Don't they realize that one day they will get older and heavier too ? The lifestyle should be about fun and another thing that gets us is cps who will turn down meeting a nice cpl strictly on weight???? We are average weight but have played with BBW's and can tell you that the most turned on lady we have ever played with was a BBW.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
You know I have found that to be true as well. I think it is because they do not have enouh confidence in themselves, plain and simple. I am not a thin "Barbie doll" type of girl. But I have a nice body, tanned, tall, sexy attitude, and I LOVE SEX! Isn't that what swinging is all about? Sex? LOL Not about body size, etc. I can understand if it really turns you off, cause there are things that turn me off too.......BUT if you have never dipped your hand in the honey jar how do you know how it tastes?? Why can't we all just F-U-@-& and get along?? LOL
I think it's more about physical attraction. We will play with any couple as long as we're physically attracted to them. Some people are not attracted to heavy people. We're not Ken and Barbi and not looking for them, but if they stop by we'll sure give them a good time.
Because they can. So what if they are going to get older and heavier, they will deal with that when the time comes. It's not necessarily about insecurity, either, as we've seen quite a few insecure older and heavier folks (and skinier). No, it's about fantasy. Younger people are looking at fantasy fulfillment more than friendship. Do they dream about BBW's? Maybe but probably not. So they go after what they consider the best they can get, which, in their mind often means younger and in-shape--yes, a physical thing.
When one gets older the lifestyles "market" changes in accordance of where one is at physically and mentally. It's a fact of life.
When one gets older the lifestyles "market" changes in accordance of where one is at physically and mentally. It's a fact of life.
I am 43, Tony is soon to be 46,....but isn't it about how ya feel........yeah we have noticed an inch or two here and there, but that does not change our hearts or minds....just means it takes us a little longer to recover.......god bless the good ol days..........but life goes on and in the words of the great Jimmy Buffet "we wanna be the last man standing"............
young or old.......thick or thin......its all about the FUN..............
Peace
young or old.......thick or thin......its all about the FUN..............
Peace
WILDCPLE if you ever make it to Florida look us up 
I have been voicing the same concern for quite a while. I feel as though age is a state of mine, and I accept that I am not in my 30's any longer. There are times when it sounds like I am walking on bubble wrap ... all that creaking and cracking. Squat to pick something up and sounds like firecrackers going off. Maybe you start talking before I start to listen. Some of the spring in my step has sprung. I am like that bottle of wine at the back of the celler ... a bit dusty on the outside, but the quality of the contents continues to improve.
It seems as though the younger people (20's and 30's) are interested in eye candy ... Ken and Babie (the cpl without genitals) types, cardboard cutouts, shallow, plastic.
As one of the responders to this topic pointed out ... one day they will wake up and .. horror of horrors ... realize that they have crossed over the line ... they are 40!!! Suddenly they find they are being treated as lepers ... people to be shunned. And they are astounded. "What the heck happened ... I am the same person today as I was yesterday ... don't they understand that??". Welcome to the real world ... the pendulum swings (no pun intended) both ways.
Personally, I would rather the younger folks pass us by ... if they are so hung up on the age issue. I'll be happier with couples in my age group ... people of true substance.
It seems as though the younger people (20's and 30's) are interested in eye candy ... Ken and Babie (the cpl without genitals) types, cardboard cutouts, shallow, plastic.
As one of the responders to this topic pointed out ... one day they will wake up and .. horror of horrors ... realize that they have crossed over the line ... they are 40!!! Suddenly they find they are being treated as lepers ... people to be shunned. And they are astounded. "What the heck happened ... I am the same person today as I was yesterday ... don't they understand that??". Welcome to the real world ... the pendulum swings (no pun intended) both ways.
Personally, I would rather the younger folks pass us by ... if they are so hung up on the age issue. I'll be happier with couples in my age group ... people of true substance.
If a couple can stimulate us mentally as well as sexually we're turned on. We've enjoyed the company of couples that were all shapes and sizes. The key for us is a sense of humor, some stimulating conversation and the air of sexual confidence in a couple.
The key things for us is the attitude, personality and how comfortable we feel with them. Naturally there has to be a physical attraction but we aren't looking for perfect bodies and model type faces. Just someone that looks like the people next door and a blast to hang around with that we can trust.
People that are naturally sexy, easygoing and respectful are interesting to us... the rest is icing on the cake.
People that are naturally sexy, easygoing and respectful are interesting to us... the rest is icing on the cake.
