Hi all. Sincere question here.
About 11 years ago I was diagnosed with testicular cancer, the same kind as Lance Armstrong. In fact it was reading the news about his diagnosis that prompted me to go get myself checked since I had the same symptoms Armstrong had.
The course of action when you test positive for testicular cancer is to remove the offending ball ASAP. Before you even have a chance to think about it. Which is probably for the best, considering how men get attached to the boys. I was diagnosed on a Tuesday and lost my boy on Thursday. Usually when you have what they call a radical orchiectomy they will replace your missing gonad with a prosthesis. At least that's what they do EXCEPT for the period of time when I was diagnosed and treated. It was in the middle of the silicone breast implant scare and they had removed testicular prosthesis from the market for a couple of years. If they had been available they'd have thrown one in free of charge. And of course insurance would have paid for most of it.
To be honest, I do miss having two, but not enough to warrant the $3-4000 it would take to have a prosthesis put in since it's now an elective surgery for me. Wifey isn't bothered by it. She just pays more attention to the one I still have. I make jokes about it (You'll cum faster cuz I'm much more streamlined now... Yah, well I'm only half-nuts... ).
It's never bothered me much in the past, but now that we're meeting more people in the lifestyle and are beginning to get more involved I'm going to admit to having some worries about how my distinguishing characteristic will be accepted. So I'm asking you women out there, what do think? No big deal? It's not like I had a mastectomy, which is far more damaging to someone's body image. Or would it be worth it to save my $'s for a replacement?
BTW, If I do get an implant, I'm thinking about having a Magic 8 Ball installed.
About 11 years ago I was diagnosed with testicular cancer, the same kind as Lance Armstrong. In fact it was reading the news about his diagnosis that prompted me to go get myself checked since I had the same symptoms Armstrong had.
The course of action when you test positive for testicular cancer is to remove the offending ball ASAP. Before you even have a chance to think about it. Which is probably for the best, considering how men get attached to the boys. I was diagnosed on a Tuesday and lost my boy on Thursday. Usually when you have what they call a radical orchiectomy they will replace your missing gonad with a prosthesis. At least that's what they do EXCEPT for the period of time when I was diagnosed and treated. It was in the middle of the silicone breast implant scare and they had removed testicular prosthesis from the market for a couple of years. If they had been available they'd have thrown one in free of charge. And of course insurance would have paid for most of it.
To be honest, I do miss having two, but not enough to warrant the $3-4000 it would take to have a prosthesis put in since it's now an elective surgery for me. Wifey isn't bothered by it. She just pays more attention to the one I still have. I make jokes about it (You'll cum faster cuz I'm much more streamlined now... Yah, well I'm only half-nuts... ).
It's never bothered me much in the past, but now that we're meeting more people in the lifestyle and are beginning to get more involved I'm going to admit to having some worries about how my distinguishing characteristic will be accepted. So I'm asking you women out there, what do think? No big deal? It's not like I had a mastectomy, which is far more damaging to someone's body image. Or would it be worth it to save my $'s for a replacement?
BTW, If I do get an implant, I'm thinking about having a Magic 8 Ball installed.
If it bothers YOU, then consider it. Don't ever do an elective surgery to please ANYone else.
As for whether I think it will matter to potential playmates, I guess that would depend on the playmate. It probably won't bother most but might bother some. Not very helpful I suppose but true? What then? Are there going to be those who mention one size looks different than the other. There is always something that ALL of us feel self conscious about.
If you feel it will make a difference to you and your confidence when meeting or playing with others, look into it. Otherwise, be glad you're only half-nuts. Most of us are completely nuts so you're already ahead of the game.
As for whether I think it will matter to potential playmates, I guess that would depend on the playmate. It probably won't bother most but might bother some. Not very helpful I suppose but true? What then? Are there going to be those who mention one size looks different than the other. There is always something that ALL of us feel self conscious about.
If you feel it will make a difference to you and your confidence when meeting or playing with others, look into it. Otherwise, be glad you're only half-nuts. Most of us are completely nuts so you're already ahead of the game.
I would say i dont have a problem with it at all...
In my mind if were getting down to it, as long as it all still works and you know how to work it.
Then we will be just fine.
I dont think you have anything to worrie about. Most of us are here to Try new things and injoy somthing diffrent. Well hon your somthing New and that will make you stand out, But i think in a good way...
Thumper
In my mind if were getting down to it, as long as it all still works and you know how to work it.
Then we will be just fine.
I dont think you have anything to worrie about. Most of us are here to Try new things and injoy somthing diffrent. Well hon your somthing New and that will make you stand out, But i think in a good way...
Thumper
Realize your question was for the ladies but felled compelled to share an opinion anyway. I've only had one since I was 8 yrs. old, hasn't seemed to have bothered much in the last 52 years & very few of the ladies seem to notice or comment on it except in curiosity occasionally. Realize growing up without one is not the same as losing one at 36 but think it's more about what it does to your head than those you play with. I've been in this lifestyle off & on since 30 and it has not caused me a moments notice that I was aware of.
