Maybe I am just being a stickler for courtesy, but I am hoping you all can help me out with something that has kinda bugged us from day one......
Is it really too much to ask for people to reply to an email or smile stating they're not interested? Maybe you're not their type. Maybe they are changing their minds about the whole thing. Maybe they found someone else who better suites their needs. Whatever the reason may be. Is it too much to ask for the response?
Believe me, we are not bitter about this, although it may sound that way. Just very confused. I mean, if you are an active member of society and have any friends or acquaintances, you return phone calls...... right? You answer your email when the time calls for it. Why do emails on these type sites get ignored so often? Do these sites require less courtesy? I would think they would require more.
But enough already. I am getting off of my soap box....
Just a thought.. What do you all think?
Is it really too much to ask for people to reply to an email or smile stating they're not interested? Maybe you're not their type. Maybe they are changing their minds about the whole thing. Maybe they found someone else who better suites their needs. Whatever the reason may be. Is it too much to ask for the response?
Believe me, we are not bitter about this, although it may sound that way. Just very confused. I mean, if you are an active member of society and have any friends or acquaintances, you return phone calls...... right? You answer your email when the time calls for it. Why do emails on these type sites get ignored so often? Do these sites require less courtesy? I would think they would require more.
But enough already. I am getting off of my soap box....
Just a thought.. What do you all think?
Hear, hear! I feel so strongly about this that I have actually gotten in the habit of sending a thank you note to those who respond with a "Thanks, but no thanks" or "not compatible". Any answer is so much better than nothing.
Well at least it's not just us.. We actually started to feel like we were being babies about it.
Thanks....
Thanks....
We are always flattered when someone takes notice of us enough to send a note to us. We will always let you know that we appreciate your interest and also whether we are interested in you. We do find that the "Blow a kiss" thing gets out of hand though. We get them from the same people several times a month, even after answering them previously. Geeze people, if you can't remember whether you have exchanged email with us, at least look at your mail history. We answer all email, but if you take time to write a personal message, we will consider that you are serious and not just cruising for ANYONE.
OK, I've had my time to rant !!!
In answer to your original post ! Yes courtesy should rule here as it does elsewhere in life.
OK, I've had my time to rant !!!
In answer to your original post ! Yes courtesy should rule here as it does elsewhere in life.
we try to respond to most contacts and appreciate when others return our messages, even when it is to say no not interested. in our profile it says those without pics will be ignored. looking at our mail box, we even answer these folks, usually saying something like "thanks for the compliments but we are not interested. profiles without pics scare us."
we don't have many problems with mail this way, ignoring folks tends to lead to more unwanted mail.
we don't have many problems with mail this way, ignoring folks tends to lead to more unwanted mail.
We have to agree with everything said so far and it has been a pet peive of mine when they respond with a someones interested but nothing else. Like a drive by. I would like to know what you are thinking if you are sending out these things, was it just a let me see who responds to this?? Well we have become very picking in responding to anyone. We only respond back to people that have emailed and only get together with people that are willing to meet us half way. So far we have not been disapointed. And wix2c you are right about the no picture thing. privacy comes with the territory and a picture is always expected.
We always try to respond to anyone that writes or blows a kiss even if it's just to say. Sorry we are not interested. We have found over the years that most couples don't seem to be concerned with taking a moment and doing a polite no thanks.
We also agree on the pic subject. On the few times we have decided to meet without pics we have always been disappointed.
We also agree on the pic subject. On the few times we have decided to meet without pics we have always been disappointed.
THE OLNY TIME I DONT WRITE ONE BACK IS IF THE PERSON WAS RUDE . OTHER THEN THAT I ALWAYS WRITE BACK AND IF ITS A NO MOST OF THE TIME TIME I WRITE WHY NOT . JUST SO THEY WILL KNOW WHY . I HAVE ALSO READ ON THESE KINDA OF SITES THAT PEOPLE DONT WANT A REASON . BUT IF SOMEONE WAS GOING TO WRITE BACKA ND SAY NO TO ME I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW THE INFO ON WHY JUST SO I KNOW .BUT I ALSO FIND MAIL SOMETIMES THAT I DIDNT SEE . IF MY HUBAND OPENS IT AND I DIDNT REALIZE IT WAS NEW MAIL AND THEN IT GETS LOST WITH THE OTHER MAIL . BUT I DO ALWAYS TRY TO WRITE BACK . I THINK ITS ONLY POLITE TO WRITE BACK TO SOMEONE THAT TOOK THE TIME TO WRTIE ME .