Thanks for all you sexy people responding to our original post if any of you get to Florida and don't mind playing with us "Oldies" look us up. We are 48 him 46 her but we have lots of energy the youngins who limit thier searches to 40 and under just don't get it . its about fun we don't want to be your life long partner we just want to fuck you lol. Wehave found lots of the "youngins" are into it just for the fantasy will the "REAL" cpls please step up its too bad seems like all the mature minded young cpls seem to live too far from us so we say anyof you "oldies" out there that like to "get naked and have some fun" be sure to look us up if you live within a 100 miles or so of Pensacola FL lets party! If you are traveling to this area contact us
N&S
its too bad seems like all the mature minded young cpls seem to live too far from us so we say anyof you "oldies" out there that like to "get naked and have some fun" be sure to look us up if you live within a 100 miles or so of Pensacola FL lets party! If you are traveling to this area contact us N&S
Age will always be one of those little things, that people have to compare themselves to others. You know how it is; ahhh to be twenty one again,,,, or oh my god she looks rode hard and put away wet, or the other side, I hope I look that good at her age. My husband is ten years my junior and he still treats me as if we are the same age and i feel that i am that young when i am around him. Age is what WE make it. A number given us to tell us how many candles to put on the cake. birthdays are fun but i would rather celebrate national day of nudity than a date to be another number, especially when i have just gotten comfortable with the last one.
It would be great if we could find more people to play with us.
But we understand that people play with people who turn them on, and not every couple out there is interested in a couple like us: fat, mid-40s, and in the middle of Missouri.
If we were in a large city like St Louis or Kansas City it would be easier for us. If we were interested in playing with single men it would be easier. If we were younger it would be easier, and if we were thinner it would be easier.
We have our limits, too. Daha (the hubby) will play with any lady, but Nawti (the wife) doesn't want to play with anyone younger than her son or older than her father, so we'll only play with couples aged 30-60.
But every so often we meet a couple and we play, and we have fun. That's enough for us.
dahanawti
But we understand that people play with people who turn them on, and not every couple out there is interested in a couple like us: fat, mid-40s, and in the middle of Missouri.
If we were in a large city like St Louis or Kansas City it would be easier for us. If we were interested in playing with single men it would be easier. If we were younger it would be easier, and if we were thinner it would be easier.
We have our limits, too. Daha (the hubby) will play with any lady, but Nawti (the wife) doesn't want to play with anyone younger than her son or older than her father, so we'll only play with couples aged 30-60.
But every so often we meet a couple and we play, and we have fun. That's enough for us.
dahanawti
Hey Dahanawti your wiife has the same rules as mine no younger than our kids or older than her dad lol. No matter what others think if they judge on weight or age they are missing out on lots of fun :-) We are not heavy and we look much younger than our age but we enjoy fun with most cpls its ashame people miss the point and that is to just have fun.
N&S
N&S
Not all young couples are hung up on those things. We for one arent. We are more into Intellectually stimulating people who are fun to be around. Usually people have problems with our ages but we dont discrimate on anyone!
xoxo
Mike n Meg
xoxo
Mike n Meg
We still come back to say that if we're physically and mentally attracted we'll play. Age is a number weight is a number. I've see ugly 120 LB big breasted women and I've seen sexy 220 LB women. It's a matter of the attitude you give off and the way you carry yourself. Actually the wife prefers larger men because when she's riding them she doesn't want to worry about breaking them (she rides hard and fast when she's getting it good)
Hey Scorpion like we said all the good cpls seem to live to damn far away from us. Nice to meet a young cpl with the maturity needed for this lifestyle .
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
These types of topics always come up now and again. Just because people don't prefer a particular type of body charactistic (out-of-shape, older, younger, other skin color, bald, whatever) doesn't mean they are not "real". It doesn't mean they aren't mature. It doesn't mean they can't carry on intellectually satisfying conversations. It doesn't mean they don't have their head on straight. It just means they have preferences. And when they are able to party with people within the preferences they like why go outside those preferences?
Yes, there are amazing and sexy people of all shapes, sizes and colors but if people like what they like and it doesn't include you does it really make them shallow? Yes, some are but certainly not everyone in that age range is, just as there are shallow older people, too.
And you can damn well bet their preferences will adjust as their age and body changes. Does that make them suddenly real? Is that the definition of maturity? Maybe but I look at it as taking the best available at the time. There's nothing wrong with that.
