HEllo to everyone.I and my beautiful wife have been members of this site for over a year(?)And I have read a few of the forum post on here.Now I understand better than anybody the right to party,swing and have sex with the person,persons of THEIR choice.But what I have to propose here is this.When I was in high school I looked like the foriegn exchange student on That 70's show(Name escapes me now but now THAT important) And as I went out into the world of dating I guess i had Some ESTABLISED PREFERENCES of the women I wanted to be with.NOW before I go any further I HAVE ALWAYS been attracted to the fuller-figured Rubenesque woman.PERIOD.What I refer to is smoking,drinking,AGE, height,weight,KIDS and other general aspects of these womenTo me if she was a BIG GIRL ..I AM THERE..So when I read these profiles I read HEIGHT WEIGHT PROPOTIONED...To WHOSE specifictions?ALSO iUSED TO HEAR must HAVE HAIR BUT THEN BE AS BALD AS A CHHUAHUA.Now I am not setting up a FLAME post my QUESTION is this.. 1-If you are YOUNG and dont want to party with people as OLD as your parents-then when YOU are OLD will you go for YOUNGSTERS?And if you are met with the same PREFERENCES will it upset YOU? 2-And these HWP people have you ever met someone who was a great person but didnt EXACTLY meet your PREFERENCES did you decline..even though there are some who say CHARACTER is what counts MORE than LOOKS. 3-Also when someone tells me well I HAVE TO BE ATTRACTED TO YOU..I remember that some of THE GREATEST SEX I every had WASNT with the HOTTEST women BUT the ones who KNEW what is was to F#CK!I am saying that to me and my wife sex it the MOST PERSONAL thing you could GIVE anyone and not to be taken lightly..BUT you shouldnt be sooooo ANAL about it!SWINGING was originated as a break form the NORM of your spouse and to try SOMETINHG different..and to be just THAT..NOT to find a NEW SPOUSE or to GET BACK at your spouse...It is meant to be enjoyed BY EVERYONE..Sorry I tend to GET on a soapbox sometimes just wanted to put this out there..kinda see what everyone thought..AND PLEASE dont make thiss into a FLAMING PILE OF CRAP!Everyone has an opinion..And we are all ADULTS here..BYE-And Hang in there KattNJohn
Consider this... We are all in this to get something new and exciting. We want something that we desire, not something we settle for. We all have individual taste and preference. I think it is perfectly acceptable to refuse sexual encounters with those that you are not attracted to.
Think of it this way. If you are not into coprophasia and someone offers you a plate of shit, should you be socially condemned because you don't like eating shit? NO! I think you are entitled to choose who you wish for whatever reason you want. On the same token, you should then except that others are going to use the same scrutiny when considering you. That's my opinion.
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Think of it this way. If you are not into coprophasia and someone offers you a plate of shit, should you be socially condemned because you don't like eating shit? NO! I think you are entitled to choose who you wish for whatever reason you want. On the same token, you should then except that others are going to use the same scrutiny when considering you. That's my opinion.
-D-
AHHH.NO! DON that is not what I am refering to..anyone who thinks eating Human or any other bodily waste IS EROTIC is very MUCH DISTURBED..that is for DrPhil to handle.I mean IF you have these THINGS that YOU need TO GET OFF..THEN when those THINGS become nonexsistent anymore to you..ie-LOOKS...HAIR...PENIS or whatever then do you just HANG IT UP because you ARENT PHYSICALLY attracted to ANYONE??I think there are ALOT of SO-called SWINGERS who are nothing more than self centered people.There is a movie that came out in the 70's called SWINGERS it dealt alot with the differnt personal VIEWS of everyone in the movie.As for me I am an equal oppurtunity swinger..TO exclude anyone..just becaue your dick dosent get hard at the site of them is purely ludicrous..because that is the whole basis of marriage to be married to that ONE person that DOES everthing for you..so why would you Wife-Swap..Swing or participate in ANY extra marital activities?At one time or another EVERYONE thinks about someone or something else besides their own mate..NOW that dosent mean that you love or desire your mate ANY LESS..We all have little nuances that our mates dont have..so just to say that I HAVE to be attracted to someone JUST to have sex ...I dont know sounds sort of suspect to me of something else involved ..THATS just MY opion...Bye KattNJohn
BEANYKATT,
I don't agree. There is plenty of people that do not like older, fatter, younger, shorter, etc. You are attracted to what you are attracted to. Period. You can't fault people for having preferences. Are some people ridiculously picky? Yes, but that's their choice not yours. You aren't going to change their minds with this thread. Does it make them any less of a swinger? NO! It just makes them a picky swinger. The coprophasia analogy was to prove the point that we all have preferences. Some people aren't into overweight or older because it's not aethetically pleasing to them. Is that wrong? NO!
