Why is this such a hard concept? We recently have been approached by many people, both couples and single men who do not have pics...in their public or private sections. Now we understand the necessity to be dicreet (that is what the private pics are for) and we understand that occassionally we all get nervous that a vanilla friend, coworker or boss may have found us on here, and we yank all of our pics off for a while till it all "dies down."
However, if you are going to approach people on this site for the first time without pics, you are going to find your chances significantly lessoned to hook up with people. Let's all face it, we are on a SEX site, looking for people we will want to potentially have sex with, therefore it is reasonable to assume there must be a physical connection/attraction. Correct? and OF COURSE we hope to make friends on here beyond sex...so let's not turn this into a "what are we on here for, to make friends or for recreational sex, post."
I am on a rant about this mostly because today we got an email from someone slamming me for asking for pics...and to be fair to this person, it is possible he was more upset by how the pics were asked for. The response from Mr. Hottie was, "Need to see pics in order to even consider it." Now, while this may come across as a bit harsh and there are probably better ways to ask, why in the hell are people responding to bootie calls without pics? There must be other couples on here that get tired of having to ask for pics, right? Send a pic with the response if there aren't any in your photo albums! For hell's sake!
Now here is why I am mad, this guy assumed that I, Mrs Hottie, had written it, when it was actually Mr. Hottie responding, but this guy attacked me by saying that I think that I am all that, calling me a bitch and saying that is probably why I got divorced in the first place...blah blah. I responded in the nicest way I could after being personally attacked and he still came back with an even bigger attack and then left off with, it's too bad cuz my girl would have rocked her world." LMFAO WHATEVER.
For those of you who know us and love us
I gues you can vouch that we are actually really pretty nice people.
People, this is a sex site...even on a regular dating site, you need pics. Post your pics, if you are afraid of people finding you one here (understandable) then put them in your private pics are be careful who you add as friends...at the very least send a pic as an attachment.
Now, I am going to change my profile to say if you don't have pics or can't send one, don't bother, because obviously he read my profile enough to know I have a ex husband, but he sure didn't have the courtesy to send a pic.
Thanks for letting me rant.
Mrs. Hottie
However, if you are going to approach people on this site for the first time without pics, you are going to find your chances significantly lessoned to hook up with people. Let's all face it, we are on a SEX site, looking for people we will want to potentially have sex with, therefore it is reasonable to assume there must be a physical connection/attraction. Correct? and OF COURSE we hope to make friends on here beyond sex...so let's not turn this into a "what are we on here for, to make friends or for recreational sex, post."
I am on a rant about this mostly because today we got an email from someone slamming me for asking for pics...and to be fair to this person, it is possible he was more upset by how the pics were asked for. The response from Mr. Hottie was, "Need to see pics in order to even consider it." Now, while this may come across as a bit harsh and there are probably better ways to ask, why in the hell are people responding to bootie calls without pics? There must be other couples on here that get tired of having to ask for pics, right? Send a pic with the response if there aren't any in your photo albums! For hell's sake!
Now here is why I am mad, this guy assumed that I, Mrs Hottie, had written it, when it was actually Mr. Hottie responding, but this guy attacked me by saying that I think that I am all that, calling me a bitch and saying that is probably why I got divorced in the first place...blah blah. I responded in the nicest way I could after being personally attacked and he still came back with an even bigger attack and then left off with, it's too bad cuz my girl would have rocked her world." LMFAO WHATEVER.
For those of you who know us and love us
I gues you can vouch that we are actually really pretty nice people. People, this is a sex site...even on a regular dating site, you need pics. Post your pics, if you are afraid of people finding you one here (understandable) then put them in your private pics are be careful who you add as friends...at the very least send a pic as an attachment.
Now, I am going to change my profile to say if you don't have pics or can't send one, don't bother, because obviously he read my profile enough to know I have a ex husband, but he sure didn't have the courtesy to send a pic.
Thanks for letting me rant.
Mrs. Hottie
Last weekends party had the idea of a profile party being held where we all would pose for pics with each other, faces protected for those wanting so. Someone brought up the idea that they had signed a morality clause and if they were ever found on a swingers site they would be terminated from their job. They said the company actually has people surfing the various sites looking for employees with pics. I bring this up to defend those that do not want to post pics. However, pics are a must before we meet anyone so there should be no problem in sending a pic to a private e-mail address.
Blindlove: I totally agree with that one too!
Why does this have to be so hard? It makes it uncomfortable for everyone involved if you have to decline after you have had to ASK for pics. If the pics were there in the first place (or attached with origanal email) it would save everyone the awkwardness of turning down and of being turned down.
And let's face it...every single one of us on this site has at some some point said, "No freaking way!" when looking at people on here. Ok maybe not out loud but at least to yourself! LOL
I sure don't think I am better than anyone else on this site...just because I expect pics. Hell, We posted our pics, and we fully expect people to look at them and decide based on that first impression. I am sure we do not meet every person's criteria for what they are looking for. Again, that's why we have pics and profiles...so we can "screen" each other.
