hello everyone,
just had a question, i have been part of this site and lifestyle for a while now, and recently i got married and i want to bring my wife into the lifestyle but she is from a whole different culture and upbringing, so how would you suggest i ease her into the lifestyle?
thanks,
fresh
just had a question, i have been part of this site and lifestyle for a while now, and recently i got married and i want to bring my wife into the lifestyle but she is from a whole different culture and upbringing, so how would you suggest i ease her into the lifestyle?
thanks,
fresh
You dont! if you talk to her and its something shes not in to.. you DONT! theres no easeing her in to it.
and if theres a pic of her on your profile,.... (you take them off)
Thumper
and if theres a pic of her on your profile,.... (you take them off)
Thumper
am with thumper on this one... there is no way of easing anyone into this lifestyle..
If you try to ease someone into the the lifestyle that hasn't asked for it you bring up another wagon full of problems. I suggest you not worry about it unless she asks about it.
I have to agree with BICOU4BIF_FL THUMPERJIM
A & k
A & k
Hmmm...does she know you're posting her pic and have a profile here?
If not, I don't know that you're on the right track!
If you do want to see if she's interested, simply talk to her about it. Be honest and let her decide, but put no pressure on her or you'll both be miserable.
-K_T
If not, I don't know that you're on the right track!
If you do want to see if she's interested, simply talk to her about it. Be honest and let her decide, but put no pressure on her or you'll both be miserable.
-K_T
Wow!..seems like a really difficult way to start a new marriage..The first hurdle getting the newlywed wife into the lifestyle.. Thought this might have come up before the vows..Best of luck.
I agree with most of the comments. Not sure why or how you got married to someone that wasn't into the swinging thing if you planned on trying to get her into it later. :S Did she even know what you were into while she was dating you??
Have to agree with everyone on this one. Also, what is with all the pics of other girls on your profile? That would bother me. You can't just take someone else's pics and post them into yours without their permission.
C
C
we would have to go with everyone on this one it has to be a mutual agrement between the both of ya and if she didn't know about it prior then good luck
look we all agree ,,cool
drinks are on us..
Alton & kristy
drinks are on us..
Alton & kristy
GHB (Gamma hydroxy butyrate) and Scopolamine are your friends.
Seriously, if she isn't into it, don't bother. You should have told her BEFORE you got married not now. Still, we would suggest you come clean BEFORE she finds out.
Before she finds out, your marriage has a chance. After she finds out, you are probably screwed.
Seriously, if she isn't into it, don't bother. You should have told her BEFORE you got married not now. Still, we would suggest you come clean BEFORE she finds out.
Before she finds out, your marriage has a chance. After she finds out, you are probably screwed.
Is this guy for real ?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...........ahem.........HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Sorry, he was joking right?
Sorry, he was joking right?
thanks everyone for all the comments and advice. yes i told her about the lifestyle prior to the marriage, she is ok with me being in this lifestyle but wants me to slow it down a bit. but as for herself she is still trying to explore all of her sexual needs. i do not have a picture of her up, all the pictures are from my single days with firends that participated with me in the lifestyle, so no harm to anyone.
Did your single wild days include girls in the webcam business? Cuz I recognize several of those pictures from my web surfing adventures.
With the exception of your wife. You can not be in the lifestyle as a single male if you're married, and unless your wife joins you at the clubs and on your profile here, you might as well be cheating on her...
jmho
jmho
okay let me see if i can clarify things for everyone.
i do not plan on cheating on my wife nor have i done anything without her knowledge. i have not figured out how to change my profile to read "couple" and that is why it still reads "single male". anyone i meet on here knows about my situation up front.
many of you are making it out to be that i am an insensitive jerk. the wife knows about my preference and is cool with it, she just wanted me to slow things down until she gets here and has given me perameters to stay within. she is not opposed to this lifestyle, she just dosen't know what to expect. i have educated her about the site and since i don't have any pics of her yet she did not want her pics up until she was ready. the other pics are of friends as stated on pics and of things i like (which i put up several years ago) nothing on my profile is misrepresented and hopefully you don't think i gave single males or married men a bad rap on here. if that is what you got, then you misunderstood my intentions. i just wanted to know if simple meet and greets was the way to go or private parties or whatever, thats all. so for now i say good bye to this topic.
respectfully,
fresh
i do not plan on cheating on my wife nor have i done anything without her knowledge. i have not figured out how to change my profile to read "couple" and that is why it still reads "single male". anyone i meet on here knows about my situation up front.