Now, since I'm an old fart, too, I do know what everyone is talking about. Yes, they are missing out on some good stuff. You know that and I know that. But they are also getting some good stuff, too. Stuff that fits into their preference parameters.
It's fine to say "you don't know what you are missing" when you don't get chosen for the team. But to accuse them of shallowness and not being real seems like it stems from envy more than anything else.
Yes, there are amazing and sexy people of all shapes, sizes and colors but if people like what they like and it doesn't include you does it really make them shallow? Yes, some are but certainly not everyone in that age range is, just as there are shallow older people, too.
And you can damn well bet their preferences will adjust as their age and body changes. Does that make them suddenly real? Is that the definition of maturity? Maybe but I look at it as taking the best available at the time. There's nothing wrong with that.
Now, since I'm an old fart, too, I do know what everyone is talking about. Yes, they are missing out on some good stuff. You know that and I know that. But they are also getting some good stuff, too. Stuff that fits into their preference parameters.
It's fine to say "you don't know what you are missing" when you don't get chosen for the team. But to accuse them of shallowness and not being real seems like it stems from envy more than anything else.
Very well put Hottiecouple! :z
Hottie cpl you make some very valid points the type of "Youngins" we are refering to are the ones who CONTACT YOU first and play the mind games you know the ones who say "hey loved your profile lets meet" and you try to set a meeting and they play mind games with endless messages till they finally say" oh we are not interested your too old" Then why did they contact us? All we are saying is just be honest and up front with cpls hate to stereotype here but the ones we have had the most problems with have been the "under 30 crowd" we don't hide the fact the we are old farts but alot of the "youngins'' are in this for just fantasy thats why we now say we are looking for 30 and under. We have no problem if they don't want to party with us two very energized "oldies" just say it up front but they still don't know the fun they are missing lol.
N&S
N&S
Well considering that I fall into the youngins catgory I just simply do not want to "play" with people that are my parents age. Like others have said it is all about perfrences I perfer people who have had the same types of life experinces that I have had. Not someone that starts there sentences with '"When I was your age............" . And I just dont find that many out of my age range that attracative sorry for being blunt but that is the simplest way to put it .
Age has nothing to do with how attractive you are. Look at my wife she is 46 and people think she is 25 and she is very attractive. Understand what you not wanting to platy with cpls your parents age we are just simply saying that cpls who understand what the lifestyle is really about sets asides the judging by age, size,and whatever else they choose to judge by and they simply just have fun. We look for cpls that are fun to be around period. Thanks for having the guts to speak your mind it seems there are not many "youngins" out there that are willing to answer our original question. Your right its all about personal preferences our prference is FUN period.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
we love meeting new friends in the life style . but we dont want to play with everybody we meet . we go to alot of parties and hang out with a lot of different levels and ages of swingers . we dont rule one out more then the other for any reason . do we going looking for bigger people ???? or older people ???? no . but we really dont go looking for anyone . we enjoy our friends and try to make new ones .and we look and see each person for who they are and how they act . i am looking for friends to hang out with . and then i PICK MY PLAYMATES OUT OF THAT GROUP . the ones i click with and feel turned on i will play as much as i want to . do i rush faster to go up and say hi to a younger and in shape couple . hell yes . but i will also pull the oldest person in the club up on the dance floor and have a blast !!! i enjoy hanging out with older swingers . but alot of people that have been in the life style for along time are more in a rush and looking for fun . i love the new bies best . they are new and fresh and so creative and more into teashing and flirting WHICH IS MY BIGGEST TURN ON . but i also love to flirt and just make people happy . last party i asked an older woman to be my parnter in a contest . at a huge club with about 400 people . she was very shy cause all the other girls where DANCER LOOK ALIKES ... ( I DONT LIKE THE BARBIE LOOK ALIKE TYPE ) PERFECT ISNT MY CUP OF TEA . but i was teasing this older woman and i got to her lift her skirt and let me spank her ass . and she was spanking mine . and then she had to do a dance by herself . and i gave her a hug and spanked her ass and told her to go shake that hot ass and make them all scream . she did her best and she had a blast . she told me thanks so much for making her feel so alive and wild . and that made me so turned on and happy . and i love hanging out with people who are creative and fun . i look at peoples pics and see what their style is .i read their profiles and see how much they open up and what they have to say . yes i do look on the outside a bit to be with someone . but i also judge them by them for the real them . and what they like and dont like . and how they treat others and each other . iam so turned on by a few older couple that we know . one couple we did some things that we have never done before cause they wanted it like that we love to get wild , and take pics and make movies . i love body paints . i am turned on by people who are into what we are . young or old .black or white , married or single . alot of people talk about all the popel that dont like them cause they are older or not in perfect shape . but i also dont play with the hard bodies and try to look and act all perfect .that is a huge turn off to me . the ladies that all go to the club and they all look alike . blonde hair , tats int eh same place s , same cute matching outfits ,same size tits . and they think thats all their is about them . i cant stand that shit , people ask me why am i hanging out with the older ones and not chasing the pole dancer . i like to see people for who they are . and see the bad with the good and still like it . and want it . some people turn u on and some dont . if u are at a place where most people dont then u are hanging out with the wrong crowd . always be around fun people that u click with .
