We can't get a date. Most local couples are a lot older than us or cheap. We would love to go out with people like us but we must be doing something wrong. Take a look at our profile, maybe that could be it. Help us, any advice would be great.
While we have not had a first date either, I must say that your profile would put me off. The photo part especially. I don't think you are too sincere about what you are seeking. Just one opinion.
we think we are atleast attractive and its so very hard for us to find dates around our age also. Its crazy it seems only people over 45 can br real. lol...
good luck
jason and alanna
good luck
jason and alanna
"We need people to cut up and relax with"
Yeah...may want to change that part. I don't know that I want to come over and be dismembered.
Just a suggestion.
Yeah...may want to change that part. I don't know that I want to come over and be dismembered.
Just a suggestion.
Aye, we're going tonight. I'm just tweezing my brows now!
(Yes...that's a joke. I ROCK the monobrow!)
(Yes...that's a joke. I ROCK the monobrow!)
I would have to agree with everyone here. Give it time, be patient. Try to go to some meet and greets if they have them, if not...maybe organize one yourself. It took us awhile to start meeting people too, but once people find out that you are "real" it will get easier.
I did not find a problem with your profile other then maybe add more pictures. Like Blindlove stated...this is a sex site..people are going to want to see what they are getting before they get into the bedroom, at least I know we do.
P.S. I would change that part about cutting up too...LOL
Good luck to you both.
R and S
K_T you are too funny, you make me laugh. See you guys tonight
I did not find a problem with your profile other then maybe add more pictures. Like Blindlove stated...this is a sex site..people are going to want to see what they are getting before they get into the bedroom, at least I know we do.
P.S. I would change that part about cutting up too...LOL
Good luck to you both.
R and S
K_T you are too funny, you make me laugh. See you guys tonight
There's nothing wrong with your profile, per se......
However, having said that....it seems you are looking for the elusive couple. They have to be quite a few things (and if they are like me and ready your profile and see that they can't be "cheap" they may just close it down and move on...I would. Not because I'm cheap, but just how it sounds...) in order to fit your mold. Not all of us want to fit someone's mold. Personally, Mr. Two and I are just who we are....like us, love us, hate us....we're just going to be us.
My only advice is relax your standards a little bit profile wise and you may find that there are many couples that, while they may not fit your mold perfectly, are a lot of fun to hang out with.
Meet and Greets are another great way to get to know couples.
K_T.....monobrow eh? I'm bringing my tweezers tonight
However, having said that....it seems you are looking for the elusive couple. They have to be quite a few things (and if they are like me and ready your profile and see that they can't be "cheap" they may just close it down and move on...I would. Not because I'm cheap, but just how it sounds...) in order to fit your mold. Not all of us want to fit someone's mold. Personally, Mr. Two and I are just who we are....like us, love us, hate us....we're just going to be us.
My only advice is relax your standards a little bit profile wise and you may find that there are many couples that, while they may not fit your mold perfectly, are a lot of fun to hang out with.
Meet and Greets are another great way to get to know couples.
K_T.....monobrow eh? I'm bringing my tweezers tonight
My mats are packed for the afterparty....LOL
I always come prepared and would never leave you to sleep in a wet spot...LOL Glad to hear this one will be a big one can't wait till later.
Blindlove - After party? :$: Damn...now why did we not know of this option?!
UT - Oh yes. We'll see you two there!
Two - <sigh> Not the tweezers AGAIN! God...this just brings back memories of the last time! Oh...the horror...and the strangely fascinating and titillating ecstasy. But if I remember right, there were a lot more shiny instruments on that table than a pair of tweezers!!
UT - Oh yes. We'll see you two there!
Two - <sigh> Not the tweezers AGAIN! God...this just brings back memories of the last time! Oh...the horror...and the strangely fascinating and titillating ecstasy. But if I remember right, there were a lot more shiny instruments on that table than a pair of tweezers!!
Ya know? Why do these damn emoticons not show up the way they're supposed to? I'm anything but shy, bashful or embarrassed!
Hehehe
Hehehe
K_T I believe there were shiny instruments, buzzing instruments...and...OooOoOoo so much more
I would love to see the tweezing this time LOL
Maybe even the buzzing and the OooOoo hehe
LOLMaybe even the buzzing and the OooOoo hehe
We have been here almost two years and can't either 
, and here we see you are complaining about it only after being a member since the 10th of Jan! We have tried to push, pull and even pay friends dues, and have had very few takers, yet have found many givers 
I guess it is that we are not doing anything wrong, just not doing enough of the right things
Anyone want to help share what the right :P things would be for us poor couples that can't get a date! LOL
, and here we see you are complaining about it only after being a member since the 10th of Jan! We have tried to push, pull and even pay friends dues, and have had very few takers, yet have found many givers I guess it is that we are not doing anything wrong, just not doing enough of the right things
Anyone want to help share what the right :P things would be for us poor couples that can't get a date! LOL
We don't get dates either.
