Are we the only ones that wonder how we go from a nice dinner / drinks date to moving things upstairs, or how to let a couple know we want to play with them?
When you go out to dinner, or to a house party, or with another couple... and you want to play... What Do You Say To Get Things Rolling...
Example... Sitting at a couple's home not sure where things are headed and I say to the husband of the other couple, "My wife has great breasts, Would you like to feel them?"
Give us as many good ideas as you can!
A & C
When you go out to dinner, or to a house party, or with another couple... and you want to play... What Do You Say To Get Things Rolling...
Example... Sitting at a couple's home not sure where things are headed and I say to the husband of the other couple, "My wife has great breasts, Would you like to feel them?"
Give us as many good ideas as you can!
A & C
Doesn't it have to do with the situation... Is this couple into the lifestyle or not.. If they are then it should be rather easy... Do we or don't we? If they are not in the lifestyle then it depends on a number of things. HAve they voiced an interest in swapping? HAs anything been said that might make you think that they are interested in you as a couple, made remarks on the side...? Has the lady made subtle overtures toward the husband or the other husband made comments that might lead you that they might be interested? Again, situation situation situation... Now if nothing has been said and you are wanting to find out... Try asking if they had heard about the swing club that opened down on third street or that someone had mentioned going to a swing club and you ask what or if they have an opinion on the subject.... Sounded interesting the way it was talked about... Not having to do anything but adults having adult fun.... a dance... but a way to connect and couples changing partners and maybe some petting and or kissing and maybe some nudity....but that maybe you just wanted to be in that environment and see what it's like... These might be some tactics which might just get them to open up and get things moving... But if you met over one of these swinger sites and have been talking via e-mail of IM...then it sounds like it's just a matter of finding out if there is a connection... and maybe you should let them know that you feel that there is ... what do they think... and then... move to the appropriate door... egress or Bedroom....
Another way might be a game like "Dirty Words" or a set or two of the sexy dice....
Just my thoughts on the subject.. Been there and done that...at least a couple of times....
Ray
Another way might be a game like "Dirty Words" or a set or two of the sexy dice....
Just my thoughts on the subject.. Been there and done that...at least a couple of times....
Ray
We usually have the wife ask if both of us are interested.
Last one naked is a rotten egg!
I think I like the last onbe naked is a rotten egg hahahaha
We just ask is everyone good??/ if so then the clothes come off NOW if not then nice to meet ya good bye see ya later.. and thats that... Although we enter knowing that we are there or here to get naked and plan it accordingly
Yes, they are nice shoes, I love them... and ok!
Every situation seems to have a different dynamic but I prefer the wives to drive the interaction whether we proceed further, either with each other or show interest toward the other couple.
T
T
We don't really say anything in particular, we can usually tell if the mutual interest is there, my sexy wife likes to just surprise everyone by seductively undressing. She loves to be naked and is not shy at all about getting that way. Sometimes in the middle of a conversation I will stand behind her and start lifting off her shirt which usually gets everyone's attention lol.
The hardest part we have found in this lifestyle (unlike being single and dating to get sex which was SO MUCH EASIER) is that all four have to click in order to make ANYTHING happen. That is unless the partner (or partners) is going to take one for the team, and or just go with it, without any real connection and doing things just for sex sake. We know that for us we have to have the three main things click with all of us, for anything to transpire more when meeting someone for dinner and drinks. 1) Physical Attraction, 2) Sexual Chemistry , and 3) Personality Connectivity along with similar interests in life which helps move sexual things forward. We do value a connection and a friendship with the sex. It seems to be more comfortable and feel safe.
We have found as WRLDRCKRS and CLASSYSEXY FUN has noted that if the women aren't on board and ready to go, then it is very unlikely something sexual will happen. We were told early on in our virgin lifestyle pre-life, that unless the women connect and "MAKE IT" happen (either together or with the other partners) then you will just have good friends and maybe not fuck buddies. Not that there is anything wrong with either, just harder to connect for the sex it seems as a couple in this lifestyle. Well other then single men on this site that is. LOL
The other part of this is found that there is fine line between being known as the
We have found as WRLDRCKRS and CLASSYSEXY FUN has noted that if the women aren't on board and ready to go, then it is very unlikely something sexual will happen. We were told early on in our virgin lifestyle pre-life, that unless the women connect and "MAKE IT" happen (either together or with the other partners) then you will just have good friends and maybe not fuck buddies. Not that there is anything wrong with either, just harder to connect for the sex it seems as a couple in this lifestyle. Well other then single men on this site that is. LOL
The other part of this is found that there is fine line between being known as the
the game called truth or dare it always work for us
just are thought
regan & rhonda
just are thought
regan & rhonda
We agree that it depends on the situation, we have found, as others have allready mentioned, it has to start with the ladies, if they are ok with things, then it should be a go. We have found that touching and fondling each other first is a great ice breaker. But we have also been sitting and having a conversation when the next thing we hear is "so, you want a blow job?" that aproach seemed to work that night, so to answer the question posed before us, WE DON'T HAVE A CLUE WHAT TO SAY....................sorry, Steve&Wendie
"Ain't nothing like mammals" by: Bloodhound Gang.....
