifestyle" they said they have dappled but are not into it they just wanna meet some new people. The girl is listed as bi but admits she dosent like girls. But that it helps them make new friends. I am frustrated because me and my husband really want to meet a nice couple and well obviously get to know them in many ways. We still have not found a couple to play with. Just a few teases. I was told to try adding more pics and we did and still nothing. Its just frustrating ya know... Flaky people trying to tease should not be on this web site..... ok thanks for letting me vent i feel better now
Well between the bi-woman that isn't bi. and the single female that isn't single it can be discouraging. But just be patient, there really are some good people on here.
it is very true im glad i am not the only one who notices this thanks for the support
We have to disagree with you DOUCETS, as we have found more REAL and GENUINE people on this site then anyothers we have been on. In fact we send many of the real ones from the other sites we are on and meet to this one, to build up the REAL people ratio. LOL
Are they flaky or just not interested and don't know how to tell the other person they either don't have attraction, don't want to play, and or don't connect with you. Dunno but we find that in people, not that they are posers or flaky, but just aren't so good in respectful communication.
As TEMPTED2TRI said, just be patient, we have been on here for over 2 years and have not played with a lot, but have enjoyed the ones and connections we have made and continue to make. Good luck!
Are they flaky or just not interested and don't know how to tell the other person they either don't have attraction, don't want to play, and or don't connect with you. Dunno but we find that in people, not that they are posers or flaky, but just aren't so good in respectful communication.
As TEMPTED2TRI said, just be patient, we have been on here for over 2 years and have not played with a lot, but have enjoyed the ones and connections we have made and continue to make. Good luck!
Have to agree with GROUPTHERAPISTS, Swingular has the least amount of flaky people over any other site we've belonged to. Not to mention that Utah in general has had fewer flakes as well over any other state that we've lived in.
Sure there are always exceptions and bad-apples wherever you go, but truly...things COULD be much worse...
Be patient and good luck!
J&L
Sure there are always exceptions and bad-apples wherever you go, but truly...things COULD be much worse...
Be patient and good luck!
J&L
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to The Lifestyle. This is one of those little things that we real people need to watch out for. Flakes and fakes are endemic to any dating scene and even to non-dating engagements.
We've been in this lifestyle on it for 10 years and this is what we had learned:
Internet profiles, some are genuine, some are not but there is no way to find out until we communicate and talk. So, for us, internet profiles are merely a "tool" to meet potential friends. Profiles with tasteful pictures and a reasonable amount of sound information will get our attention. But our first information exchanges would be to verify that information. And we would want them to know who we are and what we are looking for to avoid time waste. If someone is real and driven to meet you they'll make an honest effort to make themselves available to meet. We would not leave our house to meet another couple until we had already exchanged a few recent non-nude pics, chatted and the girls had a friendly conversation over the phone. That way we avoid surprises (or scares). Time is too valuable to waste nowadays, at least for us.
We do have sexy pics in our profile, they are to be shared with likeminded couples Hopefully they'll spark their interest on us. However, we are against pointless and excessive picture trading. If someone need to see a million pics of us doing it in all kinds of sex positions, I'll direct them to "the internet", that place is full of porn. Actually, if we feel like someone is focusing too much on the pic and looks thing, we may think they are incompatible with us. And maybe with The Lifestyle overall. We believe that looks are part of the process of agreeing to be with someone however, it is only 25% of the whole deal.
DOUCETS, I know you posted this a while back, hope things are working out better for you.
We've been in this lifestyle on it for 10 years and this is what we had learned:
Internet profiles, some are genuine, some are not but there is no way to find out until we communicate and talk. So, for us, internet profiles are merely a "tool" to meet potential friends. Profiles with tasteful pictures and a reasonable amount of sound information will get our attention. But our first information exchanges would be to verify that information. And we would want them to know who we are and what we are looking for to avoid time waste. If someone is real and driven to meet you they'll make an honest effort to make themselves available to meet. We would not leave our house to meet another couple until we had already exchanged a few recent non-nude pics, chatted and the girls had a friendly conversation over the phone. That way we avoid surprises (or scares). Time is too valuable to waste nowadays, at least for us.
We do have sexy pics in our profile, they are to be shared with likeminded couples Hopefully they'll spark their interest on us. However, we are against pointless and excessive picture trading. If someone need to see a million pics of us doing it in all kinds of sex positions, I'll direct them to "the internet", that place is full of porn. Actually, if we feel like someone is focusing too much on the pic and looks thing, we may think they are incompatible with us. And maybe with The Lifestyle overall. We believe that looks are part of the process of agreeing to be with someone however, it is only 25% of the whole deal.
DOUCETS, I know you posted this a while back, hope things are working out better for you.