who takes the time to answer there email just wanted to ask I always answer one way or another if not a hey or something
Except for administrative messages, we always reply to all even if no thank you... but sometimes it gets delayed since we like to answer the messages together.
We always answer our emails, sometimes it may take a couple days to answer some of the emails but they do get answered.
In our opinion, if someone takes the time to write us an email, it is just respectful to reply whether we are interested in them or not.
In our opinion, if someone takes the time to write us an email, it is just respectful to reply whether we are interested in them or not.
We try to answer all of our mail but sometimes messages get forgotten. Sorry to any one that we haven't answered.
We answer the ones we want to answer and at our leisure. There is nothing wrong with not responding in our book. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing.
-D-
-D-
Oye...that's the conundrum of best intentions, isn't it?
We do try to answer emails, and some do fall through. Others we're just mystified by (you live where? And you want what???) Other emails are just sent obviously without a thought (or eye) given to our profile.
And then there's time. We simply don't have enough to do everything we want...and the email does take a lower priority when we're busy.
Of course, those emails that stand out? Have something to say and are keenly interesting? Yes. Those get QUICK turnaround.
The "Somebody Likes You" without an accompanying email? Those just go straight to the trash. Sorry, but ya gotta work to see more of who we are.
We're worth it.
-K_T
We do try to answer emails, and some do fall through. Others we're just mystified by (you live where? And you want what???) Other emails are just sent obviously without a thought (or eye) given to our profile.
And then there's time. We simply don't have enough to do everything we want...and the email does take a lower priority when we're busy.
Of course, those emails that stand out? Have something to say and are keenly interesting? Yes. Those get QUICK turnaround.
The "Somebody Likes You" without an accompanying email? Those just go straight to the trash. Sorry, but ya gotta work to see more of who we are.
We're worth it.
-K_T
Wow..between our personal, and Eden emails..its alot of work getting everyone answered..but we do like to make sure we answer asap, 24 hrs at worst. If were online when we get it, it will be answered immediately.
~D&T~
~D&T~
well I am glad to see that most try to get back with some kind of something even to say sorry that is what Itry to do and I think the right thing to do yall have fun 
If it's a single guy who hasn't read our profile where it clearly states to not email us unless we ask you too, Immediate delete! Most of the others, we try to respond. Especially if it looks enticing. Sometimes we don't get to emails, so if you have emailed us and we haven't responded, sorry, we miss a few once in awhile...
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Why? You get the same message from a non-reply as you do from a "no thanks". If a couple or person is interested, it's safe to say that they'll let you know.
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Why? You get the same message from a non-reply as you do from a "no thanks". If a couple or person is interested, it's safe to say that they'll let you know.
-D-
I would disagree with not giving them the courtesy of a "Thanx but no thanx". Besides, we have had people talk to us a couple to three weeks AFTER we send them a note because they are out of town, etc, etc. One way keeps you in suspense for a while and the other is definate. Besides, if someone says hello, isn't it rude to just walk on? Sure he gets the idea but IMO, it is still rude.
It's all perception I suppose. I don't think I've ever been in "suspense" when writing anyone that hasn't replied. I chock it up as a no loss on my part and move on having never given it a second thought. There are far too many other people to meet.
If some of you decide to go through the motions of "thanking" everyone taking the time to write an email, that's cool. I'd rather not. It really serves no purpose. A non-reply is self explanitory and one should presume it means "not interested" and be pleasantly surprised when people return from vacation and reply.
To me (Don), it's not worth the added akwardness, hurt feeling (some get), and the attitude (some get), when you don't reply. I still maintain that it is totally acceptable for anyone to <i>not</i> reply to us and anyone reading this should take this email as a public notice. If we, TEQUILAROSE, do not reply, it means Sorry, we're not interested.
We think it is in no way <i>"rude"</i>. Prolonging something that's going nowhere, serves no purpose except to go through the non-heartfelt motions. It's a waste of everyone's time and often adds insult to injury when dealing with those that have little to no self-esteem.
