I'm good looking clean and friendly. Yet it seems I just don't make the quality control cut off line here. I'm not expecting much but when a call for single guys goes out I'm quite puzzled I've not yet made the cut. If anyone would take a second and give me some imput as to why this might be I'd be very thankful to you. Thanks in advance.
Busa
Busa
"By being the Powerful, Honest and Loving man that I am I bring trust and unity to the world."
With out knowing you at all, no judgement here........
Its difficult to understand what you're really about. It's a pretty bold statement, doesn't really say much. I would try and expand on your information section, more about yourself and what you're looking for. Maybe some more photos would help. As always it's a tough road being a single male! You have my sympathies!
Come out and get to know people at the meet n' greets.
What kind of people are you trying to attract?
With out knowing you at all, no judgement here........
Its difficult to understand what you're really about. It's a pretty bold statement, doesn't really say much. I would try and expand on your information section, more about yourself and what you're looking for. Maybe some more photos would help. As always it's a tough road being a single male! You have my sympathies!
Come out and get to know people at the meet n' greets.
What kind of people are you trying to attract?
ABCMAN, that was a stiff response.
Wow Abcman, Seems you are not very happy with your choice of being in the
lifestyle. How do you justify slamming Hotcpl34 when is all they did was answer
a question that somebody ask? Everybody has the right to choose who & what
they are looking for. Like us for example we would not be interested in you becuase
of your weight (over 250lbs). If you really believe as you state "this fucked up world of swinging" is really that fucked up why are you in it? On the other hand maybe your just lashing out becuase nobody will do you.
lifestyle. How do you justify slamming Hotcpl34 when is all they did was answer
a question that somebody ask? Everybody has the right to choose who & what
they are looking for. Like us for example we would not be interested in you becuase
of your weight (over 250lbs). If you really believe as you state "this fucked up world of swinging" is really that fucked up why are you in it? On the other hand maybe your just lashing out becuase nobody will do you.
well you guys i might be out of place here, but we have found that pics are pics, the attractration really never happenens till you meet people, i just believe that single guys should have the same rights as anyone else on here, because it seems that to limit things on this site, is taking away from what swinging is all about, being completly open to the people that are here, and the expeirience that might come along, we all have our own twisted preversions, but thats why we are here so that we can fulfill those things that we as couples, and single want to act out, i don't believe that all should share my thoughts, and i don't always agree with what i see on here, but i do respect each of you for what you think, and want to experience by being here, so as far as i'm concerned single males, single females and couples should all have the same right to play, if you don't like their outlook on things, just step away, you all have a hot sexy wonderful saturday, get naked and chill
UTCPL: Why is it you ALWAYS have to parade around in the forum with your nasty comments and disgust at other members' appearances, body habituses, and so-called shortcomings (in your eyes)?
You've publicly attacked us personally and especially me (Mr. T) repeatedly, with derogatory remarks about my appearance and what you find unattractive about me, and we've watched you do it to others countless times.
Reasons for why you are not attracted to ANYONE on this site should be kept private and perhaps in private e-mails, not flaunted liberally all over the Forum posts. It's all good that you have your preferences and standards...we all do...but for the love of God, KEEP IT TO YOURSELVES!
I would imagine the vast majority of Swingular-goers don't care about your personal preferences, as they, believe it or not, are not all on a waiting list to "do" you! Not all of us are striving to be UTCPL-worthy.
Are you really so socially inept and narcissistic to believe that you are in a position greater than any of ours to offer such commentary?
And quite frankly it is none of your business, much less to publicly offer publicly, your keen insight as to if and why any couple or individual on this site is "getting any".
Why are you so hateful?
~J~
P.S. Sorry for the thread hi-jacking Q...now back to the original post....
You've publicly attacked us personally and especially me (Mr. T) repeatedly, with derogatory remarks about my appearance and what you find unattractive about me, and we've watched you do it to others countless times.
Reasons for why you are not attracted to ANYONE on this site should be kept private and perhaps in private e-mails, not flaunted liberally all over the Forum posts. It's all good that you have your preferences and standards...we all do...but for the love of God, KEEP IT TO YOURSELVES!
I would imagine the vast majority of Swingular-goers don't care about your personal preferences, as they, believe it or not, are not all on a waiting list to "do" you! Not all of us are striving to be UTCPL-worthy.
Are you really so socially inept and narcissistic to believe that you are in a position greater than any of ours to offer such commentary?
And quite frankly it is none of your business, much less to publicly offer publicly, your keen insight as to if and why any couple or individual on this site is "getting any".
Why are you so hateful?
~J~
P.S. Sorry for the thread hi-jacking Q...now back to the original post....
Thought, it really got under your skin when we
turned you down for a party way back when
didn't it. You have attacked us every chance you
get ever since. Give it up & move on.
turned you down for a party way back when
didn't it. You have attacked us every chance you
get ever since. Give it up & move on.