and sometimes things that are bothering people about themselves can show . or just be in your head that is the reason . there could be other reasons about u that someone isnt turned on by . we hang out with alot of people . but play with only a few good friends . and thats what we are looking for . and we wont play with anyone that is just look ing for a play mates .
so the best advise i can think of is ... to find a cool fun group that u can have a blast with and find what u want and need and dont worry about the ones that u dont click with for whatever reason . no biggie . have fun with the ones that do like u . thats what matters .
naguhty dreams
freaky kitty
and sometimes things that are bothering people about themselves can show . or just be in your head that is the reason . there could be other reasons about u that someone isnt turned on by . we hang out with alot of people . but play with only a few good friends . and thats what we are looking for . and we wont play with anyone that is just look ing for a play mates .
so the best advise i can think of is ... to find a cool fun group that u can have a blast with and find what u want and need and dont worry about the ones that u dont click with for whatever reason . no biggie . have fun with the ones that do like u . thats what matters .
naguhty dreams
freaky kitty
Very well put Tampa Cpl you hit the nail on the head EXACTLY the point we have been trying to make its not about,age, size, race, political affiliation, religion etc... its all about having fun connect with those you connect with. The people we are tlaking about is the ones who PREJUDGE before they even meet someone they base thier decision to even attempt to say hi at a party based on thier prejudgements. If you are ever headed to the Pensacoal area of Fl let us know would love to meet you for a drink and we do have a good group of friends we party with in the Tally area theyhave a awesome lifestyle social event where the people seem to have your attitude its all about fun and who you coonect with not based on age,race etc... just about having a blast!
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
Ampussy, we agree with so much you have said here. We don't think age or size should matter. If you enjoy the perons, and that persons attitude and demeanor, then they should not be excluded because of numbers. We also understand people do have personal preferrences. BUT, here is what makes me absolutely nuts, and makes me sit shaking my head. When I see a profile of a couple...let say He is 39 and She is 37. She states no one over 40!! or worse yet, no one over 35!! I want to write back and ask "Are you going to stop having sex with your husband next year?" LOL. or, have you stopped NOW!! There is a signicifcant age difference between Deb and I, and we sometimes have trouble finding the right couples to play with because the feel either I'm too old (most cases) or she is too young. Bottom line, take the time to MEET the people and THEN judge, not before.
NYKY2fla,
Damn we love the way you think! We will have to remeber that (are you going to stop having sex with your husband when you turn older lol) love it :-) Lets meet sometime .
Norm&Sharon
Damn we love the way you think! We will have to remeber that (are you going to stop having sex with your husband when you turn older lol) love it :-) Lets meet sometime .
Norm&Sharon
I've never been concerned so much with age. Maturity is a big issue with younger people and additionaly, I think women become sexier with age!
Age and weight are numbers. However our experience has shown that most people outside of our age range are not appealing to us sexually. Also if someone what we consider overweight the attraction is not there.
Right now in our lives this is about fantasy. No we don't fantasy about BBW. Perhaps down the road when this becomes more about sexual excitement rather than eye candy then things will change, but today is not that day.
Right now in our lives this is about fantasy. No we don't fantasy about BBW. Perhaps down the road when this becomes more about sexual excitement rather than eye candy then things will change, but today is not that day.