-D-
If some of you decide to go through the motions of "thanking" everyone taking the time to write an email, that's cool. I'd rather not. It really serves no purpose. A non-reply is self explanitory and one should presume it means "not interested" and be pleasantly surprised when people return from vacation and reply.
To me (Don), it's not worth the added akwardness, hurt feeling (some get), and the attitude (some get), when you don't reply. I still maintain that it is totally acceptable for anyone to <i>not</i> reply to us and anyone reading this should take this email as a public notice. If we, TEQUILAROSE, do not reply, it means Sorry, we're not interested.
We think it is in no way <i>"rude"</i>. Prolonging something that's going nowhere, serves no purpose except to go through the non-heartfelt motions. It's a waste of everyone's time and often adds insult to injury when dealing with those that have little to no self-esteem.
-D-
TR...
We always answer so that they KNOW it is a no thanks, not a lost it, didn't get it, etc.
We just feel it to be the right thing...
Would you simply ignore someone who said hello to you at a club? Of course not, you would at the minimum acknowledge their attempt.
The only time we do not reply is when there is a rude ass email from someone...We have received a few with nothing but, "HI" in them...We simply reply with, "BYE" So everyone gets an email back from us...
Anyway....That is simply our policy....
We always answer so that they KNOW it is a no thanks, not a lost it, didn't get it, etc.
We just feel it to be the right thing...
Would you simply ignore someone who said hello to you at a club? Of course not, you would at the minimum acknowledge their attempt.
The only time we do not reply is when there is a rude ass email from someone...We have received a few with nothing but, "HI" in them...We simply reply with, "BYE" So everyone gets an email back from us...
Anyway....That is simply our policy....
I always respond to all of my messages, but then again, as a single male, I probably do not have as many in my inbox as couples or single females do.
As far as not giving at least giving a "thanks, but no thanks" response goes, I really think it's something that should be done.
The person who has sent the message has no idea if you are interested or not. They can not read your mind. For all they know one half of the couple is waiting to show the other half of the couple the message. About six months back I was contacted by a few people and read their messages. I then got hurt and coupldn't play for a while and did not get a chance to respond to their messages. The ones who sent friendly follow ups I stayed in contact with and we either played or decided not to play. The ones who sent rude follow ups I responded to, but never played with and in some cases, blocked.
In some cases I have found that while the couple or female was not interested at the time, they were later.
It only takes a few seconds to write a quick thanks, but no thanks and can save you from unwanted follow up massages.
When I recieve a "thanks, but no thanks" I am sure to flag profile and be sure not to contact them. There have been occasions were I got messages back saying that they were "taking a break" or that they "like my profile, but are not lookiing for a single male at this time", or some other type of message.
Since I do not know for sure if it is some kind of hint that they are not interested at all, and since I have been fortunate to meet with a couple or two after an orginal message of "not looking for single males at this time", I take what is sent back to me as literal.
Not interest = I never contact them again
Not looking for single males at this time = I follow up in a few months
Taking a break = I follow up in a few months
and so on
Just be up front and honest in your response. If the person chooses to be rude and continue messaging, then just block them. Not responding at all, or giving a mixed or unclear message and then getting upset when they follow up is just creating unwanted fristration for all involved.
As far as not giving at least giving a "thanks, but no thanks" response goes, I really think it's something that should be done.
The person who has sent the message has no idea if you are interested or not. They can not read your mind. For all they know one half of the couple is waiting to show the other half of the couple the message. About six months back I was contacted by a few people and read their messages. I then got hurt and coupldn't play for a while and did not get a chance to respond to their messages. The ones who sent friendly follow ups I stayed in contact with and we either played or decided not to play. The ones who sent rude follow ups I responded to, but never played with and in some cases, blocked.
In some cases I have found that while the couple or female was not interested at the time, they were later.