I think that you need to focus on your successes and those that are attracted to you. What good does it do to ridicule those that are not into you? You can't force attraction. Furthermore comparing growing old with someone and accepting the changes both of you are going through to expecting a 20 year old woman to just jump into the sack with an overweight 50 year old man she's just met, is "ludacris". None of us should ever "take one for the team". EVER!
-D-
P.S. Do I think that people have "taken one for the team", whilst playing with us? Hell yeah because my wife is a hottie and I am a fat Greek bastard. LOL!
I don't agree. There is plenty of people that do not like older, fatter, younger, shorter, etc. You are attracted to what you are attracted to. Period. You can't fault people for having preferences. Are some people ridiculously picky? Yes, but that's their choice not yours. You aren't going to change their minds with this thread. Does it make them any less of a swinger? NO! It just makes them a picky swinger. The coprophasia analogy was to prove the point that we all have preferences. Some people aren't into overweight or older because it's not aethetically pleasing to them. Is that wrong? NO!
I think that you need to focus on your successes and those that are attracted to you. What good does it do to ridicule those that are not into you? You can't force attraction. Furthermore comparing growing old with someone and accepting the changes both of you are going through to expecting a 20 year old woman to just jump into the sack with an overweight 50 year old man she's just met, is "ludacris". None of us should ever "take one for the team". EVER!
-D-
P.S. Do I think that people have "taken one for the team", whilst playing with us? Hell yeah because my wife is a hottie and I am a fat Greek bastard. LOL!
Ok, at the risk on sounding shallow I have to respond to this one. We must have an attraction to someone before playing with them. My wife is younger then I so she is more concerned about the ages then I am. We both are big on proper hygene, manners ,personality, and self esteem. In order to be involved in our lives you must make our life a better place by being a part of it. I don`t mind bbw women but if I have to move the layers of skin to find the vagina then I am not going to be attracted to you. And male members of the dickie do club are not going to be for her.
You said you had some of the greatest sex with women you thought were not the hottest. Maybe you were wrong in your judgement about them because the knowing how to let loose and have fun can make one very attractive to us.
The self esteem we mentioned would cover the fact that I am follically challenged but am very comfortable with it. If a lady is looking for a guy comfortable in his own skin then I am for her. We are not young but not old either and we prefer to stay close to our own ages simply because we seem to have the most in common with people in our age range. Key word is preference, so if an older couple that we can connect with approaches us it is game on and same goes for a younger couple. Again personality goes a long way as does maturity. I think we all get judged every day in life so being judged as we age is not going to be an issue. If the youngsters at that time think we are to old then no problem, we probably wouldn`t be on the same maturity level anyway.
We do agree that swinging to us is getting a break from the norm of each other. This is why we are most attracted physically to others that are built different then each other.
Bottom line is it never hurts to approach someone but if they are not interested in meeting then simply move on to someone that is into meeting you. If you can not accept a "no" in this lifestyle then you should not be in it. We all get judged every day so learn to deal with it and it will make you a happier person.
Hope you don`t take this as a flame because it is not meant as one. Just our opinions and some insight as to who we are.
You said you had some of the greatest sex with women you thought were not the hottest. Maybe you were wrong in your judgement about them because the knowing how to let loose and have fun can make one very attractive to us.
The self esteem we mentioned would cover the fact that I am follically challenged but am very comfortable with it. If a lady is looking for a guy comfortable in his own skin then I am for her. We are not young but not old either and we prefer to stay close to our own ages simply because we seem to have the most in common with people in our age range. Key word is preference, so if an older couple that we can connect with approaches us it is game on and same goes for a younger couple. Again personality goes a long way as does maturity. I think we all get judged every day in life so being judged as we age is not going to be an issue. If the youngsters at that time think we are to old then no problem, we probably wouldn`t be on the same maturity level anyway.
We do agree that swinging to us is getting a break from the norm of each other. This is why we are most attracted physically to others that are built different then each other.
Bottom line is it never hurts to approach someone but if they are not interested in meeting then simply move on to someone that is into meeting you. If you can not accept a "no" in this lifestyle then you should not be in it. We all get judged every day so learn to deal with it and it will make you a happier person.
Hope you don`t take this as a flame because it is not meant as one. Just our opinions and some insight as to who we are.
Posted By: BEANYKATT Reply posted on:
Jan 27, 2008 - 1:02 pm
AHHH.NO! DON that is not what I am refering to..anyone who thinks eating Human or any other bodily waste IS EROTIC is very MUCH DISTURBED.
