I don't usually assume a guy is bi or gay til he says something. On our first MFM there was some contact, but I didn't even realize it was him cuz I was so into pleasing her... it's not a big deal, not til someone crosses a bi boundary. But before you have a MFM with someone, you should talk about boundaries, have an idea of what they're fantasizing about, etc... so there shouldn't be any surprises. We had another MFM that was not planned, but we knew the other male quite well and there was no contact... however, he was disappointed in the end to find out we were soft swap only and all he was getting was head. That's why I recommend talking first. In the end he was disappointed and she felt bad. Communication is key.
And all along I thought there was a difference between MFM and MMF. Just like FMF and FFM.
We have had a couple of MFM or MMF which ever way you want to put it, and the qeustion never came up. They were always with someone we knew. But we would agree communication is the key.
AYLA........ to answer you... your concerns about your wife being respected... durring a mfm its alll about her... if you feel he is being a bit rough or verbally disrespectfull you can do what ive done in the past... depending on th severity of the infraction either let him know .. she doesnt like it like that or if a more severe infraction let him know the nights over .. and if he dont get the point... show him the night is over.. (at least for him)... after all its your wife... u love her ... u are willing to share her with another.... all i let people know is that sara is my wife you need to respect her or the fun will be over... they always ask then what does she like n i fill them in a bit but ultimatly i tell them she is the conductor of the orchestra she will tell you more of what she wants... that way things are more up to her what she wants...ie dp vaj, dp vaj n anal, intersourse while oraly pleasuring, etc... that way its up to her,,, some people get more than others because of her comfort level... if she feels more comfy then the more she will do and allow to be done.. one thing that needs to be discussed... is "cock phobia"... are they willing to do a DP in the same orfice... there is contact (or it wouldnt be dp in the same hole)... its all about her... its not like the two males are standing face to face "sword fighting".... its ultimatly about her... if they have a cock phobia u know only one in a hole at a time or the other guy will freak because of insecurity in his sexuality... (the last comment is going to open a hornets nest....) dennis and sara
I always clarify that an MFM will be straight. But I also know incidental contact will likely occur with the other male. I have had my hand brush against another man's shaft as he was fucking his wife while I was working her clit. I have had a husband's dick bang me repeatedly in the face as he tried to manuever over his wife's mouth so she could suck him while I was fucking her.
None of this seems to be other than bumping into someone else while the play is going on, particularly since none of it is done with the purpose of having male-on-male sexual pleasure, and none of it gives me -- or I believe the husband -- sexual pleasure. The pleasure comes from seeing the woman ecstatic. That's what it's all about.
Anyone who cannot tolerate the possibility of contact with a man should just pass on trying MFM.
None of this seems to be other than bumping into someone else while the play is going on, particularly since none of it is done with the purpose of having male-on-male sexual pleasure, and none of it gives me -- or I believe the husband -- sexual pleasure. The pleasure comes from seeing the woman ecstatic. That's what it's all about.
Anyone who cannot tolerate the possibility of contact with a man should just pass on trying MFM.
Uh, cowgirl, there IS a difference, and if you advertise for a MMF versus a MFM, be ready for him to assume it's okay for the two M's to touch and not okay for the first M to touch the F. Get it? Same thing with FFM or FMF. Communication, direct or indirect, is crucial LOL.
I do not know if there is a difference I just use it as two Males and one female, to me the order of the letters doesn't mattter, but I do not know for anyonelse, we are stillkind of new to this