We have noticed some have on their profiles that they prefer not to plan but want spontaneity. Share your preference on the subject. We prefer spontaneity in the sense of getting together with a couple or single bi-fem and letting things flow after we meet. There have been times we have met and not played and have found it is better that way than to plan the night all out, etc. We have met some that have every detailed planned and to be honest that bores us. We think spontaneity is definitely the way to go. However, for those with children, etc. we definitely understand the need for at least some planning. So share your thoughts on the subject. Have a great Hump Day all!
R&S
R&S
We have kids so we have to plan in advance a day/time to meet. Other than that it all depends on Chemistry, and mood.
We like both.... we have had some very fun planned weekend get togethers.. but we also had alot of fun times that we have just went to the bar to have a few drinks and ran into a couple or single that we know and ended up in a pile at home, so u could say we really dont have a preference... but we can say when things will and wont happen... the kiddos are up till 7-8 ish every night... so after that its all good... and the kiddos are at grandma n grandpa's sat afternoon till sunday afternoon... so thats all good also..... most people are a slave to the system...we like most of u that have little ones are a slave to their schedule... we keep our little ones (and our employees) oblivious to some aspects of our lives so our schedule revolves around theirs.... but back on track... we like both spontinaety and planed.... D & S
we will take it ether way caz both are fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We agree. Both are definitely fun indeed. I think preference is spontaneity. Because we don't have and won't be having children we make sure we are respectful of those that do. That is when we make plans. Even then, especially if it is the first meeting, we never know if anything will happen and just go with the flow. Our schedules are usually flexible because we don't have little ones and so we are usually able to work out something that works well for all. Thank you all for sharing your comments thus far. By the way, tempted we could not think of a better name for you two. ;-) lol Have a great day all!
R&S
R&S
We have kids so we have to plan. Plus, all the "spontaneous" nights of fun have ended in frustration for me (female). All the planned nights give my man to think about what he's going to do, and how, and how he can keep me happy and still have fun with another female. Spontaneity leads to "duh" moments.
GARNET, that makes sense. If you have children we can see planning as a necessity. Because we don't have children and won't be we make sure we work with couples that do so that they will have a wonderful get together and not feel rushed or have those bad moments. ;-) Have a great day all!
R&S
R&S
With no kids, we can be VERY spontaneous...It is one of the advantages.
We have many friends with kids, they have a lot of spontanaity (sp?) problems, but we expect that with people with kids.
We like the clubs BECAUSE everyone is there for the spontanaity (again, sp?), at least they are unless they told someone to meet them there...LOL
We have many friends with kids, they have a lot of spontanaity (sp?) problems, but we expect that with people with kids.
We like the clubs BECAUSE everyone is there for the spontanaity (again, sp?), at least they are unless they told someone to meet them there...LOL
JSTJIM72, clubs indeed are a good option for spontaneity. We also agree that not having children allows us a great deal of freedom and spontaneity. However, because we are both finishing terminal degrees it is still hard to jump at the drop of a hat. In about 3 years it will be open season though. ;-) lol Have a great day all.
R&S
R&S
We'd love to be spontaneous but...
Kids finally all grew up, only one left at home and he works and will be going to college too. So, you'd think we could now be spontaneous, right?
Nope, we get two dogs. Now we have to coordinate with the remaining at-home son to make sure the dogs are taken care of. Will he be home to feed/walk them? What hours do you work this weekend? I tell you, we might as well still have small children! :s
End result, we have to continue to plan everything to death. I guess we will never learn.
Kids finally all grew up, only one left at home and he works and will be going to college too. So, you'd think we could now be spontaneous, right?
Nope, we get two dogs. Now we have to coordinate with the remaining at-home son to make sure the dogs are taken care of. Will he be home to feed/walk them? What hours do you work this weekend? I tell you, we might as well still have small children! :s
End result, we have to continue to plan everything to death. I guess we will never learn.
Where there is a will.. there is a way. We love spontaneous and go out prepared in case it should happen. Never does at this point but we still have our hopes and desires. However, planning and scheduling something does have alot of benefits.