I think there are ALOT of SO-called SWINGERS who are nothing more than self centered people.
As for me I am an equal oppurtunity swinger..
TO exclude anyone..just becaue your dick dosent get hard at the site of them is purely ludicrous..
because that is the whole basis of marriage to be married to that ONE person that DOES everthing for you..so why would you Wife-Swap..Swing or participate in ANY extra marital activities?At one time or another EVERYONE thinks about someone or something else besides their own mate..
NOW that dosent mean that you love or desire your mate ANY LESS..We all have little nuances that our mates dont have..
so just to say that I HAVE to be attracted to someone JUST to have sex ...
I dont know sounds sort of suspect to me of something else involved .
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You know, there are those that think that anyone watching someone fucking his wife's lights out and thinking it IS EROTIC is very MUCH DISTURBED too.
We live in a self centered world. We do this to avoid that because we find it undesirable or to get that because it is desirable TO US.
Good for you.
IF my dick can't get hard with this person, what do you want me to do? Take one for the cause of being equal opportunity? I might take one for the team but to have me take one for a cause is kinda difficult, don't you think?
I don't follow. Haven't you answered your own question?
OK. That is fine. Maybe I have an average dick and she might want a change of pace with a guy with a thick dick once in a while or maybe she wants a change of guy. What do you want me to do about that? Grow a couple inches of girth or be schizophrenic for a bit?
What??? Even Cialis cannot get you hard if you are not attracted to that person. What do you expect? The person looks better as you drink more??
Like what else involved are you refering to?
Jan 27, 2008 - 1:02 pm
AHHH.NO! DON that is not what I am refering to..anyone who thinks eating Human or any other bodily waste IS EROTIC is very MUCH DISTURBED.
I think there are ALOT of SO-called SWINGERS who are nothing more than self centered people.
As for me I am an equal oppurtunity swinger..
TO exclude anyone..just becaue your dick dosent get hard at the site of them is purely ludicrous..
because that is the whole basis of marriage to be married to that ONE person that DOES everthing for you..so why would you Wife-Swap..Swing or participate in ANY extra marital activities?At one time or another EVERYONE thinks about someone or something else besides their own mate..
NOW that dosent mean that you love or desire your mate ANY LESS..We all have little nuances that our mates dont have..
so just to say that I HAVE to be attracted to someone JUST to have sex ...
I dont know sounds sort of suspect to me of something else involved .
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You know, there are those that think that anyone watching someone fucking his wife's lights out and thinking it IS EROTIC is very MUCH DISTURBED too.
We live in a self centered world. We do this to avoid that because we find it undesirable or to get that because it is desirable TO US.
Good for you.
IF my dick can't get hard with this person, what do you want me to do? Take one for the cause of being equal opportunity? I might take one for the team but to have me take one for a cause is kinda difficult, don't you think?
I don't follow. Haven't you answered your own question?
OK. That is fine. Maybe I have an average dick and she might want a change of pace with a guy with a thick dick once in a while or maybe she wants a change of guy. What do you want me to do about that? Grow a couple inches of girth or be schizophrenic for a bit?
What??? Even Cialis cannot get you hard if you are not attracted to that person. What do you expect? The person looks better as you drink more??
Like what else involved are you refering to?
Posted By: TEQUILAROSE Reply posted on:
Jan 27, 2008 - 2:29 pm
You can't force attraction.
None of us should ever "take one for the team". EVER!
-D-
Stalkers think they can
I'd take one for the team way before I take one for the cause of being an equal opportunity swinger.
Jan 27, 2008 - 2:29 pm
You can't force attraction.
None of us should ever "take one for the team". EVER!
-D-
Stalkers think they can
I'd take one for the team way before I take one for the cause of being an equal opportunity swinger.
When they are younger, if they find themselves attracted to younger people, so be it. When they get older and they find themselves in that same position, they have a choice. Either try find the young couple that wants to play with them or they will edge themselves out of the market. When my car was new, I could ask $20K for it and get it. 6 months later, maybe $20K but 19 is more likely. When it gets to be 10 yrs old, well, I can still ask 20K for it but probably won't get anyone interested. At that point, either I keep the car or I sell it at market value. Same principle.
Posted By: BUNNYPLUS1 Reply posted on:
Jan 27, 2008 - 3:11 pm
There also seems to be a lot hurt feelings here. Mostly discussed on the forums in rants about how people are so picky. Get over it. If everyone was the same robot without any uniqueness, that just jumped into bed to fuck what would be the whole point in this. Seriously, we are not all compatible. Its not possible. Move on and find someone with whom you are compatible with. Quit whining that you can't put another notch on your bedpost, embrace your individuality, and respect and even learn to adore the differences in everyone.