Thought, it really got under your skin when we
turned you down for a party way back when
didn't it. You have attacked us every chance you
get ever since. Give it up & move on.
turned you down for a party way back when
didn't it. You have attacked us every chance you
get ever since. Give it up & move on.
Actually no...it doesn't and hasn't gotten under my skin because we've never been turned
down by you (In order to be turned down..technically there has to be a proposition initiated, of some type, right?).
Both Siren and I are sitting here looking at each other like, "huh"?
I don't recall expressing any interest in any parties that you may have had, and in fact don't recall ever reading/hearing about any. Do you know why? Because it's never happened.
The four of us maintain completely different social circles you see, so the liklihood of us knowing or receiving an invite to one of your so-called parties would be would be slim at best.
I've been known to be wrong before, so please, if you care to give specifics as to which party, which year or better yet, which date specifically, I may stand corrected, then we can talk.
~J~
BTW, if you're impatient and hit the send button again before the page refreshes...you get duplicate messages. Just a little tidbit o' advice for ya *wink*
down by you (In order to be turned down..technically there has to be a proposition initiated, of some type, right?).
Both Siren and I are sitting here looking at each other like, "huh"?
I don't recall expressing any interest in any parties that you may have had, and in fact don't recall ever reading/hearing about any. Do you know why? Because it's never happened.
The four of us maintain completely different social circles you see, so the liklihood of us knowing or receiving an invite to one of your so-called parties would be would be slim at best.
I've been known to be wrong before, so please, if you care to give specifics as to which party, which year or better yet, which date specifically, I may stand corrected, then we can talk.
~J~
BTW, if you're impatient and hit the send button again before the page refreshes...you get duplicate messages. Just a little tidbit o' advice for ya *wink*
Damn Rippin22, we love how you think! Please move to Florida near us, we need more people like you here.
Q31,
There is no magic to it. It's all about who is attracted to you. Since we all want something different, the answer will vary from everyone. People can pick you apart and blame it on your piercings, your hair or you profile, just as you can do the same to them. Perhaps girls with fucked up teeth, stretch marks or a fat ass might turn you away. We all have our hang-ups.
The truth is that it's just the luck of the draw. Keep trying by presenting yourself the way you trully are and be flexible as much as you can and shit will work out. Also remember that those who would judge you over insignificant things, don't deserve your company anyway.
-D-
There is no magic to it. It's all about who is attracted to you. Since we all want something different, the answer will vary from everyone. People can pick you apart and blame it on your piercings, your hair or you profile, just as you can do the same to them. Perhaps girls with fucked up teeth, stretch marks or a fat ass might turn you away. We all have our hang-ups.
The truth is that it's just the luck of the draw. Keep trying by presenting yourself the way you trully are and be flexible as much as you can and shit will work out. Also remember that those who would judge you over insignificant things, don't deserve your company anyway.
-D-
Rider, certainly no worries there.
All i can say is i totally agree with thoughtgarden. I have met plenty of people that thought they were all that they might have a perfect body but nothing upstairs to go with it. If you dont want to get to know us then i look at it as your loss because i know what i have and i think i look pretty damn good for having five kids. So i dont take a not interested personally because im better than that. I build my own selfesteem not wait for some body else to do it!!!!
The feedback hasn't been as plentiful as the highjack but I think everyone for taking the time to bounce around my profile for a second and see what is going on. My statement about being a powerful man was really a search light to a very very limited group of people. I put that up there to see if anyone that would understan that phrase is on this site. Still none yet but one day it'll happen. Again, I thank everyone that has taken a second to reply here and also those who have sent me messages. later
BUSA
BUSA
btw I wear that silly for coat alot. If you see me say hi
rolls his eyes....and you wonder why the forums are all ways bashing persons....ask a question get bashed answer a question get bashed why the hell bouther trying..
Just a thought... Like BarbieandKen, when we started playing in this arena we knew what we wanted physically but, like they say, we also noticed that physical appearance or age isn't the only thing that makes a couple sexy or sensual. We have met and play with couples who are more beautiful by the way they carry themselves than by the way they look. Being comfortable and having a great time with people go hand in hand.
Q31, if you notice, our profile says "no singles, men or women" that's just our preference in the lifestyle but we have single friends who hang out and play with us and our group of friends, so there is always an exception to every rule. The singles we know have made their way into our lifestyle by the way they carry themselves and not by the way they look. The "dreaded" single male doesn't exist in our book as there is nothing to dread. You either are accepted or not. It all depends on your first impression in person and not on what you write on your profile as most of the time "someone likes you" emails from single males go straight to the delete section. Don't take anything that people say or write too seriously. Whenever you see couples having fun at Habits or anywhere else, just stop by and say hello and show them what you are all about, fur coat or not... You never know where the after party will take you. Just asking for advice is a good sign that you have care and respect of what couples think of you.
Our two cents....