But we've found that literally charming the pants off our intended really helps.
That and the Strip Tiddlywinks I keep talking about. People laugh, but the sexual tension of flipping plastic disks into a small cup is so totally erotic!
God...the passion!
But we've found that literally charming the pants off our intended really helps.
That and the Strip Tiddlywinks I keep talking about. People laugh, but the sexual tension of flipping plastic disks into a small cup is so totally erotic!
God...the passion!
Hey, since there are so many dateless couples, (including us), perhaps we should have a house party and see if we cant get a few couples to hook up. We gave up on getting a date anymore.. now we just feel its our duty to be the token chaperones, (like the ones you see at the jr. high school dances). BTW.. where do you go after a meet and greet and what do you do? All this stuff about toys and wet spots and hotels has us confused. We just always go to Village Inn. (JK)
I got a wet spot and a toy at a Village Inn once.
But that was back when I still wore lobster bibs and ordered from the menu with coloring activities!
Ahhh...those were good times.
....good times.
But that was back when I still wore lobster bibs and ordered from the menu with coloring activities!
Ahhh...those were good times.
....good times.
CYNANDHIM, we have only heard ................... But at the after parties some make balloon animals with these clear balloons, as well as at the hotels there is a lot of jumping on the beds going on (ohh that was so fun as a kid) and the toys, they must be motorboats, cause there is a lot of talk about wet spots and where else do you launch your boat? :P Plus the sounds motorboats make drive the girls wild .................... go ahead put your lips together and try as you blow out and make the motoring noise ............... humm the the girls must love that when positioned just right.
That would be our guess, anyone want to clarify more for us and CYNANDHIM?
If nothing else we will just have CYNANDHIM chaperone us. We will bring the figs and dates for you, so that this can be a regular thing
That would be our guess, anyone want to clarify more for us and CYNANDHIM?
If nothing else we will just have CYNANDHIM chaperone us. We will bring the figs and dates for you, so that this can be a regular thing
Or move to Utah and they'd just be starting... 
We have to agree with loving naked on this one. And the comment on your profile about knowing how to spend money could be taken in some not so flattering ways.
Get out to the meet and greets in your area. We are going to one tomorrow with two other couples and a single lady then inviting a few more back here after the meet and greet.
Next weekend we have a triple date scheduled. Get active, contact people, the worst they can do is not reply.
And your age limitations can also be holding you back. We have age preferences on our profile but they are only preferences, not rules.
Get out to the meet and greets in your area. We are going to one tomorrow with two other couples and a single lady then inviting a few more back here after the meet and greet.
Next weekend we have a triple date scheduled. Get active, contact people, the worst they can do is not reply.
And your age limitations can also be holding you back. We have age preferences on our profile but they are only preferences, not rules.
UUMM You only joined Swingular on January 10, 2008... lol You might want to give it some time
Thumper
Thumper
Matt and Liz...
Easy to fix...5 steps
1.) Patience...You just started...
2.) Get a picture where you look like adults, this IS an adult site...Squinting into the Florida sun is NOT flattering anyway...Bessides, if you "know how to spend money" you would have a digital camera to make plenty of pics with!
3.) Keep in mind, "You are NOT all that AND a bag of chips!" you are average people trying to accomplish something...Most people do NOT care about how you live your life, how sucessful you are, how much money you have, etc...Some do...BUT they tend to be as shallow as you come across...Tone it down a bit...
4.) Do not dismiss someone simply because they like ___________, hell you will miss out on some GREAT experiences....
5.) Make your profile more appealing...Would you write to you?
Hey..not being an ass here...OK...Yes I am...but your profile dictates that you desire an ass...so here I am...
Just my $0.02
Easy to fix...5 steps
1.) Patience...You just started...
2.) Get a picture where you look like adults, this IS an adult site...Squinting into the Florida sun is NOT flattering anyway...Bessides, if you "know how to spend money" you would have a digital camera to make plenty of pics with!
3.) Keep in mind, "You are NOT all that AND a bag of chips!" you are average people trying to accomplish something...Most people do NOT care about how you live your life, how sucessful you are, how much money you have, etc...Some do...BUT they tend to be as shallow as you come across...Tone it down a bit...
4.) Do not dismiss someone simply because they like ___________, hell you will miss out on some GREAT experiences....
5.) Make your profile more appealing...Would you write to you?
Hey..not being an ass here...OK...Yes I am...but your profile dictates that you desire an ass...so here I am...