Boy I am opinionated tonight! LOL
Mrs. Hottie
Why does this have to be so hard? It makes it uncomfortable for everyone involved if you have to decline after you have had to ASK for pics. If the pics were there in the first place (or attached with origanal email) it would save everyone the awkwardness of turning down and of being turned down.
And let's face it...every single one of us on this site has at some some point said, "No freaking way!" when looking at people on here. Ok maybe not out loud but at least to yourself! LOL
I sure don't think I am better than anyone else on this site...just because I expect pics. Hell, We posted our pics, and we fully expect people to look at them and decide based on that first impression. I am sure we do not meet every person's criteria for what they are looking for. Again, that's why we have pics and profiles...so we can "screen" each other.
Boy I am opinionated tonight! LOL
Mrs. Hottie
No pics..no chance.
Period.
J
Period.
J
I completely agree with you Mrs Hottie. Some of the biggest scammers I ever met on this or any other site came in the form of a profile without a pic.
First, blindlove, most employers can let you go for any reason they want. Unless you have a union contract that says they must have cause. Many of those have a
Pics are a huge part of successfully meeting someone on ANY dating site. It has been proven that your chances are 80% greater. Everyone understands the need to be discrete for some people but there are things you can do to get around that. First, of all, you are on a swingers dating site and anyone else who is on here, is here for the same reason. The chance of someone stumbling onto this site and finding you is very, very slim. There are thousands of adult sites out there. Honestly, they would have to have some presumption of you being on here in the first place to even get close. With that said though, that chance can still worry some people but that is why we have private and custom photo albums. It allows you to pick and choose who you wish to view your photos. So unless you use your real names or a familiar username on your profile, there is no way anyone can relate your profile to your real person. As a second measure of protection, cut off the picture at your heads or blur out your faces. Then as you move along in your contact, send an attachment with just your faces.
There are plenty of ways you can protect yourself yet still allow someone to see your photos. But if you still believe that someone is going to catch you with those slim chances, then maybe your best bet is to not even create profiles on a dating site. Because without pics, you probably won't meet many people.
There are plenty of ways you can protect yourself yet still allow someone to see your photos. But if you still believe that someone is going to catch you with those slim chances, then maybe your best bet is to not even create profiles on a dating site. Because without pics, you probably won't meet many people.
i'm sorry if a vanilla friend, coworker or boss may have found us on here well then they can't be to vanilla!!! If someone else i know happens to see me here then I would hope as a friend they would try to be just a respectful but it makes no since to pull your pics they have already seen them!! And people this is not just a sex site it is more a community to meet people in the lifestyle, so you can make friends with them not just sex yes as we all know there is sex involed but is that all we are all about!!! But i agree a pic is a must at least even when you send someone an email you can atleast attach your photo so they can see what you look like!
NOTE ; i will corect spelling later i don't have the time now .lol. In life understanding people and reacting to situations with wisdom and right calculations are the key to success, this lifestyle known as swinging wile extreme pleasing can be the ultimate death rope to your future socially ,weather you want to admit it or live in denial ,lets face it this lifestyle is not accepted as a conventionel way to make friends or love yet so many swing daily i cant even think who actual does not swing the feeling the adventure the excitement but going public with your identification pic. on the web reviling that you are a fucking bitch who is willing to fuck another spouce will demolish most opportunities and respect a socalld decent person can accomplish in life ,that is a fact ! how can you look in the eyes of a teenage son or daughter who browse the web for fun to find out what sex is all about and find out that dad and mom are looking for other spouses to fuck and get fuckd leaving them to wonder if thay whare fatherd by the dad thay live and know! to me this lacks even a standard level of intelligence ,the only people who post pic. here have as far as thay concern nothing to loze in life at all or lack the natural level of intelligence most people are to have, to me as i see it this or all other adult or sex search sites is only MAYBE GET HOOKED it has only one gain and thats also not so sure personly most of my fuck partners i found in person the first time i met them in diff. places such as in shops hotels beachs etc. other then a sex search web sites but me and most others have unlimted things to loze its to much to start counting them , in my view the most elite and exciting stable people you will find dont have any photos and will not post go ahead meet them in person,you are the only one lozeing out on a potentel sexy and maybe noted wealthy person, most of us have the basic this is only a sport or hobby or extra sex drive .lol." for your info. we still get good hook ups here on this site without photo" .
Could not agree more with you Kim and Tim, and before I give my 2 cents you two are great ~ . No pic no meet. When we first got into this life style we met a cpl with no pic. Wow almost made us quite. It was not what we were looking for. We hate the ones that add you to there buddy list but dont have pics. If you want to see the privite pics then have some to show back. An if you want to meet us dont just have a pic of your dick or pussy. We like the whole package. We dont have face pics on our public because I the hubby got turned in at work. No I didnt get fired but they were think about it. I told them go ahead so that I can retire on there money. So we understand not having a face pic on the public side. But if you want to meet us your going to have to show yourself. If we like you wont be dissapointed.