Q31, if you notice, our profile says "no singles, men or women" that's just our preference in the lifestyle but we have single friends who hang out and play with us and our group of friends, so there is always an exception to every rule. The singles we know have made their way into our lifestyle by the way they carry themselves and not by the way they look. The "dreaded" single male doesn't exist in our book as there is nothing to dread. You either are accepted or not. It all depends on your first impression in person and not on what you write on your profile as most of the time "someone likes you" emails from single males go straight to the delete section. Don't take anything that people say or write too seriously. Whenever you see couples having fun at Habits or anywhere else, just stop by and say hello and show them what you are all about, fur coat or not... You never know where the after party will take you. Just asking for advice is a good sign that you have care and respect of what couples think of you.
Our two cents....
Oh my gawd folks. I've never met anyone in this forum posting nor have I shared any emails with any of you so I can't speak to how you are in real life. All I will say however is that this site was meant to be for meeting new people, making friends and having fun. I have never seen a group of 'Adults' (which I am using this term VERY loosely right now) act like a bunch of rich spoiled brats who are defending their cliques! I have never been so disgusted at reading replies to a simple question. While I likely will never have an opportunity to meet with any of you in person, I will say that I will turn down any chance at it as I choose to associate with those who are not into this kind of petty attitude.
I personally am used to receiving some level of abuse from folks in and out of the swinging lifestyle due to my lifestyle choices so if you feel the need to abuse me because of my posting here; all I can say is bring it on. I'm a true ADULT and can take it and will not take up someones forum posting to berate and beat up others.
For the poor young man that started this forum, I will personally apologize for my part in hijacking your thread here but felt compelled to step in here and do what I could to bring the petty bickering to a close.
Alecia
I personally am used to receiving some level of abuse from folks in and out of the swinging lifestyle due to my lifestyle choices so if you feel the need to abuse me because of my posting here; all I can say is bring it on. I'm a true ADULT and can take it and will not take up someones forum posting to berate and beat up others.
For the poor young man that started this forum, I will personally apologize for my part in hijacking your thread here but felt compelled to step in here and do what I could to bring the petty bickering to a close.
Alecia
I've been to habits a couple of time but wasn't really welcomed. Which I understand I had nothing to tie me to the conversations I'd had here. I'll wear the coat now for some laughs and some recognition so maybe this next trip to habits will look a little different for me. After the posting of this forum I see now that there isn't a plague like avoidance of single men. I just hadn't said of done interesting enough to let me stand out from the herd of other single guys. I again thank everyone for your input, hijackers included, and hope now that the coat and my words assist me in making some new friends. Later on.
BUSA
BUSA
Abc, you are the one who started the attacking. If
you don't like it in return then keep your mouth shut.
you don't like it in return then keep your mouth shut.
I'm with RIPIN22 on this one. We came to this website to meet people who are as open minded as we are. We live by the phrase "To each his own" Not always do we agree to someones opinion or preferrence but we respect their freewill to have that opinion or preferrence. We are not "hard" swingers and can be at times particular who we'll jump into bed with, but at least we reserve the right to tell someone that they are just not for us. Isn't that what this lifestyle is all about in the first place. I realize not alot of couples are into single guys, but should they be punished for that? We have brought our longtime 'friend' to the meet and greets and have been thanked for introducing him and for the insight that he has brought to the group as a single guy. In return he was met by the "Jealous husbands club" and has since backed off from the sight because of poor feed back from the people who have yet to meet him. It's amazing what you can miss out on if your mouth opens before your eyes do. I thought that NO judgements is what this was all about. I know that is what we were looking for when we signed up :::sigh:: I guess it's the same all over ... and here I thought it was just a Utah thing lol
Rubs and kisses
Mare
Rubs and kisses
Mare
P.S. Q31 If the current hair pick is accurate .... yummy
P.S. Q31 If the current hair pick is accurate .... yummy
P.S. Q31 If the current hair pick is accurate .... yummy
Sorry Y'all my 'puter is stutterin'
OK, Let me in on it, If the shoe fits WEAR IT
1)EVERYONE REPORT TO THE PRINCIPLE OFFICE
2)CHILDREN GO TO YOUR ROOM
3)RATED MATURE ADULTS (Stimulating- Enticing Xciting)
4) ALL ELSE CLASS OF THEIR OWN (get a life)
1)EVERYONE REPORT TO THE PRINCIPLE OFFICE
2)CHILDREN GO TO YOUR ROOM
3)RATED MATURE ADULTS (Stimulating- Enticing Xciting)
4) ALL ELSE CLASS OF THEIR OWN (get a life)
Damn this thing has a lot longer legs than I ever expected it to have.
folks are on their soap boxes, again. Just give the man the feedback he is asking for. stop all the bashing, that is what 'personal' emails are for. What happen to all the luv that is suppose to be here?
Yea enough bashing, we just felt abcman
was out of line and needed a knock.
was out of line and needed a knock.