NAUGHTY DREAMS
FREAKY KITTY
NAUGHTY DREAMS
FREAKY KITTY
WOW... I guess this is a hot subject... Thanks everyone.. Thought we were being pesty but we now see we're not.....
Hold on I have more juicy subjects..... hehe.....
Hold on I have more juicy subjects..... hehe.....
GREAT TOPIC!!!
I think it goes back to the old phrase do unto others as you would have them do to you. So if you want people to be rude to you then be rude back. But just remember that if you do it to one couple they will have friends that they talk to and you may want to meet and they will tell them that you are rude. It doesnt take that long to send a Hey thanks but I dont think we are compatible good luck in your search. COME ON PEOPLE. If not interested let them know. We try to do it with everyone and yes mistakes are made and you forget but we always go back and check to make sure.
Tazzandtxbabie
I think it goes back to the old phrase do unto others as you would have them do to you. So if you want people to be rude to you then be rude back. But just remember that if you do it to one couple they will have friends that they talk to and you may want to meet and they will tell them that you are rude. It doesnt take that long to send a Hey thanks but I dont think we are compatible good luck in your search. COME ON PEOPLE. If not interested let them know. We try to do it with everyone and yes mistakes are made and you forget but we always go back and check to make sure.
Tazzandtxbabie
we get alot of those blow a kiss things and they never have anything from the person in the mail ... we hate that as well as someone not responding to us to say no thanks ... hell we are not the best looking people in the world hell they could even say hell no you ugly shit or whatever lol you know .. but they could at least respond saying something ... yes we also agree with all that has been said here
I tell ya what bothers us and that is people who don't read. You clearly state in your profile what you are looking for and what you are not looking for. These people who you are not looking for message you anyway, like they can change your mind or something especially single males then get upset when your not interested and tell them so or ignore them. For god's sake people actually read the profile before you contact someone instead of just looking at the pictures.
Try and figure THIS one out !!!
We received several kisses from a couple that lives
over 1000 miles from us. Finally I wrote back saying thanks
for the kisses but don't you think we're a bit far from each other?
What did you have in mind?
Weeks went by without any response and then one day......
Another kiss from the same couple.
Sometimes I just want to give up trying to figure out the human race.
We received several kisses from a couple that lives
over 1000 miles from us. Finally I wrote back saying thanks
for the kisses but don't you think we're a bit far from each other?
What did you have in mind?
Weeks went by without any response and then one day......
Another kiss from the same couple.
Sometimes I just want to give up trying to figure out the human race.
Sounds like time to put them on IGNORE. :@
Hi, I'm a single male that is trying to get all that he can get out of this lifestyle, by putting my all into it. I've read the info on this site about the role singles play with couples and I completely agree and I always treat couples with the up most respect both in person and in my emails, not only because its the right thing to do in this lifestyle, but its really who I am. Yet I always get discouraged because of the non-responses. I also know to some degree why there are people that get into this frame of mind. I know that a number of single males have given single males in general a bad reputation, but that is part of this lifestyle I guess and hopefully I can make the ones I contact see that I am different. I think we all agree that a response, even if it is a "no thanks", is the right thing to do.. Now I know this is not always the case, I have corresponded and met a few that are the exception to the rule, and it is so nice and refreshing to make these friendships. So I really appreciate this topic and the opportunity to speak out.. and thank you for the other posters as well.
Dennis
Dennis
I think perhaps some people are on these sites just to look at pictures and have no intention of meeting anyone.
To be honest,we are sick and tired of the people who don\'t reply to messages and what pisses us off even more are the people who write to us,and if we reply favourably they then ignore us.
We have written\"no thankyou\' messages to people and have had them sent to us in various guises.That\'s all we ask for.
We realise not evryone is attracted to everyone else,although we try not to let profile pictures sway us too much,as some photos don\'t justify the person on them.
