My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for over 15 years, and this is the first time I have encountered this problem.
Recently, we hosted a party that went horribly wrong. Well, maybe not horribly. But it was still a terrible night. It was a small get together with 6 couples attending. The party was supposed to start at 7, and by 7:30, there were only 2 other couples at the house. The other three couples arrived at 9:30 and things were starting to get moving. Then, out of nowhere, 4 of the couples left at 10. I mean they practically RAN out the door. The remaining couple stayed and helped us clean up and they left too.
OK, everyone has been to a bad party, or hosted one, right? Well, I am having trouble getting over this one. Last night we were invited by another couple to go to a house party on the coast. There were about 20 people there and some very sexy women. The fun started by 9 and things were looking good. What was I doing? Sitting on the balcony listening to the ocean. I couldn't bring myself to talk to any of the ladies there. My wife and I left by 11 and went home.
Now, I'm not the shy, wallflower type. In my job, I talk to people I have never met all day long. And I love doing it. I've been told I'm funny, and that in bed, I can definitely hold my own (so to speak). So what is wrong with me? Am I developing a case of terminal shyness at age 46? Or am I just gun-shy and becoming neurotic?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Recently, we hosted a party that went horribly wrong. Well, maybe not horribly. But it was still a terrible night. It was a small get together with 6 couples attending. The party was supposed to start at 7, and by 7:30, there were only 2 other couples at the house. The other three couples arrived at 9:30 and things were starting to get moving. Then, out of nowhere, 4 of the couples left at 10. I mean they practically RAN out the door. The remaining couple stayed and helped us clean up and they left too.
OK, everyone has been to a bad party, or hosted one, right? Well, I am having trouble getting over this one. Last night we were invited by another couple to go to a house party on the coast. There were about 20 people there and some very sexy women. The fun started by 9 and things were looking good. What was I doing? Sitting on the balcony listening to the ocean. I couldn't bring myself to talk to any of the ladies there. My wife and I left by 11 and went home.
Now, I'm not the shy, wallflower type. In my job, I talk to people I have never met all day long. And I love doing it. I've been told I'm funny, and that in bed, I can definitely hold my own (so to speak). So what is wrong with me? Am I developing a case of terminal shyness at age 46? Or am I just gun-shy and becoming neurotic?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Maybe you were still kinda in a funk about your party not going over well? I know that if a gathering I planned went down hill like that, I'd be a little aloof. Maybe you just weren't feelin the group? There are so many things that would make ME painfully shy, don't let it get to you. Get back on the horse..so to speak. (I'm a newbie...I know about shyness, lol)