take things slow and dont do anything that will make either of you uncomfortable, and always follow any rules the two of you have set and always be open and honest with each other. a good way to get things going is to get out and go to the parties and meet n greets. and have fun.
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Lets talk about it over dinner!..lol
Everyone is right. You just need to follow what you both think is best for you slow, fast. Dinner hanging out take it at your speed and you will meet great people and have the time of your life if you do what you both want. Good Luck and hope to see you at a meet and greet.
Dont' listen to Spermint, Sounds like they have issues. But do it slow and talk about bounderies. Do not cross until you're ready. This was the best thing we ever did. Only secure people that love each other can do this, if you're doing it because your having problems in your relationship it will never work out. You have to love and trust each other for this to be a good experience. If you're having troubles with your relatiionship then and only then is this a bad idea. We haven't done much but when we do OMG, you'll fuck hard for weeks after each experience. There's nothing better than watching the one you love reaching the highest extremes. Don't do it if you have problems, only if you love and like each other.
Don't believe more than about 25% of what you hear or read - always trust your gut instincts (if you've been able to trust them in the past)
Here is another take on it. We are not in medieval times and her virginity is not really an issue or selling point. Talk about it, set up rules and jump right in two or three times. First time doesn't mean much. After that, you see if you like it after you get over the shock. Kinda like when you were young and Mom had you try something. After a few times, if you don't like it, stop it. If you like it, continue. Either way, you lost nothing. You can stand on the edge of the water wondering how cold it is but probably will never know.
Wolf, you crack me up...Just like a wolf, always on the hunt....LMAO
Make sure whever you choose for the first time you can back out at anytime and that incudes after everyone get's naked. I was with a couple where the guy was all for it until his wife started gojng down on me --- just make sure you have an easy way out. All people react different the first time.
The only thing I could add to all this is to keep the initial meetings somewhere public. Always stick to your rules and your comfort zone, (its ok to push the limit a little bit, just don't shatter the barrier.)
On other piece of advice, try to get into the chatroom and start talking to people in there. But try to avoid talking to people in private chats, a good portion of them are just looking for someone to play with immediately and then nothing else.
Don't be afraid to ask a lot of questions, you need to be sure of yourself, your spouse, and the people are looking to meet up with.
On other piece of advice, try to get into the chatroom and start talking to people in there. But try to avoid talking to people in private chats, a good portion of them are just looking for someone to play with immediately and then nothing else.
Don't be afraid to ask a lot of questions, you need to be sure of yourself, your spouse, and the people are looking to meet up with.
Just do It
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GSFORSWING:
LMAO..sorry I missed your comment two weeks ago, was out hunting in the woods!
Bottom line is..have fun!
LMAO..sorry I missed your comment two weeks ago, was out hunting in the woods!
Bottom line is..have fun!
We just started in this a few months ago and we have not actually had sex with anyone yet. Few interesting encounters here and there but not "all the way" anyway we have had a blast meeting new people and finding more things out about each other. Also both of our stress levels have dropped in the past few weeks since we are having better sex with each other and partying very hard on the weekends -some weeknights now! Our advice would be goto a club and if you meet someone you are comfortable with talk to them find out their experiences and go from there you will most likely have a great time. Just make sure you are honest with each other we did set some rules and some of the rules changed but we talked about it first! Take care and good luck to you both!
just have fun with it, if you are not having fun dont do it
Always fun and interesting to meet like minded people at a m&g or for a drink.
Then decide if your comfortable enough to go for it.
Then decide if your comfortable enough to go for it.