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I think the problem is that people are naturally picky and some people are left out. Then, like you noticed, feelings are hurt and they rant about picky people. Well what did they expect? That just because they are not picky because they are that way and will fuck anyone, anything, anyhow all the way to them not being in the position to be picky, others have to be the same way? Have we been rejected by others because we don't meet up to their standards? Absolutely. As you said, move on
Jan 27, 2008 - 3:11 pm
There also seems to be a lot hurt feelings here. Mostly discussed on the forums in rants about how people are so picky. Get over it. If everyone was the same robot without any uniqueness, that just jumped into bed to fuck what would be the whole point in this. Seriously, we are not all compatible. Its not possible. Move on and find someone with whom you are compatible with. Quit whining that you can't put another notch on your bedpost, embrace your individuality, and respect and even learn to adore the differences in everyone.
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I think the problem is that people are naturally picky and some people are left out. Then, like you noticed, feelings are hurt and they rant about picky people. Well what did they expect? That just because they are not picky because they are that way and will fuck anyone, anything, anyhow all the way to them not being in the position to be picky, others have to be the same way? Have we been rejected by others because we don't meet up to their standards? Absolutely. As you said, move on
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OooooooK looks like this is really tough for people to UNDERSTAND Soooo let me address evceryone SEPERATELY..DON-I am NOT judging anybody or calling ANYBODY out-But I have noticed that in any post you always say tyhe SAME things AND get REALLY defensive about them???Focussing IS what I am doing that is why I came up with this post.And I am not ridiculing anybody.I NEVER said MY opion WAS the RIGHT one.....NPNudist-You proved my point the reason I had such great sex with people THAT WASNT HOT to me or others was becasue they let themselves go and became NORMAL people.You understand MOST of my point.ANd NO I am not judging anybody..just an observer...If you dont have a MENTAL connection with someone THEN it is just physical and your just FUCKING to get YOURSELF OFF-SHAME!....ClassySexFun NOPE dont have a dilemna-just an observation for DEBATE-NOT HATE...And I enjoy MY marital bliss..IMMENSELY...AKL69??????????What?.....ValPar I will be sure to let TIME magazine know to add more PICTURES and white space to break up all those bad letters...ooooh!And again I am NOT here to change ANYBODYS point of view...WOW seems like some people have been cut before..just TO CLARIFY...I have had sex with women between the ages of 18 to 60,every nationality BUT ASIAN..from 5ft to 6/1 100 to 350..breast size 36B to 44HH and IN MY LIFE IVE LOVED THEM ALL..Take one for the team..What a load of crap!!!1
OKAY more...BUNNY///...move on FROM WHAT///I am MARRIED to a hot woman..who said I was MAD about NOT getting Any?/SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE ALOT OF UNRESOLVED FEELINGS HERE..I AM not THE ONE WHO HAS HURT YOU...ok!.. AKL AGAIN???wHAT?MAN seems like you guys are really stuck on BEING absolutely right..And being a robot that is a good one..I have noticed that ALOT of drinking goes on at these so called SWINGER clubs ..ALWAYS thought that if YOU have to get DRUNK to have SEX with ME..I had rather JACK-Off..Maybe Being with someone you DONT regret being with BY him BEING Sooo hot YOU will respect YOURSELF in the morning....NOW here is a point of view LET us see WHO gets IT..Justin Timberlake..left Britney???Tono Romo Left Jessica Simpson??Wonder why..and GUY dont tell me that YOU wouldnt bed anyone of those two..MAYBE looks dont cuont for ALL THAT MUCH???
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<i>"OooooooK looks like this is really tough for people to UNDERSTAND Soooo let me address evceryone SEPERATELY..DON-I am NOT judging anybody or calling ANYBODY out-But I have noticed that in any post you always say tyhe SAME things AND get REALLY defensive about them???Focussing IS what I am doing that is why I came up with this post.And I am not ridiculing anybody.I NEVER said MY opion WAS the RIGHT one....."</i>
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Ok, so if you are not accusing people of being to picky or having to high of standards because they don't want to just jump into the sack with someone they're not attracted to, what are you saying?
I am not getting defensive about anything. I am simply giving you my opinion. I don't think anyone is wrong for not wanting to sleep with someone because of their age or weight if it adversely affects their attraction. ;-)
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<i>".I mean IF you have these THINGS that YOU need TO GET OFF..THEN when those THINGS become nonexsistent anymore to you..ie-LOOKS...HAIR...PENIS or whatever then do you just HANG IT UP because you ARENT PHYSICALLY attracted to ANYONE??"</i>
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That would be true. If you took all those things away, let's say... You were the last person on earth... Would you then start fucking animals or hang it up? I'll take door number 2.