To be honest,we are sick and tired of the people who don\'t reply to messages and what pisses us off even more are the people who write to us,and if we reply favourably they then ignore us.
We have written\"no thankyou\' messages to people and have had them sent to us in various guises.That\'s all we ask for.
We realise not evryone is attracted to everyone else,although we try not to let profile pictures sway us too much,as some photos don\'t justify the person on them.
I have replied to everyone who has wrote to me and them some LOL I think there was 1 maybe that didnt go threw due to the outage last week. I re-typed it and sent it again. Have a good day everyone!
It is more common than one thinks... Not responding to a note/email/whatever one wants to call the message one sends from a site to the site... It\'s a bloody shame that people are so rude.. As for the kiss thing...I think people see a profile and want to show it to their SO so they earmark it with a kiss or add people to their friends list. It\'s the only tool one has to tag the couple and easily get back to that profile.. Sometimes people forget how to uses all the tools and then after a day or two they forget who you were and how to find you then another time they are looking and say Oh theres a nice couple lets send a kiss or add them to our friends list.....After a dozen sites similar I think that people may also be a bit shy too.. What do I day to Mary and Phill, he\'s a doctor and has a TV show and I thought he didn\'t like swingers.... I think I\'ll just call and save money on my car insurance ...I\'ll call Gieco... Just a thought... but people spend money to get on a site and can\'t write a note.. They may do fine face to face but to write a note ...... No way....My theory... What\'s yours? A subject for Lenord Nemoy\'s show \"Unsolved Mysteries\".... Which stretches from the inner mind to the outer extremedies.... you have entered the swinger zone.....
Just a thought here...
If it is so common that people simply won\'t be polite, do the right thing, and show some courtesy and breeding, then maybe the admins (God knows they have enough on their plate right now though) should add to the site. What I have in mind is, a standard, canned response that says \"thank you for writing, but we are not interested\" and make it an automatic \"no-thanks reply\" button. That perhaps would enable people to just click a button that would be polite for them.
Either that, or make it so that you HAVE to reply to someone to go anywhere else, or do anything elsewhere on the site.
I can\'t see changing the innate rudeness of people who don\'t bother to reply, because that would entail doing something they (and their parents) have proven inherently unable to do: Develop common courtesy as a personality trait.
Just my $0.03
If it is so common that people simply won\'t be polite, do the right thing, and show some courtesy and breeding, then maybe the admins (God knows they have enough on their plate right now though) should add to the site. What I have in mind is, a standard, canned response that says \"thank you for writing, but we are not interested\" and make it an automatic \"no-thanks reply\" button. That perhaps would enable people to just click a button that would be polite for them.
Either that, or make it so that you HAVE to reply to someone to go anywhere else, or do anything elsewhere on the site.
I can\'t see changing the innate rudeness of people who don\'t bother to reply, because that would entail doing something they (and their parents) have proven inherently unable to do: Develop common courtesy as a personality trait.
Just my $0.03
To me, it sounds like two pages of members who need to be put on Prozac. Stop whinning about every little wrong thing happens in your lives. If someone does not want to reply to your E-mail, so be it, but you do not have cry about it like you are a 2 year old brat who cannot get his way at the moment. Stop the infant whinning and start showing the rest of the members you are true adults not bratty like kids who need Prozac and put in a time out chat for the next several minutes.
As for myself. if I get an E-mail from someone I am not interested in, I simply delete it and place a block on that person\'s screen name --- it is my right to do this to uncompatible members plus it saves time. :!
As for myself. if I get an E-mail from someone I am not interested in, I simply delete it and place a block on that person\'s screen name --- it is my right to do this to uncompatible members plus it saves time. :!
Well maybe 2 pages of people are on there way to a thinner lifestyle as well...... one of the side affects of PROZAC is weight loss!!! 
AEGIS3650.... Just an FYI... they have that option already.. if you get an email and your not compatible with that person simply hit reply and select the \"No Thanks\" option from the dropdown list under \"Standard Letters\".
We agree with everyone here.. we reply to all emails received **UNLESS** one of the 2 things occur
1. it is a kiss/wink because face it, if you cant take the time to write us something then why should we respond.
