As I (we are a we, it's just that I have more time for the research) continue to read postings and profiles to try to get a better feel for this new adventure, I keep wondering: why do so many people who visit the site regularly have profiles that haven't been updated in years. Is there a general reason for this? Conclusions to be drawn? I would think if they are on-line, then they are active and looking, so why have years-old profiles?
Does this tend to be indicative of something about people on-line with very dated profiles?
Does this tend to be indicative of something about people on-line with very dated profiles?
I think, based on a number of years on sites like this, that people don't think about changing their profile, at all. Unless there has been a major change in their life or they are taking a break they just don't think about changing their profile.. How would it be to put into their profile: "March 21, 08: Marge(fictitious name) just had a radical mastectomy last week and a hysterectomy the day before. We are therefore not able to play for at least 6 week to 2 months. Please excuse this inconvience and we will be back as soon as possible." or "We just had a baby and the doctor advises that we do not engage in swinging for at least 6 weeks and not until we see him again. He will test Sharon before he releases her for more fun." or "We are getting older now and even though our pictures are 10 years old we would like you to know that we havent change radically in the last 30 years. Mamma is still 38DD 28BS and 40BR. That's 38 Double Dangle, 28 Bull Shiest cause it's really 42 and 40, more like 50 Big Rear. Yes, I look a bit older now myself... Balled, Slightly wrinkled and have a goiter but essentially we are the same as we were 30 years ago.." Not sure what people would put down to upgrade their profiles... We all age and I would think that most would consider that to upgrade the profile would down-grade themselves..LOL So, what would you like to see...???
We appreciate profiles which are up-to-date, we try to keep ours pretty up to date as a courtesy to everyone. Most people find people they are interested in by browsing profiles, I would hate to show up for a date knowing my profile diddn't accurately portray us. Thats just not fair to do to other couples.
After seeing initial replies (thank you), I'd like to clarify that I really wasn't referring to current pictures (my mind's eye can add the appropriate number of years to an old pic).
What is curious to me (and this is just an example of what I'm trying to explain) are those profiles that beg the question - "Yeah and then what?" ---- In "about us" there will be some thing like "bicurious looking for 1st experience" and the post is 5 years old!
Well I ask "yeah and then what?" If you are still on line and looking let us all know what happened and just who you are now.
I wouldn't bring it up but for the fact that it seems to be quite common - too common for us to be comfortable exploring anyone of that nature
What is curious to me (and this is just an example of what I'm trying to explain) are those profiles that beg the question - "Yeah and then what?" ---- In "about us" there will be some thing like "bicurious looking for 1st experience" and the post is 5 years old!
Well I ask "yeah and then what?" If you are still on line and looking let us all know what happened and just who you are now.
I wouldn't bring it up but for the fact that it seems to be quite common - too common for us to be comfortable exploring anyone of that nature
Hey You Two!
Yeah, I have the feeling that people who chat in the forums are the people who also update their profiles regularly.... LoL....
For some, it's a painful process and they just don't feel comfortable putting too much "out there". Whenever I see that or minimal information in a profile, I realize that it's going to take some doing to get to the meat of what their desires are. That said? I don't mind a little of that. Cause in the end, I'm looking for how well they express themselves physically.... yummy!
Enjoy!
-Te
Yeah, I have the feeling that people who chat in the forums are the people who also update their profiles regularly.... LoL....
For some, it's a painful process and they just don't feel comfortable putting too much "out there". Whenever I see that or minimal information in a profile, I realize that it's going to take some doing to get to the meat of what their desires are. That said? I don't mind a little of that. Cause in the end, I'm looking for how well they express themselves physically.... yummy!
Enjoy!
-Te
Hey You Two!
Yeah, I have the feeling that people who chat in the forums are the people who also update their profiles regularly.... LoL....
For some, it's a painful process and they just don't feel comfortable putting too much "out there". Whenever I see that or minimal information in a profile, I realize that it's going to take some doing to get to the meat of what their desires are. That said? I don't mind a little of that. Cause in the end, I'm looking for how well they express themselves physically.... yummy!
Enjoy!
-Te
Yeah, I have the feeling that people who chat in the forums are the people who also update their profiles regularly.... LoL....
For some, it's a painful process and they just don't feel comfortable putting too much "out there". Whenever I see that or minimal information in a profile, I realize that it's going to take some doing to get to the meat of what their desires are. That said? I don't mind a little of that. Cause in the end, I'm looking for how well they express themselves physically.... yummy!
Enjoy!
-Te
One of the problems I have in updating my profile is deciding what to put there. How open do you make yourself? If you put too much then some will pass you by without taking even a moment to try to get to know you. At the same time though, if you don't put enough then the same result. Also, just because a person may spend a lot of time online, they may not be able to spend all that time on this site. For instance I am online almost all day at work, but there is no way i could even check my mailbox on this site from work, much less update my profile.
Now I do have to agree that if you post that you are looking for your first 3some or some other experience and you have been here for 5 years then something is either seriously wrong with your profile or yourself.
Now I do have to agree that if you post that you are looking for your first 3some or some other experience and you have been here for 5 years then something is either seriously wrong with your profile or yourself.
I would think it depends on the couple. Our pictures are the same although we may throw a new one up every once in a while but we keep in the same shape year round. Profiles change a lot over time thru experiences both good and bad. The real challenge is when reading a profile is to find what their hot spots are and they may have had some bad experiences with this lifestyle. It could save you some drama... I wouldnt read too much into it. If you chat with them once you usually have an idea if you would like to meet up with them.
Good luck
Good luck
Some good thoughts from each of you which I had not considered. Thanks for helping educate us - anyone else?
...the photos of me in the powder blue tux are from prom but people tell me I havent changed a bit!!! lol
Haha UTAH....I really dig the fancy ruffles on your shirt with that powder blue tux! And no, you haven't aged a day!
I mean I may not be quite as thin as I once was, and I may have less hair in some areas and more in others, but BASICALLY I look exactly the same as I did in 1977 and I don't have a webcam because, well, you see, I need to be discreet but if you will just meet me...lol