We have a quick question. This didn't occur on this site but on another site we are members of. We sent an e-mail to a couple to say hello and welcome to the site. They are from our city and we rarely see many from our area around so we wanted to be polite. Well, they replied back. "ty but sorry no thank u." Now we understand we are an interracial couple and where we live that is frowned upon and pointed out on a regular basis but when someone is just being polite is it necessary to automatically assume we are interested and then reply like they did? It's not the first time it has happened but we just wondered what others think about this. We welcome all feedback. Thanks and we hope everyone has a fantastic day!
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I think you were lucky to even get a reply. Most I email never even bother to say "No Thanks".
I feel it is polite to tell someone you aren't interested....even if it was not what you intended to communicate.
I feel it is polite to tell someone you aren't interested....even if it was not what you intended to communicate.
We agree with you there. It just seemed so rude especially since we weren't even interested in hooking up with them. It is sad you don't get a reply. We are always up front and ask for the same. It is a matter of simple respect. We are all in this to enjoy ourselves in whatever manner we are searching for. Or so we thought.
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Thanks all for the replies. We actually aren't bothered about a reply or no reply. We understand some react in many different ways to e-mails. Though we feel it is courteous to reply. It bothers us more that because we are interracial they felt the need to tell us they weren't interested when we hadn't even shown any interest in hooking up but just being polite and welcoming them. In this lifestyle we all have preferences whether it be race, H&W, anal, or no, etc. but most of us are respectful of those preferences. We were just curious what you all thought about this. Thanks again. We love the forum and freedom it gives. Have a great day all!
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Just out of curiosity, how are you sure that they said "no thank you" due to you being an inter-racial couple? There are a lot of couples who get the "no thank you" emails that aren't inter-racial including ourselves. Maybe you weren't in the age/weight range or the couple has a preference for only blonde women or a preference only for men over 6'5". Most of the time you just never know. given all that, we really wonder what brought you to the conclusion that it had to do with race?
UTAH-CPLE-2006 what made us think this had do with the fact that they changed their profile to NOT INTERESTED IN INTERRACIAL COUPLES after that. Just a hunch that our e-mail had something to do with that. But who knows. Like we said it isn't the first time. We don't normal bitch about it but this time it just really pissed us off. Just curious about others thought. Thanks for the comments. They are all appreciated. :-)
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So they are not interested in getting to know interracial couples. BFD. Move along. Your loss not mine. I may not be interested in fat women, bald guys, guys who shave half their face, the list goes on. That is my prerogative. You sent them a note. They took it as a come on and they said "no thanx" I don't see any issue. No harm done.
Yes, this exact subject has been rehashed many times....
I fail to see where the issue was or where the so-called rudeness came into play. At it's most basic level, you sent an e-mail saying "hi", or whatever it contained...and they responded with a "thank you, but no thank you".
What's so rude about that? I mean...it's not like they said "oh HELL no!", right?
Even if the e-mail you sent said something as simple and clear as, "Hey...just wanted to say hi...NOT interested in play but just hanging out...blah blah blah", they offered a polite response...which was no thank-you.
Does it really matter what reasons they have for not being interested?
I think not.
Not interested is exactly what it implies: NOT INTERESTED
I fail to see where the issue was or where the so-called rudeness came into play. At it's most basic level, you sent an e-mail saying "hi", or whatever it contained...and they responded with a "thank you, but no thank you".
What's so rude about that? I mean...it's not like they said "oh HELL no!", right?
Even if the e-mail you sent said something as simple and clear as, "Hey...just wanted to say hi...NOT interested in play but just hanging out...blah blah blah", they offered a polite response...which was no thank-you.
Does it really matter what reasons they have for not being interested?
I think not.
Not interested is exactly what it implies: NOT INTERESTED
We try to look at the "Someone likes you" emails as a flattering gesture and look at the sender's profile carefully before adding them to our friends list as we know they will have access to our private photos as soon as we do that.
We would love it if the senders would add a follow up email letting us know what the intentions are as to were to pursue this new friendship. Most of our friends we have met in person at parties or meet-n-greets and its easy to just add them without concerns. We like SLS and LL for that reason, photos are protected until you grant access to couples you are very interested about.
Emails from singles go straight to "delete" as our profile states clearly "no single males or women" and we find it disrespectful when we get one. We know they didn't read our profile completely and we don't feel the need to respond to that.
We are in the lifestyle to enjoy ourselves when we have time for ourselves. Dealing with people who get offended for little reasons is just beyond our comprehension. There is way too little time to deal with that and there are plenty of couples trying to just have fun as well... we know... we have met them. Just relax, won't take the "no response/no answer" too seriously and move on... there is a lot of fun to be had. See you all at Habits on Friday.
We would love it if the senders would add a follow up email letting us know what the intentions are as to were to pursue this new friendship. Most of our friends we have met in person at parties or meet-n-greets and its easy to just add them without concerns. We like SLS and LL for that reason, photos are protected until you grant access to couples you are very interested about.
Emails from singles go straight to "delete" as our profile states clearly "no single males or women" and we find it disrespectful when we get one. We know they didn't read our profile completely and we don't feel the need to respond to that.
We are in the lifestyle to enjoy ourselves when we have time for ourselves. Dealing with people who get offended for little reasons is just beyond our comprehension. There is way too little time to deal with that and there are plenty of couples trying to just have fun as well... we know... we have met them. Just relax, won't take the "no response/no answer" too seriously and move on... there is a lot of fun to be had. See you all at Habits on Friday.
We send quite a few polite messages out ourselves and seldom get any response at all. I do not feel bad or complain at all about it though as we have one look at it. It is their loss not ours. To those that do not answere their is never bad feelings, just a lose of a possible friend. K & C
ME-N-NUDEDUDE, you hit the nail on the head. That is exactly what we were saying and we think what we posted may have been misunderstood. Thanks for the repsonse. We would like to thank everyone else for their responses as well, and it seems most have a many different views. We appreciate the honesty and a least we now know we can expect similar responses in the future no matter where we are or who we may e-mail, etc. This helped us learn a lot. This is why we love the forum; we can get honest answers. Thanks again all and have a wonderful HUMP DAY and do some humping. ;-) lol
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