Age as a number means very little. We have all seen people in their 30s who look like they are 60 and people in their 50s who look like they are in their 30s. As it has been said many times before, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "there is an ass for every seat". Current pictures tell all you need to know about physical appearance - and the profile gives some insite into their personality and desires - If they made it this far, a meeting will tell all.
wow...there have been some great responses to this subject...both good and not so good.
i guess i will put my 2 cents in also
i have been in the lifestyle for better then 14 yrs...have seen it as a single and a cpl...with both my first and second wife, you will always run into those who are to hung up on physical appearance to be anything more then shallow........but needless to say, there are more of us that are of the mind that beauty is not always on the outside!
we love to play with people who are into the things we are...whether that be going out and having a drink, dinner....or staying in and getting buck wild we know that sex is mainly attraction....but trust me on this one folks, give someone the opportunity before you say your not attracted......attitudes, temperament, and general outlook on life makes a large difference in how sexy a person actaully is!
ok, thats my 2 cents...hope i didn't ruffle any feathers..lol
james-n-jackie
i guess i will put my 2 cents in also
i have been in the lifestyle for better then 14 yrs...have seen it as a single and a cpl...with both my first and second wife, you will always run into those who are to hung up on physical appearance to be anything more then shallow........but needless to say, there are more of us that are of the mind that beauty is not always on the outside!
we love to play with people who are into the things we are...whether that be going out and having a drink, dinner....or staying in and getting buck wild
we know that sex is mainly attraction....but trust me on this one folks, give someone the opportunity before you say your not attracted......attitudes, temperament, and general outlook on life makes a large difference in how sexy a person actaully is! ok, thats my 2 cents...hope i didn't ruffle any feathers..lol
james-n-jackie
My husband is 26 and I am almost 21. He is pretty much average sized (tall and thin build, small gut that has popped up recently) but I however am BBW. I've not had alot of trouble attracting people in general life because I am overall a cute and funny girl, but we are newbies in this lifestyle and I wonder if it will be an issue now.
Bah, don't let these people get to you if they've got a problem with you. To each his own. If someone doesn't like you then that's their problem, not yours. There's plent of fish in the sea so don't let that bother you. Happy hunting!
I (Ed) just turned 40 this past September and let me tell you I am glad my 30s got me over any sexual hangups and really got me to a place in my life where I am not thinking sex is bad or sinful as opposed to what I used to think. Plus, it helps to be with someone who isn\'t afraid of talking about sex on every level; honesty in this area really opens doors.
As for our bodies changes do I want to drop weight and get back in shape in my life: yes! Brenda also would love to drop some poundage too; I think we all can relate on that level. However, does this lessen our sexual desires and fantasies, no way! We\'ve both made love to some attractive people along with not so attractive folks who were so sexually and personally attractive in spirit that it went beyond our own personal taste.
I truly believe if what you want is the model type then it\'s cool--your right, yours to choose. As for those who just want to meet people regardless of size, color, etc. for friendship and more than this lifestyle is the perfect place to do such things. I think it comes to a point of openess, release of expectations, and \"taking off the safeties\" and have a ball.
Ed
(EdNBrenda)
As for our bodies changes do I want to drop weight and get back in shape in my life: yes! Brenda also would love to drop some poundage too; I think we all can relate on that level. However, does this lessen our sexual desires and fantasies, no way! We\'ve both made love to some attractive people along with not so attractive folks who were so sexually and personally attractive in spirit that it went beyond our own personal taste.
I truly believe if what you want is the model type then it\'s cool--your right, yours to choose. As for those who just want to meet people regardless of size, color, etc. for friendship and more than this lifestyle is the perfect place to do such things. I think it comes to a point of openess, release of expectations, and \"taking off the safeties\" and have a ball.
Ed
(EdNBrenda)
For US, it is simply a matter of social compatibility and attraction. We may say 25 to 40 in our profile, but we have met some very interesting 40+ y/o men and women who share our tastes in music, activities, lifestyles, etc.
Attraction is something that we both feel is ageless. Neither one of us is a barbie or ken doll, so we do not expect you to be either. We do expect their to be a great deal of chemistry and physical attraction at play though...
Just our .02 cents.
Luvbugs!
Attraction is something that we both feel is ageless. Neither one of us is a barbie or ken doll, so we do not expect you to be either. We do expect their to be a great deal of chemistry and physical attraction at play though...
Just our .02 cents.
Luvbugs!
We have to agree attraction really has nothing to do with age but with social compatibility and attraction. We don\'t rule out any age (except illegal)
We tend to get along with all age groups socially and sexually, but we too know what attracts us. We aren\'t looking for Barbie and Ken either, I really think there are very few who truely are.
We agree that the chemistry HAS to be there or its not going to happen.
But, we all know what attracts us and where our boundaries, some people \"just can\'t go there\" when it comes to older couples or younger couples.