2. It is a Single male and we specifically state in our profile \"SINGLE GUYS NEED NOT CONTACT\"
and yes we know some people have difficulty typing.. (I do) so what i suggest for you is to write a few \"standard responses\" and then use the old copy and paste function and then \"edit\" the response to tailor your particular situation/email.
We agree with everyone here.. we reply to all emails received **UNLESS** one of the 2 things occur
1. it is a kiss/wink because face it, if you cant take the time to write us something then why should we respond.
2. It is a Single male and we specifically state in our profile \"SINGLE GUYS NEED NOT CONTACT\"
and yes we know some people have difficulty typing.. (I do) so what i suggest for you is to write a few \"standard responses\" and then use the old copy and paste function and then \"edit\" the response to tailor your particular situation/email.
Just a quick note and then I too will get off of this soapbox...this horse is deffinitely dead.
<<*takes a huge breath*>>
BICBBW4CPLSWBIFSONLY (omg!)====> WOW, that was harsh. Death to all cry babies! Delete \'em and block \'em! That\'ll show them no good sunsabiotches.
Hey listen, to each their own right? I find myself curious as to whether or not you realize the dichotomy of your statement?
I was under the (perhaps mistaken) impression that manners were a good thing. I thought the south was FAMOUS for it\'s hospitality? You must be an extremely busy person, being that one of your stated concerns was that it saves you time rather than selecting a standard response.
How long does it take, 5 seconds. Do you have dial up, is that it? Does it take 10 seconds?
I bet you take 10 seconds to make sure that they people writing to meet your VERY particular criteria though...
Just my 2 cents.
P.S. - Doesn\'t it say in your profile that you are new to the lifestyle? Perhaps you could be a little more sensitive to others? You will probably make a lot more friends that way.
<<*takes a huge breath*>>
BICBBW4CPLSWBIFSONLY (omg!)====> WOW, that was harsh. Death to all cry babies! Delete \'em and block \'em! That\'ll show them no good sunsabiotches.
Hey listen, to each their own right? I find myself curious as to whether or not you realize the dichotomy of your statement?
I was under the (perhaps mistaken) impression that manners were a good thing. I thought the south was FAMOUS for it\'s hospitality? You must be an extremely busy person, being that one of your stated concerns was that it saves you time rather than selecting a standard response.
How long does it take, 5 seconds. Do you have dial up, is that it? Does it take 10 seconds?
I bet you take 10 seconds to make sure that they people writing to meet your VERY particular criteria though...
Just my 2 cents.
P.S. - Doesn\'t it say in your profile that you are new to the lifestyle? Perhaps you could be a little more sensitive to others? You will probably make a lot more friends that way.
It all comes down to common courtesy. Some have it, some don\'t. We will respond to every e-mail we receive. Like someone said, you took the time to read the e-mail, take the 30 to 60 seconds to respond to it.
Just out $0.02.
Ron
Just out $0.02.
Ron
Our point of view..
If someone takes the time to actually type a message, (not some group mass emailing or token that shows they have been to our profile), we are not out of courtesy going to respond. There is no reason really for us to respond.
When someone adds us to their friend list, we feel they are out of line if they get offended that we dont respond by either adding them or writing. There are alot of people, (and there will always be alot), who like to collect pictures. They arent interested in us personally, just whatever free pics they can collect. Our \"friends\" list is just that... a way for us to organize and contact our friends or potiental interests.
Finally, the world is made up of a great variety of opinions and tastes. What is sweet to me may be sour to you. If you dont appeal to me, and I dont take interest in you as you might hope, dont be offended... its not anything personal. We all get rejected in this lifestyle.. its a matter of being mature and moving on.
If someone takes the time to actually type a message, (not some group mass emailing or token that shows they have been to our profile), we are not out of courtesy going to respond. There is no reason really for us to respond.
When someone adds us to their friend list, we feel they are out of line if they get offended that we dont respond by either adding them or writing. There are alot of people, (and there will always be alot), who like to collect pictures. They arent interested in us personally, just whatever free pics they can collect. Our \"friends\" list is just that... a way for us to organize and contact our friends or potiental interests.