Just my $0.02
MATT & LIZ:
It looks like the masses have spoken with one accord!
lol
There have been many of the more seasoned people on here that have responded, and I'd have to agree with much of what they have said; they speak from experience after all.
The profiles we put on here are the ONLY thing that speaks for you, that is until you meet people and start to get noteriety within your local community.
Being that the profiles are the only thing that represents you, we've always felt that if we want to have an exquisite and unique swinging experiences with impeccable people, then our profile MUST reflect our wishes in how it's put together and presented.
PICTURES:
Ok...although we get an idea about what you two look like, you MUST have more than a single pic, and one that doesn't put you in the Disneyland scene (or whatever that is behind you). You don't even have to have blatantly naughty pictures to have an effective picture portfolio. In fact...leaving a little to the imagination or at least the private pics can be very exciting.
Use pictures that show us who and what you're about. What you two enjoy doing individually and as a couple for recreation. Maybe some pics of being out on the town, being silly, or even being sexy and playful.
Oh, and be sure to use pics where we don't have to squint to see you because you two only occupy the bottom 2% of the total picture area.
COMPOSITION:
Ok, honestly I got bored and tired reading your profile, not because it didn't have anything interesting to say, but because there were no breaks in the words or concepts. Group like ideas together into paragraphs. Separate them with double spaces. Word it so simply so that even the most brutish of us can understand what you're about and interested in finding.
Whenever we read profiles that are either a run-on sentence, or that have poorly articulated and unclear seeking preferences...we typically pass them by. If it takes that much effort to read, decipher and understand the profile, sheesh...what would they be like in person??
Be careful of how you use words/phrases such as "cheap" and "knowing how to spend money".
You may come across as being snobbish and all about appearances.
There is a small section of the Swinger Community that perhaps relishes those ideals, but by far...the majority of us like to have fun, and realize that it's not about the amount of money spent, but about the quality of time spent.
You are new to Swingular, but didn't mention if you were new to the Lifestyle.
After only a few days of being on the site, you were expecting to get laid?
That is perhaps a little unreasonable, especially given the fact that Swingular has the largest presence in Utah and Florida. Geographical area plays a HUGE part in how easy it is to establish and maintain a social life. Trust us, the last Texas small town we lived in just about put us in therapy because our social lives were so deprived....haha
Anyways...be patient, be polite, and keep your expectations reasonable. It'll come in time.
~J~
It looks like the masses have spoken with one accord!
lol
There have been many of the more seasoned people on here that have responded, and I'd have to agree with much of what they have said; they speak from experience after all.
The profiles we put on here are the ONLY thing that speaks for you, that is until you meet people and start to get noteriety within your local community.
Being that the profiles are the only thing that represents you, we've always felt that if we want to have an exquisite and unique swinging experiences with impeccable people, then our profile MUST reflect our wishes in how it's put together and presented.
PICTURES:
Ok...although we get an idea about what you two look like, you MUST have more than a single pic, and one that doesn't put you in the Disneyland scene (or whatever that is behind you). You don't even have to have blatantly naughty pictures to have an effective picture portfolio. In fact...leaving a little to the imagination or at least the private pics can be very exciting.
Use pictures that show us who and what you're about. What you two enjoy doing individually and as a couple for recreation. Maybe some pics of being out on the town, being silly, or even being sexy and playful.
Oh, and be sure to use pics where we don't have to squint to see you because you two only occupy the bottom 2% of the total picture area.
COMPOSITION:
Ok, honestly I got bored and tired reading your profile, not because it didn't have anything interesting to say, but because there were no breaks in the words or concepts. Group like ideas together into paragraphs. Separate them with double spaces. Word it so simply so that even the most brutish of us can understand what you're about and interested in finding.
Whenever we read profiles that are either a run-on sentence, or that have poorly articulated and unclear seeking preferences...we typically pass them by. If it takes that much effort to read, decipher and understand the profile, sheesh...what would they be like in person??
Be careful of how you use words/phrases such as "cheap" and "knowing how to spend money".
You may come across as being snobbish and all about appearances.
There is a small section of the Swinger Community that perhaps relishes those ideals, but by far...the majority of us like to have fun, and realize that it's not about the amount of money spent, but about the quality of time spent.
You are new to Swingular, but didn't mention if you were new to the Lifestyle.
After only a few days of being on the site, you were expecting to get laid?
That is perhaps a little unreasonable, especially given the fact that Swingular has the largest presence in Utah and Florida. Geographical area plays a HUGE part in how easy it is to establish and maintain a social life. Trust us, the last Texas small town we lived in just about put us in therapy because our social lives were so deprived....haha
Anyways...be patient, be polite, and keep your expectations reasonable. It'll come in time.
~J~
Jim and Toughtgarden... went straight to the point.... great way of putting things guys.....