Do it now
You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals
So let's do it like they do on the discover channel
Do it again now
You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals
So let's do it like they do on the discover channel
Getting horny now
Do it now
You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals
So let's do it like they do on the discover channel
Do it again now
You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals
So let's do it like they do on the discover channel
Getting horny now
We have found that playing it by ear can cause an ear full of cum. We are way to passive some times but like fun said. Its not always easy to fighure out what the other couple wants. We do know, we always go home with each other.
Lor and Lar
Lor and Lar
Jen says just sit her next to the other couples woman and she will make sure to find out if everythings a go, lol. 
I agree with Jen after all for most of us its all about "The girls" 
hehehehe
heheheheYes it is CANITB, they call that ................ Pussy Control................... not that there is anything wrong with that.................... , as it is a proven fact, that everyone came out of it, and then do everything they can to get back in ........ LOL
see now wheres the fun if the girls are into it just for the other girls?? For me no fun at all cause I dont want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with me, just how i am i guess. I know alot of guys dont care but I do so there hahahahaha 
Yes. Depends on the situation. 7 out of 10, the women are the initiators.
That said...Ms. K_T has been known to simply start removing her clothes and letting everyone know it's time to get naked.
For those 3 out of 10, I take control. Start some toy talk, or people request photographs be taken, or a nice segue and I'll simply ask if we all want to head to the bedroom. There are a few people out there that like a nice, respectful, kind Dominant man...hehehe.
Overall, however, you just gotta go with the vibe and be willing to make the suggestion if the time comes and everyone's waiting for clothes to drop.
-K_T
That said...Ms. K_T has been known to simply start removing her clothes and letting everyone know it's time to get naked.
For those 3 out of 10, I take control. Start some toy talk, or people request photographs be taken, or a nice segue and I'll simply ask if we all want to head to the bedroom. There are a few people out there that like a nice, respectful, kind Dominant man...hehehe.
Overall, however, you just gotta go with the vibe and be willing to make the suggestion if the time comes and everyone's waiting for clothes to drop.
-K_T
we like to start off with something sexy like "so I have this rash on my balls, would you have a look at it?"
Its a good way to get things started, oh wait this wasnt the thread about how to get rid of unwanted house guests was it? oppppssss lol
Its a good way to get things started, oh wait this wasnt the thread about how to get rid of unwanted house guests was it? oppppssss lol
We try not to make it too complicated we just head back to the bedroom if they follow great if they don't we begin playing if they seem they need some heating up we use a card game called 99 it has never failed us lol.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
I agree alot with the women in finding out if things are a go and every situation has its diferent solutions, but also a little tuching on the legs of the other women has worked for me in the past just my two sence.
mr. countrylovers79
mr. countrylovers79
so....hahaha.... are we going to fuck or what?
recon... ummmm blunt but if all are just waiting for someone to start ya thatl do it... have to try that one sometime.... d&s
So if it up to the women to get things started... then here is a thought... What if the women are not into playing with each other, (oh no! women who are into men. lol)
We have chatted and found women who feel like unless they become bi-curious they will not be welcomed into playing with couples... I am one of those. I love men, I can even enjoy being touched by a women if I am already being played with by a man, but to have to start things with another woman would make for a "no-go"
Is it best for me to start playing with my husband... or is it too aggressive to go to the other couple's husband and try to get things started? I can instigate that way... just not just with the 2 women playing.
You Can Crucify Me Now... LOL
We have chatted and found women who feel like unless they become bi-curious they will not be welcomed into playing with couples... I am one of those. I love men, I can even enjoy being touched by a women if I am already being played with by a man, but to have to start things with another woman would make for a "no-go"
Is it best for me to start playing with my husband... or is it too aggressive to go to the other couple's husband and try to get things started? I can instigate that way... just not just with the 2 women playing.