~ . No pic no meet. When we first got into this life style we met a cpl with no pic. Wow almost made us quite. It was not what we were looking for. We hate the ones that add you to there buddy list but dont have pics. If you want to see the privite pics then have some to show back. An if you want to meet us dont just have a pic of your dick or pussy. We like the whole package. We dont have face pics on our public because I the hubby got turned in at work. No I didnt get fired but they were think about it. I told them go ahead so that I can retire on there money. So we understand not having a face pic on the public side. But if you want to meet us your going to have to show yourself. If we like you wont be dissapointed.Were with the "No pic..no meet" crowd..I guess if that means we miss out on the "wealthy no pic people", oh well, their loss, we'll hang out here in the ghetto, hookin up with the picture peeps..lol
Exactly WOLF. We don't care which demographics the no-pic-people come from, if they don't care enough to even include the cheezy and cliche black bar across the eyes pics...what value are they to us? Even after e-mails we've run into couples that are unwilling to give up any pics for God knows what reason.
Assuredly, we've lost interest by that time.
There are so many other couples that are forthcoming with pics that wasting time with the evasive-ones is simply not on our agenda.
Assuredly, we've lost interest by that time.
There are so many other couples that are forthcoming with pics that wasting time with the evasive-ones is simply not on our agenda.
I don't care if you choose to not have a photo on your profile... However if you are contacting me attach one. I state it in my profile and just like it has already been stated - not picture no way. My pictures do not show my face
I should add a female might not have as much issue with pic. as a male depends on her agenda :h
Spermint- we treat all the same when it comes to no pics, whether they are single female, single male, or a couple. A single female has no better chance with us than anyone else if they don't have pics.
Also, when it comes to this site being a great place to meet people, you are right about that. We have met some of our best friends on this site. Although we don't play with all of our friends. It's still about meeting people, being attracted physically, then mentally and then everything has to click with everyone in order for the sexual stuff to happen. But it's still that first one, physical attraction that kicks it ALL off!
I wish I could respond more to your comments but I had a hard time figuring out where the coherent thoughts were in your post. No offense. You said something about time, so maybe that's why it was kind of hard to understand.
Like the administrtors said...your chances are much greater with pics no matter what kind of site you are on.
I'm not dogging on people who choose not to post pics...I totally get the discretion thing, although I have to agree with Purple on this one too...if someone you know catches you on a site like this, chances are they have their own "dirty little secret" they hope you will keep for them as well. Although it isn't ALWAYS the case. Still, attach a pic!
Since I started this thread I have received 8 more people contacting us with no pics and I have even changed my profile to say something about it! I admit, I am a bit kinder than Mr. Hottie...who has the mindset of, "Duh, post a pic if you want us to respond." LOL
Thoughtgarden-I freaking love you!
What I really wanna know is where is Tequilarose on this? They always have great comments and thoughts! HAHA
Mrs. Hottie
Also, when it comes to this site being a great place to meet people, you are right about that. We have met some of our best friends on this site. Although we don't play with all of our friends. It's still about meeting people, being attracted physically, then mentally and then everything has to click with everyone in order for the sexual stuff to happen. But it's still that first one, physical attraction that kicks it ALL off!
I wish I could respond more to your comments but I had a hard time figuring out where the coherent thoughts were in your post. No offense. You said something about time, so maybe that's why it was kind of hard to understand.
Like the administrtors said...your chances are much greater with pics no matter what kind of site you are on.
I'm not dogging on people who choose not to post pics...I totally get the discretion thing, although I have to agree with Purple on this one too...if someone you know catches you on a site like this, chances are they have their own "dirty little secret" they hope you will keep for them as well. Although it isn't ALWAYS the case. Still, attach a pic!
Since I started this thread I have received 8 more people contacting us with no pics and I have even changed my profile to say something about it! I admit, I am a bit kinder than Mr. Hottie...who has the mindset of, "Duh, post a pic if you want us to respond." LOL
Thoughtgarden-I freaking love you!
What I really wanna know is where is Tequilarose on this? They always have great comments and thoughts! HAHA
Mrs. Hottie
HOTTIE-N-NAUGHTY thank you for your reply to me ,i respect your views and hope you respect mine, as to the 'time issue ' i have been attacked on other forums on this site for my bad spelling i don't have a spell check while i am on swingular so i have to come back an other time to corect the spelling so i let the people know i will be back don't attack! read as much you can or skip it i don't give a fuck .lol.
I agree with the no picture no response crowd. There are no face pictures of me on the site, but I am willing to share them, with a little bit of communication. We have gotten multiple "someone likes you" with no pictures on the profile, not even private....come on now, what was the point of sending that? If you don't want to share pictures, atl east right away, drop a more personnal note rather then one that doesn't offer anything.