Well my wife has a scar from her open heart surgery she had when she was 3 years old. Because she is fine with the scar and pays no attention to it most others never even notice it. And if we tell them about it they don`t believe us till they see it. I realize a scar is much different from your situation but the point is if you are ok with it then more then likely everyone else will be fine too. Relax and enjoy those that are fine with it and let them enjoy you.
Thanks for the responses, everyone. I am fine with my extra roomy sac, honest. For example the one time we had an experience that reached the point where a woman was going to be close enough to see my singularity I completely forgot about it until it was too late. She didn't say anything about it and I suspect she never noticed the difference, too. I meant to tell her about it first, but things moved so quickly!
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Rodney: I guess I should have known there'd be more than one of us out there. Thanks for telling me what you've experienced.
NudistCple: I have a nice big scar on my abdomen, too. But it's funny, that doesn't bother me at all. Something about scars being cool, I think. Well, that and the fact that it's healed very well and is hardly noticeable. Too bad you two live in Florida, I'd love to compare scars. heh
Sugar and Thumper. Thanks for letting me know your perspectives. I was going to ask if you'd prefer being told about it up front, but then I reread Thumper's post and realized it could be an advantage to be VERY upfront about it.
I'm thinking I need to have a yellow t-shirt made that says, "Wanna see what I have in common with Lance Armstrong?"
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Rodney: I guess I should have known there'd be more than one of us out there. Thanks for telling me what you've experienced.
NudistCple: I have a nice big scar on my abdomen, too. But it's funny, that doesn't bother me at all. Something about scars being cool, I think. Well, that and the fact that it's healed very well and is hardly noticeable. Too bad you two live in Florida, I'd love to compare scars. heh
Sugar and Thumper. Thanks for letting me know your perspectives. I was going to ask if you'd prefer being told about it up front, but then I reread Thumper's post and realized it could be an advantage to be VERY upfront about it.
I'm thinking I need to have a yellow t-shirt made that says, "Wanna see what I have in common with Lance Armstrong?"
If I liked somebody enough that I wanted to get naked and show off my big thighs and fat ass.... I promise you I would never ever care if he was singular... Every person has something about themselves that they either do not like or wish was different. The fact that you are healthy and alive - that is really all that matters. It would never ever be an issue to me.
Alot of us have imperfections, and yeah its strange when peeps see my scars on my chest,(9 of them from surgeries..lol) so far, it hasn't been a prob at all, one of or best friends is in a wheelchair and we always have a fantastic time! so here's my comming out pic..In my opinion, be proud! Our scars and even losing a testicle it just proves how we go through awful times, and we overcome it! ..and were still here!
MY take on it is if people you meet are that superficial why would you want to be with them anyway?
I like real people - and the type of person they are is truly the most important thing...
Pamela
I like real people - and the type of person they are is truly the most important thing...
Pamela
Yup, what every body else said. We've known ppl who were totally weird about their scars or some other imperfection about themselves and honestly hearing about it over and over is a huge turn off. If you feel compelled to share it with someone before you get together with them, go for it, but chances are pretty good they aren't going to really care that much. If they do well, that says more about them than it does about you.
As far as me personally, since you asked for a woman's perspective, never been with a guy who only has one, but if it were a guy who I was attracted to that fact wouldn't make any difference to me.
-SG
As far as me personally, since you asked for a woman's perspective, never been with a guy who only has one, but if it were a guy who I was attracted to that fact wouldn't make any difference to me.
-SG
Wolf,
I'm very glad to see you're doing well. We met briefly back in March. No way I'm trading scars with you, you win!
Seriously, I'm glad you've come through your troubles and are still flying high.
I'm very glad to see you're doing well. We met briefly back in March. No way I'm trading scars with you, you win!
Seriously, I'm glad you've come through your troubles and are still flying high.
My husband had lost one when he was 12 due to his bycicle , It makes no difference to him or I and in the lifestyle nobody has ever said anything I dont know about yours but I didnt really pay any attention when we first got together that he was missing it until he told me . Also if they do have a issue then they arent worth it anyway.
I hope I was clear enough in my original post that despite the fact that I miss the unit, it's really never bothered me. Like I said, definitely not enough to undergo the knife to stick a rubber ball in my scrotum.
All the responses I've received both in this thread and offline have shown me being concerned about how it's perceived are definitely in my own head.
I'm not going to bring it up again. I'm perfectly happy to remain the way life has made me.
All the responses I've received both in this thread and offline have shown me being concerned about how it's perceived are definitely in my own head.
I'm not going to bring it up again. I'm perfectly happy to remain the way life has made me.
Although our preDICKiment is a touch different, it is still a slightly noticeble oddity. I have never thought that it would be something to bring up. But after reading everyones responses I felt like we should share. It stems from one of the most horrific boys will be boys stories I have ever heard. But fortunatley both friends are still around to tell the tale. Picture this.... Two kids on a motor bike crossing over a rail road bridge beneath a cold river. Something goes terribly wrong, bike and all go down a good fifteen foot drop. Neither of them can remember the exact details. Long story short: My poor hubbys balls are pinned between the bike and ice cold river rocks! Two testis are now three. Not completley of course but enough to see and feel the difference. It took me awhile to get used his third pal. But now I barely notice it. It's just a little reminder to not take things for granted. A few inches in a different direction could have been a whole lot worse!