As we have browsed through some profiles on this site, we've come across some people who are very particular in what kind of people they are looking for. Which I can't blame them: I for one wouldn't want to be with someone who's old enough to be my dad or my grandfather. Nor would I feel attracted to somebody who is heavily obese. And I certainly would not want to be with someone with poor hygiene, obviously. I understand you need to find someone attractive in order to have a good experience, buut some profile descriptions I see seem to be very close-minded and could almost be hurtful to some.
For instance, there are those Ken-and-Barbie-perfect couples who say "You MUST be as attractive as we are." Hmm that's really narrowing your market. And then I'm not so sure what people are looking for when they say "You MUST be height/weight proportionate." Like I said I can understand that people who are obese are not attractive to most. And I don't consider myself overweight (actually according to my BMI I'm still within "normal" weight) but I certainly am no super-skinny model or porn star. So if I'm not super-toned and have some bulges, would these perfect people consider me "non height/weight proportionate"? I even came across one that says "Male MUST be blonde with blue eyes. NO EXCEPTIONS" To each his/her own preferences but again that is REALLY close-minded IMO and eliminating potential partners that just can't help their genes.
Well I'm not trying to take things personally. Just sharing some thoughts and asking others here have you come across others' profiles or conversed with people who seem very discriminatory, and what did you think about it?
For instance, there are those Ken-and-Barbie-perfect couples who say "You MUST be as attractive as we are." Hmm that's really narrowing your market. And then I'm not so sure what people are looking for when they say "You MUST be height/weight proportionate." Like I said I can understand that people who are obese are not attractive to most. And I don't consider myself overweight (actually according to my BMI I'm still within "normal" weight) but I certainly am no super-skinny model or porn star. So if I'm not super-toned and have some bulges, would these perfect people consider me "non height/weight proportionate"? I even came across one that says "Male MUST be blonde with blue eyes. NO EXCEPTIONS" To each his/her own preferences but again that is REALLY close-minded IMO and eliminating potential partners that just can't help their genes.
Well I'm not trying to take things personally. Just sharing some thoughts and asking others here have you come across others' profiles or conversed with people who seem very discriminatory, and what did you think about it?
ya know I have the height and weight thing in our profile because maily our shortness.. the male half is only 5'7 so not a big man at all... You would not believe even with our pics posted how many large poeple want to meet us.. I am so sorry for making it seem like I am being rude but I also know that what U see and what I see in the mirror may or maynot be what others see.. And my hats off to those who have such a great self asteem that no matter how old fat/skinny wrinkly or gray haired they r see nothing but sexy when they look inthe mirror..I honsetly just do not want myself or hubby to feel like all we do is say sorry your not for us. And felt it easier and better to be said up front is all...I have read some of the profiles your talking about and think to myself what a wonderful world we ALL live in LOL Just glad I do not live in a glass house 
or wear rose colored glasses LOL
or wear rose colored glasses LOLEverybody is looking for something different. I don't see a problem with it. If they want to limit themselves and it makes them happy, who are we to say it isn't a good idea? It may or may not work for you but so what? They are not asking you to limit yourselves. I hate black people. I don't want to swing with black people. So what? I'm not asking YOU not to swing with black people. You can scew every black couple there is. I hate women with pointy shoes. The girl shows up with those shoes and we walk. Again, so what? Doesn't mean YOU cannot do it. It isn't our affair.
We understand what you are saying but honestly everyone has the right to look for what is going to make them happy. We would rather see on ones profile what they are looking for to see if we are a fit or not. This eliminates wasted time on both our parts by being upfront.
Personally we prefer something different then what we enjoy every night with each other so a different body type, hair color, eye color, etc is what we want but to each his or her own. Our criteria is just a general guide but we often go out of the range and meet others because you never know until you meet and for the most part it has paid off for us. Remember they made up their profile without knowing of you so it should never be taken personal.
Personally we prefer something different then what we enjoy every night with each other so a different body type, hair color, eye color, etc is what we want but to each his or her own. Our criteria is just a general guide but we often go out of the range and meet others because you never know until you meet and for the most part it has paid off for us. Remember they made up their profile without knowing of you so it should never be taken personal.
Thanks for the replies I guess you're right- I should not take things too personally. I just know that last summer I was chatting with a couple and they seemed interested. Then we started sharing pics on our messenger, but it seemed they were getting annoyed that I was only showing body pics and no face pics. So when I did upload a fully-clothed face picture of us, there wasn't much more response from them. Either I or the hubby didn't have enough good looks but I think it was not the most polite way of saying no thanks
Waterfall,
Don't take it personally. You look hot! There are some people who are just picture collectors and perhaps that is what you ran across.
Also, consider the fact that when you are communicating with a couple both of them have to be interested. In my experience it is usually just one half of the couple who is doing all of the messaging and then they show the "prospects" to their significant other who may, or may not, be interesested in the whole idea of swinging let alone in a particular couple.
You look great and like anyone else it can be hard to meet that initial couple or single, but once you do the reward is great!
Don't take it personally. You look hot! There are some people who are just picture collectors and perhaps that is what you ran across.
Also, consider the fact that when you are communicating with a couple both of them have to be interested. In my experience it is usually just one half of the couple who is doing all of the messaging and then they show the "prospects" to their significant other who may, or may not, be interesested in the whole idea of swinging let alone in a particular couple.
You look great and like anyone else it can be hard to meet that initial couple or single, but once you do the reward is great!