Finally, the world is made up of a great variety of opinions and tastes. What is sweet to me may be sour to you. If you dont appeal to me, and I dont take interest in you as you might hope, dont be offended... its not anything personal. We all get rejected in this lifestyle.. its a matter of being mature and moving on.
you go, CYNANDHIM
but the one\'s who are intrested r only intrested with the wife, and they don\'t understand thats shes str8 and when we reply to doing the swop thing most dont every reply and the couple that we r intrested in who have bi females are not intrested in swoping since the wife not bi in any way or form.
P & D
but the one\'s who are intrested r only intrested with the wife, and they don\'t understand thats shes str8 and when we reply to doing the swop thing most dont every reply and the couple that we r intrested in who have bi females are not intrested in swoping since the wife not bi in any way or form.
P & D
HOLY SMOKES I guess we need some Prozac too since we thought it was just plain rude not to respond
Luvbugs, from what I have seen from members like you, it is exactly why I delete and block. Apparently, I must be the only true adult on this site by rest of the little kiddies whinning about anything and everything that goes wrong in their lives. PROZAC, PEOPLE, PROZAC!!!
Yes, I am a Southern and I am proud of it. I take great pride in my mannerisms unlike the rest of the brats on this site, but I am a realist by natural and I will not put with the childish fantasies you brats has classified as being adult replies since I live in the real world not the world of make believe like the rest of you. But why I am taking the time explaining myself to whore like you, Luvs???
I have said all I am going to say about this topic since the little brats are having a hard time facing reality and they must hide behind a computer screen all day long every day of their pathetic, immature live. I will conclude this statement with this annoucement. For the immature members who have replied to this topic, I blocked you from contacting since I do not want to hear you whinny, childish replies ever again. GOOD-BYE!!!
Yes, I am a Southern and I am proud of it. I take great pride in my mannerisms unlike the rest of the brats on this site, but I am a realist by natural and I will not put with the childish fantasies you brats has classified as being adult replies since I live in the real world not the world of make believe like the rest of you. But why I am taking the time explaining myself to whore like you, Luvs???
I have said all I am going to say about this topic since the little brats are having a hard time facing reality and they must hide behind a computer screen all day long every day of their pathetic, immature live. I will conclude this statement with this annoucement. For the immature members who have replied to this topic, I blocked you from contacting since I do not want to hear you whinny, childish replies ever again. GOOD-BYE!!!
Riderz, do you love to show the world how immature you truly are and how ugly you are by having the typical trailer trash face??? SHUT UP AND LEAVE ME ALONE, LITTLE GIRL, AND GO BACK PLAYING WITH YOUR DOLLIES SINCE YOU ARE SO CHILDISH IN EVERY SINGLE MEANING OF THIS WORD!!!
Well, I think we all realize by now...
Wow for being a new member of the site such as we are, although we are by no means new to the lifestyle. We were both totally shocked by reading the responses sent in by Bicbbw,,,,,, I mean come on you dont really have the need to pursue this lifestyle any further with your attitude and as for us getting blocked because of our veiw,,,,Adios BIcbbw.. we wont loose any sleep
Concerning the topic of not replying, we wanna say to everyone frustrated with this: IF THEY DON\'T REPLY, THEN YA PROBABLY DON\'T WANNA MEET THEM ANYWAYS!!
P.S. Don\'t sweat it guys!! Cause if you think about it...a no response actually IS a response! when you don\'t hear back it screams NOT INTERESTED!! even if is rude, but buck up and move on!! I feel ya though, i\'ve been annoyed by it too, but we are powerless over other\'s. SUCKS but TRUE!!
P.S. Don\'t sweat it guys!! Cause if you think about it...a no response actually IS a response! when you don\'t hear back it screams NOT INTERESTED!! even if is rude, but buck up and move on!! I feel ya though, i\'ve been annoyed by it too, but we are powerless over other\'s. SUCKS but TRUE!!
WOW!!!.... I guess the adage is the same for some adults as it is children... some want any and all attention they can get even if its negative attention... all the name calling from this particular member is quite childish.. And even if we were interested (which we are not) the attitude and immature banter and name-calling would have turned us off.
Amazing for a two-day-old member
Amazing for a two-day-old member
FLCPL, with that picture of yourselves, and by being that ugly, you two would be lucky to get a dead ant to have sex with you two. Can you two say we need to see a plastic surgeon to get face lifts since the ones we have now are too ugly to be seen in public???