You Can Crucify Me Now... LOL
Dreamin - Unless there Soft Swap most of the couples weve met, the females are interested in the guy but will also play with the girl. A few don't even play with the other girl.
WEB_COUPLE2001 - Totally agree, Nothin works better than a Hot Tub.
RECON - You da MAN!
FNTSYFNCPL - I don't think that you need to be bi, theres quite a few who are not.
On starting it, Both of those ways can work depending on the situation. Also asking the wife first is a good idea.
WEB_COUPLE2001 - Totally agree, Nothin works better than a Hot Tub.
RECON - You da MAN!
FNTSYFNCPL - I don't think that you need to be bi, theres quite a few who are not.
On starting it, Both of those ways can work depending on the situation. Also asking the wife first is a good idea.
There is a fairly even split. Some couples are less likely to play if one of the women is not bisexual. Others simply want to play! Best to simply ask in the early stages so it's all in the open.
(BTW - we're one of them that pretty much has to have another Bisexual woman. Ms. K_T is wildly Bisexual...and very, very good at it.)
-K_T
(BTW - we're one of them that pretty much has to have another Bisexual woman. Ms. K_T is wildly Bisexual...and very, very good at it.)
-K_T
sara has shocked even me at times and asked one couples female 1/2 " is it ok if i suck *****'s cock?" as she walks around into the front of him and kneels downthen pauses waiting for an answer..... i was most shocked because she has never been the instigator b4 and it made for a verry interesting time... she told me the next day why but thats our little secret....
interesting thats something I have been a bit confused on soft and full and etc etc I figured hey lets play hahaha
Hehe what can you say to get sex rolling?
Many times Kelly (the male half) has been the one to get things going. It works sometimes and sometimes it doesn't. He likes to play strip poker... mind you I always win because I am the first one naked but it does get things started.
Many times I have been the one to get things going. I works sometimes and sometimes it doesn't. I do what feels best for me and that usually means getting naked and showing what I can offer.
My favorite line though would have to be "Can I scrath that itch for ya?"
Many times Kelly (the male half) has been the one to get things going. It works sometimes and sometimes it doesn't. He likes to play strip poker... mind you I always win because I am the first one naked but it does get things started.
Many times I have been the one to get things going. I works sometimes and sometimes it doesn't. I do what feels best for me and that usually means getting naked and showing what I can offer.
My favorite line though would have to be "Can I scrath that itch for ya?"
FNTSYFNCPL we totally understand where you are coming from, as there are many couples where the women we have met within them, as well aren
Still think it is simpler for the wife to ask it. Generally the wife gives me a signal and if I return it, she asks the other couple if they want to play or not. If not, we part company. If so, we get naked.
Being polite, maybe just say "Please pass the pussy"
Blindlove,
That's a great tactic. Let's try that sometime. And yes...Cody has managed to catch Ms. K_T's eye a few times now - as well as you Tara.
Not to mention, the two of you are highly recommended...heheheh.
-K_T
That's a great tactic. Let's try that sometime. And yes...Cody has managed to catch Ms. K_T's eye a few times now - as well as you Tara.
Not to mention, the two of you are highly recommended...heheheh.
-K_T
What is wrong with just asking? Say we are interested in you, are you interested in us? The worst that they can say is NO and the best would be YES. You will never know unless you ask.
Our 2 cents.
Our 2 cents.
Problem with asking is that people are afraid of sounding rude or pushy. So it becomes a case of "we look at you and you look at us".
Amen.. that was our feeling in asking the question... We don't want to be pushy and thought it was good also just to get some ideas for clever ways to get things going instead of always saying plain things. Here is a way to ask... "Wanna Fuck?" or "Can you see if my wife's panties are wet?" We just never want to be taken as rude or indecent.
A
A
Recon thats my wifes line "are we going to fuck or what" she has used it many times when it starts getting late lol.
Norm
Norm
After a few drink we usally ask if the would like to go back to the room and watch some porn while they finish thier drink. Then I will pull out the camera and start taking pictures of the ladys doing different sex act the bring in the other male by that time the fun is well on its way...
It has work for us.
It has work for us.
A lot depends on where you meet a couple. If for drinks, we have a signal to let each other know we are interested. If we are a go, one or the other will ask if they would like to go party, get a room or yes even "would you two like to fuck"! That is how we have been approched also. If there is a hot tub then hell yes get see if they would like to join us in and let things flow. Most of the time the females start to show off so you know they are interested and less chance of people being told no.