many of you are making it out to be that i am an insensitive jerk. the wife knows about my preference and is cool with it, she just wanted me to slow things down until she gets here and has given me perameters to stay within. she is not opposed to this lifestyle, she just dosen't know what to expect. i have educated her about the site and since i don't have any pics of her yet she did not want her pics up until she was ready. the other pics are of friends as stated on pics and of things i like (which i put up several years ago) nothing on my profile is misrepresented and hopefully you don't think i gave single males or married men a bad rap on here. if that is what you got, then you misunderstood my intentions. i just wanted to know if simple meet and greets was the way to go or private parties or whatever, thats all. so for now i say good bye to this topic.
respectfully,
fresh
We're with freshmaker on this one... we were married first, then she brought it up. We don't see the harm in bringing it up, if you can't share all your thoughts with your spouse, including sexual thoughts, what's the point? But you're only as good at 'swinging' as your 'weakest' member. In other words, if she's good with watching other couples, that's probably all you should do... if she freaks out at the thought of being watched by other couples, probably not for you. But I wouldn't exceed her comfort level to try and show her how it can spice up your sex life. Does that make sense? We're at different comfort levels, but we don't exceed hers, no questions asked.
In my years of experience, I have found it best to take the non swinger women I dated to the OFF premise clubs around Dallas/Ft Worth, my favorite place is Aftermidnight.
There is NO pressure to play, everyone is friendly, they all respect your date and dance with her as if she is part of the crowd. NO one makes a big deal of it, and everybody has a good time.
Keep going to the club until the lady (your wife) get comfy with everyone, and they with her, and make friends. From there if someone likes her, and she likes them, then you will all play and all involved will want more.
There is NO pressure to play, everyone is friendly, they all respect your date and dance with her as if she is part of the crowd. NO one makes a big deal of it, and everybody has a good time.
Keep going to the club until the lady (your wife) get comfy with everyone, and they with her, and make friends. From there if someone likes her, and she likes them, then you will all play and all involved will want more.
I am seeing a lady who is uncertain about her desire to be involved in the lfe style. At her request I have removed all my pictures and erased my profile. This will remain so until or if she decides to take part. If her final answer is "no" and we are a prospering couple, I shall not return.
The "man" who posted this has disgraced himself and has defrauded his wife. If she doesn't up and leave he is lucky. I fear his relationship is not even based on honesty.
The "man" who posted this has disgraced himself and has defrauded his wife. If she doesn't up and leave he is lucky. I fear his relationship is not even based on honesty.
Why would anyone want to lure, entice or "get" their spouse into something they're not ready for or interested in...ESPECIALLY with the cutural/background differences.
I wouldn't think it's a very wise way to start your marriage.
Perhaps you should focus more of your energy on her/you/new marriage, for the first little while at least...and then perhaps the answer will be very obvious to you for which will work the best.
But remember...there's always the possibility that she'll never be interested in sharing her man, or her new husband...and you'll have to accept that to be fair to her.
Just my thoughts......
~J~
I wouldn't think it's a very wise way to start your marriage.
Perhaps you should focus more of your energy on her/you/new marriage, for the first little while at least...and then perhaps the answer will be very obvious to you for which will work the best.
But remember...there's always the possibility that she'll never be interested in sharing her man, or her new husband...and you'll have to accept that to be fair to her.
Just my thoughts......
~J~
Well If i did read it wrong and I dont feel I did. And she is Interested in thinking about joining you in the lifestyle, then maybe Take her to a couple of The Meet and Greets at Habits, Its a Open Bar (not everyone there are swingers) and let her meet some of the other couples and she how she feels about it.
This is something She needs to want to do, No do it becouse your into it. This is also something i feel you and Her Should not jump into, maybe meet and hang out with other couples. But never think about doing anything untell she is the one that shows the intrest. Take it slow, Take your Time and always let her tell you what she wants to do.
Thumper
This is something She needs to want to do, No do it becouse your into it. This is also something i feel you and Her Should not jump into, maybe meet and hang out with other couples. But never think about doing anything untell she is the one that shows the intrest. Take it slow, Take your Time and always let her tell you what she wants to do.
Thumper
wow you fucked up. but you still need help. my wife got me into the lifestyle when she discovered she likes girls. maybe just maybe she would be open to the idea if given the opportunity. let her hang out with bi chicks. this could go very bad but in your situation you got nothin to loose. good luck you guna need it