Even though it frustrates us at times that some people are so rigid in their ideas that they can\'t possibly bend at all, we survive.
Anyway, if they are that narrow in their views, why would we want to \"get\" with them, they probably wouldnt be fun anyway LOL
Guess we all have to learn tolerance and acceptance..
We tend to get along with all age groups socially and sexually, but we too know what attracts us. We aren\'t looking for Barbie and Ken either, I really think there are very few who truely are.
We agree that the chemistry HAS to be there or its not going to happen.
But, we all know what attracts us and where our boundaries, some people \"just can\'t go there\" when it comes to older couples or younger couples.
Even though it frustrates us at times that some people are so rigid in their ideas that they can\'t possibly bend at all, we survive.
Anyway, if they are that narrow in their views, why would we want to \"get\" with them, they probably wouldnt be fun anyway LOL
Guess we all have to learn tolerance and acceptance..
Age is but a number. More important than age is (1) social compatibility, (2) personality, and (3) sexual attracitveness. We tend to find those things with couples who\'re closer to our age (DUH!) because we simply have more in common.
If we don\'t feel all three of the above mentioned criteria with us, we\'re not getting horizontal with you - age matters little, really. We\'ve been with couples in their late 40\'s, even early 50\'s, but they had common social ground and they were very attractive to us. I.e., we fucked them.
We make no apologies for being discriminating in this way. We don\'t mind being with couples much older than us - if the chemistry is there. If we read a profile and feel like it won\'t be there, we aren\'t going to waste our time - playtime is far too rare and precious.
-Roger
If we don\'t feel all three of the above mentioned criteria with us, we\'re not getting horizontal with you - age matters little, really. We\'ve been with couples in their late 40\'s, even early 50\'s, but they had common social ground and they were very attractive to us. I.e., we fucked them.
We make no apologies for being discriminating in this way. We don\'t mind being with couples much older than us - if the chemistry is there. If we read a profile and feel like it won\'t be there, we aren\'t going to waste our time - playtime is far too rare and precious.
-Roger
i do it with whoever i feel like it .ts not age but if your heavy and have a little dick how can i injoy it !!! if i can\'t get enough of it in me lol
plus i like older guys
kristylynn
plus i like older guys
kristylynn
In that age range there is so much to chose from! When you get to our age you find the choices become limited. Most the time we hear from younger couples...it\'s the male who has a fetish for older women but the wife is not interested in my husband which doesn\'t make for a good time.
It would be nice to meet a younger couple who can see past our age..and go on our personalities!
It would be nice to meet a younger couple who can see past our age..and go on our personalities!
well when we look for compatiblity by age we alway put the surch in the age of 18 to 99
so we must be uneck how ever you spell it
P&D
so we must be uneck how ever you spell it
P&D
We too have ran across couples where the younger male was interested in the wife but his wife doesn\'t like my grey hair. Everyone is looking for something that turns them on. It seems though that a LOT of people think that if your a swinger you should take what ever is offered to you because that\'s what swinging is right? If there isn\'t mutual attraction by both sides it just isn\'t going to work. If you were looking to date someone would you just take the first one that comes along regardless of looks or weight? Of course not, why then do you expect it to be any different in swinging? I do not expect my wife to have sex with someone she definately is not attracted to to just so I can fuck the other woman. Its tough to find a match where all four agree. Thats why we mainly are looking for a another guy to play with her now. Its MUCH easier that way.
When one gets to a certain age, I think many people in the lifestyle think that we should roll over and die. I invite you to look at our profile and our pics and see if we should die or not... We Don\'t worry about our age why should you! B is the energizer bunny, that\'s what they call her for dancing when noone else is on the floor and she goes and goes and goes and does not look her age at all. I don\'t think I look as good as I once did BUT it doesn\'t seem to hurt me at the clubs... I actually had a young lady walk up and ask if I would give her a moustache ride. My age and weight hasn\'t seemed to hurt too much at all. Actually it would seem that as I\'ve gotten older more women seem to like me... No accounting for taste... Sometimes older men need more time but that time is not wasted... We oldsters have more experience and aren\'t in any hurry anyway. One thing to remember, ladies, if he\'s too old to cut the mustard he\'ll never get too old to lick the jar it came in.... Oh and what a person looks like hasn\'t got a lot to do with the person inside... Some of the least attractive people are the sexiest and hottest.... And that is a promise...