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P.S. does your shift key stick or your caps-lock key engage intermittently?
<i>"OooooooK looks like this is really tough for people to UNDERSTAND Soooo let me address evceryone SEPERATELY..DON-I am NOT judging anybody or calling ANYBODY out-But I have noticed that in any post you always say tyhe SAME things AND get REALLY defensive about them???Focussing IS what I am doing that is why I came up with this post.And I am not ridiculing anybody.I NEVER said MY opion WAS the RIGHT one....."</i>
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Ok, so if you are not accusing people of being to picky or having to high of standards because they don't want to just jump into the sack with someone they're not attracted to, what are you saying?
I am not getting defensive about anything. I am simply giving you my opinion. I don't think anyone is wrong for not wanting to sleep with someone because of their age or weight if it adversely affects their attraction. ;-)
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<i>".I mean IF you have these THINGS that YOU need TO GET OFF..THEN when those THINGS become nonexsistent anymore to you..ie-LOOKS...HAIR...PENIS or whatever then do you just HANG IT UP because you ARENT PHYSICALLY attracted to ANYONE??"</i>
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That would be true. If you took all those things away, let's say... You were the last person on earth... Would you then start fucking animals or hang it up? I'll take door number 2.
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P.S. does your shift key stick or your caps-lock key engage intermittently?
OKAY Don this is what I would like to know I have the preference for bbws BUT I have come to learnh that the woman I refuse JUST because SHE ISNT..just might be a wonderful EXPERIENCE..I learned that what I held to value when I was 21 HAS Changed ..AND was just wondering if THOSE who do how will they react when NOW they are OLD or LOST their HAIR or CANT loose the weight???ME I have GREAT sex WITH MY WIFE..everything else is just added gravy..NOT here to accuse or flame just wanted to know how would you feel if YOU were in a room of women YOU found attractive..BUT DIDNT FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE because of yourpreferences?i Guess that is all I wanted to KNOW DON..didnt mean to excite
What I am saying is that for some, the experience would not be "wonderful" because they are repulsed physically by the attribute in question. Part of the experience with the other person is their appearance.
Oh and why do you think I am excited or upset? I am perfectly calm and just as curious about your position. Perhaps you should not be so "defensive". LOL!
As far as "being in a room full of attractive women that didn't find me attractive"... It happens all the time. I focus on the few that are. ;-)
-D-
Oh and why do you think I am excited or upset? I am perfectly calm and just as curious about your position. Perhaps you should not be so "defensive". LOL!
As far as "being in a room full of attractive women that didn't find me attractive"... It happens all the time. I focus on the few that are. ;-)
-D-
Posted By: BEANYKATT Reply posted on:
Jan 27, 2008 - 4:23 pm
If you dont have a MENTAL connection with someone THEN it is just physical and your just FUCKING to get YOURSELF OFF-SHAME!
I have had sex with women between the ages of 18 to 60,every nationality BUT ASIAN..from 5ft to 6/1 100 to 350..breast size 36B to 44HH and IN MY LIFE IVE LOVED THEM ALL..Take one for the team..What a load of crap!!!
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Well, how much mental connection are you talking about? That can range from saying "hi" to getting married. Where are you drawing the line? And while we are on the subject, what is so shameful about fucking to get off? Who made you the judge of what is shameful or not? Isn't that just as judgmental as me saying I only want to fuck a girl who is younger than X yrs old and she has to weigh Y lbs and be of a height around Z inches?
If you loved them all, fine. But not everybody is you nor does everybody want to be you. Therefore, if we are not you then we would be taking one for the concept of being equal opportunity.
Jan 27, 2008 - 4:23 pm
If you dont have a MENTAL connection with someone THEN it is just physical and your just FUCKING to get YOURSELF OFF-SHAME!
I have had sex with women between the ages of 18 to 60,every nationality BUT ASIAN..from 5ft to 6/1 100 to 350..breast size 36B to 44HH and IN MY LIFE IVE LOVED THEM ALL..Take one for the team..What a load of crap!!!
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Well, how much mental connection are you talking about? That can range from saying "hi" to getting married. Where are you drawing the line? And while we are on the subject, what is so shameful about fucking to get off? Who made you the judge of what is shameful or not? Isn't that just as judgmental as me saying I only want to fuck a girl who is younger than X yrs old and she has to weigh Y lbs and be of a height around Z inches?
