Swingers on Swingular - Swingers Forum - what does it appear to be

we want to ask a question.. when a couple meets and everything connects and both couple are ready for sex ---- is it the drinks or is it nerviness why the guy cant perform ( get hard ) we had this problem before and we been with couples before that have the same problem or is it time for uncle viagra lol------------any sugestion will help us out in this matter...thanks

what does it appear to be???????????

regan & rhonda

We are not to familiar with this problem but would guess there are several reasons it could be. First time we had it happen was at a party and the guy just accepted it and gave oral to the ladies rather then recieve. Last night we were with friends here and the other male had the same problem and despite the ladies efforts, he just could not get and stay hard. Everyone else was spent form hours of picture taking and sex so I asked the ladies to give it one more try and Lori was able to get him hard and reach climax. I found this odd because his wife could not get him hard and she is the best at oral that I have ever witnessed. Maybe the thrill of someone else performing on him finally got him hard but we are just glad everyone came at least once.

I am sorry you had these problems and hope someone can offer some advice.

Joe and Lori

stage fright. Guys, me included don't like the idea of other dudes seeing our junk. And size has nothing to do with it, it's just a mind thing. maybe have him try jumping in a little late and keeping his pants on till he's ready to rock.

I will bravely admit that I have had a case in the past of "performance" problem. I know that for me the problem was a combination of exhaustion and too much alcohol. I would suggest you try to have another time with this couple without the alochol and see if the problem happens again.

I think a lot of guys have problems with either getting off to fast the first time or not being able to get hard because of excitement of new and strange. But most if worked with can get it up or get it up a second time with a little extra effot on everyones part. Just my thoughts on it.

Well me I have to say is because I have Diabetes and some times I am over horny, but if the women can let me use my other tools it will come back usually in a few min most.. I also notice that being with new women can cause some of that, we know our partners and we can get them where we need rather fast, with a new women it is new territory I some times will take a back seat and watch the hubby play and as I get the tricks then when it is my turn I use those to help... Men get off to easy, and I cant see why more men don't excel at forplay.. mental and Physical.. lol

Well there is my 2 cents hope that sheds some light on some of it... and patience he might be not super attracted just courious... lol

thank you all for your support and we really want to get this taken care of ....

thanks regan & rhonda

Been there, done that. All of these reasons are valid and I've experienced most of them myself.

C'mon guys, how many men out there would chew off their own left arm to have the opportunities that we do, and it royally sucks when we can't take advantage!!!

Not to seem like an advertisement, but I must say that the wonders of Viagra and Levitra are stunning! It is such an awesome feeling to be confident and sure about going into a sexual situation and not have to worry about performing. It allows me to be calm and enjoy the beautiful women I'm with.

These little wonders eliminate all the embarrassment, and it's awesome!

I've actually thought of having a Viagra party. I'm sure the ladies wouldn't mind a house full of horny, engorged dicks ready to do their thang. Eh? Nobody left out; nobody half-dressed in the corner with sore lips and tongue from all the oral he had to do 'cause Mr. Winky didn't want to play...