Age is a number and can designate experience and humility and knowing what fun is and how to have it..... Are we hung up on age.... No but many of the people in the lifestyle are and on looks....Some of the best nookie I\'ve ever been fortunate enough to partake of has not been the prettiest face attached... but the sweetiest persons and the best personalities.... We all get older and we can\'t all stay in the shape we once had...
Take a look at one of the responders to this post and you\'ll find a beautiful couple from MT and the lady is as sexy as all getout.... and in her 50\'s as well... So don\'t let age be anything but a number..... Fine wine takes time...Oh but you youngsters... we like cider as well as wine....
My kids are older than some women I know... Sweetness is a matter of taste... Age is a matter of time not fun or lack of it...
Ray
Age is a number and can designate experience and humility and knowing what fun is and how to have it..... Are we hung up on age.... No but many of the people in the lifestyle are and on looks....Some of the best nookie I\'ve ever been fortunate enough to partake of has not been the prettiest face attached... but the sweetiest persons and the best personalities.... We all get older and we can\'t all stay in the shape we once had...
Take a look at one of the responders to this post and you\'ll find a beautiful couple from MT and the lady is as sexy as all getout.... and in her 50\'s as well... So don\'t let age be anything but a number..... Fine wine takes time...Oh but you youngsters... we like cider as well as wine....
My kids are older than some women I know... Sweetness is a matter of taste... Age is a matter of time not fun or lack of it...
Ray
Agree with lovebugs... ours too says 25 to 40 for the same reasons....
Would have to disagree with you though on the looks... you both are very attractive.
10 years difference is ok... all in what you are looking for.
Mr SOMD
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Would have to disagree with you though on the looks... you both are very attractive.
10 years difference is ok... all in what you are looking for.
Mr SOMD
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We are all here to have fun...andif you are not having fun, why bother...If you are not attracted to older folks...do not write them...if you do not like BBW\'s do not write them...Personally...We prefer older people...We have not had ONE good experience with soemone younger than us yet...But we do not pre-judge...we just keep pluging away with those we find attractive...
We are in our thirties and our parents are in their 50s. We dont really want to hang out or sleep with anyone that could be in the same category with our parents. Dont get us wrong....our parents are very active and are healthy and keep themselves fit....we just dont want to hang out with them.
We\'re 26 and 27. We\'ve played with couple in thier 40\'s before and it was great. We\'re looking mostly for younger couples mostly because we like to hang out outside the bedroom as well. We are childless and don\'t have very much in common with most 50 year olds. They are our parents age and most of the time have children near our age.
It\'s not that we don\'t like older people, we\'re just more interested in people near us in age.
A good question for those who are offended by this is: why does it bother you so much? If age isn\'t an issue then you\'ll have no problem finding people of all ages. If you\'re out looking for young people to play with, then you are no different than those who say 25-40!
It\'s not that we don\'t like older people, we\'re just more interested in people near us in age.
A good question for those who are offended by this is: why does it bother you so much? If age isn\'t an issue then you\'ll have no problem finding people of all ages. If you\'re out looking for young people to play with, then you are no different than those who say 25-40!
Well said Tampachick. We are both in our 30\'s and prefer to play and hangout with people closer to our own age. We tend to not look for couples more than 10 years older than me or 10 years younger than her because it gets too close to either our parents ages or our children\'s. With that being said, we have no problem hanging out and being friends with older or younger couples, but we prefer to play with people within a closer age range to ourselves.
A very interesting topic. My wife is 45 & I am 51..
What looks good? People. Nice people.
This site has many nice people.
Happy new year to all of you!
What looks good? People. Nice people.
This site has many nice people.
Happy new year to all of you!
Wow can\'t believe this topic is still getting comments its been fun to read everyones reply. Our reason for starting this post was to simply point out if you judge someone before you actually meet them face to face you may be missing out on some fun of course its expected that cpls will look for people closer to thier age we justare of the opinion that meet them over a drink at least before you judge that is for cpls who live close enough to meet. We want to thank everyone for participating in this post.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
We would have to agree with a lot of what is being said on the thread. We are not small people,but we are very attractive. My wife is beautiful and a tiger in bed... She\'ll wear any guy down. I am attractive and love to play. But, we get very few messages because we do not fit the Ken and Barbi mold. We like to have fun and love to meet all kinds of people. If you are in the Jacksonville area, please send us a note.