FLCPL4FUN0920 wrote:
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> AEGIS3650.... Just an FYI... they have that option already..
Um, no they don\'t...
> if you get an email and your not compatible with that person
> simply hit reply and select the \"No Thanks\" option from the
> dropdown list under \"Standard Letters\".
And that is not a dedicated \"automatic no-thanks\" reply button. What has to happen in your explanation is that people have to click \"reply\", wait for the system to go to the mail-writing page, then select \"Standard Messages, and then pick which they\'re going to send, and then click send. Four extra steps.
Let me clarify.
What you suggest is a couple of extra steps that some people either never noticed, or they might find it too much effort to make. It is easier and less trouble for people to just delete or ignore the mail. What I suggested was a totally new button next to the \"delete\" button, that automatically sends a pre-written message that says \"Thanks, not interested\". One click, as opposed to four. And also, unless some sort of action to reply to the sender is taken, whether it be by actually writing and sending a reply, or by hitting just that one button, the system would prevent the recipient from visiting anything else on the site by locking navigation until the message is replied to.
And, just so everyone reading this knows... I know that wouldn\'t go over well, because, as I said, no one can force others to have good manners, be courteous, or do the right thing, as we\'ve recently seen in this very thread...
I really appreciated your comment, but it didn\'t address my original statement.
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> AEGIS3650.... Just an FYI... they have that option already..
Um, no they don\'t...
> if you get an email and your not compatible with that person
> simply hit reply and select the \"No Thanks\" option from the
> dropdown list under \"Standard Letters\".
And that is not a dedicated \"automatic no-thanks\" reply button. What has to happen in your explanation is that people have to click \"reply\", wait for the system to go to the mail-writing page, then select \"Standard Messages, and then pick which they\'re going to send, and then click send. Four extra steps.
Let me clarify.
What you suggest is a couple of extra steps that some people either never noticed, or they might find it too much effort to make. It is easier and less trouble for people to just delete or ignore the mail. What I suggested was a totally new button next to the \"delete\" button, that automatically sends a pre-written message that says \"Thanks, not interested\". One click, as opposed to four. And also, unless some sort of action to reply to the sender is taken, whether it be by actually writing and sending a reply, or by hitting just that one button, the system would prevent the recipient from visiting anything else on the site by locking navigation until the message is replied to.
And, just so everyone reading this knows... I know that wouldn\'t go over well, because, as I said, no one can force others to have good manners, be courteous, or do the right thing, as we\'ve recently seen in this very thread...
I really appreciated your comment, but it didn\'t address my original statement.
OH GOD! I hope BICBBW4CPLSWBIFSONLY has blocked me!
Everyone has a different idea or opinion about things, we are all entitled (remember \"FREEDOM of SPEACH) to that. No need for anyone to get too upset over that, or an unanswered email, or have to take drugs because of it (Can you diagnose & prescribe drugs without being a liscensed physicion anyway?LOL)
Lots of good solutions were brought up about the email issue. Some opinons are best left unchalenged; doing so may lower you to a level you really don\'t want to go. Some things actually do go away if you ignore them.
HAVE FUN!! BE HAPPY EVERYONE!!!!
Lots of good solutions were brought up about the email issue. Some opinons are best left unchalenged; doing so may lower you to a level you really don\'t want to go. Some things actually do go away if you ignore them.
HAVE FUN!! BE HAPPY EVERYONE!!!!
Well! Now we are cookin\' huh? Didn\'t all of this begin with \'to reply or not to reply?\' LoL.
I had no intention of sparking such a firestorm. If we have offended anyone, please just beat us about the head and shoulders with something wet... and leather....and...and...hmmm? Oh sorry, got off track there!
Hey let\'s talk about something new. I will leave it to all of my new friends to pick the blog this time. LoL.
They need a spell check here too, and that \"No Thank You\" button mentioned before. NOW, if you wille xcuse me, I have to go out and check on my other ho\'s.
Luvbugs!
I had no intention of sparking such a firestorm. If we have offended anyone, please just beat us about the head and shoulders with something wet... and leather....and...and...hmmm? Oh sorry, got off track there!
Hey let\'s talk about something new. I will leave it to all of my new friends to pick the blog this time. LoL.
