SO I get everyone has an idea they look for. But it just seems really shitty to me to see people say that they are as specific as possible about the kind of people theyd like to swing with and they get emails for every "billy bob redneck hatchet face" or "fat girls/fat guys please don't apply" etc.
Thinking of rewriting my profile to include the "if you are a jackass hater, please don't spread your asshattery here"
Thinking of rewriting my profile to include the "if you are a jackass hater, please don't spread your asshattery here"
But if you are not what I am looking for, why have you go thru the process just to have me tell you "Sorry, not interested in blonds, skinny girls, fat girls, girls with one eye, etc, etc"? Why not just be up front? Nothing against you but if you are a soft swinger, what is the point of us chatting back and forth only to find out later that you are not the type we are looking for?
I think this is one of those no win subjects but I am glad that people like my self who are not the most attractive stand up and say this is unpleasant and we should all try harder to be more pleasant.
just my thoughts
jeremy
just my thoughts
jeremy
AKLIM69......so by your defenition, all the people you talk to on here you'd have to be willing to have sex with? Because thats what it seems like you are saying. And if thats the case for you, more power to you, I guess. But you would be missing out on plenty of wonderful people who could be "just friends" and share your lifestyle likes, rather than just sex.
Next, its fine to have an ideal. I have an ideal. I like people who are down to earth and real. I like women with curves, and guys who are a little rough and rugged, even if they aren't what others would say are handsome or sexy.
I guess what I'm saying is, its fine to have that idea, and its fine to look for what you really want, what really turns you on. However, its really shitty to be mean about it. Basically, we all have a lifestyle that is not "normal" by most people's standards. I don't know many people I would willingly tell IRL that I am a swinger. Most IRL people would treat me badly. And then I have to turn around and worry about being treated badly among like-minded people too? Seems kinda shitty doesn't it.
Next, its fine to have an ideal. I have an ideal. I like people who are down to earth and real. I like women with curves, and guys who are a little rough and rugged, even if they aren't what others would say are handsome or sexy.
I guess what I'm saying is, its fine to have that idea, and its fine to look for what you really want, what really turns you on. However, its really shitty to be mean about it. Basically, we all have a lifestyle that is not "normal" by most people's standards. I don't know many people I would willingly tell IRL that I am a swinger. Most IRL people would treat me badly. And then I have to turn around and worry about being treated badly among like-minded people too? Seems kinda shitty doesn't it.
There are always going to be haters. The reasons and motivations will always be different but there will always be another one waiting just around the corner. What I had to realize is that I don't have to give them the power they think they have. I don't have to let them get anything more from me than a laugh. I'd like to say that those who were hated and now have altered enough to fall outside "the zone" know better and don't do it. But we all know better. Lots of times they are more cruel than those who have never been the brunt of the treatment they hand out to build themselves up. And they are also the ones with the least excusability. Those with the most? Stupid people, because honestly, you can lose weight or grow hair or build muscles, but they are stuck with stupid and if anyone can be excused for trying to build themselves up at another's expense its them. Lol
Don't let it get you. It's not worth the aggrivation.
BTW..... too bad FL and IL aren't closer together. <grin> Hey, you never know...... Lol
----Aj
Don't let it get you. It's not worth the aggrivation.
BTW..... too bad FL and IL aren't closer together. <grin> Hey, you never know...... Lol
----Aj
Honestly? I appreciate people who are very specific....even when they're assholes about it. No kidding! The process of elimination is quickity-quick-quick!
Gotta love em.... or fuck em... whatever.
-Te
Gotta love em.... or fuck em... whatever.
-Te
I also like people who are very specific. They don't necesarily have to be rude about it, but if they're extremely specific, I know immediately if they're gonna be interested in me or not. Same for the reverse. I know exactly what I want. I'm still friendly and social as looks don't matter in the friends department...I'll be friends with you as long as you wanna be friends with me...but if I'm interested in just sex, I'm gonna be very specific. Works for me. 
Posted By: GARNET Reply posted on:
Apr 2, 2008 - 1:02 am
AKLIM69......so by your defenition, all the people you talk to on here you'd have to be willing to have sex with? Because thats what it seems like you are saying. And if thats the case for you, more power to you, I guess. But you would be missing out on plenty of wonderful people who could be "just friends" and share your lifestyle likes, rather than just sex.
However, its really shitty to be mean about it.
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We will talk to anybody. What we are saying is that as far as something sexual going on, there has to be a physical attraction. Now, if we are not interested in you sexually but you still want to talk to us, go out for dinner sometime, etc, etc, no problem as long as you understand that we aren't ever heading to the bedroom.
Well, we will politely tell you "no thanx" but unless we are on a different board and you are a single guy that messages us when we say "No single males" then we will be polite.
Apr 2, 2008 - 1:02 am
AKLIM69......so by your defenition, all the people you talk to on here you'd have to be willing to have sex with? Because thats what it seems like you are saying. And if thats the case for you, more power to you, I guess. But you would be missing out on plenty of wonderful people who could be "just friends" and share your lifestyle likes, rather than just sex.
However, its really shitty to be mean about it.
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We will talk to anybody. What we are saying is that as far as something sexual going on, there has to be a physical attraction. Now, if we are not interested in you sexually but you still want to talk to us, go out for dinner sometime, etc, etc, no problem as long as you understand that we aren't ever heading to the bedroom.
Well, we will politely tell you "no thanx" but unless we are on a different board and you are a single guy that messages us when we say "No single males" then we will be polite.
I think Aklim was trying to say he would be honest upfront so they are not accused of leading someone on and then not putting out in the bedroom. We actually appreciate people like that and they tend to make the best friends.