I understand about the attraction thing. But the younger ones should know that we over-forty crowd have a lot more experience that more than makes up for any physical change in appearance. I know without a doubt I\'m a much better lover now than I was ten or twenty years ago. A twenty-one year old may be able to recover quicker than I. But I dare any of them to stay in the saddle as long. Or to know as much as I about pleasing a women. If the younger crowd wants to really experience great sex, they should try some of us over forty types.
Like the saying goes
Ok I would have to agree with the post above. We have no problem just hanging out with anyone no matter what but to play we or mainly me (female) has to be attracted to the other person/s. I just can\'t have sex with everyone I meet, it doesnt work that way for me, that\'s not why we joined. Some of the best people we have met are older than us - hell most are, we are babies lol - so when it comes to friendships we dont care what you look like or how old you are, but to have sex I am more picky.
Sorry hope it doesn\'t offend anyone just my opinion.
Sorry hope it doesn\'t offend anyone just my opinion.
The only thing that makes us wonder is the people that are already in their 40\'s or 50\'s yet they wont meet with ones over 40. Whats up with that? well we just consider it their loss and kind of wonder how they will feel when someone looks at their profile and replies, \"sorry your not in our acceptable age range.\" In 13 years of the lifestyle we have met people from their early 20\'s all the way to their late 50\'s and cant/wont say anyone is better than the other, some may take longer to recover for round 2 while others may take all night getting past their own nervousness or anxiety making a round 2 impossible guess which is which, lol.
We agree with SWMTCPL. J is desired by younger and older men, but there must be an attraction and desire by all four. R does not take one for the gipper or visa versa. For us there must be physical attraction for both of us before we proceed to a face-to-face meeting. If we meet and find a connection over drinks we are open to playing.
Like SWMTCPL, we would like to find couples including younger that want to know us for who we are. We might not be sporting perky breasts or a six-pack, but we both know what it takes to please the partner we are with, something we both fell you learn with age.
If you think we are compatible, then drop us a note. If all agree, we can then make plans to meet over a drink or two and just see what develops.
R and J
Like SWMTCPL, we would like to find couples including younger that want to know us for who we are. We might not be sporting perky breasts or a six-pack, but we both know what it takes to please the partner we are with, something we both fell you learn with age.
If you think we are compatible, then drop us a note. If all agree, we can then make plans to meet over a drink or two and just see what develops.
R and J
We do respect your position Hottiecouple however I think it is about wisdom more than anything.....In as much as the real sex organ in human beings is the brain I think that wisdom ranks up there....we have been to parties where we have hooked up with younger people and have noticed that the younger people we hook up with are quite mature in their actions and attitudes.....We have steered away from the more flippent imature acting couples...we have found that most of the time as a couple they are not on the same page in the book of swinging and attitudes and jealousy breaks out.....But I think the best way to sum it up can be said in the story of the Two bulls on the hill top......The young bull said to the old bull as they looked out over the herd of cow grazing in the field. \"I think I am going to run down there and fuck me a cow\" to which the old bull replied to the young bull \"Wait youngster, why don\'t we walk down and fuck em all\" that explains the difference plain and simple. we more mature individuals involved in the lifestyle have wisdom as well as sexual capability on our side. With that said I also realize that this is a lifestyle of choice and you as well as we have our choices thank God
Well stated SLCC we have run into more cpls in the under 30 range that cannot have fun in the lifestyle because they are too busy getting jelous and the ones that really get us is the ones who CONTACT US FIRST then say sorry you are too old then why the fuck did you contact us? That was the whole reason for this initial post the youngins need to learn how to read profiles BEFORE you contact a cpl my wife no way looks 47 and some of these youngins clcik just because they see a \"hot lady\" then after we reply they then READ the profile we will say we have met some nice cpls in the under 30 crowd but those were the mature minded the ones we are refering to are the ones who send a message like \"lets hook up tonight\" give us a break we want to at least see if a cpl can carry on a converstaion first. We understand that younger cpls don\'t be around us oldies thats fine but do usa favor and read the profiles BEFORE you send a message.
Let me give you a example of immature behavior a cpl who contacted us through another cpl wanted to meet us so we met them at a swing party things got a bit wild and my wife began to give her hubby head which she had no problem with then when he went to eating my wifes pussy she waited till just before she was ready to cum and blurted out \"you broke a rule you know you are suppose to eat my pussy before anyone elses and its my time of the month\" of course he stopped leaving my wife frustrated! This is just plain bull playing mind games we would like to say one thing they did right was they were the ones who turned us on to swingular so for that we thank them. Give us a matured minded average cpl any day of a \"hot immature \" cpl.