If you loved them all, fine. But not everybody is you nor does everybody want to be you. Therefore, if we are not you then we would be taking one for the concept of being equal opportunity.
Umm... is this guy mad because we all don't share his taste in women?
I suppose I could be pissy because every profile here is more likely to say, "NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN" instead of, "We're looking for a skinny, goofy white guy who doesn't bring anything particularly unique to our situation." But what would this accomplish?
Speaking from personal experience, people who reject me are more than likely saving me from a sub-par experience I'd rather not have in the first place. There's always more fun to be had when the attraction is mutual; that is my preference.
I suppose I could be pissy because every profile here is more likely to say, "NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN" instead of, "We're looking for a skinny, goofy white guy who doesn't bring anything particularly unique to our situation." But what would this accomplish?
Speaking from personal experience, people who reject me are more than likely saving me from a sub-par experience I'd rather not have in the first place. There's always more fun to be had when the attraction is mutual; that is my preference.
Thanks vp, now we both have a headache.
And Don, you are in the middle of the wrong room my friend. I think you might get raped if you were in the middle of the room we were at last night.
And I am to stupid to know if the creator of this thread agreed with me or not. I understand that he is saying be nice to old people or fat people because you might be that way someday and then you will see what it is like. I have been as heavy as 300lbs and as little as 200lbs and was amazed at the difference in how I was treated by society at the two weights. Overweight people are treated more harshly, lose weight or deal with it. Damn, the last thing I would ever want is to find out a lady is giving me a pitty piece of ass or considers fucking me as taking on for the team. Being told no is a lot less demoralizing then knowing I was just a charity fuck.
And Don, you are in the middle of the wrong room my friend. I think you might get raped if you were in the middle of the room we were at last night.
And I am to stupid to know if the creator of this thread agreed with me or not. I understand that he is saying be nice to old people or fat people because you might be that way someday and then you will see what it is like. I have been as heavy as 300lbs and as little as 200lbs and was amazed at the difference in how I was treated by society at the two weights. Overweight people are treated more harshly, lose weight or deal with it. Damn, the last thing I would ever want is to find out a lady is giving me a pitty piece of ass or considers fucking me as taking on for the team. Being told no is a lot less demoralizing then knowing I was just a charity fuck.
Bunny I see you watch Waaaaay too much DrPhil..I was just asking a question to a perspective..If you would have taken more than PSYCH 101 you would know this..but I didnt expect ANYBODY to accept my point of view just was wondering how people would feel if the PREFERENCES they have on their sex lives were ever used AGAINST them..thats all.Never said BE kind to the old fat ugly people of the world..Amazing how Peoples minds think??Well I guess everybody has had their say just one day when you look back on this and That little light will come on you will say Aaaaah I see what he meant..Never said I was Mad or angry at anybody..You guys just ASSUMED it..Amazing how peoples minds work..If you go back and READ the first of these statements you will see where you guys went Waaaaay off into left field...boy did you..OH well I am going to bed gotta work for a living..Just hang in there it will be all right...Oh and Rooster who said you had to like the women I Liked..Read Dont assume..And if you have a question just ask..no ones gonna holler at you or call you bad names..Bye KattNJOhn
Posted By: BEANYKATT Reply posted on:
Jan 27, 2008 - 6:56 pm
just was wondering how people would feel if the PREFERENCES they have on their sex lives were ever used AGAINST them..thats all
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WE have preferences and we have NO issue with other's having preferences even if they are not in our interests.
Jan 27, 2008 - 6:56 pm
just was wondering how people would feel if the PREFERENCES they have on their sex lives were ever used AGAINST them..thats all
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WE have preferences and we have NO issue with other's having preferences even if they are not in our interests.
If you READ my post it clearly stated that I did not know if you agreed with me or not. So that gives you the right to wonder how my mind works? I am tempted to insult you and turn this thread into what you said you didn`t want it to be but I am going to be the better man and assume you didn`t read my post before responding. So after rereading your original post I will share my views on what you question about profiles.
You wrote: I read HEIGHT WEIGHT PROPOTIONED...To WHOSE specifictions?
I take that as you question what specifications a couple uses when determining if you are height and weight proportioned. If I am wrong please correct me in my interpretation. Although we don`t have that on our profile we do like to be able to find the vital parts on someone so if your excess baggage covers it then we consider you not height and weight proportionate. Call us shallow but we also prefer you to have enough meat on your bones so we don`t worry about hurting you. I have just had to turn a lady down because she was to thin and just didn`t appear attractive physically nor emotionally to me.
Sorry, I just can`t figure out the: must have HAVE HAIR THEN BE AS BALD AS A CHHUAHUA comment. Are they requesting you to have hair but they are bald....if so then maybe they are just trying to be with someone a little different. If that is the case then then you agreed in your original post with them.
