Our venture into the LS has been interesting, very educational and, for the most part a lot of fun. The one thing we didn't anticipate was the inordinate amount of time it would take sorting thru all the bull****.
I'm sure this is partly due to being new and learning the ropes. We are slowly getting more efficient as time goes by.
This is a two-parter;
1) What would be your IDEAL frequency for playtimes (e.g. 3x/wk, or whatever). I'm not really asking how often y'all (a nod to our Tenn. friends) would like to get it on - think I already know the answer to that, but how often it is practical for you?
2) It seems just about everyone is getting more and more time-scrunched (told you it was unofficial) these days. I blame the computer/internet explosion, but that's a whole 'nother post
. Does anyone have any good, time-saving tricks they have discovered for site searching?
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I'm sure this is partly due to being new and learning the ropes. We are slowly getting more efficient as time goes by.
This is a two-parter;
1) What would be your IDEAL frequency for playtimes (e.g. 3x/wk, or whatever). I'm not really asking how often y'all (a nod to our Tenn. friends) would like to get it on - think I already know the answer to that, but how often it is practical for you?
2) It seems just about everyone is getting more and more time-scrunched (told you it was unofficial) these days. I blame the computer/internet explosion, but that's a whole 'nother post
. Does anyone have any good, time-saving tricks they have discovered for site searching?D
every other weekend (Friday and Saturday) is about all our schedule can handle. Busy lives with kids, work, etc...
Right now about once a month is all we are getting out for lifestyle fun. To many other things in our life to meet more often. Sometimes we can put in a weekday meeting for dinner and drinks also.
We tend to just go with the flow. The one preference we do have is for first-time meetings (dinner or drinks) we try to plan for meeting up during the week. We do this for a couple of reasons.
First, since we make it clear that our first meeting is to explore compatibility & chemistry, it takes away any pressure (or expectation) of play happening. Often this allows everyone to just relax and enjoy getting to know each other as opposed to..."I wonder when IT is going to happen? Is IT going to happen? Are they interested in IT happening?"
Second, if the couple meeting us just cannot stand us it gives them a pretty short time frame before drinks or dinner is over and they can make their "escape". This may be a solution to time-saving with crazy schedules.
Finally, if things don't click and the couple (or us for that matter) wish to make other plans for the weekend, that time is still available.
Other than this one preference (which isn't an absolute rule) we go out when we can and look forward to it when we can't.
First, since we make it clear that our first meeting is to explore compatibility & chemistry, it takes away any pressure (or expectation) of play happening. Often this allows everyone to just relax and enjoy getting to know each other as opposed to..."I wonder when IT is going to happen? Is IT going to happen? Are they interested in IT happening?"
Second, if the couple meeting us just cannot stand us it gives them a pretty short time frame before drinks or dinner is over and they can make their "escape". This may be a solution to time-saving with crazy schedules.
Finally, if things don't click and the couple (or us for that matter) wish to make other plans for the weekend, that time is still available.
Other than this one preference (which isn't an absolute rule) we go out when we can and look forward to it when we can't.
there are 2 types of swingers ,one is ' opportunities swingers' second is 'calculatd swingers' the first type is 24/7 opportunity may not strike twice for the second type when you are all done with endless Emails and set up meetings you apparently will not be hard-r-wet any more take advice from other swingers above on time tables and push button for "rewind love makeing" to get you hard-n wet after age 99m-96f-101m........