Well the way I see your just did the same thing your complaining about? no old really old or fat people. Everyone has something like or don't like. Just as you said what you don't like. That could also be taken hurtful by some, so why complain that others are doing it to? Beacuse you don't fit someones category? Well good hell I know I don't fit alot of peoples categories but not everyone has to like a fat lady I'm ok with that.. 
Just be happy with your self...
Just be happy with your self...Sure it could be taken as hurtful by someone. However, it would be better than me telling you "Sorry, I'm not into old, fat, redheads, etc, etc" in my email. This way you know up front what I am looking for. Just like with single men who contact us, I send a very nasty reply back. Why? Because I told you I am not looking for this and why are you bothering to contact me?
I am kinda torn down the middle on this one because the lady and I are a "more to love couple" who find it hard to find couples who are okay with us not being skinny minnies and we are mixed couple you how that can be . However, we are not interested in being hit on by bi-sexuals even though our pofile says we are bi friendly. What that means is we are okay with a couples choice for both sexes but, we only are interested in male on female sex nothing else. though, the female half of couple we meet tried it anyway with the wife which put the breaks on for us. So I agree with both of you. You have to put it out there before you meet up with that sexy couple. Also you need to use tack as to how you bring yourself across to people in your profile. Besides who wants to be with someone who's not comfortable with your size, shape, color and or preferrence not us.
"Just my thoughts "
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"Just my thoughts "
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Asking that the party you play with be HWP, isn't asking them to be Kate Moss but it isn't asking for them to be Jabba the Hutt either. Lets face it, many, including myself (him) are not going to be like Kate Moss. But if you are 5'10 and 300#, it certainly isn't HWP. Many are not attracted to that. In any case, I don't think wanting to play with HWP people means I want skinny minnies either, does it?
This thread supports why we do not respond <u>at all</u>, if we are not interested. There are far to many people that take offense. I think non-response says it all, without saying too much. Besides, There is no justification in telling someone "no thanks". Why do they need to hear it and why do you need to say it. Just move on.
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Posted By: ULUVBIGBLKDICK Reply posted on:
Jan 6, 2008 - 8:29 pm
But I'm always a little PO when a couple (the female) says they'll play with single males who are only +8" in lenght. To me that says "we don't want to play with single males but can't just say it" cause less then 1% of men are over 8". But I guess if you want to play with someone else you might as well make it that fantasy person you always dream about.
I for most part just want to have some attraction to their face. Size and shape aren't that important if the face works for me.
Why? They CAN say it. All they are saying is that they will make an exception for a single guy with a 9 in dick. Other than that, they are not interested in single guys. IOW, single guys have to bring something to the table THAT THEY WANT. In this case, it is an 8 inch or better dick. For instance, I (he) am not interested in single anything. Now, if you are Briana Banks or what Jenna Jameson used to be or Tera Pattrick, I might make the exception. If you are Jane Doe, I'd give you a pass.
Well, that is YOU. They have an attraction to a guy only if he is a certain size. To them, that is their mitigating factor.
Jan 6, 2008 - 8:29 pm
But I'm always a little PO when a couple (the female) says they'll play with single males who are only +8" in lenght. To me that says "we don't want to play with single males but can't just say it" cause less then 1% of men are over 8". But I guess if you want to play with someone else you might as well make it that fantasy person you always dream about.
I for most part just want to have some attraction to their face. Size and shape aren't that important if the face works for me.
Why? They CAN say it. All they are saying is that they will make an exception for a single guy with a 9 in dick. Other than that, they are not interested in single guys. IOW, single guys have to bring something to the table THAT THEY WANT. In this case, it is an 8 inch or better dick. For instance, I (he) am not interested in single anything. Now, if you are Briana Banks or what Jenna Jameson used to be or Tera Pattrick, I might make the exception. If you are Jane Doe, I'd give you a pass.
Well, that is YOU. They have an attraction to a guy only if he is a certain size. To them, that is their mitigating factor.
Posted By: TEQUILAROSE Reply posted on:
Jan 6, 2008 - 8:34 pm
This thread supports why we do not respond at all, if we are not interested. There are far to many people that take offense. I think non-response says it all, without saying too much. Besides, There is no justification in telling someone "no thanks". Why do they need to hear it and why do you need to say it. Just move on.
We look on it as a courtesy thing. Now obviously, if I sent you an email that said "Hey Bitch! Wanna suck on my cock and lick my asshole?", you are justified in trashing my email. Other than that, we think that any decent letter deserves a reply. Even a simple "Thanx but no thanx". I don't have to go into detail about why I don't like you. To us it is kinda like me saying "Hello TR" when I see you. You could just reply "Hello aklim." and move on. If you start hugging us and buying us drinks, we know you like us. If not, oh well. But don't you think if you said "Hi!" to us and we walked on it is kinda rude? Especially on the internet where we can't see each other's expressions, etc, etc.
Jan 6, 2008 - 8:34 pm
This thread supports why we do not respond at all, if we are not interested. There are far to many people that take offense. I think non-response says it all, without saying too much. Besides, There is no justification in telling someone "no thanks". Why do they need to hear it and why do you need to say it. Just move on.
We look on it as a courtesy thing. Now obviously, if I sent you an email that said "Hey Bitch! Wanna suck on my cock and lick my asshole?", you are justified in trashing my email. Other than that, we think that any decent letter deserves a reply. Even a simple "Thanx but no thanx". I don't have to go into detail about why I don't like you. To us it is kinda like me saying "Hello TR" when I see you. You could just reply "Hello aklim." and move on. If you start hugging us and buying us drinks, we know you like us. If not, oh well. But don't you think if you said "Hi!" to us and we walked on it is kinda rude? Especially on the internet where we can't see each other's expressions, etc, etc.