We don`t seek out people that are as old as our parents and when we are that age we will not seek out the youngsters but this is just us speaking and not everyones profile you read. We already clearly stated that if we are met with the same preferences it would not bother us and we are smart enough to know to expect it.
Yes, we have declined people that we didn`t think met our ideas of HWP or ages even though we do state that personality and character are just as important. But we also have played outside of our preferences and enjoyed it.
And near the end of your original post you say: Everyone has an opinion..And we are all ADULTS here.
Well our opinion is that we disagree with you about having to be attracted to the person you will be playing with. As you said, we are all adults so we will respect your choices and preferences and you will respect ours. hope this clears up any misconceptions the masses may have had about me and the way my mind works.
You wrote: I read HEIGHT WEIGHT PROPOTIONED...To WHOSE specifictions?
I take that as you question what specifications a couple uses when determining if you are height and weight proportioned. If I am wrong please correct me in my interpretation. Although we don`t have that on our profile we do like to be able to find the vital parts on someone so if your excess baggage covers it then we consider you not height and weight proportionate. Call us shallow but we also prefer you to have enough meat on your bones so we don`t worry about hurting you. I have just had to turn a lady down because she was to thin and just didn`t appear attractive physically nor emotionally to me.
Sorry, I just can`t figure out the: must have HAVE HAIR THEN BE AS BALD AS A CHHUAHUA comment. Are they requesting you to have hair but they are bald....if so then maybe they are just trying to be with someone a little different. If that is the case then then you agreed in your original post with them.
We don`t seek out people that are as old as our parents and when we are that age we will not seek out the youngsters but this is just us speaking and not everyones profile you read. We already clearly stated that if we are met with the same preferences it would not bother us and we are smart enough to know to expect it.
Yes, we have declined people that we didn`t think met our ideas of HWP or ages even though we do state that personality and character are just as important. But we also have played outside of our preferences and enjoyed it.
And near the end of your original post you say: Everyone has an opinion..And we are all ADULTS here.
Well our opinion is that we disagree with you about having to be attracted to the person you will be playing with. As you said, we are all adults so we will respect your choices and preferences and you will respect ours. hope this clears up any misconceptions the masses may have had about me and the way my mind works.
I wholly agree, Bunny
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So are we the only ones lookin to get some stinky hot strange? Or is everyone else just too ashamed to admit it?
Swingers is such a shady term. It doesn't define everyone to a "T".
To be a swinger does it mean we hard swap? soft swap? same room sex shit? Or what?
Hell... maybe it just means I enjoy having someone else's wife watch me while I take a shit.
(FUCK YOU FOR JUDGING ME!!!! LOL)
The point is... that my wife and I are simply looking to explore our fantasies. These fantasies are very vivid and very clear. We never EVER turn anyone down as far as making friends and getting to know people. We love EVERYONE in the sense (as long as they are respectful). However when it comes to gettin down and throwin the bone? Well... to be honest... my wife and I have to both be attracted to the couple in question to begin with. That's not to say that couples who we weren't attracted to physically in the begining haven't broken through the shallow depths of our psyche, however for the most part we only will play with those we are attracted to.
Some call it shallow, some call it having high standards. But one thing is for sure, we are in this for us, and no one else. I'm not looking for another wife and inversely she is not seeking another husband (at least... I don't think... WAIT A MINUTE!!!!)... So if we are not seeking the emotional connections, when it comes to sex that leaves what we are physically attracted to.
Call it what you will, but I'm not lookin to fuck just anyone. My tubby ass (and YES I'M TUBBY) wants to bang beautiful women with my wife...
FUCKIN SUE ME!!!!
Don, don't sell yourself short... you are a sexy mother fucker and we both think so... her more than me hahahhahhaa.
And BunnyPlus1... you just LOVE my hairy ass... and maybe my wife a little too.. but It's mostly me, just admit it already!!!
-J
Swingers is such a shady term. It doesn't define everyone to a "T".
To be a swinger does it mean we hard swap? soft swap? same room sex shit? Or what?
Hell... maybe it just means I enjoy having someone else's wife watch me while I take a shit.
(FUCK YOU FOR JUDGING ME!!!! LOL)
The point is... that my wife and I are simply looking to explore our fantasies. These fantasies are very vivid and very clear. We never EVER turn anyone down as far as making friends and getting to know people. We love EVERYONE in the sense (as long as they are respectful). However when it comes to gettin down and throwin the bone? Well... to be honest... my wife and I have to both be attracted to the couple in question to begin with. That's not to say that couples who we weren't attracted to physically in the begining haven't broken through the shallow depths of our psyche, however for the most part we only will play with those we are attracted to.