They need a spell check here too, and that \"No Thank You\" button mentioned before. NOW, if you wille xcuse me, I have to go out and check on my other ho\'s.
Luvbugs!
Well I\'m going to chime in here in just so I can get on BICBBW4CPLSWBIFSONLY\'s iggy list. Personaly I think she (or maybe he) is just in here to get on peoples nerves.
Anyway, enough time wasted on that. Back to the subject at hand.
Being that we are here in the east, and most of the people here seem to be from the west, we have yet to get any mail from this site. Guess we\'re just waiting for it to catch on on this side of the states.
But in any case we have even went to the trouble of putting in our profile that we will respond to any and all e-mail weather it be posative or negative. We just think it is courtious to do so. Besides, we figgure if they were kind enough to take the time to read all that we have in our profile the least we can do is take a few seconds and reply.
We understand that we are not for everyone, and that everybody has their own tasts and preferances. We have turned down, and been turned down by qiute a few people. But think of it this way. Have you ever tryed talking to someone face to face and had them totaly iggnore you? Would you think of them as being rude? If so, what is the differance between an e-mail and a face to face?
Now as far as the reply or be locked oppition I don\'t think that would be a very good idea. Why? Because it wouldn\'t be fair for people like myself who read the e-mails and want to wait for their other half to get a look at it in order to deside together. Remember, when your a couple it\'s not a me thing, it\'s a we thing. On the other hand it would be nice to have a auto reply button right in the reply part of your e-mail section.
Anyway, enough time wasted on that. Back to the subject at hand.
Being that we are here in the east, and most of the people here seem to be from the west, we have yet to get any mail from this site. Guess we\'re just waiting for it to catch on on this side of the states.
But in any case we have even went to the trouble of putting in our profile that we will respond to any and all e-mail weather it be posative or negative. We just think it is courtious to do so. Besides, we figgure if they were kind enough to take the time to read all that we have in our profile the least we can do is take a few seconds and reply.
We understand that we are not for everyone, and that everybody has their own tasts and preferances. We have turned down, and been turned down by qiute a few people. But think of it this way. Have you ever tryed talking to someone face to face and had them totaly iggnore you? Would you think of them as being rude? If so, what is the differance between an e-mail and a face to face?
Now as far as the reply or be locked oppition I don\'t think that would be a very good idea. Why? Because it wouldn\'t be fair for people like myself who read the e-mails and want to wait for their other half to get a look at it in order to deside together. Remember, when your a couple it\'s not a me thing, it\'s a we thing. On the other hand it would be nice to have a auto reply button right in the reply part of your e-mail section.
I dont think that Biccbbw person is genuine,just a trouble maker.
There are no pictures and very little information about herself on the profile.
It\'s sad that some people resort to tactics like that.
It lowers the tone of forum.
There are no pictures and very little information about herself on the profile.
It\'s sad that some people resort to tactics like that.
It lowers the tone of forum.
One thing I have noticed is that a lot of the profiles on this site the last time the owner logged into the site is listed as Months.
Second thing I have noticed is that if you look into your sent folder it will show you a listing of messages that you have sent. It will show you which ones have been read. This at least tells you that the person noticed you wrote them (I won\'t say they read it because it might show up as read even if they delete it without opening it)
Bottom line is that it would be nice if people would take the time and let people know they are interested or not. Just a little message. It\'s sad that so many people have so little respect to make the effort. It\'s even sadder that this is a common complain in the swinging community.
Chris
Second thing I have noticed is that if you look into your sent folder it will show you a listing of messages that you have sent. It will show you which ones have been read. This at least tells you that the person noticed you wrote them (I won\'t say they read it because it might show up as read even if they delete it without opening it)
Bottom line is that it would be nice if people would take the time and let people know they are interested or not. Just a little message. It\'s sad that so many people have so little respect to make the effort. It\'s even sadder that this is a common complain in the swinging community.
Chris
While I would love to reply to every message I receive, there simply isn\'t enough time to do that. I would never have time to play!!
Hello Sunnfun
yes I can see where you might be over loaded. Thanks for being part of the group.
Great pic/Profile
yes I can see where you might be over loaded. Thanks for being part of the group.
Great pic/Profile