I'm new to this site as of a few days ago. Still getting some pictures together and already need to spiff up my profile. And, just to keep this on track, over the past few days I' think I've read about every forum post about singles, that's not what this is about.
Here is my delima. (sp?) Yesterday I saw a profile on here and I know the husband and wife and worked with the wife for a couple of years. We were pretty good buddy's and visited a lot, saw each other daily and we both liked a raunchy laugh. And, we were only work buddies,period,end of that story. I met the husband at a couple of compay parties and we did fine. I've thought about them a couple of times because when I left the company she was pregnant and I wondered boy or girl.
Question: Do I contact them or will this be an embarassment since they have some public pictures of her. I'd like to just renew old acquaintces and maybe see them at a future party here but I wouldn't want either of them to think my contacting them was about the "play" thing.
If that every happened it would have to come from them.
So what do you think? Would you want to hear from a past friend new to the sight? Since I'm single and they aren't looking for singles should I leave it alone since they probably won't find me?
Your ideas would be helpful. I guess if it's all one way or the other from you then it's easier. If you are all split....duh, don't know what I should do.
Thanks, Dave
Here is my delima. (sp?) Yesterday I saw a profile on here and I know the husband and wife and worked with the wife for a couple of years. We were pretty good buddy's and visited a lot, saw each other daily and we both liked a raunchy laugh. And, we were only work buddies,period,end of that story. I met the husband at a couple of compay parties and we did fine. I've thought about them a couple of times because when I left the company she was pregnant and I wondered boy or girl.
Question: Do I contact them or will this be an embarassment since they have some public pictures of her. I'd like to just renew old acquaintces and maybe see them at a future party here but I wouldn't want either of them to think my contacting them was about the "play" thing.
If that every happened it would have to come from them.
So what do you think? Would you want to hear from a past friend new to the sight? Since I'm single and they aren't looking for singles should I leave it alone since they probably won't find me?
Your ideas would be helpful. I guess if it's all one way or the other from you then it's easier. If you are all split....duh, don't know what I should do.
Thanks, Dave
Drop a very nice private note. Be sure to make it clear that you are writing "vertically" and not suggesting play.
we agree with cheeseheadcouple drop them a private note let then know your not contacting them for play just to say hi and see how things are going ..
Thanks you two...makes sense.
Any other thoughts please let me know.
D
Any other thoughts please let me know.
D
You know being a swinger is not something to be embarrassed about, anyone that is probably shouldnt be doing it. But it is something we all like to keep discreet and keep between those we know and play with. I think a good note telling them "hi" is completely ok and if it goes further then so be it but as long as all boundries are respected i see nothing wrong with it.
We've always gotten a chuckle while running into co-workers on this site, or we discover they are swingers. This has happened quite often, and it's remarkable what a fun common interest it is to have with someone with whom you've only had a working relationship.
As for the play part, we rarely if ever approach or intimate that we'd like to play with them, and let them approach us.
Swingers should not be embarrased about being in the lifestyle, and if they are...one must quetsion "why"?
This is also assuming that if they prefer discretion, those with whom they associate will not let the proverbial cat out of the bag.
Even though they may not be seeking single males, why can't you still maintain a friendly relationship with them; undoubtedly the chances of running into them at meet n greets, or house parties exists.
You never know, they may get a good chuckle as well. Just be polite, and not approaching like the cliche, stereotyped single male expecting sexual favors from them.
Good luck!
~J~
As for the play part, we rarely if ever approach or intimate that we'd like to play with them, and let them approach us.
Swingers should not be embarrased about being in the lifestyle, and if they are...one must quetsion "why"?
This is also assuming that if they prefer discretion, those with whom they associate will not let the proverbial cat out of the bag.
Even though they may not be seeking single males, why can't you still maintain a friendly relationship with them; undoubtedly the chances of running into them at meet n greets, or house parties exists.
You never know, they may get a good chuckle as well. Just be polite, and not approaching like the cliche, stereotyped single male expecting sexual favors from them.
Good luck!
~J~
we feel the same way they are on here lookin so you found them so what send then a note and tell then you only want to be friends go for it
Life's too short, go for it. Just say hi and mention the coincidence. Little to lose and everything to gain the way I see it.
In my opinion contact them. I like the idea of contacting them vertically... it's always great to get e-mails from people who aren't afraid to laugh at themselves and can have a sense of humor. Siren is correct - it will happen, and in my opinion, it's much better to get the warning via e-mail rather than run in to them at a greet or party.
Good Luck!
Te
Good Luck!
Te
We agree with everyone else and have found ourselves in a similar situation and it was no big deal. We laughed about it, I got to play with her since she was a single female and all is good.