Some call it shallow, some call it having high standards. But one thing is for sure, we are in this for us, and no one else. I'm not looking for another wife and inversely she is not seeking another husband (at least... I don't think... WAIT A MINUTE!!!!)... So if we are not seeking the emotional connections, when it comes to sex that leaves what we are physically attracted to.
Call it what you will, but I'm not lookin to fuck just anyone. My tubby ass (and YES I'M TUBBY) wants to bang beautiful women with my wife...
FUCKIN SUE ME!!!!
Don, don't sell yourself short... you are a sexy mother fucker and we both think so... her more than me hahahhahhaa.
And BunnyPlus1... you just LOVE my hairy ass... and maybe my wife a little too.. but It's mostly me, just admit it already!!!
-J
lol,wtf now that was a good one..
kristy
kristy
TC, any kind of sexual relationship is marred by your age.
We wouldn't deny friendship.
However when we do go out, we go places like Habits, or Bliss, or Port O Call.
These are places that you wouldn't yet be able to get into.
Make suggestions.
We read everything.
Look at it from Mel's point of view. Her eldest child is 12. Granted to you that may seem a long ways off from 19. However for her thats damn close. So it makes it a little uncomfortable.
John
We wouldn't deny friendship.
However when we do go out, we go places like Habits, or Bliss, or Port O Call.
These are places that you wouldn't yet be able to get into.
Make suggestions.
We read everything.
Look at it from Mel's point of view. Her eldest child is 12. Granted to you that may seem a long ways off from 19. However for her thats damn close. So it makes it a little uncomfortable.
John
People take the lifestyle too damn serious the way we look at it is if someone is not attracted to us we just move on and say "NEXT". Look my wife is a "HOTTIE" for soon to be 50 year old she looks better than a lot of the "youngins" who tell us we are too old for them. What gets us is the guy 1/2 of cpls who contact us and say we want "her" to join us in a 3 some but we only want to play with her we then laugh it off and politely tell them "It ain't going to happen".
We are a FULL SWAP cpl either you we all play or no play but we don't get all hung about it we simply look for others who find us both compatible we have been in the lifestyle for going on ten years now and have had a tremendous amount of fun.
We have had our share of those who thought we were too old, too fat, too hung up on safe sex, too whatever lol. Anyone who THINKS you are going to be or should compatible with everyone is dreaming on the other hand just because someone does not fit your HWP mold or your age requirements is no need to be rude a simple no thanks is always appropriate.
Norm&Sharon
We are a FULL SWAP cpl either you we all play or no play but we don't get all hung about it we simply look for others who find us both compatible we have been in the lifestyle for going on ten years now and have had a tremendous amount of fun.
We have had our share of those who thought we were too old, too fat, too hung up on safe sex, too whatever lol. Anyone who THINKS you are going to be or should compatible with everyone is dreaming on the other hand just because someone does not fit your HWP mold or your age requirements is no need to be rude a simple no thanks is always appropriate.
Norm&Sharon
Well, there is NO reason to be rude. IF you are not interested, just simply say "Thanx but no thanx.". I don't have to say "Not interested because you are fat, old smoke, etc, etc.". Only exception to that is when single males contact us in spite of our statements in the profile that expresses disinterest. Single females don't contact us so we can't tell them to take a leap.
Thanks to everyone who replied..I was just seeing how a vast variety of people felt about this matter..very interesting.And if you thought iwas just a way to stur up an arguement then you need to refrain from elightening conversation...other who viewed it as a way to expond on their view in an enlightening debate then good for you..and yes I do think sometimes we take things WAY too seriously..and maybe sometimes just need to jump in with arms wide open just to see wher this road will take me..not if it will just benift my ego..Just hang in there it will be all right..BYE...KattNJohn
HAHAHAHAHAHA!
Hey Don, we think this topic needs to be taken to your group. Can you do one of those button thingys so we can rid the message bords of this crap. If can do this then we think it will be alright.
That would make us hypocrites. These boards are not suppose to be oppressed. I think the group should say fuck it and go public again. The group is way more fun that the everyday, boring-assed "show us your teeth through your twat" threads and the "Hey. Whatchoo doin tonight" threads. The forum is here for everyone's use. I say fuck those that try to silence people.
-D-
-D-
Are you looking down on me and judging my ideas. You are going to make me cry if you don`t stop.
NPNUDISTCPLE,
HAHAHAHA!
VP,
You know you want the can.
-D-
HAHAHAHA!
VP,
You know you want the can.
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