It only takes a few seconds to write a quick thanks, but no thanks and can save you from unwanted follow up massages.
When I recieve a "thanks, but no thanks" I am sure to flag profile and be sure not to contact them. There have been occasions were I got messages back saying that they were "taking a break" or that they "like my profile, but are not lookiing for a single male at this time", or some other type of message.
Since I do not know for sure if it is some kind of hint that they are not interested at all, and since I have been fortunate to meet with a couple or two after an orginal message of "not looking for single males at this time", I take what is sent back to me as literal.
Not interest = I never contact them again
Not looking for single males at this time = I follow up in a few months
Taking a break = I follow up in a few months
and so on
Just be up front and honest in your response. If the person chooses to be rude and continue messaging, then just block them. Not responding at all, or giving a mixed or unclear message and then getting upset when they follow up is just creating unwanted fristration for all involved.
JSTJIM72, face to face is different. Do you reply to all the offers you get in the mail with, "No thanks"??? No, you don't. They like anyone else are soliciting something. In this "lifestyle", it just so happens to be themselves. If it it's the right thing to do, perhaps you should start buying a bunch of stamps to tell all those department stores and car lots out there, that you aren't interested in coming to their store. I just don't put the value that you do in someone writing a two sentence email saying they're interested. Am I rude? I don't think so and many would agree with me. Can I please everyone all the time? No. I am perfectly ok with my decision.
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-D-
We agree with TR. We have had problems with people getting offended too easily when we have responded with a "no thanks". Sometimes we just dont have time to respond to every email and sometimes we are not interested in seeing that particular couple/person.
TR...I actually do not get those things...I signed up for a pre-screened opt out service...I was the victim of ID theft...BUT that makes sense to equate them as one and the same...
I reckon it boils down to a "Different strokes" thing...
I reckon it boils down to a "Different strokes" thing...
Jim,
Your ID can be compromised just as easily, if not more so, here on this website. I agree with you that it is a preference thing. I think everyone should be aware that it has nothing to do with rudeness. Those that take it as rude, make it that way, themselves and it's their problem. They have the power to accept it as something that will always happen or to continue complaining in vain, about people who have no interest in them, not jumping through the "formality" hoops, when these people can just move on to more fruitful endeavors. Again, I support your wish to answer all your emails, if you so choose. I just ask that everyone else respect my choice not to.
-D-
P.S. No one is 100% free of unsolicited advertisement. It's not possible. If you have email, you get it. If you have a mailbox, you have it. If you have a porch on your house, you get them. If you have a windshield on your car with a wiper, you get them. ;-) Do me a favor next time you are at a state fair or carnival, watch how many people ignore all the carnies inviting them to their booths. How about kiosks in the mall? I've made my point.
Your ID can be compromised just as easily, if not more so, here on this website. I agree with you that it is a preference thing. I think everyone should be aware that it has nothing to do with rudeness. Those that take it as rude, make it that way, themselves and it's their problem. They have the power to accept it as something that will always happen or to continue complaining in vain, about people who have no interest in them, not jumping through the "formality" hoops, when these people can just move on to more fruitful endeavors. Again, I support your wish to answer all your emails, if you so choose. I just ask that everyone else respect my choice not to.
-D-
P.S. No one is 100% free of unsolicited advertisement. It's not possible. If you have email, you get it. If you have a mailbox, you have it. If you have a porch on your house, you get them. If you have a windshield on your car with a wiper, you get them. ;-) Do me a favor next time you are at a state fair or carnival, watch how many people ignore all the carnies inviting them to their booths. How about kiosks in the mall? I've made my point.
Didn't see the big word "MAILBOX" eh? LOL!
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Must every topic here come around to male bashing?? No matter what the topic is results in this. The forum is do you respond to emails yes or no. Leave it at that! SHEESH!
I agree, we shouldn't slam single guys, where it's not warranted.
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