Swingers Forum - Who here likes the big girls.

Aesthetics are a fickle thing. Situation dictates for me. I've seen hideous fat women and I've seen women that are plump, but wear it well. It's all about proportions for me.

-D-

We have found that it is all about how you take care of yourself and your attitude. We have found very beautiful larger women with wonderful attitudes who present themselves very senually but on the flip side we have found some larger women who seem to obsess on themselves for being fat..............We love people in all shapes and sizes as long as they take care of themselves and have a good attitude................sorry, just our 2 cents.......... Steve&Wendie

well we do not discriminate from size as long as you have a great attitude about your selves we should be able to get along just our 2 cence.

J & P

sara and i likes all types.... big, small, short, tall....like dr seuse says we likes em all... but our preference at least me..(sorry tiny ladies), is larger ladies... im 5'8" 220-230 depending on ifn i ate that day yet...lol... and besides the worry of squarshing a tiny person... it makes my blood flow real fast if the lady is larger and knows she can be sexy too... like alot of previous post additions... it all in the attitude.... attitude tells all and opens alot of doors. dennis and sara

Agreed TP.

-D-

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Rick

He prefers "thicker" gals...Reubenesque, curvy, chubby, whatever you wanna call it...

The main thing is attitude...

She prefers thinner women, as she can see more then, but thick chicks are good to...

I am not fat nor do I find myself thin, I am just somewhere inbetween I think anyway lol! But I find myself being left out because I am not a larger woman and at the same time being over looked for not being thin enough. I don't take any of it personally, as stated so many times, we are all allowed our own choices. I respect that! I go by personality and how well they present themselves. I don't have alot of time either to get together unfortunately so that honestly is a big part of the problem, lol! Just my 2 cents!

Here is a question. How do you define "big"? I might not want to do a girl that is big by my standards but you might say it is ok because you don't think she is that big. Same with darkness of skin, height, etc, etc. IOW, I can't be sure of the answer since I don't know what you are talking about. Now if she is 5'4 500#, would I? Probably not. But if she is 5'4 and 150, I might depending on the whole package. Hard to say

Heather and I like them all. No matter size, it is all about the attitude. If you have a great personality and like to have fun, then who cares about size. You are being you. Just our thoughts on the subject.

Corey & Heather

It's all nice to say "It's what is on the inside that counts". However, the question would be how you would do something sexually with somebody you find unappealing. If, for example, I don't find black girls attractive and one comes my way, would I be able to do something sexual with her? Same as overweight girls. If you find obese women ugly, will all the personality in the world help?

AKLIM: Why the hell would anyone be intimate with someone that they're not attracted to?

Or why would they be expected to for that matter?

That would almost fall under the swinger commandment of "Thou shalt not take one for the team",....doesn't it?

For me to boink someone I'm not attracted to would make as much sense as me trying to gag down a plate of broccoli and cauliflower (and no, the amount of cheese..no matter how savory...will EVER make it palatable).

The point is that I simply don't care for those two vegetables, therefore I will not eat them.

That's not to say that just because I don't like those two veggies, I don't care for ANY vegetables. There are, in fact, several that I like...of many colors and shapes, but you see...it's a totally personal thing. It even depends upon my mood at any given moment.

If I'm partial to brunettes...am I gonna pass on all blondes, or redheads? Hell no, it's a case-by-case basis.

The same can apply to the variety of body habituses there are in our community. Sure, there are those that I'm inclined to be attracted to, but regardless if they're "my type", personality is ALWAYS the deal-breaker, or deal-maker.

Totally fit and in-shape chicks can become very ugly, very quickly, if the personality is leaves anything to be desired.

Conversely, others that may not have initially knocked me off my feet (obese and non-obese alike) start to shine brightly once the sparkling personality is recognized and/or acknowledged.

Yep, once again the personality comes into play.

I always have to wonder how many of life's rich experiences are being missed out upon by those who so diligently struggle to keep people and experiences packed away in tidy little boxes with labels on them?

i know i'm going to get SLAMMED for this, but oh my.
I'm sorry, but I cannot stand fat. at all. Period. Girl or guy.
To me fat is a choice. and it shows that u dont care enough about urself to do something about it.
Dont get me wrong, i'm not talking about little love handles, or the baby belly. but when ur rolls have rolls. get up off the couch/comp and go for a walk, get out and do something.
There is no excuse. ( yes i know some medications cause weight gain but even that can be maintained and managed).
Shrug. I know i'm coming off as a hater.
Shrug.
To me, fat just says hey look i dont care about myself, and i dont care about my health. and if they dont care about themselves, how can they care about anything else?
So i def would never invite a fat person (50< lb over weight)into bed with me.

Just_rach
well everyone has their own opinions



fat/skinny doesn't make the person anymore attractive than the other. Because your skinny doesn't make you any better than someone who is heavier...

Be happy with who you are

This is our first forum post but felt the need to jump in here. This is one topic that will forver be contested and discussed until we as people can look past wether or not someone is attractive based upon wether or not they can fit into a size 4 womens or 26 mens jeans.. As a bigger couple we have a hard time approaching some of the more "beautiful" people for the fact that we don't need the comments about weight or how they don't see bigger people. One person was rude enough to insult us both and tell us to just give up trying in this lifestyle because we were fat and ugly..and that noone would waste their time on us.. yes..true story...and they were politley told to F#$k off regardless.. We have played and met quite a few couples..big,,small, whatever..we aren't biased like that..ultimately it comes down to your personality. We have met some that may not be what the beautiful people would consider attractive..but their personality came through and it was game on.. Where we've met some that would be considered gorgeous by societies standards and after they opened their mouth they were ugly as hell... Personally, in our eyes, the size of the belly doesn't really matter..although..some of the most beautiful people we know are bigger.. because they have no reason to be vain, or try to outskinny the girl next to them.. They just want to have a good time.. and don't spend as much time trying to out pretty everyone else because they are confident in who they are. And in response to a previous comment.. being bigger is not always a choice.. there are other things that go into it.. like genetics, slow metabolism.. having children. medical conditions..etc.. We are a bigger couple but put our diet and activity level up against some of our "skinny" friends and you'll find that we do more..and eat less.. and yet... we have the size difference...and my friends..how is that...by choice? To me that posters comment was based on what they have heard on the TV and other media and is not reflective of how it really is.. And is putting a generalized perspective on some of us that it may not really apply to. Which is not fair.. But that is your opinion and we respect it.. but disagree with it.. Get to know us...you just may find that you'll like us.

we like them all i think it depends on how u care yourself i have some big girlfriends who are really sweet even though i have never been with them in a swing way they are just as sweet and pretty as anybody

You know I always wonder this too. I'm not way big but bigger and have noticed I prefer to be with couples with smaller girls. I guess just because it's the opposite of me?!?!?! I dont know. I know being with a bigger guy makes me feel more comfortable at first now I am with whoever. More about personality now than looks, I think when people first do this its more about looks and physical attraction.

I wished I had seen this post earlier.

I usually tend to prefer ladies with a bit of extra padding. However, like almost everyone else has posted previously, it all boils down to the attitude and personality.

Karkar, if you ever need a sleeping bag warmer let me know I would be most happy to oblige.

Belinda is small and petite only about 5'3"; 110. But her best friend and lover is a lady with a bit extra padding. It works for them. And the extra lady works for me too.

no preference for us people can big big or small and still be sexy just depends on how they wear what they have and the personality that comes with it